Do you ever find yourself searching for happiness?
You search, you make a forced effort, and still…you find it difficult to fill that void in your life.
Perhaps you’re relying on a future that you feel might warrant this spontaneous happiness, or you’re seeking to acquire it from someone who your think has the power in them to just inject a jolt of joy back into your life.
It seems all too familiar…you scour every imaginable area looking for
a change, but it predictably fails and depression feels like it’s lurking.
Nonetheless, the truest form of contentment and happiness you strive
for starts with spontaneous happiness.
A happiness that curates a distinct emotion that is nothing short of great.
It’s authentic and the root of it lies within nostalgia.
And if you analyze children you’ll understand how all that they strive for is just that… happiness.
If we apply the same philosophy that children follow, we’ll rediscover
the zest and special sense of optimism only you felt when you were
Recapturing those qualities are essential in paving a road to your directly to happiness.
Below I’ll deconstruct how you can channel those feelings from when you were young and incorporate it back into your life now.
1. That Innocence Still Lives in You.
Growing up you were told an iteration of “try not to take candy from a stranger”.
And that is because children are innocent and view that everyone is good. They do not intend to hurt anyone and they do not naturally think that anybody would want to hurt them.
Believe everybody is innately good. With an alteration in your energy that focuses on being happy, you diminish the ill intent or the worries of thinking all things are malicious. Learn from kids and put aside your differences and care for each other. Love creates spontaneous happiness.
2. Your Creativity Inspires your Contentment.
Have you ever realized how kids are intrigued by stories about magic, dreams and the impossible? And mistakenly, school has trained us to be more left-brained and analytical. But learn to indulge in your dreams again.
When doing so, your endorphins are released, giving your mind and body and natural feel-good stimulation. It’s the urge to create not achieve that helps fill the void of happiness.
3. Know that you are Different.
“Common people are often enough; that is why God made so many of them.
Your job is to be EXTRAORDINARY.” – Shannon L. Alder
All kids are different. And being different is what makes them unique and special in their own little way.
Embrace your uniqueness and appreciate your distinctive qualities. Capitalize on your irreplaceable characteristics to pivot your happiness. The world is a melting pot of different ethnicity, genders, and many features – the world needs more of you to leave its jovial footprint.
4. Do not Take “Things” Directly to the Heart.
A great distinction between children and adults are that children are known for not taking life seriously. They live for the moment and enjoy each and every new adventure for the chance to seek excitement.
As we get older, life, bills, and responsibilities catch up. We lose the spontaneous contentment of being free from our worries and work endlessly to be an “adult” and take life seriously. Start by letting go and be free again.
5. Be Optimistic About your Future.
Hinging on their colorful imagination, when asked what they would like to be when they grow-up, children will bluntly respond with bold optimistic responses like a police officer, firefighter, ballerina, etc.
How does that relate to you?
It’s about having what I call ambitious goals. Set out to change the world, love yourself, and increase happiness in all areas of your life.
6. Smiling + More = Joy.
According to a statistic, children smile 400 times a day vs. adults who only smile 20 times a day. We lose our charming spirit when we don’t smile. So go ahead and smile more. Also know that smiling:
– Relieves stress by releasing endorphins.
– Boosts your immune health by making you feel more relaxed.
– Is contagious and promotes attractiveness
7. Leave All Your Worries at the Door.
You worry a lot about the state you are in, your future and many other complications. Worries are more often just a “what if” question about something bad happening in the immediate or distant future. But, these anticipated bad outcomes can sometimes come true, but are more than unlikely to happen. Children do a great job of isolating themselves from these worries.
Try to separate the necessities that require attention and worry with the majority of your concerns aren’t really worth it. The sign of relief will cultivate contentment.
8. Remove Yourself From Too Many Responsibilities.
Having too many responsibilities can crowd your mind and can cause loss of devotion where the energy should be well spend elsewhere… your happiness. Focus on one task.
A child acquires this trait early. When they are playing tag, they are just playing tag. This is called being single focused. Unfortunately, as adults, we stress because too many things pile on.
Create a minimalist environment for yourself and you’ll find life easier and more gratifying when you can reduce all of the extras.
