Extroversion and Introversion are considered to be the core aspects of people’s personalities. Renowned psychologist Carl Jung coined the terms ‘extroverts’ and ‘introverts’ for the first time in his work ‘Psychologische Typen’ in 1920. He distinguished between the two categories based on their emotional response to various stimuli. More recently, this theory has been further refined. Extroversion and Introversion are now associated with the functioning of a chemical named ‘dopamine’ which plays a crucial role in the human brain circuit which controls reward, learning, and response to novelty.
Over the course of years, people believe in the popular myth that extroverts have a better social acceptance over introverts. Because of a sharp difference between the two categories of people and the varied interactions between them, extroverts have developed certain thoughts and assumptions about introverts which can be well challenged!
Below are 8 listed thoughts which extroverts have about introverts you may have never imagined:
It is easy to identify an introvert
Anyone who talks less and prefers to hear more and indulges in limited social interactions is perceived to be an introvert. However, being shy and reserved does not equal to introversion. It rather implies the act of directing one’s attention towards or receiving gratification from one’s own interests, thoughts, and feelings. It is the state of being concerned with your own preoccupation primarily. There could be numerous shy extroverts and outgoing introverts. An introvert can be identified only by frequent interactions.
Introverts are a minority
Extroverts generally like to believe that the world possesses more of their kind of people rather than the other type. A rough estimate states that one third to half of the people in the world are introverts. Although the influential culture of the western countries prefers extroversion, as they seem to be the go-getters, many countries such as the ones in the Middle East, Africa, and South America relate introversion with perseverance and intelligence.
Every shy person is an introvert and vice versa
Extroverts often confuse introversion with timidity and reticence. Introverts are often not apprehensive about speaking to people. All they need is a reason to interact. They generally like to avoid public activities and complications. They hate small talk and love to get to the point quickly. They have a close knit of friends with whom they are most comfortable. It’s just that they do not see a reason to beat around the bush with social pleasantries.
Introverts prefer to stay in isolation
Since extroverts prefer to be amongst people and the popular belief states that introverts abhor company, the general assumption is that introverts prefer solitude. Because of this, introverts are also perceived to be depressive and believed to possess negative personalities. However, the truth is that introverts gain their momentum by being alone just like extroverts, who gain their energy from social interaction. Introverts do not treat solitude as loneliness, but a window for them to spend some time thinking and analyzing. Extroverts, on the other hand, perceive solitude with loneliness and depression.
Introverts are not good orators
Introverts are often assumed to suffer from stage fright. They are perceived to be the ones who shy away from speaking in front of the audience. However, it is not that they cannot speak but it’s just that they ‘do not feel the need to speak.’ Given a chance, they can be better and more influential orators than extroverts. They can be persuasive visionaries who can lead from the front. Example of famous introverts who were great orators is as Mahatma Gandhi, Abraham Lincoln, Albert Einstein, Bill Gates and Eleanor Roosevelt.
Introverts are not fun to be with
Extroverts assume that their outgoing nature is because of their will to venture out and meet new people and take pleasure in company and conversation. Introverts, on the other hand, prefer to remain within themselves and therefore choose to remain aloof. They are not adventure seekers and prefer to hang out in the calm and serene environment. Parties and social gatherings sometimes drain their enthusiasm. However, this does not imply that introverts are not fun to be with. They can make the excellent company and can strike deep meaningful conversations. They prefer quality over quantity. They tend to have fewer friends with whom they can be themselves.
Introverts are weird
Introverts are individualists who like to do their own thing their own way. They do not follow the crowd and base their decisions upon their personal contemplation and understanding. They pay close attention to their emotions and thoughts. They are generally the ones who do not find it necessary to appease by following the clichéd rules. They don’t make decisions based on popularity or trends. They are comfortable in their skin and do not worry about putting up a show for anyone. They prefer to be valued for what they bring to the table as an individual rather than how well they fit into a group. They take pride in being different.
Introverts prefer the company of introverts to extroverts
Introverts often enjoy the company of extroverts more than extroverts think. They are often good listeners and pose as a complete contrast to the extroverts. They are often quiet and pay a lot of attention to details without judging too much. Although they have fewer friends, they are totally trustworthy, secret keepers and can become the best of friends. They prefer people, not a crowd! However, even they feel the need to speak to someone. And when extroverts and introverts, sparks fly!
It might not be easy to spot an introvert. While the general ones are quiet and reserved, this is not the ideal manner to distinguish them. Introverts may be difficult to be understood and sometimes one might wonder if everything is ok with them. They gain fulfillment by seeking with themselves. They are more perseverant. They simply need to be understood and be accepted the way they are without constantly trying to change them.
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