10 All Natural Ways to Stop Feeling Depressed

Best solutions for breaking up negative thoughts and building up confidence! All the 10 suggestions given by John Wesley helps to develop positive attitude within the human mind. Putting a ‘Reflect on the Past Success’, the 3rd suggestion, really will help to build self-confidence. The 8 and 9 article will help to start of the present day with enthusiasm.

The best one that i ever liked is the one on Number 6. You see many of us always want a routine life cycle thinking that it will solve all our problems and that everything will be fine and dandy. But it is not so. In fact when you do not get any change with your life on a daily basis… then you obviously go into depression automatically.Keep up the good work..!

Craig is correct. Serious major depression will respond to none of these things exclusively. Medication and psychotherapy is an absolute necessity. I must say though that these suggestions would be effective as a supplement to normal treatments.

but sometimes people can not make actions to solve their problems an sometimes they just feel depressed and that nothiing worth not even living worth…sometimes u be depressed just for no reason u feeel so much down and that u cant hear or say or do anything and neeed to sit with urself….and i think that it’s a goood way because u will get bored from sittting alone and u loook from ur wndw and seee how life is runing fast while u r sittting alone so u start thinking abot what u r doing in that rooom why u r doing alll that?does anything worth in front of fun …. loook at people ..happy people..why they r happy and u r not?arent u jealous?come on!move ur ass and go out enjoy ur time and forget everything around u !when u die of depression no one will..only u and u’ll be the one who will looose the opportunity of being alive and to have fun!sooooo moooooooooooveeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee smileeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee think about ur self!say i wannna feeel happpy!and when any of u read my post and he/she depresssed and u felt better pray for me and let me know:P:) :):):) smilllllleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee be happpppyyyyyy……. remember always that u deserve to be happpy and if u dont than no one does!

What should i do im feeling really depressed and i feel like dieing and that i am always feeling queezyy and i dont know what to do.

In number 4 of the 10 way to stop feeling depressed you say:

When you consider everything good in your life and compare it to the problems of less fortunate people, the issue that’s making you depressed won’t seem as serious.

What if you are one of the less fortunate people that others compare themselve to feel better?

Very good tips. Especially number 10. Thank you.

A person should not get depressed in life through failures. Failure are in life to give us motivation to do something new every time.

I have been seriously depressed nearly every day since I was about 11 years old (I am 34 now). I have learned how to deal with it over the years using these ideas and many others (no drugs). I somehow survived until now mostly due to the realization that no one really cares. That, like #9, is strangely strengthening. However, the problem I face now is that I am extremely fatigued and physically in a lot of pain every day and there doesn’t seem to be any hope of feeling better. I already exercise and eat healthy, so I am not sure how to deal with that.

Some good points that will surely help lighten the mood of people who are feeling down. However I needed to point out that I think it is incorrect to label this as ‘depression’. It’s normal for people to feel dispirated from time to time however the underlying cause of true depression is down to alterations of certain biological factors; a change in neuroanatomy and chemical imbalances are primarily responsible for clinical depression. These subsequently influence and cause changes in cognition.
Sorry about the small rant I didn’t mean to sound patronising however a few years ago when I was in my early teens a friend of mine was diagnosed with clinical depression. When people told him to “cheer up” or said something to him along those lines, it actually tended to make him feel much worse. The whole class was oblivious to the fact that his condition was out of his hands.

I also don’t see the relevance of no.7. Human beings are quite possibly the most complex organisms to have ever ealked the earth, I feel slightly degraded by the fact that you’re comparing us to such lesser species. I’m aware that evoloution is a process that helps to promote species diversification, rather than a scheme for hierarchial imporvement however it’s important to appreciate the vast complexity of the Human brain. The reason why animals do not worry about “tiny problems” is beacuse they have a miniscule menal capacity and low EQ. This means that they are concerned about two things – survival and reproduction. This is actually something that actually helps me feel better, people are always worried about their hectic lives that they dont seem to have the time to marvel at just how complex our world – our universe actually is. I strongly recommend looking up “pale blue dot” this tends to sum my perception on this matter entriely.

very useful, thanks allot:)

I think there is a slight moment 22 problem with #2. Although I endorse spending time with positive people, depressed individuals are rarely positive. Ultimately, the advice tells you to stay away from depressed people, making it hard for the depressed to follow it!

Life is great for some, sucks for others. Im feeling depressed, because it sucks for me. This society we are living in has shifted from a society which merits someone for who they are as a person, to what they have. I havve pretty much nothing but good looks and a shirt on my back. Since i don’t have much, society sees me as low, although i would gladly give my shirt to someone in need.

For someone that is suffering from severe depression, none of these proposed solutions will work, perhaps temporarily but not indefinitely. In my case I found medication to be although unwholesome, somewhat helpful at best. As people suffering from severe depression, we are the unlucky ones, the ones born with a genetic disorder, the ones born into social poverty, financial poverty, the ones suffering from some sort of abuse, the ones with low self esteem and confidence, the ugly, unappreciated, unwanted ones, we are the ones that see the world in a different light than normal people do, we see things the way they really are. The world is nothing but a bunch of people that are selfish, greedy, I can go on and on…

Well all 10 are great except number 7 because that”s why i am depressed : I just gave away my cat.

I can’t write, I am challanged as how to express my self, but hopefully I can contribute by sharing som of my infamously good links. I read this blog that I think is cheerful in a “extreemly” dry way. Dry but true, hope it cheer ppl up as it in a strange and amuzing way did for me. Cheers, http://clickheels.wordpress.com

I do like this article!
I think I can finally break out of this mid-life crisis/ heartbreak/ depression,
and stop hurting the few people left in my life who still love me.
I really have had a great life, and even though I never got married,
lost my job of 25 years, my girlfriend, and my confidence,
it is time to feel good again.
————-Thanks for the inspiration!
”Mr. True”

I liked this post. I agree 100% with number 2 because being around other people is, in my opinion the best therapy. In fact, I have found that going on to little chat rooms or blogs can be a very effective strategy for relieving stress. Though this is arguable and dependent on the person, this is like number 2.Good post.

Most of these fit to me and im only 20 most people tell me that im still young and i dont have any problems but I guess they just dont listen im not saying there wrong or anything but I do know what is going on in my body more than anyone else does.

I understand that im only 20 and need to calm down alot but I cant control my anger or depression or my bi-polar disorder for that matter. Trust me I have tried.

Anyway I just wanted to say that this helped me understand somethings and im going to try it out and see if it will help me understand what is going on better and how to deal with it.

i always feel like ending my life since something happened 1&1/2 years ago. if i explained it would sound really stupid, but it always gets me down. after my best friend moved schools a few months ago i feel like i have no-one to talk to. my parents think i self-harm because i think its cool. i feel like a monster and that i deserve to die. everyone seems to have forgiven and forgotten apart from me. every morning i cant see the point in getting up. im so sure about ending my life, its just the how & when & where that is so beyond my knowledge. im trying to help myself now, by going on sites like these. i know it’ll take a long time but it gets under my skin when i just give up. i want to feel better. thanks for the help[:

I also don’t know why I’m commenting on this. I just kind of picked this page out of the “Google hat”…but this is my problem. I am chronically depressed, pessimistic, whatever you want to call it. What I don’t want is to “feel better.” That is to say, I am depressed for many specific reasons: I can’t hold down a job, I hate interacting with people, I hate that everyone I seem to meet or see in public is happier than I am…etc.
The one thing I really want is to be around more people who are really upset about their life and the world. Not because of things that they can’t change, like a hunchback or a mole on their face, but that they are upset about things that can be changed in society.
I mostly can’t keep a job, for instance, because I am such a negative, asocial person that the whole “smile and be phony” thing just doesn’t work for me. And I hate what capitalism has become, and I don’t want to help companies whose only goal it is to make money while fucking people over.
I just want more people to be like me, so that I feel I have a place, that I am represented in society. I don’t want to feel better. It’s not my fault that the world is a polluted, overpopulated shit-hole. Why should I put on a smile and be a slave for companies who are perpetuating this no-future, over-consuming culture? They should come over to my side, and we should have a few 100,000 people out on rafts trying to clean up the Great Pacific Garbage patch. This fucking world is doomed unless we change the current global status-quo. I only want to talk to people who understand that, I don’t want to just pretend these things don’t exist and “feel better” for a little while.

