Overcoming a Loss of Motivation

How many times have you started a new activity (such as a personal project or exercise routine) with a burst of enthusiasm, only to feel that initial loss of motivation? This often leads to depression and causes us to give up prematurely. I’ve experienced this letdown dozens of times myself. But fortunately, with a bit of thought and reflection you can turn this negative emotion around.

The key to harnessing your emotions is understanding them. The natural pattern of human emotion is peaks and valleys. When we start a new project we’re filled with tremendous optimism. All we can think about is the expected benefits, and since we haven’t started yet, we aren’t aware of the difficulties involved. This natural high causes a surge of mental and physical activity. The peak is a great thing because the energy boost gets projects off the ground. If you’re a creative type like me, you know that this period is euphoric. You feel like nothing can stop you.

The downside of this surge of energy is that it inevitably ends. Exerting large amounts of energy wears you down, and after the initial optimism wears off we feel extremely tired. However high you started off, you fall down just as low. This causes a loss of confidence. The combination of fatigue, scant results, and an awareness of impending adversity makes us want to give up. From personal experience I’ve learned a few ways to hold strong against negativity.

Be Prepared for a Letdown

Emotions, by nature, lose their power when we understand them. Prove this to yourself. Next time you get angry, take a moment to reflect on the reason behind the emotion. When I step back and reflect, it’s easy to see that my anger is caused by insecurity/selfishness/jealousy etc. After I understand the cause my anger fades away.

The same technique applies to a loss of motivation. Instead of giving into negativity, step back and analyze. Look at the causes. Are you tired, burned out, disappointed by the results? Are these feelings justified, or are they a by product of a low point in the emotional spectrum?

To illustrate these ideas, I’ll use my most recent project as an example, the creation of this site. When I launched Pick the Brain it took an enormous amount of effort. I was completely new to blogging, web design, and traffic building so there was a steep learning curve. Writing new posts, setting up the site, and trying to build traffic took up nearly all my free time. After about three weeks I was completely burned out. I got depressed and started to question if the site was worth the effort. I wasn’t seeing any returns and I started to find enormous faults in my writing and the purpose of the site. There were moments when I was resigned to failure.

One reason I was able to overcome this loss of motivation is that I prepared myself for a letdown. Beforehand, I researched blogging and learned that it generally takes 9-12 months before a site begins to see significant traffic. Knowing that my lack of success was perfectly normal helped me get over it. The same is true for other endeavors. If you know losing 20 pounds in a month is unrealistic, you’ll be able to accept losing only 5 more easily.

I also knew my own emotions and was prepared for the initial emotional peak to pass. When I was first inspired to launch a website, my expectations were through the roof. Dreams of AdSense revenue danced in my head and I pictured throngs of loyal readers as if they already existed. But because I understand my emotional pattern, I realized this optimism would give way to depression. In the back of my mind, I foresaw the impending motivational battle, and when it came I was ready.

Reevaluate Your Strategy and Motivation

The passing of the emotional peak is a blessing in disguise because it allows us to reevaluate our plans from a fresh perspective. At first we are blinded by our own optimism. When we lose our motivation we can see gaping holes our in plan. We can either get down on ourselves and give up, or we can use this negative emotion to discover our faults and correct them. After I pulled myself out of the motivational cellar, I went back to all the negatives thoughts I’d had and applied them to improving the site. Having a pessimistic attitude opened my eyes. It made me realistic about my abilities and expectations. Emotional valleys bring us back to reality. Without them we’d be raving lunatics with unlimited self-confidence.

Use a loss of motivation as an opportunity to reconsider what your motivation really is. One reason I lost motivation is that I became too concerned with the financial aspect of blogging and lost sight of the real reason I started: sharing my passion for self improvement and the pursuit of happiness. When I realigned my motivation with my passion, the lack of results didn’t matter. My motivation returned because I realized connecting with people through my writing is an end in itself. Even if this site never makes I dime, sharing my ideas and experiences to help other people is worth the effort.

In truth, sometimes giving up is the right decision. If you started doing something for the wrong reasons you’ll likely lose your motivation. This is a good thing. It allows us to see what really motivates us. In these cases, the best choice is to move on to a new endeavor. Don’t fight self doubt, use it for your benefit.

Conclusion

Dealing with emotional highs and lows is an experience common to all people. We generally accept our emotions as beyond our control. They are powerful and mysterious and appear quite irrational. But if we contemplate our emotions, if we explore the inner workings of our minds, we find that like all things, emotions obey the law of cause and effect. Armed with this knowledge, we can continue to allow our emotions to dominate our lives, or we can use them to our benefit.

Don’t be surprised by a loss of motivation and don’t be disappointed by it. Understand it as natural effect of the human mind, and utilize this knowledge of self to make your emotions work for you.

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  • http://positivesharing.com Alexander Kjerulf

    Thanks for a great post John. I could not agree more with your thinking.

    I myself experience it – I get these bouts of doubts (heh) where I question a project and feel utterly certain that it’s all going to fail.

    And interestingly I get these doubt-attacks whether the project is successful or not. If I’m not (yet) getting results I feels sure that I never will. If I’m already successful, I feel sure that I will lose that success and that people will soon expose me for the fraud I am. Or feel like, in that moment.

    These feelings come maybe once or twice a month, usually late in the evening or at night. I used to take them very seriously, but now I know that they come – and are gone by the next morning.

    I think feeling this way is the price we pay for doing anything interesting. Imagine doing only the things that are so easy, that you could never be in doubt of a positive outcome…

    Boooooooooooooring! :o)

    As you write, the key is to know yourself and to allow these feelings to exist.

  • Nat

    Great post. It definitely hits home now that many of us are a week into our New Year’s resolutions.

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  • http://esylife.wordpress.com Theo Tonca

    Awesome post! I’m in the midst of a downward surge right now having just launched my startup a few weeks ago and you’re absolutely right that’s it’s only natural to go through the progression.

  • http://www.pickthebrain.com John Wesley

    Thanks Theo. Best of luck in getting back on track and making your startup a success.

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  • http://www.thedisquiet.com Dave

    You are soooo right! I really appreciate your writing about the let down afterwards. I can’t tell you how many times I have mistaken that let down as a signal the idea or decision was a bad one and abandoned it. I like your suggestion to tae advantage of this period to re-evaluate and correct. This is really good – thanks!

  • http://www.pickthebrain.com John Wesley

    Dave,

    I’m glad you recognize the same pattern in your own life. Hopefully sharing this will help more people persevere when they experience a letdown.

