It’s absolutely normal to feel powerless when you encounter stress, but to think that there’s nothing you can do about it is definitely not normal. You can avoid things from getting out of control by taking charge of your thoughts, emotions, lifestyle, and your ways of facing certain life situations.
Where does stress come from?
You often think that everything boils down to deadlines. If only the tick of the clock is much slower and if deadlines don’t exist, everything would be much easier. Sometimes you blame your failures to somebody or to a circumstance where in fact, the real problem is just the way you perceive stress.
It’s best to identify where the stress is coming from in order for you to identify a way to defeat it. Take a closer look at people’s most common perception.
- Stress is eternal.
- Stress is an integral part of themselves and abode.
- People pass the blame to other people, things or events by keeping their hands clean.
If you perceive stress in a wrong way, you won’t be able to defeat it. That’s for sure!
1. Have Some Daily Physical Activities
Get yourself moving. There is power in perspiration that can defeat stress. A few push-ups, curl-ups and an hour or two of jogging can make a difference in your emotional state. Meanwhile, as you perform different types of physical activities, bad elements that are causing your stress are gradually reduced. It burns away your anger, frustration, and tension, especially at work.
Exercise for at least 30 minutes a day. Allot 10 minutes for a burst of activity where you can elevate your heart and make you all sweaty.
2. Stay Available for Social Communication
Social communication is helpful to reduce stress. Have you ever talked to somebody you’re so comfortable with that at the end of the conversation you felt so relieved?
Several parts of our body are interconnected. When having a conversation, our face, ear, heart, and stomach are in unison with our brain that’s why when someone listens to us, we get calm so quickly.
Therefore, stay available for social engagement as this can help lower the level of threat you feel towards the internal and external events in your life.
3. Eliminate Unnecessary Stress
Yes, there are many stress-causing activities that are unpredictable, but there are some you can easily predict. And when you figure them out, try to eliminate them.
I’m referring to that stressful commute you’ve been suffering from these past months. That also includes your meetings with your boss and some relationship issues. At times like these, it’s either you change the situation or change your reaction.
Learn to stick to what you can only do at the moment. Stress occurs when you take in a lot of workloads and sacrifice your personal life in return. Your professional career might be important, but so does your personal life. So learn how to say “no” sometimes and allocate some of your time on things that make you happy.
Avoid stress-causing people. If there’s someone in your life who has been the constant trigger of your stress, start avoiding that person from now on.
Encourage environment control. If the news gives you headaches, turn off your TV. If you often encounter traffic on your commute to work, track the less-traveled route. You see? There are stressful things in life which you can successfully eliminate.
4. Change the Situation
If you can’t avoid the situation, change it! This might involve the way you communicate and face different situations in your life.
Learn to speak your heart’s content. Sometimes stress comes from not letting your heart be heard. If someone who is assertive tries to bother you, then voice out your concerns – but in a respectful way. For example, if you need to review for your exam and your friend suddenly comes in your room for a chit-chat, tell your friend honestly that you can only spare 5 minutes of conversation.
Learn to compromise. When you encourage someone to change, you need to be an example yourself. Compromising and bending a little will enable you to overcome stress in having bad relationships.
Learn to manage your time wisely. Plan ahead! Time management can help you stay calm and focused regardless of the current situation you are in.
5. Adapt to Stress-causing Elements
How should you deal with stress when problems are too difficult to avoid?
Your mind has the greatest influence towards stress so when you learn how to change your expectations and attitude towards pressuring situations, you can defeat stress easily. Stay positive. When you are caught in a bad traffic, don’t you think it’s a good time to listen to your favorite music? Instead of letting those eyebrows collide in worry, try to calm yourself by changing the way you think about the situation.
Take a clear overview of the picture. Is that stress worth every bit of your suffering? If you answer no, then divert your focus to something else.
Lower down your standards. Are you a perfectionist? If you are, then learn how to lower down your standards, accept mistakes, and go for accomplishments like “good enough.”
Don’t let your stressful situation devour all the happy things in your life. Defeat it and enjoy life to its fullest!
How to Get Sh*t Done will teach you how to zero in on the three areas of your life where you want to excel, and then it will show you how to off-load, outsource, or just stop giving a damn about the rest.