I have been suffering with long term depression for years since suffering cronic pain and huge cannabis use started in my teens, since given up for about 10 years now, I have some breaks when i start feeling better in myself, But murphy is always there to kick me back to the gutter. Its always the same. So why bother trying. Just lucky i have children they give me the will to keep trying. I just feel so tired of putting up a front trying to hold my head high, When i try to speak to doctors i feel like i am just a burden to them! and i feel week if i open up. they are not there to listen, I just feel like curling up in a corner and cry. I am so scared of dieing but dont have the will to live, talk about being stuck in limbo. i have been put on endep this time, so time will see. I know this sounds like crap but it so hard, i really feel like i dont even remember myself. its been so long. Not sure if it can be turned around now. Its funny i really do get pains in the chest when feeling down. i just trying to type whats going on in my head to give you a look at a depressed life. i just want it to stop. have that plug pulled to release what ever is doing this and give myself back to me.

Me too! Been in the dumps for quite awhile, so I’m available to talk also. But then ~ would we be feeding into one anothers’ negativity? Some people say they don’t “believe” in depression. To that I say ~ “Lucky you if you have never felt how low we can take ourselves!

Still Feel Depressed Slightly…Im Gona Need A Load More Than Words To Cheer Me Up : /

I absolutely hate the suggestion that includes the Carl Sagan. Thank you for making me feel even more depressed than I already was.

Thank you, i just googled this and it helps, im going to lose a friend to death, my best friend, and im…having such a hard time, this whole journey has been…depressing, and i just needed something, thank you again for these few tips.

Evan

Great list of things to help change to a more positive lifestyle.

I think #2 is probably the most important, and can potentially be the hardest one to do. “You are the company you keep.”

Amazing article, so true, puts everything into perspective, really helped me and I hope it helps others.

I read that happiness is not a “state of mind” as many of us depressed types think. It comes from action, so do something, even if other people think you’re strange it’s better then not trying. In the end you’ll find the people and places you like being around. Push as hard as you want, it’s worth it for your own sake. we only regret the things we don’t do.

fail

OMG this stuff is useless!!!! i want to kill myself lol

I WANT TO DIE!

Thank you Angela, the comment you said really made me feel a whole lot better:)

I can only tell everyone to ask God for help, I’ll tell ya he’s better than any medicine or doc. out there!!! he truly loves you! like in a romantic way! he wants to help you and wants you to be happy. satin, YES SATIN!!! is after ya! cause he doesn’t like any of you! and he will do anything to make you feel crap, so just rebuke him in Jesus name! he can’t touch you except put thoughts in your head that will make you feel this way. and all his techniques are the same, why do you think your depression is so similar to others!? he wants you to take the bait! so be a wise fish and get out of there! hurry up! Gods knocking on your door! stop asking why you feel like this and run to God! I just think it’s sad how much people have mistaken him… IT MAKES ME ANGRY! well I can’t push you into anything you don’t want to do… but I think you should just give him one chance. he literally can’t hurt you since he’s actually love! YAY!!! well love you guys! be wise and take good paths! sorry~ I like to type a lot! XD God Bless ya! OH! don’t be prideful! I read it in a book that pride is a really dangerous thing that you MUST get rid of! I know I am prideful at times but I ask God to help me get rid of it and He does! there will be many Christians and other type of people who want you to get close to God because they want you to feel how they feel when they’re around Him! and I just want to go on and on about how good he is! but I know I’m typing to much… *laughs

How do you tell the difference between a) major stress b) depression and c) both?

Pretty sure I have both. I just want to curl up and cry somewhere. Everything is so pointless. But I know suicide is not an option, never has been.

Writing a book helps, if you’re good at that kind of thing. If people like us can be good at ANYTHING, but you know what I mean. Take it out on your characters. It doesn’t hurt anyone and it really does make you feel better… my main character’s best friend just got chucked out a window. And depressed people make good writers for tragic books.

~Lyta

PS. Read The Sight and its sequel Fell by David Clement-Davies. It is a beautiful story with so much meaning.

some people think its a joke to deal with this shit day after day (not singling anyone out at all) but the reality of it is people just don’t understand it until it happens to them. You look at someone who is different in anyway and you think to yourself how weird they are. If they’re so sad why can’t they just stop. But it doesn’t work that way. Alot of people don’t realize what another person may have gone through, our experiences make us who we are. So a person who has had alot of bad things or painful memories of the past is going to be more likely to just pass through life on “autopilot” with a dim,sad outlook on life. someone who has had an “easy” life would have a brighter outlook on life. so why am i rambling abour this, because i have a sad outlook on life… nothing I do ever rly seemed to help me out. from dealing with the bullshit of my past to the recent things that get me down. and i finally decided i had enough, if your depressed this is what i did to keep going forward. Teenagers generally think their peers are judging them, this can stress you out worrying about other peoples opinions. It’s time to realize it doesn’t matter what others think, it only matters about how you feel about yourself, and don’t let others influence your own feelings about yourself,it’s time to make you your own person, you don’t need to follow everyone else, put your own style and taste into everything you do,whether its the way you dress, the way you talk, or even how you get through the day. if you be yourself and stop trying to be like someone else it can relieve so much stress and pressure. Another thing, don’t dwell on the past, what’s done is done and there is no sense in trying to change it, so when you have a depressing memory or a terrible flashback of something,try to focus on something that makes you very happy. And I’m sorry this is so long, ironically I have more to say but I have no time to say it.

Angela, thanks for your words, i’m copy pasting it to my wallpaper..
And great article too..
I’m usually a very positive person but somehow today i got beaten…Looking forward to when all will get better..

Im a new student at university at the age of 19. I thought to myself ‘yeah going to uni will be great, i’ll have the time of my life, and hopefully get a degree bla bla bla’ Well the first week or 2 started of great, made a few friends (not as many as I expected) but now im into my 4th week and I just feel so down.
I feel incapable and unmotivated to do my work, I dont want to go out clubbing or anything because I just don’t have any self confidence, espeically when it comes to ‘pulling’ girls like everyone else seems to manage
I really don’t know what to do, i just feel like giving up – someone please help!

Reading these comments has made me feel a little less alone. But isn’t that horrible – that we’re all here united in sadness?

I am 20 and have struggled with dealing with my mum’s death for 4 years. It was sudden and horrific. I feel like I’ve lost support of the one person who would unconditionally care for and love me for the rest of my life. Now I have to go on by myself and I hate it.

I don’t know if I can give advice – sometimes I get very, very low in despair. I don’t know if I have depression or not but I know that I am trying to fight this.

This is my advice:
- Absolutely no-one chooses to be born. No-one chooses their initial surroundings – it’s all about moving on yourself and building the kind of life and relationships that you want to have.
- Have you ever had a conversation with someone who is kind and happy and you leave after speaking to them in awe of their personality? Try it. Try for one day to be that person. Make the people you talk to happy – the people you care about. They will subconsciously reciprocate.
- You have to make the change yourself. You cannot wallow in despair, no matter how hard you think it is to get out of.
- Find someone that inspires you – a character, someone you know, a celebrity. How have they coped with life?

These things may help you, they may not. But every single person in these comments is expressing the same emotions and we can all empathise with each other because no matter what has caused our depression we’re all feeling it.

To ‘K’ before me:
You have a boyfriend who clearly loves you You are lucky to have him. If you want to change your body work very slowly, one aspect at a time (maybe your hair, your fitness) and gradually work to achieving something better. Focus what you will become – not what you are. It’s incredibly difficult but you can change.

Chin up, everyone.