  • http://www.ieatn00bs4breakfast.com Ryan

    Nice post. I have many ideas and thus many projects have sprung up, and this post helped me realize my natural tendency to continue working on each one pieces at a time. A burst of energy here, a letdown there, a burst there, etc.

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  • http://ispf.blogspot.com/2007/01/what-stops-you-and-what-will-you-do.html ispf

    Great Post! I particularly like your suggestion to expect the “down” period and be prepared for it!

    When I start a project, I usually try to find a role model to hang onto during these down periods. Using your example of blogging (I go through the exact same doubts as you), I have bookmarked a few blogs that I really like. Its not that these blogs always have something great to say. Its just that they are persistent, and every now and then they have something that speaks directly to me. And thats why they are my role models. Being great all the time, is of course the goal. But if I can’t do that, I will settle for just be around all the time, and being great every now and then :)

  • http://susanborgas.blogspot.com Susan Borgas

    A very timely post for me and I thank you for it. As an artist the highs and lows are quite common with me. I have just completed a series of commissioned work and it is now so hard to be motivated to paint for exhibitions for the up and coming year and of cause it effects those that are around me. Though blogging takes quite a bit of my time reading and writing, it also can be very motivating by reading stories such as yours. Thanks for sharing.

  • http://www.sharpbrains.com/blog Caroline

    Great post. The other thing that really helps me when I hit that lowpoint is a coach or mentor. If you can find someone who has been there before, it can be a wonderful support.

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  • evren

    Thank you very much for this post.
    I am covered up my neck in a mess of half finished, unfinished projects. I feel very down, tired and unhappy and pray god everyday to find the motivation to sort them out. The unfortunate thing is I have lost the willpower to finish them. I am doing my best to ignore them and forget them but they are there in the back of my mind always making me unhappy.

    • Adam

      Evren,

      I been in the same boat for awhile now.and the reason you feel like that is procrastination.the longer you wait the worse it gets.I totally know what your dealing with and hope that you understand that all those negative feelings will go away once you attack the projects and get organized.Think about the end result.the hardest part is the first step.the rest will follow.Let me know if i was any help.I got myself out of the slump this way.

      Yours Truly,

      Adam Lolovic

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  • http://n/a James S

    Just wanted to say thanks for a good overview of something so simple, so many of us miss it. I’ve felt these peaks and valleys many times first hand, but never voiced the pattern I noticed for fear of being branded bi-polar. I have in the past been able to deal with anger and other emotions with logic and reasoning in the past, but such a broad application of such a simple idea hadn’t occured to me before. Thank you, again.
    James

  • jennafer iatchkov

    heyy , all this usual information i like this site,., loll omg and ofcourse its worth it u should be very proud of yourself, ur helping many ppl like u say avoid thinking negative, trust me this website is worth it,

  • http://www.pickthebrain.com John Wesley

    Thanks Jennafer, it helps to hear that.

  • jADI

    But you see Johnny Boy… now you DO have a loyal reader.

    It’s unfair: you *feel* it, we have to read it. :)
    No matter: knowing this alone is making a difference.

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  • http://sweettrend.com SweetTrend

    Great article. Came to it via a link on the Steve Pavlina forum.

    Because I am always working on a personal project, I’ve come to recognize and expect the down days after the initial manic energy. It’s nice to know that there’s at least something positive we can extract from these moments.

  • Sukha

    Great article.
    It reminds me of a documentary I recently saw on bipolar disorder with Steven fry, I’m not bipolar myself but have noticed all the same symptoms as those described on the program only to a lesser degree. Perhaps it’s not really a dysfunction but simply an extreme of a natural process that enables us to tackle something big, to overcome the mundane. if you keep in mind the natural cycle you can take advantage of the highs and lows.

  • http://www.greenorlando.com Eric

    Thanks for the article
    :)

  • http://www.pickthebrain.com John Wesley

    That’s interesting Sukha, I’d like to see that documentary sometime.

  • Helen

    I just wanted to say thank you John Wesley for such an interesting and uplifting site! And a comment for James S….I too have felt like I was bi-polar!! Your comment made me laugh. Thanks to all!!

  • http://www.pickthebrain.com John Wesley

    Thanks, Helen!

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  • http://www.how-to-life.com Dr. Howtolife

    We are as humans equipped to question our actions. How could we improve elsewise improve ourselves? When I get a down, I try to get a bigger picture..and look at human history. We all had downs or losses..the key is to accept them and learn from them.

    • http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/overcoming-the-loss-of-motivation-that-follows-a-surge-of-productivThisarticlewasbroughttoyoubywww.pickthebrain.com Ghada

      This is a great job.
      With love and coarrage -Ghada

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  • Mat

    Thanks for this. You helped me out more than you can know by me just reading this. Thank you, you are doing a terrific thing.

  • http://www.pickthebrain.com John Wesley

    I’m glad Mat, and I appreciate your comment. It really means a lot me to know I’m having an effect on someone’s life. It keeps me motivated to write.

  • http://www.fotolog.com/januarianclarice Janisse

    thank you very much for this site. I’m having a huge loss of motivation rigt now.

  • http://www.pickthebrain.com John Wesley

    Well, I hope the article helps a bit. Best wishes with your motivation.

  • http://www.canimakebigmoneyonline.com George

    Wow, fantastic post John! I will be sure to share it with others.

  • http://www.pickthebrain.com John Wesley

    Thanks, George. I’m glad it struck a chord with you.

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  • hedonplay

    I am fighting against my loss of motivation now.
    I can’t find my initial passion with c++, which i have been with for about two months. i should be quiet and ask myself some questions such as why i learn c++. You lead me to the right way ,anyway.Thank you.

  • http://www.iheartthat.com/ Paul

    I do appreciate your article, but I was expecting an article with more suggestions for getting though a period of motivational depression. Suggestions such as setting incremental goals during these periods, examining the areas where one could improve, identifying one’s strengths and making simple changes to one’s routine. Or perhaps, I was expecting more of an analysis of your experiences with such events and personal experiments.

    Your wonderful article, while not what I expected, took the anticipatory approach. You recommend that the reader anticipate the lulls and re-evaluate their initial purpose.

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  • Matt

    I liked the “raving lunatics” part. So true.

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  • http://www.wisdomgettingloaded.com/interview.htm tracy Ho

    Greats for sharing your articles,
    its help me to go further,

    To your success,

    Tracy Ho
    wisdomgettingloaded

  • Eyes half closed

    Alright, I think I’m burned out … now what? I’m not sure where it’s coming from, I just feel tired all the time and I can think of how to do projects and self improvement, I just don’t seem able to find the energy to get up and get it done. It’s a hell of a funk. I’m afraid it will become habit.