9. Treasure a Career you Love.
Treat your career as if it is your hobby. Wake up in the morning and look forward to the occupation you dedicate hours a day for.
It is known that those who achieve spontaneous happiness and strive for satisfaction in their workplace are ones who make the best of common tasks. Having fun is not a diversion from a successful life but the pathway to it.
10. Revitalize, Rejuvenate, and Regenerate Your Energy.
Being active might feel like a chore, a hassle, and another errand. For a child however, being active simply means having fun.
Children do not look at exercise as a hassle. Find something you consider fun like roller stating, or even walking your dog – and stick with it. As long as it makes you move and makes you happy you’re more likely to stick to it.
11. You are still a Kid at Heart.
As a child, there were those intangible things that made you happy, whether it be eating ice cream, watching your favorite cartoon show, or simply reconnecting with a childhood friend.
Make an effort to reintroduce those things that were close to your heart when you were young back into your life. If you can rekindle a love you have a strong connection to from your past, it’s your easiest option of being happy.
12. Enhance Your Life with Something New and Fresh.
Children are thrill-seekers and so should you. The brain craves novelty, which is also known as electroshock therapy. Add a little out-of-the-ordinary change, a new hobby or interest and explore something new.
This is a great way to stay humbled and seek the thrill you once use to experience when you were young. Unconventional approaches serves as spontaneous excitement. Start by taking an unusual attitude to break a cycle. You’ll be glad you did.
13. Escape from Your Worries by Dancing.
Dancing is essentially movement of the human body to make an art form come alive, kids love to boogie and dance when music comes alive.
Allow music to consume you (whether you’re a dancer or not). You’ll feel young again, go ahead and let loose as if no one was watching.
14. Find Joyfulness Outside of Your Job.
Know that your life shouldn’t be fully committed to your job. Life is dynamic. It is a concentrate mixture of a variety of pleasures and experiences.
Know that kids don’t have nearly the amount of responsibilities you do. Let alone, a job. Set more time to focus on your social network, spouse, friends, and family.
15. Build a Bond with Nature.
Have you ever noticed how children love to play outside? Nurturing a bond between you and nature will reconnect you back to your youthful days. Observe the flowers, plants, insects and the great outdoors.
These delightful trails help with perspective and reassuring your value in the world. You’ll value your life and appreciate happiness that much more.
16. Connect with your Past Through Your Palette.
Surprisingly enough, food can alter your mood. Returning back to your favorite food or snack while growing up can bring you back to fond memories of your childhood.
Humans are sentimental beings and the power of memory is rich and colorful once your vistas are stimulated again. Triggering your nostalgia through your senses will support your journey back to bliss.
17. A Pet is Truly Unconditional Love.
According to a study, Children that grew up with a pet displayed improvement in impulse control, social skills and self-esteem, all characteristics of a healthy and stable person. Sharing the love and care of a pet forges an additional common bond with others in your social network or family.
In addition, cuddling a pet reduces stress, loneliness and anxiety, which, in turn, can make you happier.
18. Try not to Over-schedule.
You will be surprised how busy you are. Multitasking is now forever embedded with society as a pastime, which is also considered over-tasking. Kids on the other hand focus their energy on just one task.
Simplify your task, remove yourself from some of your commitments, and stop over consuming unnecessary information. This shift will allow you to live in the present and focus your energy elsewhere, making you feel more content and happy.
19. Justify Your Happiness by Who You Surround Yourself Around.
Having regular interactions with a wide circle of friends has a significant impact on your psychological well being, and it’s especially important in the contribution towards your spontaneous happiness.
The unconditional love, care, supportive you are infused in will help towards boosting your self-esteem and confidence. Children love acquiring new friends or being surrounded by a circle of them, you should be no different.
20. Break the Habit of Being Judgmental.
Children from an early age do not have a prejudicial outlook towards the world. The criticizing and judging of others is a misguided manner that has room for negativity. It’s an attempt to justify your self-esteem notions.