I have always been a really happy go lucky girl, life has been hard but never let it get to me. This year however I lost my 18 year old brother in a tragic accident, 4 months later I miscarried after trying 18 months for a baby. In September my other brother had a horrendous accident resulting in complete brain damage and me having to turn off the life support. This has left me with so much guilt and loneliness. My brothers were only 18 and 19. 8 weeks after that I then thought I had another miscarriage but was an ectopic pregnancy so spent 2 weeks at hospital and in severe pain. I know I need to sort myself out but feel so low. I keep smiling every day and try so hard but inside I feel as if I am falling to pieces. My husband is great but I think he forgets, I have to be brave for my children but it all seems to much at the moment.

Wow, firstly hello to all and there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

After reading all above comments I realize how big this “depression” thingy is.

I am 31, currently living with my Mum (who is gr8) & would be lost without her.

I am at the stage in my life where I am contanstly fighting those negatives, contantly questioning myself and almost everything I do, am & say.

I have always tried to be the nice guy, a snag if you will, always offering help or assistance, offering a shoulder to lean on or just an ear to listen.

However as most of you are or will become aware, unfortunately “nice guys finish last” I still don’t understand or maybe refuse too. I have spend most of my life caring for others, that I have lost myself in the Journey of Life.

As much as I hate it, I believe I have become a less caring, less generous, less giving as I get older and experience all the pebbles in this path of life.
I must reconnet with that person (who used to be me)!

We all soon realise who are true friends are in times of need unfortunately I have experienced this all to often. I get down in the dumps, even depressed and just want to crawl in a cave.

On that note I have a lot of faith in ourselves as Genuine human beings and the power of the Brain – “It can make us or break us”. I am currently reading Self Matters by Dr Phil – I could’t recommend this and others like it enough, to stimulate your senses.

I have never been happy with myself all my life. Been overweight since primary school, and kids can be so evil! Still to this day I dont like my body and would give anything to change that, however on the other I see gr8 looking people (whom I think I would like to be) and see that things are not really much different. It’s so true my perception is whats holding me back, how i see myself or more so how i think others see me.

Although my problems seem sooo trivial in comparison, we all need to find our inner-self, re-connect with who we really are not who we are expected to be by family, friends or society. I am by no means the answer but i feel great knowing that all is possible and anything can be changed! We just need to find our own motivators.

I am glad I found this site, i read all comments and could relate. But also feel sorrow for those stuck in that ruck and hope with sincerity they do at least try to connect with themselves, it has nothing to do with being selfish, self centred or anything like that. It’s all about regaining your confindence and reconnecting self to find what really makes you happy?

I have always been good at giving advice, but not accepting it myself….:(

There are soo many people in the same boat and it’s great people are finally starting to talk about these things and please do seek assistance, there are people out there that study this stuff for a living and speak from personal experiences. Also plenty of reading materials available.

To Aim above I love your poem, i will laminate it for reference.

Thanks to all for sharing.
I feel much better now

I hope you all find yourselves and happiness

Love always on this journey we call Life. A.Ross

I feel like the world would be better off without me sometimes. I try to talk to people but they get bored of my constant moaning. I don’t have friends, I’m so lonely, I’ve never had a man in my life really love me, I have so much hatred for my ex that I feel it pulsing thru me. Sometimes I worry that I really am crazy. I see people in the news who have been murdered or tragically died & I wish it had been me. I just want to disappear. & I want to punch myself in the face that I even wrote something so pathetic

@jewel honestly it’s not pathetic for writing what you wrote, u need to vent sometimes. Most of us know how to break out of depression, i’m positive you know to as well. I’m not feeling the best myself and I as much as I know how to break out of depression, I really can’t. Sometimes it just HAS to fester inside of you, until you are ready to say I can move on.
No there is no such thing as, u can’t move on, u will ALWAYS move on. There was a time in your life where ur bf ment jack shit so yes it is possible for that to happen again. Sometimes it takes a new love, sometimes it takes some friends to show you the way. Sometimes u just gotta fill the void with something else. My last relationship I filled up the void with heavy weight workout. It really isn’t a choice for a girl but it helped me release my anger and let me focus and research alot on my spare time until I couldn’t remember why I let such a person consume my life.
Right now I just had a bad response in a girl I was chasing for the pass year, basicly she was dating a guy for the pass 6 months without telling me and just used me to string along for free dinners and dates and fun. don’t get me wrong the fun was great but thats not what I expected. Right now i’m very depressed but I know for a fact I just have to wait until I am ready to put something in the void and use it to power my way through it.
If you really want ot make up with ur friends, be different, don’t talk about ur bf, dont’ talk about that stuff. if ur out of things to talk about wiki something for fun, research some interests ur friends have, watch more tv shows. Talk about those things, when u do all that, u can use ur spare time reseraching instead of thinking about him. Which in return can hlep u with ur friends and also to meet new people, killing 3 birds with 1 stone =)

I wish u the best of luck jewel, u will do fine and power ur way through this.

I have a tumor in my spine and it gets me down. No one understands the pain i am in. Im so young and i can’t do anything, i wander what good am i now for the future. Its not cancer i should be happy but im not i wish it was so i could die. no doctors will remove it because i might lose my ability to walk. i sit and watch tv and think this is so boring how could my life continue like this. my husband loves me but it seems he always wants sex and i cant give it. my kids feel bad for me and wish i would get better, that just hurts me even more to hear them say that. i going to try to do what the arcticle said be more postive, be around more postive, try to get outside, break from rountine. We will see if it does work? I just can’t go living the way im going right now.

Hi All,

Your world is not the worst! If you are talking about lousy ex. Great! The are Ex, Past! History, You should thank God it has ended. Sometime, it is better to live without a man. Esp a lousy one.
If you have a tumour, but your husband loves you. That is also great! Someone still treasure you.
Mine, I have 3 kids, a lousy verbally and physically abusive husband. I found out he ate his lunch with his 18 yrs old assistant so frequently. The worse part is have korean food but he hate it so much and never eat with me for a long time. He dun even bother to send me to hospital when I was pregnant with high fever and another time almost miscarriage,and another time have Hand foot mouth disease. Now one of the kids , a 14 months old baby has a unknown tumour. Before this, I commit suicide and my husband dun bother to be around to save me. I feel I am as good as a living dead. I dun feel like living at all. Every day I wake up, I wish I will just die. But I need to stay alive to ensure my baby stay alive as I need to constantly pray for him. He is too young to die or lose his arm. Without this, I rather die now. I dun have a supportive family, and I will be stuck alone with 3 kids if divorce. I really feel stuck with great saddness.

Hi Sad child . U feel sad that at 13 you can feel so bad, sad. Hummm what is going on ? I would listen if you need to talk . You know Im wandering where your parents are ? Can you talk to them ?
I tell you what whatever is bothering you can be fixed and that lost feeling your feeling needs to be talked about.
I would love to be that friend in the universe that you will never meet that made you realize that you are not alone and you are so special .
God put you here to do something and if you do something to end the life he gave you well that would be a loss to everyone who knows you and everyone that your supposed to meet .
I’m not sure of your real name r if your female or male .
But I’m sending you a hug and a invitation if you need to talk I will listen , All you have to do is write a message on this site and I will respond . Please please don’t harm yourself!
Remember in this world it is easy to feel alone,But your not . Big Hugs

Doggie, All I can say is You are so strong, Look what has happend in your life , you have so much to offer , you definitly deserve better . I hope ur youngest pulls through and i want to say you sound like a great mother.
Those kids would miss you so much if you left them here, they need you and you are so wonderful . don’t let your husband break you down . Its his loss if he cant see what a beautiful wife he has and how much you try and make a house a home and how good a mother you are it sounds to me that maybe you should take the effort in relocating you and those baby’s and make you and them happy . You deserve that , there is help out there to help you do that ..hugs

Mandy I want to tell you I cant even imagine the pain your in . Wow ..This is a situation that can drain you I’m sure. But the one thing you have is your family and they love you so much . I hope that you get some relief of your pain . I will pray for you . I wish you the best.