    • Dee

      EyesHalfClosed,
      I’m reading this 4 years later, and I agree, this was a wonderful article. I read your post, and you struck a chord with me. I am going through this exactly to the tee. But—it is so bad I feel words cannot explain or describe the despair of my emotional ‘funk’ as you said. Being as this is 4 years later, I needed to ask, how did you get through this?? Anyone else have any suggestions that are tried and true for them??
      I feel like this is getting worse and more comPlex by the day…

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  • Clarence

    Once upon a time there was about a King who would struggle like this with times of great heights and deep valleys. He called his wise men and asked them to come up with something that would help him in this area. They all failed which reveals how difficult it is for many to offer any help. However one came up with something that he felt would help the king. The man’s name was ” Experience”. Experience made a special ring for the king and he told the king to wear it always and to read the four words on it every time he felt extremely high or whenever he was in a valley. The King looked at the ring and was very pleased.
    The words engraved were ” This too shall pass”

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  • http://www.metrohousemanagement.com Cambri

    I love this, you’re great!
    I ambitiously started my own company when I was 18, in a very tough industry. I am now 22, and still with the same concept. I am currently in my longest “motivational slump” and this reminds me of the positive thinking and emotional control that got me this far. This helps tremendously, and whether you read all your comments or not, I felt compelled to give you my appreciation.
    Thanks!!

    Sincerely,

    Cambri Michaels

  • Ali

    Excellent article! I got the kick I wanted on a morning that was not good earlier. this has given good positive energy for my work. thanks again for the great post. I have subscribed to RSS feed and keep looking for more kicks :)

  • http://schatzren.piczo.com Renalie

    Perfect to those People who wanted to be more educated in this matter:)

  • Miguel

    thanks man, this is very good, i jst turned 17 and i have many doubts n low motivation, i feel like im worthless, after reading this made me feel better about most things, you made me realize it takes time,patience and hard work to get what you want, thanks bro

  • Mutada al sader the king

    Nice.. Tks : )

  • Sonya

    This is the first really HELPFUL website that i have found. Taking an issue, breaking it down, using examples, and then giving insightful ways to solve issue. Great writting style! You’ve won a repeat customer.

  • Ali

    How do I find my motivation again, after the death of my fiance? He was my best friend, my partner, my mentor. He was everything to me. He made me a better person and now he is gone. He pushed me everyday to be the best. I know that motivation comes within, but I just can’t find it right now. I feel like I’m disappointing him.
    I can’t seem to give 100% at anything I do. I start something and I don’t finish it.
    What do I do?

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  • Kali

    Thanks for articulating the view that emotions are normal and reminding they follow the laws of cause and effect! To some extent, I also believe that whiplashing from high’s to low’s and back again can be a manifestation of our self-concept being incongruent with reality.

  • http://dotheknowledge.com/transcend Bryan Ogilvie

    No doubt John,

    This was a real healing read, because I’m going through the same issue myself presently.

    Knowing that you had emotional imbalance getting this blog up is reassuring, because I’m actually amazed at what you got going on here.

    Thanks again bro,

    Peace,

    +B

  • Nicola Soma

    I really enjoy my daily Pickthebrain read. Posts like this make me realise everybody feels the same as I do, sometimes.

    People who leave comments on this website also contribute to my understanding and feeling that there are people out there I connect with.

    Thanks all.

  • steph

    I’m just getting over a long depression after buying my first property. Like you said, I wasn’t able to see the potential downfalls because I was euphoric, I could only see the positive. Then after a while I noticed the area wasn’t so good, and constant diy actually isn’t fun.I spent a year castigating myself for things I couldn’t have known til I tried them. Even worse, it made me scared to try anything else in case it happened again. Now I know it definately will happen again the fear is diminished. Thank you very much, I wish I had seen this a year ago! So many wonderful people out there sharing their wisdom gives us all a fighting chance, cos the human brain is a bloody fabulous minefield!

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    Great post. Thanx for sharing.I really enjoy it! looking forward to more.

  • Steve

    Thanks for the article – really helped!

  • Guruswamy

    Thanks for the article and thanks for the great inspiration….

  • Rob

    yup, works for me

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  • Rodney Sims

    That helped me alot. Being gifted with several talents can often lead one to crazy demotivation especially when it comes to which one will build financial support.

  • http://timelesslessons.com Valeria | TimelessLessons

    The other thing that really helps me when I hit that low point is a coach or mentor. If you can find someone who has been there before, it can be a wonderful support.

  • Javan Davis

    Mr Wesley,

    I enjoyed your article. I started my own accounting practice out of my house this year and continue to struggle with getting motivated to get to work and stay working. I never seem to have enough time to get things done but find myself sitting in front of the TV or surfing the internet (how I found your article, ha!) when I should be at my desk working on client files. When deadlines approach I find I have to lock myself in my office and ignore my family to meet them. Then I find I have to waste time moving meetings or pushing back deadlines. I find I have no problem on the sales end of my practice but struggle with the actual work. Any suggestions?

    • http://www.webtrafficpartners.com Jim

      Javon,
      I am dealing with this same type of thing. I was laid off last December and have started working with my brother in law on a startup company. I have been working out of my house and have found it nearly impossible to get anything done in a day. I bet I spend 3.5 hours a day actually doing work and the rest of the time finding things to distract me (no joke). My partner and I just invested in a shared office space which will only cost us $250/month. These types of spaces are becoming more popular. Even if you can rent a room or office in an existing business that someone you know may own. It’s a way to get out of the house and be able to focus and remain productive throughout the day. Give it a shot, it could make all the difference in the world. Good Luck

  • Angie

    I stumble onto this site and I’m so grateful to have found it. I have experienced that creative drive, that “high” at the onset of so many projects- songwriting and recording, painting the house, plans for my kids- only to be faced with harsh realities and obstacles which cause me to get discouraged and depressed. This article brought me some positive insight. Thank you, Mr. Wesley

  • Cindy

    Thanks for this article! I’m in a huge motivation vacuum right now while job-searching. My initial gung-ho attitude has worn off and the self-doubt is creeping in. I am home procrastinating in front of the computer instead of out at interviews and don’t really understand where all my motivation went to. Your post makes so much sense and is much better than all the usual “get motivated” stuff -set goals, discover your purpose, blah blah… Just thinking that this motivational valley can actually help me get more realistic (hey there’s actually a positive here somewhere) gives me huge relief. Thanks John!!

