“The more you work at just being yourself, the more likely you’ll feel purposeful and significant in your life” Wayne W. Dyer
Have you ever looked at someone and thought, “Wow, they sure are confident! I wish I knew what their secret was.” If you have, then you are seeking the secrets to building your self-esteem and confidence.
Why is it so easy for some people to be confident, while others find it difficult? Many people have pondered over this question, and given up without ever finding the answers. Well, here’s some exciting news for you, the secret for building self-confidence starts with embracing yourself the way you are. There are numerous ways in which you can build your self-confidence.
So are you ready to find out the other secrets that can help you in building self confidence? Let’s find out what they are.
Focus on Learning & Improving
One of the best ways of building confidence is by being better at something. For this, you need to put all your efforts into becoming an expert in a particular area. You should begin by understanding your strengths. What are your talents?
How many times have you said, “I’m worthless,” or “I’m useless,” to yourself? Well my friend, that is not the truth. Every individual is born for a purpose, and you just need to find it. It all starts with the thing you love to do. Is it painting, cooking, teaching, building objects, or solving complex mathematical equations? No matter where your interests may lie, you can become an expert. All you have to do is persevere.
When you perform something repeatedly, you become better at it. That is the rule of the universe. Taking the first step is the hardest, but once you find the courage within you to take that leap of faith, you will start walking, and then the road ahead will become easier. Keep practicing and perfecting your skills, and eventually you will reach the pinnacle of perfection. The more you improve, the better you will feel about yourself. Your self-confidence will be boosted in no time at all. Some of the best things in life are gained through hard work, so be sure to work on yourself. Focus on learning new things, and then practice to improve. Set challenging, yet achievable goals, so that when you achieve them, you feel satisfied. All this helps in building an irrevocable self-confidence.
Don’t Try to Create a Perfect World
Making mistakes is perfectly normal. Do not delude yourself into believing that you will never make mistakes, because you will. So how are you going to handle that? It’s simple, you learn from them.
“A person, who never made a mistake, never tried anything new.” –Albert Einstein
Do not fear making mistakes rather use them as an opportunity to learn. Try to gain something new from every experience. Use these experiences as a way to become a better person. Most importantly, learn to move on. Dwelling on the mistakes you’ve made will put the damper on your spirits. Learn from the past and do not repeat it. With this kind of attitude, you can move forward with confidence.
Believe in Yourself
The biggest booster of self-confidence is being comfortable in your own skin. That is what matters the most. Forget about what people think of you, it is your own thoughts that matter. Remember, you are the only person who has the power to change your destiny. Accept yourself completely, with strengths and weaknesses. Realizing your limitations is not a drawback; rather it gives you the power to improve yourself. Strive to become better and you will. It all starts with your mind.
You must have heard the Chinese proverb, “thoughts have the power to change the world.” And your thoughts can help in building your self-confidence. Thinking positively about yourself will automatically make you feel better; this will help in developing an unwavering belief in yourself. That is the key for developing self-confidence, which can withstand the toughest of storms. This is one of the most crucial elements for building self-confidence, i.e. to love yourself and forget about what others have to say about you.
Keep a Victory Log
A great way to remain confident is by reminding yourself of all of your victories. These would consist of all of your achievements and successes. They do not need to be big, they simply need to be something that makes you feel better about yourself. It could be a simple thing as helping an elderly lady cross the street, to finding that you’ve got the highest SAT scores.
Every time you doubt yourself, go through your victory log. It will help you feel good about yourself, thereby, helping you in building confidence.
Boosting your self-confidence requires you to find positivity in life. Look at the silver lining in every situation, and distance yourself from those who make you feel worthless. There will be many people who will be unhappy by seeing your success. It is important to filter out such people from your life. You do not need anyone who isn’t cheering you on.
“Filter all negativity to produce positive ripples.” –Anonymous
Negative people aren’t the only ones you need to get rid of; you also need to stop thinking negatively. Think positively, and believe that you can accomplish anything you set your mind to. Having a positive mindset helps in developing self-confidence.
Have you ever wondered how some of the most successful names to date have managed to remain in the field, even when faced with criticism? The answer is simple; they have surrounded themselves with people who bring out the best in them. You need to do the same.
Follow and implement these five secrets in your life, and see the difference they make. You will notice the difference immediately. You will feel happier and more content with life. Break the boundaries you are scared to cross and do the things that you love. At the end of the day, the only thing that matters is your happiness.
I’m curious – what’s your secret for building self – confidence in your own life?
If you have any extra ideas or questions on the topic please share them with me in the comment section below.
All the best,
Daniel is the founder of Entrepreneur Abroad, father of two amazing children, coach and passionate about motivating and inspiring others to start something that matters . Check out his services at entrepreneurabroad.com or follow him @thinkbiggerr