5 Steps To Defeating That Annoying, Manipulative Voice In Your Head

You are just about to do something major. Maybe you are planning to start your own online business or you are trying to lose 50 pounds of weight.

Whatever it is, you are motivated. You are psyched up. Nothing can stop you. You feel like you grabbed life by it’s throat and now you are demanding change.

And when you are just about to start improving yourself or building something big, that voice in your head appears…

It is that manipulative negative voice that tries to doubt and downgrade every plan or task you want to accomplish.

Just when you are about to start something life transforming or something that requires a plethora of effort, that voice awakens and tells you that…

You don’t have what it takes. It literally sucks the motivation soul out of you. All that motivation built up inside is obliterated by that little voice and if you don’t defeat it, it will trap you as a slave for the rest of your life.

You will never have the freedom to live life to your ultimate potential.

So, how do you defeat that manipulative voice in your head that undermines your potential success?

Well there are actually 5 practical steps you can take to start defeating it promptly.

Step 1: Prove To Yourself That You Can Succeed By Accomplish Tasks

To defeat that annoying demeaning little voice in your head, you first have to understand why it is even there.

The voice is not there unjustifiably. It is there, because it is scared for your survival. Before civilization, our ancestors lived in a violent world.

Everything our ancestors did had a consequence. If a tribe member decides to do something out of the ordinary, the tribe leader might kill him. As a result, our psychological brain adapted to remind you that you shouldn’t do something radical.

Nowadays, you really don’t have to fear your life when you are about to do something radical or out of the ordinary.

As a result, you have to teach your brain that it doesn’t have to fear the potential of success and you do that by regularly accomplishing tasks or goals you set yourself.

Everyday when you wake up, write 3-5 goals or tasks that you must accomplish before going to bed that night. You don’t have to set major goals that is impossible to accomplish within a day.

For example, if you want to start your own online business, you can make daily goals such as

  • Pick A Blog Niche Today
  • Read About Monetization Techniques
  • Come Up With 5 Topics For Your Blog

No matter what, by the end of the day, you would have to accomplish all these goals. If you don’t, you are teaching your brain that you can’t succeed at even minor tasks.

As a result, don’t come up with daily goals that are unaccomplish-able. You have to make sure that you can in absolute certainty perform and accomplish the goals.

Step 2: Build Discipline

This relates to the above point. No matter what goal you set yourself, make sure to accomplish it at the end of the journey.

Don’t say you will lose 20 pounds in the next 2 months, and then stop after 2 weeks. It will have a psychological effect on you that will cause your brain to fear trying to lose weight.

So, the next time you again plan to lose some weight, that little voice will pop up stronger than ever reminding of that time you failed at losing weight.

Discipline is the utmost important quality if you want freedom from that annoying little voice. Discipline means that you do what it takes to succeed at the goal you set yourself, whether or not you like the path to that goal.

That is why most self improvement gurus tell you to set goals that are achievable. If you set goals that are gigantic, and you don’t have, yet, the willpower to climb that goal, you will ironically make that little voice stronger, by giving him evidence that you suck at something.

Failure is important and it does teach you life-lessons, but to defeat that little voice, you have to make sure that you are at least succeeding at 80{54c12dad2cc2b53ae830e39915b1a3e70288dbcbbeb8bbf8395437c5dc3c512c} of the goals that you set yourself.

Step 3: Read/Watch About Other People Succeeding At Your Goal


It might not be the best way to defeat that annoying little voice in your head, but it does work mightily.

When you see other people succeed at your goal, you will have the benefit of tow important things:

  • You Get Motivation and Most Importantly…
  • You Can Replicate Their Success

For example, let’s say you are about to start an online business and that voice pop-ups and tells you that you don’t have what it takes to succeed.

You either fight and prove to your brain that you can do it by succeeding at starting your own blog, or if you, yet, don’t know how, you can start reading about other people’s stories and how they succeeded at starting their own online business.

By reading their success, you can replicate and motivate your potential glory.

Step 4: Make Your Planning Accountable For Failure


Let’s say you fail at your goal even though you followed the last three steps. You can either accept it and never try again (which tells that little voice in your head that it was right and that you are a wuss) or…

You stand up and confront why you failed and come up with a reasonable action against your failure.

For example, let’s say you planned to lose 10 pounds in the next month, but at the end of the month, you only lost 5 pounds. It is progress but you see it as failure.

You identify why you failed at losing an additional 5 pounds and you set another goal. Don’t accept yourself as the reason for the failure; accept your lack of planning and executing your goal as the cause.

Yes, it might seem bigoted, but if you always take failures as your own personal fault, you will just feed that voice in your head.

Instead of saying “I don’t have it within me”, you can instead say that my plan sucked and I need to reevaluate. This feeds your motivation rather than that demeaning voice.

Step 5: Succeed


Yes, it is not as easy as is said. Succeeding requires a lot of effort by your part. From identifying your goal to coming up with the perfect plan for capturing that goal, it requires will-power to succeed at major tasks.

To succeed you usually need three steps

  • Come Up With An Actionable and Practical Plan
  • Study and Learn As Much About The Goal You Are Trying To Accomplish
  • Build Discipline
  • Eventually, You Will Succeed If You Don’t Mess Up In Between The Above Steps.

Succeeding is the cure for that little voice. In step 1, you succeeded at daily goals which will treat that voice. Step 2 will keep that voice at bay. Step 3 will allow you to learn about the cure for that voice and step 4 will stop it from coming back up again if you potentially mess up.

And Ultimately succeeding will kill it at the end of the day.

It’s Time You Finally Stood Up To That Voice

Don’t let your own mind enslave you. Instead, prove to your own brain that you have what it takes to succeed and that voice will start leaving you alone.

It will take time, but it is absolutely worth it. You will feel freedom at its finest.

If you want to take this to the next level, you can also get the guide: “Supreme Goal Planning: Build Discipline And Success The Right Way + 5 Free Ebooks”  so that you know how to plan and set goals that are achievable.

Yohan Michael is the author of Dynamiteblogging, where he teaches people how to build a successful online blog, through practical and efficient methods. Get his collection of 6 eBooks, which includes the supreme goal planning manifesto, to finally start building a successful life.



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