It’s already late. Very late.
You know you should be sleeping soundly by this time. Tomorrow you have an important meeting where you will have to be fully present. You will have to give your best.
Yet, you are still awake. Your eyes are burning and you toss and turn in bed from one side to the other.
Your thoughts are rushing with a million miles per hour. You just cannot stop them.
You know that you will be exhausted tomorrow. And in your mind’s eye you see yourself already screwing up your meeting.
You know what I am talking about. You have suffered sleepless nights.
But does it have to be that way?…
Why do we do this?
You see the problem is that you are caught up in an unproductive thought pattern.
You worry about something which only exists in your head. One thought leads to another and before you know it it forms a huge web around you and holds you captured.
You begin to count the sheep, but it is already too late. You cannot seem to chase those worries out of your head.
But the good news is that you can prevent this from happening.
What is the root of the problem?
There is one important thing to understand: The root of the problem is the story you tell yourself.
You are the director and also the protagonist of the movie which plays out in your head. And the title of the movie?
The title is: What’s the worst that can happen?
Your mind is so creative, it pictures the worst case scenario extremely vividly. Your mind fools your body, which reacts to it as if it would be real.
So no wonder that you cannot fall asleep.
Cut to the chase
Now that you understand that the reason for your sleepless nights is the story you tell yourself and the related pictures you see in your mind’s eye, the solution to the problem is pretty straightforward.
Do not tell yourself horror stories about your future at night.
Well, not so much – you might say…
So how can you do that?
Here are some tips on how to stop worrying …. and much more.
1. Ask yourself, what is the likelihood that what you are afraid of will actually happen? We often realise that the chances of it really happening are actually pretty small.
2. Another important question to ask: Can you do something now to prevent it? If yes, do it. If not, because you do not have any influence over it, than worrying will not solve it.
3. Ask yourself: Whose fears and worries are these anyway? We so often hear worries of others and internalize them. It doesn’t do you any good. So picture yourself packing those worries in a nice box. Put a strong ribbon around it, and hand back those worries to those from whom they came.
4. Pack the remaining worries in a vault and lock it. You can come back to it next morning. I heard this technique from Ramit Sethi. So Ramit, if you read this, kudos to you. It works. The mind feels reassured, we acknowledge the existence of the worries and make the promise that we will come back to it at a later moment.
5. Picture the best thing that can happen. You can do that. It is no more difficult than picturing the worst that can happen. But the results are far more beneficial to you.
6. Meditate or do a guided relaxation to calm you down. Go for a walk. The fresh air and some exercise will do wonders for your mood.
7. In general, take care of your body. Exercise regularly. Have a healthy diet, rich in omega 3 and vitamin B.
8. Prepare your bedroom. De-clutter, remove or unplug all electronic devices, do not charge your mobile near to your head, make the room as dark as possible, aerate before going to sleep.
9. Always try to go to bed around the same time. Do not eat at least three hours before going to bed.
10. Try some “Good night” herbal teas or valerian (Valeriana officinalis) drops, or other herbal remedies which help you relax without getting addicted to them.
Ready to kick worrying in butt?
You know how important it is to get a good night’s sleep. It impacts tremendously the quality of your day.
I have shown you some tips about how to stop worrying and take care of yourself.
Now the ball is in your court.
It is up to you to integrate these tips in your everyday life.
Tonight, kick your worries in butt and sleep like a baby.
Esther helps aspiring and established entrepreneurs to challenge long held limiting beliefs and to conquer fears which are holding them back from reaching their dreams.
Do you feel that limiting beliefs are holding you back? Visit her website and download your free ebook Navigating the Inner Journey of Entrepreneurship: How to silence you inner naysayer and give yourself permission to succeed.