MY LIFE SO SUCKS AND NO ONE CAN HELP ME, SO WHATS THE POINT OF LIVING U TELL ME ???????????????

I WISH I CAN DIE ALREADY. DONT TALK TO ME. THIS COUNTRY MADE ME WHAT I AM TODAY.

hey brian. i dont normally comment on anything since internet is very impersonal but i couldnt help but to empathize for you. i guess feeling a brief rush of depression wasnt so bad bc it led me here. sure, i may not be of much help bc its just virtual communication but just know there IS, in fact, someone willing to listen. your diligence in branching out your career is very commendable despite a lacktherof positive results. its truly unfair how the industry world functions. im no mind reader but i sense a lot of potential in your personality. genuine and honest. and god-willing, someone will definitely discover that above all else. so best wishes and dont give up.
p.s. soaking your feet in warm water’ll help you sleep (according to my landlord’s accupuncturist ? lol)

Wow. Such advice. How trite. Not helping much.

Please realize that ending your life will NOT end your problems! If you leave this life without completing your fated journey, you will have to return to finish it – which may be in a worse form or circumstance. So, please DO NOT make a Bad situation Worse !

A few suggestions:
1) Anti-depressants work for many in at least reducing the intensity of depression – please see a Doctor ASAP.

2) Try to get a few minutes of physical activity outside – a walk around the block is good enough to begin with. Walking for just 15-20 minutes everyday makes a world of difference.

3) Take it one day at a time – just try to make it through the day doing what you can do.

The Universe will guide you through this tough time !

Hi
To all those that feel like committing suicide. Just stop for a minute and reach out for help. You are not alone, there is alwasy someone to give you some help. That feeling that is inside of you that noone cares because no one asks is a trick in your mind. People just aren’t mind readers or very good at asking. You will hurt the world around you so much more by leaving it than if you stay. This is a challenge in your life, it is not fair and it sucks, but you ARE strong, you just don’t know how much. When you get through you will feel stronger than others around you and you will be surprised at how good you can feel. It is worth it to hang on, but the best thing you can do is pick up the phone or go see someone you trust and say “i’m not ok” and if that person doesn’t listen then say it to someone else and someone else and someoneelse, until someone listens. If you take your own life, you won’t make everything better, if you have children you will ruin their life, if you are married you will ruin your loved one’s life, you will ruin the life of everyone that loves you, they will be shattered. Think of that before you take that step. Your loved ones would rather hear about your problems than pick up the pieces when you are gone.
To “freak”, you are not alone. You are not alone. You do want help because you came to this site. Is there is someone you trust that you can talk to? If you can’t talk to mum and dad then find someone but becareful who you are talking to, don’t talk to someone online. Ok… there are people that will prey on your vulnerablitity, make sure it is someone you trust.
To Brian and the other people that are waiting for their spouse/girlfriend to make them happy. I’m sorry but they never will make you happy, you can’t get something from someone that you don’t have within yourself. I have been with my husband for 19 years (I am only 35 too) and he wonderful and we have a very happy marriage and 3 children, but I have learnt (I too have had depression) that there is nothing that he can do to make me happy inside of me, I have to do that for myself. Does that make sense?
I have had many medications but the only thing that truely works is to speak to a counsellor, they know things that you have no idea about. They are someone to chat with and to work things out with. You will brainstorm with them and they will be objective. Trust me, that is the best medicine. And when you are better there will still be times when you fall flat on your face, like I am now, but I will get back up, dust myself off and start again. I have found that talking to someone, just haveing them listen to me is the best thing. My poor husband has had to learn “how to listen” but he is getting better at it and I am getting better at not flying off the handle when he doesn’t do it properly.
Most importantly “medications” numbs your feelings, you can’t work on your feelings if you aren’t having any. Unless it is absolutely necessary try counselling first, they will tell you if you need more, a dr will always sugggest meds first. You have to face your feelings not hide from them, and this will help you through it.

thank you RT and thank you Gina I will take action on what you’re both saying
have a nice day

Ok, I know this is supposed to be to helping those who see no way out, so genuinely thank you. But frankly in some scenarios this is bullshit. It’s all very well saying look at how nature is so positive and how the world is actually beautiful. But the whole point is that people like me can’t see that. Yeah, we know animals live in the moment, we know we should do something different to change our lives – but the whole point is we think that doing that will have no effect. If we thought it would, we would do it. Thank you very much for telling us how we should view the world. But it doesn’t explain why we don’t see it that way.

you have not a job??? no money,you sit looking at tv,thats not going to help you get a hobby i did.3 years on and it was the best thing for my family and i. just for someone to hold…..

My life sucks so much. I wake up every morning wondering why God decided to put such a piece of shit like me on this earth. My life is just terrible. I go to school everymorning and have nobody to talk to. After 5 shitty days of loneliness at school I go home for the weekend and just waste away playing xbox. I don’t want to live like this but I’m to big of a pussy to just kill myself. I’d say the worst part is that I’m a Christian and I don’t even think I’m going to heaven because all my life I’ve been addicted to porn, been a complete fucking screw up, and the girl I’ve been in love with for the past few years hates my guts. Yeah you people say that God has a plan for me but what if his plan is for me to live a shitty life. The worst thing is my best friend is dating the girl im in love with. When I was a freshman in highschool last year me and my bestfriend liked the same girl. He told her that I liked her and she was disgusted and now every morning I go to school broken and near my locker is my friend with the girl I love. I wish someone would just duct tape my arms and legs and throw me into the ocean. Why did God decide to give me such a shitty life. This Is the sad thing, I’m up at midnight telling the worl about all my shit even though they don’t give a fuck. I’m not dead physically but inside of me is just ashes and a heart that’s beating for the love of my life who hates my guts. Fuck me I hate my life, why the hell was I born I have no purpose or love in my life. Nobody will remember my name and nobody will cry at my funeral. I’m just a fucked up 16 year old kid with the shittiest life story ever….

I’m soooooo depressed! The girl I’ve known and been with for 3 years wants to leave me. I mean I wasn’t perfect in the relationship but neither was she. She was not only my girlfriend but my best friend. I barely eat if I do I feel sick. I barely sleep, maybe 2 hours at a time max! I feel like I’m dying, like I can’t go on like I’m losing my other half. I just want this feeling to go away fast because I am not myself when I’m like this. I honestly feel like doing nothing but crawling under a rock and staying there. I think how summer will be here soon and I want to spend it with my girlfriend but don’t have one of those any more. I don’t think its anyone out there for me. I want to die! I hate this feeling and I don’t know how much more of this I can deal with. I just really want this feeling to pass!

@jewel
dont be so depressed, if you’r real life friends are bad you can always find friends on the net ,cause there have to be somone nice, dont be so depressed we all with you, do not ever feel depressed like that , tell yourself there are peoples who cares about you, just like i do,even that i dont know you,you might think that there are better peoples than you but thats all shyt , that can never be true, all the human kind are the same,they just passed thrugh diffrent things in theyre life belive me we are all the same there is no better than you, there is no better than anybody there is no less better, we all creations of god were all the same we just passed thrugh diffrent things in our life and we just look diffrent from each other,
i might not think im so perfect , but i dont hate my life either, im a lazy person,14 year old, looking fine and normal good on video games and in painting,jewish,israelian, and love almost all kinds of music, thats my personality and no matter whats yours we’re
equals to each other just like all humans in the world.