  • Sara

    really loved your post..

    real nice..

    keep up with the great work bro,
    ur doing great…;)

    love ur writing…:)

  • Veda

    A much needed ‘rationale-boost’ for the creative motivational ‘see-saws’!

    Thanks for your Thoughtful HelpingPen John !!

  • heslie

    this is my first time here in your site and i’m very happy knowing that the motivation that i’m looking for is here. And for sure I’ll be visiting this site everyday. thank you . hope to read more from you. GOD BLESS..

  • http://jmtheinnovator.multiply.com Jose Ma Perez

    By merely reading this article, I began to realize how much time I have wasted for feeling down and not doing anything to solve it. I was moved when you have mentioned that it is natural for men to experience failure. I promise to bring my old self back again. I hope that you’ll have more people to inspire! Your site is such an epitome of motivation! :)

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  • vikas puri

    great comments are always welcomed.

  • http://benjaminteo.com.au Benjamin Teo

    Wonderfully written from experience. I was feeling down when I found this article. It has helped me understand my thoughts better. A recommended read for anyone who’s lost sight and motivation.

  • Siddharth Jain

    I have same problem. In starting great enthusiasm & after sometime everything lost.Only depression, diappointment & laziness. Thanks for the great article.

  • Mike

    Thanks alot for sharing all of this useful info John, you’re helping me understand more about the spectrum and how I can use it against loss of motivation. Keep on writing, you’re doing a great favor to readers!

  • http://eventphotographylive.com Amber

    Wow, for the last 4 days I have been feeling super un-motivated and even picked up a couple of Motivation books. I’m glad I came across this article – b/c of the fact to “be prepared for the letdown” I just started 2 new companies on my own for the first time, and of course was in the “nothing will stop me” mentality. I felt like super woman. Well, the only thing that stopped me was ME. Glad to know it’s all normal and this site is actually very helpful. I’ll be back for a pick me up soon :)

  • jai jai

    I just found your site and I love it now. It’s informative and gives good advice without being dull and knows how real people react to situtations and offers alternatives. Thanks!

  • Melissa

    What an inspirational post! Thank you for the insight. I really needed it!

  • http://www.squidoo.com/Learn-to-Think-for-Yourself Annaly

    This has happened to me and what I do is tell myself to ignore my emotions and do what I know is right. It’s not as easy as it sounds but it works.

  • Mary

    Thanks for this refreshing point of view. You have helped me see my loss of motivation as a positive instead of condemning me as a failure.

  • http://www.marisabirns.com Marisa Birns

    Wow! It’s as if you were a fly on the wall in my house!

    I was at the acme a few days ago, and now I’m walking through the dale.

    Your explanation of this does give me inspiration and hope.

    I guess the thing is to enjoy all the travel through the peaks and the valleys and learn from all experiences.

    Thank you!

  • Shawn Pruitt

    Thank you for you post. I agree with you completely as I myself can suffer from the same letdowns when I get into a new routine or lifestyle. Understanding how you feel is imperative to lower stress and keep focused, and it is also imperative to be patient with your endeavours because the end results can be wonderful. As an addition to the post, I think that taking each day one at a time is crucial. By doing this, but staying knowlegeable of the future, success is gauranteed. Keep posting. :)

  • Alex

    Thanks a lot for this GREAT post, It really helped me out on finding where I failed now my motivation is back to his high peak and I’m ready to fight the downfall!!

    Thanks again!!! :)

  • Paddy

    Hi! This post really lifted my spirits. I’ve always been told that this was my nature: all fizz, and then nothing. Its a pleasant suprise – actually relieving – to know that this is natural….and more importantly, that this doesnt mean I am gonna be a failure…that other people who have been successful are also like this!! Now I can really try turning around the off-times to my advantage…Thank you so much!!

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  • lacus

    thanks for sharing it.i personally thinks that it helps alot.i have clearer view on the lost of motivation,but are there any other factors that might have affect our motivation?i lost my motivation to study and it is really hard to get it back.is there any remedy for it or any suggestion that might help?

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  • http://www.webtrafficpartners.com Chris Thomas

    Motivation is an every day struggle. Nice post. It’s Monday so it was a nice read to start the week!

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  • Amber

    Don’t underestimate the value of physical things such as nutrition and exercise to help you regain your motivation in other areas. I’m including a link that has some good information in that regard: http://energyandmotivation.com/

  • http://topbodyresults.com/develop-exercise-motivation nina

    Great information especially regarding the expectations – sometimes we are unrealistic and when we think we have “failed” we just give up completely instead of seeing it as just a bump in the road or even a normal course of events

  • daevidcarter

    Great information. Thank you. I’m in a trough but it won’t last. Could you guess?

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    I just cant stop reading this.

  • Jonathan

    This is one of the most useful article I have read. I myself do have many other useful reading source about motivation in different approaches. However, this one is really easy to apply to different cases, and it is practical.

    I myself is facing this kind of problem too. I want to open a web business firm and now is catching up back programming. (I spent much time on business side.) But as I try to start to do it, I find that I lose focus and not easy to keep working on it. After I read this article, I find that the deep problem of lossing motivation for me is: “Even I get this part done well, there are other factors involved to determine it is success or not.”
    So I check the other sides of business again and keeps tell myself to take some necessary risks. Now I feel much better and can do what I have to do.

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  • Henry

    Great! I am going through these highs and lows. Your post really lightened the vision how our emotion works. Thanks a lot!

  • Jennifer

    Thank you for blogging about this topic. I needed to read this and want you to know that you were totally right about helping people, if you hadn’t gone through with your research and would have given up on your blogging venture, I and the many others who have commented would not have been helped. Thanks for helping me understand my unmotivated tendencies and that I am normal. I felt like on my unmotivated days I was suffering from depression. I couldn’t explain why I felt so unmotivated all of a sudden and why I could all of a sudden just bring it back and work hard at my goal again. I feel the high at the start of the project and found it hard after a few weeks to keep the high going. Now I know that others suffer from this and know that it is a work in progress. Thanks again!

  • Moe

    your right, it is only a natural progression. From now on im going to control my UPS not my downs. Im feeling very tierd, sick, unmotivated and burnt out right now. I made too many expectations of myself and got too excited. Need to learn to focus my energies more. starting from now. cya thanks alot.

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    You will have times in your life when you will feel like you’re the most unattractive person to walk the Earth. You will need somebody to pull you aside and say – you will not reach higher with your hands in your pockets. You can set many records, if you do guarantee yourself that you will do what you promise yourself, and listen to your dreams, to self improve faster

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  • http://www.romanticintimategifts.com Timothy

    Understanding our peaks and valleys is fundamental in not losing hope. Realizing that the negative emotions we are feeling when unmotivated are cyclical can really help in helping one see the proverbial light at the end of the tunnel.