A start is to remove “judgment” words:
- Her view on life is quite different from mine. (Fact)
- His view on life is completely wrong. (Judgment/Criticism)
21. Hugging Yields Qualities that Contribute to Being Happy.
Research shows that at least eight hugs a day will provide more mental stability, and twelve hugs a day will help the psychological development of a person. Plus an additional study confirmed that hugging reduces stress and helps sleeping patterns. Children are not afraid of hugging and neither should you.
22. Splurging is OK.
Toys were a basic necessity for children.
In its basic form toys are instruments for the development of children’s fantasy, thoughts and creativity, which helps generate happiness. These toys would not have the same effect on you now, but invest your time and energy on things that you’ve grown fond of.
Splurge on yourself by pampering yourself with only things you are fond of. You have all the right to be selfish.
23. Try Something New and Daring.
When children go after something, they are not afraid to continue pursuing their new endeavor, which yields a great sense of satisfaction once they conquer that skill or journey. The happiness is attributed to acquiring control.
And research shows that a key component of happiness is a sense of control over your life. The more you perceive yourself to be in control, the better you feel about yourself. A sense of control means having a feeling of autonomy.
24. Don’t be Afraid to Express Yourself.
Without question, kids do not shy aware of expressing their feelings. They’ll cry if they’re sad. They’ll scream if they’re angry and clearly, show emotion to any situation life shoots their way.
Venting is extremely important in that it calibrates your emotional volatility and releases the inner tension, Reclaim your independence from the negativity inside, achieving spontaneous fulfillment, will be that much easier.
25. Stick to those who Love You.
Allow love to consume you. Children receive love from all different directions because of how cute they are and if there is a lack of it from one avenue, they’ll be sure to receive it elsewhere.
Accepting this infectious love creates a building bond, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. Remember the difference of wanting to be loved and needing to be loved. Needing helps fill the void that you wouldn’t know you were missing, that is until you actually received it.
26. Don’t Sacrifice with Your Sleep.
Toddlers become extremely cranky with missed or inadequate amounts of nap-time or sleep.
In a study from the University of Colorado found that toddlers with little naps showed more anxiety and frustration, in addition to less joy and interest. Sleeping is precious and without adequate amounts of it you will get little grouchy.
27. Foster the Gift of Your Imagination.
The future is limitless, For many kids, everything in life is possible. The sky is the limit and they have their whole lives ahead of them. There is no reason for them to feel as if time is working against them. Well, you can adopt the very same attitude and not be held hostage by time considerations.
It is never too late. If there is something you have been waiting to do with your life, then go for it. The last thing you want would be a life of regret. Joy escapes you when you allow life to become stale.
28. Your Age is a Number, But Your Heart is “Eternal”.
Aging is often an inconvenient truth and as we get older our growth hormones decrease, our priorities stack, and life in general feels dull. Time does not wait for anyone and you are no exception.
Feeling young is often associated with energy, vibrancy, and overall well being – a product of satisfaction. Your mindset shouldn’t focus on aging but rather on appreciating the privilege of the life that you were given.
29. Worries are Inevitable, But Happiness is Everlasting.
Children are always happy and cheerful because they find happiness in places we would never look. They get excited when they see a butterfly, jump over a puddle or have ice cream and that is enough to excite them.
Their mindset is extremely simple, if it makes them happy, they’ll stick with it. Apply these same principles and see how much happier your life will be.
30. Expect Effort, Not Perfection.
From their first steps, infants struggle to get their feet under them and walk. But never at any point did they give up, the determination grew stronger and accepting that failing was a part of the journey.
Looking for perfection in areas of your life sets you up for disaster and depression. Expecting perfection devalues the happiness potential of the goal we seek. Nothing in life is ever perfect and that…is perfectly fine.
Your Spontaneous Happiness Starts Today
By implementing these small steps on a regular basis, you’ll make gradual changes in reigniting your journey to finally be full of spontaneous happiness.
Picture it as small drops of water in a bucket full of promising emotional well-being.
It all begins with your past and reconnecting yourself with the genuine and transparent happiness.
Because at the end of the day…we are all kids, disguised as grown ups
And well-being and happiness must come from with-in, because reaching external goals often disappoints.
So start today, start now!
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