For those of you speaking about ex’s, before u go off blaming them remember they are human too. I’m currently in a relationship where my gf is depressed everyday n she says “its jus part of who she is”. At first naturally I thought it was me so I figured I would remove myself from the situation to help us bothl. She begged me to stay so I have but only a small change occured, then back to depression. So after 2 years of trying to be supportive, my tolerance has reached its limit. No matter how strong you are, you can’t force a depressed person out of depression. So my point is after everything I’ve done to help, not all exs are the reason for depression… My tolerance jus ran out

I feel like my life is shit, although I know that compared to many other millions of 17 yrs old out there, I’m damn well off. I just flunked my intermediate level physics final paper yesterday. Normally that’s not a reason for a guy as matured as me to be depressed about, but my situation is indeed so twisted that I can’t help but mope about it. My dad is a well reputed doctor in our state, wherever he goes his fame precedes him. All the people associate him with hard work and goodness. As his only son and heir, my life is examined extremely crucially by every single soul in the town. I have always been taken for a good and intelligent boy. For my 10th board exams, I scored 85%, and two years later I am flunking my physics exam (passing % is 33) ! Even I can’t believe how bad i’ve degraded in these past two years. There is still 3 months until the results come out, but I don’t know what to do. I’ve not been able to eat anything out of guilt and sadness since my exam. I had alienated myself from my friends a few weeks prior to my exams so as of right now, I don’t have anyone to turn to. My dad has always been looked up by everyone and I, his own son, has let him down. Normally I wouldn’t have hesitated in rushing down the path of trailer, but I know my dad’s still gotta face the shame, and I’m not a coward to take the easy and tempting way out. He is certainly not the best dad out there but he tries his best. He never had the love of a father while growing up, so he never knew how to be a father himself. My mom and dad fight all the time and have been doing it for the past 20yrs.
I try hard to live up to my dad’s expectation, but trying for the best had made me forget how to be an average guy and now I can’t be either. I’m helpless now. Its not just my exam which has brought this upon me, it just amplified my normal feeling. I’ve been somewhat of a sad person all my life. I never have opened up my soul to anyone, this comment is by far the most that I’ve ever confessed in my life. I’ve made some very good friends at different stage of life but I’ve never been able to share my thoughts with them despite their strong insistence. Right now they are all at different parts of the country and I’ve no contact with them. I’ve never had any girlfriend or even a girl that was my friend as I was in a boys only boarding school till 10th. I don’t have any experience in the relationship department, neither have I ever had any strong inclination or opportunity to get any. I stay depressed and alone all the time. I don’t think my life is worth living but I still live for others. Sometimes i don’t know who I am.

But the thing is I know all of you don’t want to know this but when I’ve had sex I just don’t feel down anymore :/ can someone please just explain why I feel like this?

hi

I’m having lots of problems lately with family n stuff
And the pressures of work ..I feel very down
I feel that I’m very insignificant

…y r we complaining to human beings for help I mean they re weak just like us …y don’t we complain to the Greatest the Best the Almighty The Wisest…it is said that reading the story of prophet Joseph makes any sad or depressed person feel better because of how many hardship s Joseph went through ..I think that the presence of religion in life will fill any voids ..for those who think about committing suicide …do u think it’s the right thing to do ..when u enter any test or exam if u get stuck on the first question would u just hand in the paper and leave NOoO u d stay and go to the next question …make the best of the test…hence make the best of ur life …for those who have been hurt by others …do u honestly think that God will forget u ..human beings ignore and forget and are selfish and only think about their wellbeing…but none of these characteristics are of God …He is the one who created u and he s the one who ll show u a day when a person who hurt will pay for it ..there is no such thing as doing something bad and getting away with it

I’m surprised at the comment that God isn’t for everyone …I think that’s it’s a personal opinion
God is for everyone …not everything in life has to be seen …the visual absence of God only increases His grandiosity…I’ll conclude with some verses of God “and if my people ask you about, I’m near
Replying to those that are praying to me” …think about a scenario when ur all alone in the middle of the ocean with no means of communication …who would you call for now …I’m one hundred percent sure that it will be to God …because it’s the nature of any human being with a religion or without…so y r we asking help from humans who haven’t done watt God has done for us and that is … He created us and given us life

With respect to the comment from wingless..reading ur comments gives me the notion that u don’t need God …that’s fine …but don’t speak of God or religion as a long wait or whatever…give me the percentage of agnostics in the world and the percentage of those with religion …majority rules…if there’s no religion then we re like animals we eat and sleep and eventually die …but no there are consequences for ur actions …ur not free to kill or cheat or lie etc…if this were the case the world would be a chaos

Don’t gv up people! A few months ago i was also is the same situation, i wanted to close my eyes and die but nw i wnt to live mo thn anythng i must confess tht it wasn’t easy but waking every morning n smiling did it 4 me. I knw it sounds stupid bt tht is wht i did. I wake up everymorning i pray n thank God 4 being alive, then i close my eyes and tell myself am happy, anythng tht feels good. This has changed my life, i dnt have tht big job or the money i want but am positive tht i will get tht n much more. Have i said how people like me now, people i did not know are being friendly! Hey get in touch if u lyk on, mayakalekye[at]rocketmail[.]com

“Mrs” im begging you to stop talking. Religion is not logical and people need a way to escape depression without fantasy. If they find religion then that is good but dont preach it in their faces. I understand that it works for some people and in those cases i am in full support of religion. But i believe that people should get through depression on their own terms, listening to the rules and having to follow order from a god of their imagination (cos obviously they cant see him) isn’t on their terms. Morality is doing what is right regardless of what you’re told. Religion is doing what you’re told regardless of what is right.

Oh, and MRS, you are being monumentally insensitive to all of the people reading this who don’t have the gift of faith that you have. Reading your barely-intelligible prosyletizing on this comment board has made me, at least, less likely to want to have anything to do with your God if His followers are all as tone-deaf and insensitive as you are.

God is the answer for some, who are lucky enough to have the gift of faith. You need to be open-minded enough to understand, however, that not all people have that faith, and spending time on a message board rubbing that in their faces isn’t doing you, them, or your God any good whatsoever.

Go and think about that for a while, and consider if what you are doing here is really what your God would want you to be doing. Me being me, I’ve been both people, the one with and the one without the gift of faith. Before i had my awakening, prosyletizing like yours did nothing other than make me LESS likely to find God, because I would be even less likely to look for Him.

I always feel like I’m the only person in the world that feels really depressed but when I read other peoples comments it reminds me I’m not the only one that feels like this. But I’m sure allot of people feel depressed because this is a very negative world we live. What helps me get through this depressing state of mind is my spirituality, and my artwork. But it’s important to have allot of loving friends around witch is hard for me because I’m not good at making friends I also take medication for depression, it helps a bit but not 100%.

but if you dont accept it,, how can u ever truly move on?

Sometimes I wake up in the middle of the night and think about all the things wrong with me..I have tried to commit suiced two times but couldent bring myself to it…at school you could say everyone is my friend and you could also say i’m a class clown.. But I can’t bring myself to act depressed it’s like I’m hiding what I really feel, could someone tell me how i could express these feelings .. Because I’m tired of hiding behind the fake class clown act.. I acually sometimes think the world would be better without me ….because when I die what’s going to happen? Some shitty little funeral my familys going to attend..? I have done nothing on earth…I feel like a fucking waste of space for the. Last 17 years. I’m done with god.. He is a cock sucking bastard that puts people on this earth to suffer. Fuck him he let’s kids in africa die of starvation ..and everything bad you see like murders, rapes assualts .. All that is god..he could stop it if he wanted to but he doesn’t he let’s those motherfuckers do it. I still pray every day for myself and everyone on earth but I don’t ever give thanks to him…but that’s your choice.

Hi der.. I need desperate help..
My bf has sort hurt me lately.. Though he apologised bt i cant get dis thing out of my mind.. I feel too bad thinkin abt it..
What shud i do ?
Plz help..

Thanks ALOT!!!

Thank you sooo much, this definitely helps. May God bless you!

This article is good if you have no clue what depression is, if you feel down then you will feel ‘up’shortly after.

I’ve read every single comment on here, and these kind of websites are great if you abit down and need some advice. To introduce myself my name is Dan and from the uk, I’m a sport and fitness graduate and I’m currently 22 (nearly 23).