  • samer

    thank you, this article has helped me.

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    Preparing oneself is an excellent insight. The next step is recognizing when your emotional low has hit. This can allow you to rationalize what you are feeling and allow you to get through more easily.

  • willy

    So what I’m hearing in this article is that my mild case of depression I’ve had since highschool was and is nothing more than my low self esteem holding me back after each emotional high when a new idea pops into my head. That is probably the answer I’ve been searching for for all these years. Excellent! It all makes perfectly good sence to me. Thanx

  • this guy

    Thanks for the article, I needed it.

  • behrooz

    thank you so much. I am really happy that I found this web site today :)
    Good Luck!

  • Lauren

    I found this infomation interesting and useful and it has helped me understand the cause of the problem, which was I lost the real reason behind my efforts and in doing so loss my focus. Also the infomation is formated and uses context which is easy for everyone to understand and therefore benefits all of whom can understand it and interpret it.

    Thank you

  • Daynah

    Hi there. While I appreciate the intent of this article, I must say that I disagree with many things you have said.

    “Next time you get angry, take a moment to reflect on the reason behind the emotion. When I step back and reflect, it’s easy to see that my anger is caused by insecurity/selfishness/jealousy etc. After I understand the cause my anger fades away.”

    This would be a great tool if your anger actually came from you own insecurity or selfishness, etc. But what if you anger is justified? What if there is someone or something making it impossible for you to stay motivated?

    Also, I fail to see how understanding my emotions can make them easier to handle and work through? Don’t get me wrong, I think it’s very important to reflect on your emotions (i.e., keeping a journal, talking to a therapist, etc.); however, reflection does not necessarily help one improve their motivation. In fact, sometimes thoroughly understanding one’s emotions can make it even harder to become motivated because so much energy has been consumed on trying to understand why you feel the way you do.

    Also, the notion that preparing for a letdown, not only does that sound like an extremely negative way to live life, but it just does not realistically work. For instance, when a friend of mine became terminally ill, her family, friends and I did everything we could to prepare for the loss of her. When it did actually happen, it was not any easier to take than any other loss I’ve experienced, including those I was unprepared for.

    If you are feeling unmotivated toward something, there are always reasons behind it. But it doesn’t always mean that it’s because you are experiencing selfish emotions that you need to work through. Sometimes it can just plainly mean that you are not cut out to do something, or that possibly you are going down the wrong path in life. If it’s truly something you love or are meant to do, you will eventually just naturally come out of your “funk” and become motivated again.

    Anyways, this is just my opinion. Please let me stress that! I still believe that there are a lot of great points in this article; if the methods mentioned here have helped even one person become motivated again about something, then that in itself makes this article a very good one indeed.

    :-)

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  • rewa

    thanks!

  • Meshal

    Thank you for the post, I really liked your theory of explaining emotions as peaks and valleys and the way how we should we deal with it. I’ve not tried yet but I think it will help me a lot. :-)

  • http://www.ngozimusic.blogspot.com Ngozi

    This article has helped me a lot today.. needed to hear your own personal experience. The way you expressed it in simple, easy to understand language is also fantastic. Thnaks

  • kcaraneta

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    Enjoying all these greatness- your creation from here in Manila philippines…

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    • Annankris Ap

      Well I hope you are still bloging, this post was really helpful. I realized that I am motivated by my romantic relationship to loose weight. What happens is when things are not peachy in my realationships, I loose motivation. I get depressed about how things are going and overeat, then I get dressed because I overate.

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    Really, our expectations, our dreams, our temptations carry us away so often… Often it’s hard to decide if it’s an inspiration, or just any allurement. Or can the allurement be the creative inspiration itself? With so many twisted questions, we get puzzled and end up losing the mind!! Getting caught in the tangle of the mind!!

    So, ‘giving up,’ should be the ‘turnkey’ to get rid of this tangle. And start a brand new start again, with full control. And this full control may come by choosing to do ‘easy forms’ of our destined works. Ease will bring comfort; Comfort will bring joy; and Joy will inspire us to do little better than we expected to do.

    So, never let other’s work overwhelm you, or to intimidate you. Do not sanction on yourself to do something earth-shattering overnight. Just be amused with these ‘irrational emotions, if they keep coming’ and just keep measuring, how much can you do about it, just the little, for the time being, and breathe satisfaction!

    The two golden turnkeys:

    If you are overloaded with depression and the head feels like a boulder, ‘give up.’ Declare that the operation is cancelled!

    If you are blown away with fantastic ideas of doing the greatest things in this world and thus ending up living a rich man (or woman) in one of the most expensive cities of this world, smile a little, and start to plan a easy miniature form of your idea. ‘Be at ease,’ and just start with it. Just your own thing. None to show.

    Just a few words of my humble thoughts.

    Regards.

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  • Stefan

    Thankyou for writing this :)

    I’ve seen “The Secret”, which I still find inspirational – being positive is the heart of living energy. Not so strange, then, when faced with the natural valleys of human emotion, to reach some conflict.

    If I had to choose between these two;
    - The ability to be happy for the rest of my life.
    or
    The ability to live and learn from life as a whole (good AND bad).
    I would choose the latter.

    I hope to read more of your bloggs and find more inspiration ^^

  • Ted

    Hi,

    After reading that you went into a state of burnout after “three weeks” from creating your site i feel sooo much better and rejuvenated..! (sp?)

    I’m going through burnout after “three years” of a terrible economy and ever diminishing results while trying to build a new company where employee’s and their families rely on “my” results to help put food on their table –

    “three weeks” – wow, i’ll never complain again ~

    By the way, how old are you – 20 something..??

  • simone

    I found this article inspiring, thanks.

  • ishan

    Work without wondering about the results is the sole wau!!

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  • http://screw9-5.blogspot.com/ Screw9to5man

    I’ve experienced what you talk about in this blog post many times. I’m kind of going through the low period now actually, but I have to keep going. One day it will pay off. That day is coming soon. 

  • http://twitter.com/DanielsMind Daniel Cavazos

    Great post. For me vision is key.  When I feel the and see the end result or at least imagine what the end will feel like, I can use it as a gas station when I find my self low on optimistic fuel.

