Five years ago, I was miserable and alone.
Today, I get paid to do what I love. And I have an amazing family.
It did not happen because of luck. Or because I did my visualizations. It happened because I took practical steps forward each and every day.
And in this article, you’ll discover what those steps were.
The first thing you have to get clear on is this: What do you REALLY want? You doní’t have to be crystal clear, but you do want a general idea of where you’re going. If you still can’t answer this question, just start somewhere. If you don’t know where you’re going, it doesn’t matter where you start.
You probably have “shoulds” in your life. You should do this. You should do that.
Is it what you truly want?
What you should do is not important. What you truly want to do is what matters.
Once you make that distinction, and once you’re willing to eliminate what other people think you should do, everything changes.
This is your life. And if you want to live the life of your dreams, you have to reclaim your power. You have to take responsibility for your life.
2. Embrace Confusion
When you’re starting out, you will be confused. I know I was. All I knew was that I wasn’t happy. I was frustrated and I just wanted to hide somewhere with a nice bowl of ice cream with candy on top.
This confusion happens because you’re embarking on a new journey. It’s a sign that you’re breaking free from your old way of being.
Itís like when a butterfly breaks free from its cocoon. At first it seems like the whole world is crashing down, but suddenly, a whole new world opens up.
There are wings. There’s freedom. There’s life.
That’s why confusion is not to be avoided, but to be embraced. It is a sign that you’re on the right path.
In order to take action when you’re confused, you need someone to guide you.
This could be a book, a training course, or even a mentor. But whatever you do, pick one source of information. Do not become an information junkie. It is another form of procrastination. If you want to create your dream life, you have to move forward.
You have to constantly think about what you can do. And what your next smallest step is.
Action is key.
People talk about visualization and the law of attraction, which is fine, but it won’t get you what you want. Things will not magically manifest in your life unless you take action.
It is only when you take action, when you commit, that things will start to happen.
When you show you are willing to do this, that’s when your life will change. Jump and the support net will appear beneath you.
So, what did I do? I focused on my next smallest step. I was confused, and I still am from time to time, but I just focused on what I needed to do next.
I’ve built a successful online business around my passion. When I was building it, all I did was focus on my next smallest step.
I believe one of the most important factors of my success was my commitment to making it work.
I still remember the first time I walked into an Aikido dojo. In the beginning, I was constantly looking for permission. I was asking the sensei if I was doing things right. I was looking for approval. After a few months, he said Iíd made dramatic improvements.
I stopped looking for permission. I took back my power and I used what I had to get the results I needed.
I committed to what I was doing. I no longer looked for permission to do anything. I just did it.
I no longer train Aikido, but it gave me one of the biggest learning lessons in my life. You have to commit to what youíre doing. Itís not about maybe achieving your dreams. It’s about making it happen. You either do it or you die trying.
It’s not a question of if, but a question of WHEN.
6. Proper Expectations
Most people give up before they see the first sign of success. That’s why you need to have the proper expectations.
You cannot expect to live the lifestyle you want in 6 months. There are a lot of products promising you that, but that’s just marketing hype.
Ignore it. And embrace reality. This will take longer than you expect, but shorter than you fear. And besides, who cares how long it takes?
Are you going to give up on your dreams and live the rest of your life in regret?
7. Excuse Management
And finally, you have to fine-tune your internal bullshit detector.
We all have reasons for why we canít do something. But if you truly want results, you have to get proficient at swiping your excuses to the side.
In the end, the difference between those living their dreams, and those who are just getting by, is their mindset. They are unwilling to put up with the excuses their mind makes. These are just thoughts, merely suggestions from your mind.
The Big Takeaway
You can make your wildest dreams come true.
Will it be scary? Hell yes.
Will it take a long time? It will take the time it takes.
Will it be worth it? More than you can imagine.
But most people never do what they truly want. They end up looking back at the end of their lives wishing theyíd done more.
The truth is that the path to your dreams starts with one step. And you can take that step today.
But will you?
The decision is in your hands.
You alone hold the keys to your success.
What do you say? Drop your thoughts in the comments below.
About the Author: Henri is a freelance writer and the founder of Wake Up Cloud, where he helps people turn their passion into a thriving lifestyle business. When you feel ready to take action, grab his free special report.
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