I’ve had anxietive depression since 19 now that’s not nearly as long as some people who have commented on here but I’ve learnt a lot from my family who suffer with it. Now I know what I have to say might annoy people but here goes, I was bullied in school and have always had the same set of friends, I’m the kinda guy that plays computer games, football (soccer??) and drinks. I used to go to church and have a decent faith and what not and I met a nice girl, to cut a long story short we went out and the church decided it was not gonna happen as she was 16 and I was 20. For a whole year we snuk around msn, facebook and myspace and met up a few times. Now to cut the story down more we went to a christian holiday which was good until I got home… Randomly broke into tears, feeling of guilt, feeling down, not wanting to see anyone ECT. Anyway a few months later she finished with me via text message, this pushed me over the edge, i had to see a pshyc got put on meds (which made it worse??). Its taken me 3-4 years to get feeling okay most days, it always hangs around, now to people who have split up with their girlfriend and think it’s the end don’t panic, it sucks now but it really will get better. I’ve now been with my girlfriend for 17 months and it’s going great. And I’m not saying I’m all “Cured” because lets face it their is no real cure. I broke down last week for the first time in years, 3-4 years wasted? Hell no. Depression and Anxiety take you on a ride of highs and lows. And people you never feel like you achived anything or good at anything? You have depression and you live life thats a lot harder than most peoples day to day tasks.

Don’t give up hope!

Thanks for reading, if you don’t understand any part of what I’ve wrote or spelt then comment, if what I’ve said has helped then comment and you can e-mail me!

Dan

Now you may read this and think “Great he wrote a story” but if someone reads this

god bless you all thank you for good advice really m very happy after read dis thanks a lot….

Thanks a lot

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This article helped a little bit but I know in a few days these things won’t matter to me and that makes me think that it’s just me that there’s a problem with. I’ve done things like this in the past to help and they did but there’s a point where you stop believing that it’s not you. Like in general life makes me feel like I’m a messed up person.
I come from a broken family. My mom had a stroke and then my dad died when I was 12. I had a hard time talking to people about my feelings because I didn’t know how to. I was used to fending for myself when my siblings would harrass and pick on me. It was always hard to telling my mom how I felt… having a stroke messes up a persons brain so they’re hard to talk to.
Honestly I feel like my friends have all left me behind them because they don’t want to be around me when I’m depressed or care about what I talk about with them. Something changed for all their lives so they are happy now and don’t want to hear from me. It brought us closer because we had things to talk about with each other and relate to on different levels to connect with each other. Now it’s like they see me as a loser that can never be happy because THEIR life changed not mine. They got lucky or someone on the outside helped them out… and unfortunately nobody is here to help me. I’m stuck in a place noone can help me out and idk what to do really. Money problems. I’ve been working with my mom and helping my grandma for money. My mom’s business is losing money too because since her stroke she hasn’t been able to manage her money. I feel like I’m the reason her business is making ANY money yet she doesn’t want me doing anything. Around here it’s really hard to get a job as they are taken by old people or you NEED grad school to get a job. Very strict when hiring people. Moving to a smaller town didn’t help me either in any way… I had to drop out of school and now have to travel 30min more to do anything enjoyable. Droping out of school put a huge blow on my confidence and the only schools that would take me now are online ones(that are expensive). Last school I was in, I did very well but couldn’t keep attending because of money issues Was it also wrong for me to drop out of my first school because I was getting majorly harrassed? The whole school blamed keyings on me so everyone hated me or bullied me. They don’t have any footage of me doing it just hunches because the queen bitch blamed it on me. Everytime I talk to my friends, my gut tells me that they’d rather run for the hills. Idk I wish someone would just point something out to me! I wouldn’t get upset if they told me what was wrong… I’d spend my time trying to improve it so I could move on with my life!! I’m in a relationship- suprisingly! which is the only thing I feel like makes me feel better. I sense that he’s growing increasingly annoyed with my “needyness”. I told him I didn’t want to bother him much because I feel like I’m nagging. I’m lonely, poor and probably in danger soon. My brother is back from the war and probably going to try and hurt me. He threatened me last time he was sent home, trying to hit me when I was trying to leave and was breaking my room mad at me. My mom was watching the whole time and did nothing and said nothing. Instead she laughed. My only way out was the front door since he block the patio I was trying to leave out of. I got away and ran to my grandmas house. I fight with my mom all the time. I try and try to talk to her about school but she just ignores me and thinks I’m trying to nag at her for enjoyment
I hate my life too fucking much to find enjoyment out of those things for too long. I find myself listening to music and playing games to get reality of life behind me but after awhile those things too, my favorite things aren’t fun anymore. I pray to God or some special miracle something lucky happens for me that takes away all of this bullshit! As with all the people stuck in their bad life, without good friends to vent with without them thinking you’re a fuck up. I wish there were more people around here that didn’t go by social trends/traditions to feel appart of something. Like here it’s drinking and everyone has to have a massive/fake ego or else you are displaced as a sick bird is from the flock. That quiet guy across the street with uncut looking hair(who’s probably an awesome person) is assumed a criminal/trouble maker because he appears different. Elders look down on you too if you don’t want to follow tradition and just cross you out for help as a whiney, lazy trouble maker. Makes me wish I grew up in the city with a different family. Somewhere more diverse in beliefs where not everyone weren’t so short minded. Everyone is different so why put a huge brand on everyone saying they have to act like this or they’re messed up. Perhaps this is what other places are like too? Maybe the small town is just getting to me. God bless all you broken hearts and souls. I hope big miracles change your life so you are too happy you can’t stop smiling! Take any opportunity that comes in your direction! If nothing good comes from it at least you can feel good knowing you tried.

I do feel a bit better after reading that. Thanks.

“Once you decide to stop moping and start moving forward you won’t have time to feel depressed.”  It’s insensitive statements like this that people with mental illness are forced to deal with each day.  Don’t you think that if they could, they would?  This is like saying to someone in a wheel chair, get up and walk up those stairs, and you won’t have time to need the chair.  You must be in the medical establishment, you have the arrogant attitude and ignorance for it.

tthx…I’m try this….cuz i luv me so much thnk’s again lol…..

Awsome I’m 32 and I’m reading this with my 12 yr old, and is helping us a lot!!

someone said #9 will make you put a gun to your mouth.. you sir are an idiot. the point they were trying to say is no matter how bad u fuck up, it will not be remember in the future, unless your adolf hitler or george w. bush.. you should focus on making your life a fun and happy one, not one that is depressing, im feeling down now but i dont know why i am, i just am.. does this mean im just guna go ahead and give up on life? no, i realize that im depressed for some reason (may it be sicknees or not) and im guna find out why im so sad right now and go at it head on.

But im just always alone in my room and my family is always together like they done care about me

Hey, My name is Sarah, Im a 16 year old teenager, and I am very depressed, I can not sleep at night, I think about how stupid and ugly i am. I have been being harrassed for 10 years by the same kids. And I started to believe in their lies, which made me depressed. I am afraid to go to some places were I might see them, such as Bristol, the movie thearter etc. My mom is trying to get me to be more possitive and happy. I need some ideas of what I can do. Most of my friends already backstabbed me, so i dont talk to them any longer. I really apreciate people who can give me some ideas. Thanks!

Hi everyone!1 I am   12 years old and i am still said a depressed what should i do i have loving parents but i feel i just need a friends or amily member shoulder to cry on PLEASE HELP ME!

thank you so much you have helped me so much! my boyfriend is depressed more many reasons he says and everything i do didn’t seem to work i hope this does it seems so helpful to me i am very grateful to you.

Don’t let reflection turn into vanity. And a reference to number 7 on this list – Kierkegaard on the lilies and the birds.

These are all excellent tips.   #8:  Get Moving truly does work.  When someone is emotionally stuck or frustrated, there is a saying, which is “Keep rowing the boat”.  One can easily add humor to that visual.  It’s a super tool to snap one out of their funk and keep them moving!

I think surrounding yourself with positive people is extremely important. And realize we all some time or another have felt lost and helpless. It’s alright we are human not robots. If you didn’t have a bad day how would you know when you have a great day. Take one small step at the time and look at what you have not what you don’t have.  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LAOlNaZ3mIY

I like your article…I myself  have need of  medication and counseling ..without medication I cant make use of these tips.. having said that.. I would suggest seeking help if you have serious depression..when I’m properly treated with the medicine I need  these kind of  tips, if I follow them… helps me supplement and  maintain a functioning  life.