  • Anonymous

    John,

    I’m new to your site, but man I so totally relate to this and other articles of yours. I thought I had finally fell into a pit off never ending lack of motivation from a rescent project failure. I just saw only that this pattern you described, had kept me from completing so many other goals. You so totally nailed the cause and I’m thrilled to know its not that I’m a loser, just letting the emotional rollercoster get the best of me.

  • nobody

    This is rather helpful, since I’m experiencing a letdown or loss of motivation right now. I’m a student, quarter midterms have passed, and I bombled one of my tests, and due to tiny mistakes here and there, missed out completely on acing both my exams by a percent.  I’ve been crying myself to sleep every night, because I can’t seem to get over this slump. The letdown seeps into my thoughts, my life, nulling my daily activities and making it harder for me to focus on the task at hand.
     
    I’m not sure if I’ll ever understand why I get like this…It happens every year, during school. I have to go through 6 years as an undergrad, and the depression, mixed with desperation, stress, and anxiety,  is really killing me.

  • Lingfederhen

    thanks for this article…I am still lost..in the valley. 

  • Taimoortalpur

    Awesome Post….Fealing like I found My Mistake of lacking motivation by having Enormous goals, forgetting the real limitations…

  • Gagankathuria1

    Every single word of it is really true…….thanx 4 d post

  • Cellis1977

    Though this was posted quite a while ago.  It find me when I was confused about what exactly was happening to me and my motivation and my business.  I have to a certain degree just threw in the towel and have kept in contact with all of my old associates but have isolated myself and become distant with them.  But this makes good sense and in a way has influenced me even further to get back in the game.  I really did love my work but it just wasnt paying off and was exausting me in every way I could think.  But mainly it was the wear and tear of the financial strain.

  • Mangomaddy

    Thank you for this post.  I am starting a new business after losing my job of 13 years because they could not meet payroll week after week.  I started with so much energy and enthusiasm!  Then suddenly, everything became such a chore and I wondered why I was soooo tired and unmotivated.  It is always helpful to know that I am no alone in experiencing this and that it will pass – and hopefully I will look more closely at my “plan” and hopefully benefit from this time in the long run. 

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  • Amanda

    Loved your article! Very timely for me. What you said just clicked about changing your perspective and looking at a loss of motivation as an opportunity to reevaluate your reasons for why you are doing something.  I also very much agree with understanding your emotions often defuses their negative power over your thinking.

    I also just wanted to add how much value I get from this site.  You have phenominal writers and  I love and look forward to my daily emails. Glad you didn’t give up!

    Take care and know that you are appreciated!

  • http://screw9-5.blogspot.com/ Screw9to5man

    You know what the biggest motivation is for me? The doubters, the people who have ridiculed my dreams and told me I’m wasting my time. The people who see me as a joke.  Nobody likes to feel like that, and it’s a very powerful motivation to try and prove people wrong. 

  • Soheila

    its true, when you feel depressed  or lack of motive, and kind of mental fight with yourself, is good to sit back and ask why? 

  • Twin20

    Thank you very much! 

  • Haitham-abdallah

    Hey everyone. I have been depressed for many years and sometimes can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel, so to speak. If anyone out there has the same problem please give me some tips as to how you deal with it… For myself, it has reached a level to where I don’t want to get out of bed in the morning and am just living to stay alive. I have been on antidepressents but nothing seems to help.. Luckly, I have hope and patience. I know that one day I will truly be happy and content. I don’t mean for this to be a let down to any one, just needed to get that out there and if there is any one who feels the same way or has reached that point.. Please speakout.. You just might save a life

  • Diane

    I really enjoyed this.  I can see now that I tend to stop everything the moment I start doubting myself and the air whizzes out of my balloon and my motivation is depleted completely.  Thank you for letting me see a new perspective.  Very helpful. 

  • http://www.facebook.com/cyn.sadler Cyn Sadler

    Thank you so much for this.  I’m very impressed with how you have helped in 2 areas that I am having trouble with right now.

  • Anonymous

    i bloody struggle with school 

  • http://www.facebook.com/dianne.mandigma Dianne Mandigma

     Thank for this post John Wesly… I already experience it.

    My feelings become intense and sometimes are unpredictable. I may become more irritable than usual, and your mood may change back
    and forth dramatically. I might be especially anxious or nervous, or
    even become depressed.
    I  might have repeated and vivid memories of the event. These
    flashbacks may occur for no apparent reason and may lead to physical
    reactions.  I may find it
    difficult to concentrate or make decisions, or become more easily
    confused.

    THANK YOU :))))

  • Moneypenni

    Dear John, (always wanted to write that!) I work in the exhibitions industry, and am working on a brand new concept event. Sadly, in South Africa, the economy is proving to be a bit of a downfall for our show, especially this one as it is a first time inaugural event. I am coming across a LOT of negativity, and not achieving what I deemed an acceptable return on my investment in this show. (My investment being my blood, sweat, tears, sleepless nights, worry and effort put into working on the show) How do I keep on keeping on without coming across negative to my potential investors and exhibitors? How do I maintain an up-beat, positive attitude every day, and carry on pushing for the show, without burning out, and letting down my team, as well as myself? It concerns me that I feel like it is my fault that I cannot seem to get committed partners to the event, and we have exactly 6 weeks to go until show time! It is incredibly stressful, and I don’t know how to boost myself, and my attitude, let alone the people I am contacting. Your advice is greatly appreciated.

  • Claire

    Thankyou, I hope you know that you have helped atleast me!

    Goodluck with your endeavours!

  • Anonymous

    … and all these years later this article finds me (or I find it)…

    Thank you John for a brilliant little article and also for the great comments, the “fear of being branded bi-polar” and the story with “This too shall pass”!

    As a musician I struggle regularly with the dips and peaks, but until today lacked the perspective to see them as normal occurences, always figured there was something wrong with me, and seriously questioned my choice of vocation.

    And like you John, when I’ve gone through periods of focusing mainly on the (abysmal) finances, my motivation vaned away.

  • Ladielk674

    I just found this post today and it helped me immencly! But I just noticed that all the other comments are from five years ago. Are you still writing? I hope so. Thank you for your inspiring words.

  • Dylan

    Hey this was really fantastic to read as I’m realizing I’ve hit a motivational decline in my recent endeavors. I still want those above and beyond results but at least I’m more aware that things may not go as well as I hope all the time and maybe that will help me out. Also the bit about rediscovering why you are actually doing what you do… yes that is also pretty important, overall good advice! Thanks.

  • screenhead

    thanks, that was helpful
    i always find reasons to not to do anything really. but i want to do everything, i’m just too sad in general i guess.  sometimes i get sad, just because i think about how sad is my life and there’s nothing in it from what i imagine it should. 