I am depressed due to the fact, I can not stay away from the casinos. When I go for instance such as last night, I win 1500 bucks.. So, I pay some bills with it.. Feeling great… I go back with the remaining 150 bucks I Have for the week and now i am broke as a joke. Now, I am depressed. 24 hour mood swings are a bitch.

I am probably as depressed as it gets. I walk around every day in what I call a black hole. I’m currently worse than I’ve ever been. I take meds but don’t know how to cope beyond medication. I found this page relatively helpfull. 

everything is    very usefull….thank u i dont take any meds havent been seen by a doctor for my condition but i ised to have suicidal thoughts as a child and now i cant get up from bed i dont feel like its important to get up not for myself or my child or animals i have no self motivation i cry randomly for no real reason.help

I love to 
spend time with positive people because them always make me feel happiness even walk on the thorn!.Thank you for nice post.

It aint good staying moody all the time, but I just cant help it! Reading these aint help either! What can I do now?
My life’s getting so hectic and Idk what to do with it.

Those things just make me more depressed. Makes me just feel even more worthless.

This simply DOESN’T work with clinical depression, which can go on unremmittilngly for months and years! Being mostly depressed for 28 years doesn’t give you hope or motivation, and…..LIFE IS A DRAG; THINGS SIMPLY DON’T GET BETTER, company is the last thing you want;no-one understands unless you have been thereAND PLEASE, TELL ME THE POINT OF IT?????There is NO permanent cure for major severe depression. What you are talking about IS THE BLUES-NOT CLINICAL DEPRESSION.

Hi I am feeling so depressed in life I dont know what to do. I dont seem to be able to get hold of my life and end up feeling down every day. I start the day positively thinking at least today will be a good day but as the day passes by my levels of positiveness keeps going down and down. I hope I will make it because I feel this time I wont. All I feel sorry is for my mother.

See beyond the limited and possibly misinterpreted ONLY 10 suggestions I know that you can See or imagine another entirely different set for you and more. Add 10 of your own that you have used like mine Athletics visualiztion, Water floatation self projection, t’aichi and balance drills, do what others say is IMPOSSIBLE but you alone COULD , did, or could do then try it. Remember a moment in TIME where you’ve DONE this and amazed yourself. Enhance that feeling with ALL your senses and u r there again. Practice this so that in future when it happens again LIFE LOCKALL SENSES on that moment. It could do the impossible and save your life. …KL

Ah, by the way, I think changing my routine does help a lot. 

I’ve been in a work camp for the last month or so I’ve not been able to see my wife or kids nor have I been able to leave working nights so I don’t see any sun and I won’t leave for another month the only thing I can do to feel a little bit at home is too look at pictures of my wife and kids and talk with them on the phone

I have been getting so depressed that I am feeling sick it basically feels like I’m nervous the whole time but so bad that I throw up once a night I can barely sleep and I get one night off a week

Im stuck in a rut help me

That is somethink to read about

I’m so depressed I hate waking up feeling like shit everyday! I need someone to talk to ok I I have 2 beautiful daughters me and my kids mom broke up 2 years ago I have moved on physically but not mentally I still love her and I had another girl friend that found out she had cancer and thought I couldn’t handle it so she broke up with me that hurt as well. But that’s not the point the point is why after 2 years am I still in love with my kids mom she has moved on she is recently seeing someone.I told her how I felt and I still talk to he4r about stuff but she won’t give us another chance she just does not get it.

 What matters is the present moment and enjoying every second of life that we’re blessed with. I dont agree
I think the most effective way to be positive, is to understand why are we here?
most people cannot understand, or maybe don’t want to know why are they here…
I am writing this because I am dieing soon, and I began to understand life more than ever,
i began to see life with different eyes,
i will give you an example, if you are 30 years old and you are going to die soon, do you think that’s it, that’s life, why others live more than me, is it fair, there must be something that we don’t understand, or we didn’t discover, life is more than enjoying the moment,
one day we are all going to die…
to cure ourselves from sadness, any kind of negative feelings, is to discover our purpose of life….

I really feel down lately.After coming back from sailing i feel like i have no one left to talk to. All my friends r working in other cities. I dont go out couse i dont have anyone to hang out with. Sometimes i just want to take my bike n ride to the mountains but there r so many responsibilities back at home. It is difficult to leave the town for more than one night. Same monotonous routine adds to my condition. I feel like losing my cool most of the times. I tried joining gym but doing it among strangers didnt help. Seems like i need a break or talk to someone before i go nuts.

I liked the article though. Thanks

I’m so sad, depressed, unmotivated and all. I’m not happy with my job anymore. And my boyfriend is leaving soon. He doesn’t know if he will gonna comeback or what.

hi i am sad and i don’t really know why its like some days i’m happy and some days i’m really sad, i’m really confuse and i don’t really know to do 

I hate to say it but I do most the thing listed regularly and some have no possibility of becoming reality I’m 15 and I’ve had a seemingly never ending series of awful things happen to me and my family….. Thank you very much for the info though and I hope that others don’t go through what I have and find this more useful

3rd, 8th and 9th – mostly 3rd and 9th will help me.
i’ m not much of a walker. I am very lazy so i don’t go for morning walks. Evening walks – facebook or some other stuff always eats it up.

thanks. Loved your 9th point. thanks a lot

“In a million years no one will remember what you did or didn’t do. What matters is the present moment and enjoying every second of life that we’re blessed with.”

Even though i had thought this before on my own, but i guess i had lost and forgotten the significance and weightage of this sentence. The article reinstated its importance in my overall thinking and mental attitude towards work and life

My name is cockdweeb. Well that is my nickname because I am bullied bloody abd an not respected enough to be addressed by my first name. I endure countless sucker punches to my ody throughout a normal day, that when I shower my skin looks like it has a tint of purple. But hose brides aren’t just from my classmates, the more prominent ones are from my father. He thinks that a man should take a lot of pain growing up so that when he is old he can handle any situation and anything that comes his way. I think he’s nuts but I could never say it. His ways are so cruel, demeaning and embarrassing that I won’t dare trash peoples minds with the toxic visuals. I need help I don’t think I can take this much longer. I feel like dying at this point. Help.

I have been batteling depression and anxiety(severe panic attacks) since I was 16. I saw the professionals(Psychiatrist) for my problem and was put on Lexapro. I am now almost 24 years old an still suffer from panic attacks and depression. It had gotten better for a little bit but it is starting to get bad again. I cry at night a couple times a week as I am tonight. I feel helpless, I want to feel free from this problem. I want to feel normal! I am also a type1 diabetic and have been for 3 years now and it has also taken a toll on me mentally.

Still, what’s the point of living this life and being happy and try so hard since you’re going to die anyways and be forgotten forever.. 

life is short i am depressed ryt now …tried everything but nothing helps,the only thing that can help is helping and motivating urself…i was looking at things as if all doors are closed for me …how stupid is it!!!! believe in urself and ur god and dont think that by cribing things will get better ….NO!!!

i know exactly how it feels whn hurt which i am ryt now…but i have decided to come over it …i mean y should i be depressed just for a person who dont respond to any feeling …I have decided to let it go …. and i am fine now….and please donot think negative …U deserve better and u are worth it!!!!

keep smiling  a well wisher ))

Well, I wish my daughter could take these actions herself, she is in a critical state for over ten years now, I was in UK myself and started to develop that terrible depression, she does sleep alot, angry for a minor things, does not want to talk anymore even I think she has now forgotten words. She is 20yrs we are in Africa, I have openned a small home office at my place as I am being a carer now for her can not do much myself.