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  • Paul Aaron Nuttall

    I have just started slacking of at the gym. And after reading this and realizing how true it is and how often it happens . Has helped me get back on track. Great post thanks

  • ZAI

    Great post, thank you!

  • Shreprt

    Wow,  I really needed this today. As I sit at work doing the same repetitive thing, I stumble upon a really great site. I mean this is all really better said than done, but the point is to try. And the better you get at these techniques the  faster you will overcome your emotional obstacles. Thank you lots for brightening my day and mood.   :o)

  • Publicelement

    Awesome!
    Making emotions work for me is kind of difficult but I shall try.
    I said awesome because, I feel light now as its not just my problem :).
    I have half written computer games, half done paintings, could never succeed in quiting cigs because of this loss of motivation.
    Your article just shook me. And made me to rethink.. Thank you.

    Just a thank you would not be sufficient. So I shall click some ads ;)

  • Publicelement

    Awesome!
    Making emotions work for me is kind of difficult but I shall try.
    I said awesome because, I feel light now as its not just my problem :).
    I have half written computer games, half done paintings, could never succeed in quiting cigs because of this loss of motivation.
    Your article just shook me. And made me to rethink.. Thank you.

    Just a thank you would not be sufficient. So I shall click some ads ;)

  • Monika Kovacs

    Great read! Thanks for the new perspective. I’m going to keep this article after I have my baby as I’m sure there will be times I’m going to need a reminder.

  • http://twitter.com/OnlineHomeBusAU Online Home Business

    I just wanted to thank you for this post.
    I have found you on a day I was feeling flat and completely unmotivated about my business. I can hear myself telling others what you tell me, but not telling it to myself!
    Thanks :)

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    I had to do an essay for my class for my Master’s degree. I used your article for my homework. Thank you. Very informative and very well done.

  • Raquel

    Thanx for the words, I needed them today.

  • http://www.leadershiplime.com/ James

     I really love how you’re realistic about the expectations of motivation in this post. Thanks for posting!

  • Greenduncan

    Thanks all.
    I think the comment “this too shall pass” sums it up.
    You have to take your head out of the cloud in order to see where it is going.

    Thanks all.
    Think Positive Be Positive Captain Positive +

  • Turkey_banger

    Thank you, This is helping me out alot.

  • Jason W

    Thank you John!  

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  • Dreadpool

    I totally disagree. I think if you have to motivate yourself then whatever it is is something you don’t care about. In today’s world of utter manipulation, we’re fed bullshit like “you should at least own a car” and “you should dress nicely for work” and “go to the gym”… Utter waste of life, and it really shows that someone is completely oblivious to their mortality when they’re prepared to play stupid games they don’t even enjoy at the expense of their limited time on earth. Every time you experience that it’s for one reason, because the original reason you got so enthusiastic about it was completely inaccurate to the reality of it. This is because of movies, tv shows, idiots bragging in public, people who appear to us to be happier than us. They like to make out that humans were designed for ‘project’ making, but we weren’t. We were designed to eat, fuck, sleep and star gaze. You can’t keep motivation because you’re simply too smart to want to waste your time or something that isn’t natural, nice or fun for you. 

  • Scott Philbin

    Hi John,

       This is the best thing I have read in sooo long! I am 41 years old and my motivation has gone down the tubes with projects at home, work and worst of all with the wife and kids. I notice that every negetive thing is brought on by a negetive thing and then it just spirals from there, then the anger and the urge to give up and not care. This is the first time this has happened in my life and until now couldn’t figure it out. I too am a highly motivated person with an always positive outlook but as of the last 4 months or so it has gone away. I read your article and it made me feel better! if you have other readings that could lead a person to success in life I would love to see them! My name is Scott Philbin and my e-mail adress is echef01@gmail.com. I hope to hear from you . Cheers!  Scott

  • Nidhi

    Thanks a lot for this article .

    It’s come at a time to me when the initial euphoria of starting up my own website began turning into a low depressing feeling. I was losing motivation , self confidence and surrounded by self doubts. Your experience has made me turn inward to re align my passion and actions.

    Cheers!
    Nidhi

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    I know exactly what you mean. I’m a very creative person and
    I tend to get a lot of ups and down, but my happiest moments are always when I
    get that rush of enthusiasm from starting a new project or coming up with a new
    idea. Unfortunately I have a tendency to bite off more than I can chew, then it becomes a chore and then I forget why I was so excited about the idea in the first place.

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  • http://profile.yahoo.com/HENG4MPXJLPREBPY6Q2UCA2U6E charlote

    i was so in love with your writings. i cannot stop reading all your articles here. i wish i could be just like you. hoping that i can overcome sabotaging myself. i hope one day i can also inspire other people like what you do. thank you for sharing you thoughts to us. it really inspires people like me. please don’t loose motivation on posting new articles because it helps a lot.

  • Arthur

    Thank you very much, this was really helpful!

  • Jamie H

    Hi John

    I think anybody with an outgoing personality and great ideas suffers this type of depression. Usually those people who want more from life seem in my experience to suffer more highs and lows without knowing the root cause.

    I myself am on a bit of a low at the minute. Its early January and in the last month we have had a lovely family holiday for 10 days, A birthday of my son who is now 7 and of course the Christmas festivities. All of a sudden i am low and find it difficult to even get out of bed.

    A little about me. I made a huge comeback at life after suffering alchohol and drug addiction approximatley 5 years ago. I was hugely obese and very very unhealthy. I decided to turn my life around and train for a triathlon. Training a now completing numerous races i found the life change to open lots of other doors. I started my own business, Trained as a gym instructor and generally have a better quality of life. However i have very little time for anybody else including my family which is a very sad thing. Since this last month i realised how much i am missing with such a busy lifestyle. Now with all the funtimes behind me its back to the daily grind and this is where the trouble is.

    This will be my 5th year racing and i know what is to come. The countless training hours, The hours worked in the gym as an instructor and of course my business which is getting busier by the month!

    Knowing what to expect has put me between a rock and a hard place. Getting motivated and facing a busy day seems too daunting and i am feeling the pressure. I know that stepping back into training is probably the best thing for me mentally but making that step is hard. Hopefully i will pull it together soon as going backwards is something a fear even more.

    Reading back what i have just written seems to be more of a note to myself. So where do i go from here and what are the first steps?

    At the moment i have no idea and even thinking of what to do is quite daunting.

    Anyway i raed your blog/article and find it quite helpful. It explains a few of my feelings as maybe the situations are different but the feelings are all the same.

    Thanks for taking the time to share your thoughts

    Jamie

  • Pricoon70

    Thank you for your words! I really needed them.

  • Joncurrie

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    i find coffee to be the greatest of motivators

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  • Sheryzo

    Thanks for this. I’m going through a loss of feel and motivation in my training. I recently took up being a dance instructor and started coaching. It’s not as easy as I thought, also feeling exhausted makes me want to give up training. I’ll take a break for now and go for a short holiday. Hoping to come back energised and better :)

  • Asder

    I became unmotivated to finish reading the article

  • Quantumembers69

    wow.. didn’t even think to look at things that way. what an approach!! well done! you’ve obviously started this site cuz you have a heck of a lot of great insight that’s understandable to an adhd person such as myself. cheers! thanks again, couldn’t have searched for a better answer!

  • suma

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  • Bryan Estes2009

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  • QueenMe

    I enjoyed your blog very much but as someone who is going through the emotional ups and downs I have to disagree to some of what you said. We go through phases because we doubt our decision : was it worth the price/energy we are paying for it.
    IF, and only IF our decision only effects us, then everything you said is right, but once our decision involves other people ( our kids, spouse, family finance) then re-evaluate the reason behind our decision such as self passion fades overtime.
    It becomes harder and harder to motivate ourselves while everyone we care about is upset and bombarding us with negative energy.
    I keep on asking myself, how can I motivate myself again to finish what I started as there is no return in my path. How can I block all the negative comments around my action and pass the finish line?
    What you said is much easier said than done. It’s great that you could do it but do have any way of applying it to something bigger than a small project?
    What if the lack of motivation, effects absolutely EVERYTHING in our life?

  • Josh Houghton

    Thank you for your insight. Being a creative type I often bite off more than I can chew as it seems so simple in my mind “I can do that” and when the motivation isn’t there the guilt and self doubt comes over in huge waves taking me out and questioning everything. I was so much more ambitious in my 20′s and accomplished a lot and can honestly say I did some pretty cool stuff. But now in my 40′s that ambition seems elusive, feeling more vulnerable that I’m not the bulletproof 20 or 30 something any more. After being virtually side-lined by an illness that made life suck for about 4 years. Now physically feeling an upswing I still don’t have the swagger back, and suffering much of what you spoke of. I realize that I have to take in consideration that I am a bit older now, but I should be doing more and coming across your blog has given me some perspective and some philosophy to adopt. I hope it results in getting my confidence going in the right direction. Most of all to those who responded with shared experiences and positive commentary, I thank you as I don’t feel so damn alone by reading about similar struggles. Some people just don’t get it, and they should be so lucky to not know what it is like- that we can’t “just get over it” as if it were so simple. I needed to see this blog, and I hope to remember this as I move forward.

  • Student Paramedic

    Its funny you should mention it’s like hills and valleys.. I’m training to be a Paramedic at the moment which is the most amazing thing I’ve ever done but I feel completely burnt out at the same time. It’s funny.. when I started I could never imagine feeling this… and now I’m feeling like this, it feels like this is how I’m going to be forever but I guess it’s like Clarence says… this too shall pass. Thank you for the blog matey!

  • kian

    I am commenting on this write up after 7 years..ha ha. I found this while I was searching the internet for the exact problem you have elaborated in the article. Thank you very much John, it gives the insight to get out of the loop of high-low motivation and achieve the target. Anyway I have gone through this loop so many times and failed so many times. This is an observation from my side and I am not quite sure whether this applies to all. Any time I am down in the curve and find no more strength to move forward, then my mind always get involved with what I have frequently processed in my mind when doing nothing. Like if you are a game addicted, a day dreamer or a sleepy head…etc. When I am in the valley of motivation I am tend to go for my addiction. What happens here is the energy accumulated get drained while I am away from my motivation and when I try to continue after the days of discontinuing, I need a lots of energy to continue since my batters has lost the charge. What I have learnt from you is that I have to find a balance, a fair compensation with my feelings that I will not continue with my addictions when I am in the valley of motivation. I have to find the trick to bypass this step in the motivation curve.

  • successfulandhappy

    It’s like a curve of learning, for example how to drive a car. At the beginning you are excited because you don’t know te level of difficulty yet. Then you begin and you see how difficult it is. After that you reach the next level and dissapointment hits you. If only you don’t give up at this moment, you will take off soon and will get closer and closer to your goal.

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  • Randy Zaddach

    Great post! I have been looking for some better insight into why this happens. I am 56 and have always been super motivated to excel at my profession and drive myself athletically. I have run marathons, biked, backpacked and worked out religiously for the last 20 or 30 years. In the past year I have let my exercise regimen dwindle and become erratic. I am still in good shape but not the way good shape I have always maintained. I find myself making excuses not to work out. I am tired, I am getting a headache, I need to be home, it’s raining, etc. At the same time I am feeling a loss of motivation at work, like I am just going through the motions. I am feeling that age is a key issue. Deep in my subconscious, I am feeling that my good years are past and my current situation is stagnant. The bigger picture worries are driving my emotions to make me feel poorly about day to day life.

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  • Lonely Canvas

    Good stuff! As an artist I was at an all time high for quite some time, but with several unfortunate mishaps I let it get the best of me. I have never been in a funk like this before and it’s been extremely difficult to get out of. In reading this blog, it definitely put things into prospective for me as to why I’ve been feeling the way I have. I didn’t realize I was beating myself up for something that has happened to the best of them. I was certain that it was just me at which I became disappointed in myself. A failure is how I viewed myself instead of understanding that this is a natural effect of the mind. I thank you for this, as well as those in the comment section as well. Thank you!

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  • Jenna

    I absolutely love this. I guess I am in a valley right not. I have lost all my motivation and feel perpetually fatigued. I’m hoping this will help along my journey as tomorrow is a new day :)

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  • toeneck21

    fuck all you guys

  • krist

    Thank you very much Pick The Brain. Your articles are great help. More power ☆

  • girllookatthis

    by far one of the best posts I’ve ever read!! Not sure if it resonated with me today!? But Thank you ! Thank you good man!!! p.s & good on you for doing it for “the right reasons”….so inspiring:)

  • Lala

    Purpose! One must always go back to that higher purpose to awake the passion which will then lead to the fire within to achieve it.

  • Maxx

    Thank you for this article! Very informative. http://www.pickthebrain.com and http://www.selfimprovementadvocate.com are my two go to blogs for when I need motivation. I need it on a consistent basis so thank you for sharing this information with us.

  • Maria

    excellent article! thanks for posting!

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