I dont know that I am depressed, just unhappy. I have a stressful but secure job, a supportive husband and two great kids.  I have the opportunity to study at a fantastic university and train with an international coach yet I still dont feel happy. Feel so ungrateful and would give  anything just to enjoy life. Dont know what to do

Nothing helps my mood. I’m constantly feeling as though everything is stressful. Work, home, my relationship. I’m constantly stressed out, and the more that I can’t deal with, the more depressed I get. I cry everyday. When I leave home, I scream the whole way to work. When I leave work, I scream the whole way back. Like, deep-belly growling screams that terrify me. Sometimes I fee better, but once I walk into work or into the apartment, I get that overwhelming sense of dread, sadness, and stress all over again.
What can I Do?!

Hey can someone give me advice? I’m a high school student and can’t leave the house unless I’m going somewhere with my parents, going to school, volunteering, or the veeery occasional going out with friends. Can someone tell me how I can do anything to help ease my sadness from home? Also, I can’t have any pets.

Glad I took the time to read, it was very good information.

Hey am not really sure what to say, but ill give it a go. I am seventeen, have been depressed and alone allot, I have never really had any friends. No real self confidence, I really don’t know what am doing with my life. I am a student at a college doing digital media computing. please help  

lately My mum has been going off to her bf I just feel so shut in my room with the walls closing in on me.Michael B 

In the last 7 years or so, i have felt very depressed even though there are positive things going on around me.  I really do think that point 4 and 9 (for me personally) are the key…  My depression really has revolved around me focusing completely on things that arehave gone wrong, forgetting about everything else which really is more important (i.e health, family and friends).  We are are only 5 months into this year and it has been probably one of the worst…  One of my best friends passed away (this is hard to get over, but depression was really sadness),  financially things have been difficult (everytime you think you are OK, something goes wrong e.g. car breaks down..).  Although a tough year… Ive been alot better… I sat down one day and I looked at how everyone else was getting on with their lives.. Most of them care free and they had the same problems as me!  I realised quickly things are not as bad as they seem and there is alot to look forward to in life.  Take care guys and when you feel down, just think about what you have that is or could be good around.  I have come to the conclusion why care and get stressed out, when no one else does.

how can i be happy when im waiting for my gf to show up and then she doesnt. im really depressed and i dont know what to do.

Trite.

I have more depress than ever lately, my husband blame everything on me and there are time I feel like I don’t belong in this world!!

Thank you for this article. I agree with number 10, that it is important to take steps toward helping yourself. Depression is a psychiatric condition, it is not a process of moping, though. There are several types of aids out there that you can pursue.

If you are in Southern California (LA area) please check this out: http://clinicalconnection.com/PatientViewStudy14436.aspx

LG

Ok going to da gym now; enough of being self-pitty!

I face alot problem because my husband family. In 1 week sure got any problem occur and it make me  and husband end with fight. sometimes we dont talk for 1months. Things getting worst now. i Face alot pressure although in house or work place. i getting mad thinking of it. I already have 2 kids. I dont know what to do. How to release my problem, i cry everyday. I cant go out because no one to take care my child 

really nice like it thanks

I’m 14 and I have depression.  I am too embarassed about it….  I WANT TO LIVE LIKE A KID!!!!!  I cry every night for no reason…….  I come from a loving family so IDK why :’(  

See How easily you can build self-confidence
http://lifeskillblog.wordpress.com/2012/06/02/see-how-easily-you-can-build-self-cnfidence/

This list just pissed me the fuck off.

Hello I am a college student suffering with a bad case of depression. Do you mind emailing me to talk? ChynnaDOLLPhotography@hotmail.com

Kind regards,
Chynna

Thanks made me feel a little better… ganna go shake up my mood by longboarding.. i think!

I am 24 . I had a hard time growing up that left me not ever going to school, i moved from the city i lived in all my life thinking thats why i was so sad all the time Just to feel even more sad and alone because now i don’t have friends and family near by . I feel like imma lose my huasband because of him getten up set with me because he really try to make me happy and i think he see’s it as im not happy with what he does. I feel like all i do is let people down i feel like i am never gonna get out of this feeling and i am afraid i am gonna lose the best guy in the world because theres something wrong with me =(

Thanks stopped me from the worse

Or you can cut yourself,when depressed.I do it almost all the time when I’m bored or depressed.It works for me and helps me fell mucch beter!Cutting for me is the best way to keep from depression.Just saying!

Diseases are some
of the main problems of human related to health. It is very important to stay
healthy and strong to avoid diseases. Our body is a vulnerable thing for
bacteria and viruses and these tiny organisms can paralyze and kill our body.
That is why medicine has been introduced as a powerful discovery to cure
various diseases and preserve the mankind. However, we always have our self
responsibilities to prevent these diseases from attacking our body. We have
to be knowledgeable about the things that might cause diseases to our body as
well as the foods that maintain our healthy body. Thank you for sharing this
information, I really learned a lot. (SHARED TO SOCIAL NETWORKING WEBSITES)

My husband gives me no respect. Especially in front of people
He tends to put me down in front of people.what do I do?

I hate depression because it separates me from the world. I feel spaced out, I feel I look spaced out, normal stuff like shopping and socialising needs conscious effort sometimes, not all the time, but most times. When amI happy? When I’m in the moment. When I’m me. When I let myself be me, when other people let me be me. Then I feel free and real and I love it!

I am depressed a lot and none of these things sound even remotely helpful to me. I am sure some or even all of these things help for other people but most of them just sound stupid to me… I wish they did not sound that way to me but they do. ugg… :/

I am depressed a lot and none of these things sound even remotely helpful to me. I am sure some or even all of these things help for other people but most of them just sound stupid to me… I wish they did not sound that way to me but they do. ugg… :/

I am depressed a lot and none of these things sound even remotely helpful to me. I am sure some or even all of these things help for other people but most of them just sound stupid to me… I wish they did not sound that way to me but they do. ugg… :/

Not being able to go to the Gym is the reason why Iam depressed.

thanks so much,i’ll definatley use this advice, the BEST so far!!

Extremely depressed. I feel jealous of my sibling because my mother treats her so much differently Than me. She praises her. She abandoned me emotionally. Don’t get me wrong, she cooks for me and takes care of me always, but there is no affection in our relationship. She never talks to me ever. She doesn’t know anything about me. She brags about my sister all the time for her talents, and she never recognizes mine. I feel like no one cares about me, all I do is cry I am so depressed. Please help.

i feel stuck… im 19 and all alone. i hate my job and i want to go to school, but the schedules just dont work out and i cant afford to quit. im stuck riding the bus for 4 hours a day if im lucky, and am constantly harrassed by perverts on the buses and streets. i dont make enough to save up for a car, and the only extra time i have goes towards working at home because im also a part time live in care giver for reduced rent… which is all i can afford. my mom abandoned me with my dad when i was 10 and my dad was very abusive so i have no parents to lean on.. and no family at all. my boyfriend doesnt care about me.. and i just feel so alone and helpless. i really am not happy at all where im at in life. im trying so hard and just keep failing. all i can do is cry. ive been stuck in this rut for so long i just feel like i want to end it

QUOTE: “life is a drag”

was shikamaru here?

i hate people who tell stories in the comments… ” oh lately i’ve been feeling depressed because my father died ” NOBODY CARES….

I appreciate a lot of what you say, but don’t buy into the late Carl Sagan’s nihilism.

What we do does matter. Oh, not that every little slip up is going to blow a whole lifetime, but our actions have eternal consequences.

These are excellent tips. Depression can happen to anyone. Its so important to reach out when you are depressed.

Thank you for your advice.

For the time being,I feel depress but your
advice relief me.

I accep your suggestion.I like no.1

thank you

what about when you just can’t do anything because either way you break down utterly. I have a love for busking but when i do it it makes me feel upset because of how i think people see me. And if I don’t do it I feel like a fool for not doing anything that day. 

Feeling depressed I try to change my usual environment.  If I have free of work time I trip to another city  – at least for one day after what I feel absolutely renewed! 

Great tips, thank you very much! I was feeling depressed about my life (unemployed, no money, debt) but after reading this and taking action, I now feel a whole lot better. Maybe I shouldn’t take life so seriously.

I was really shattered before reading this article.
Now I am picking myself up.

Thanks for this article, it really helps me to get out from my emotional hoardings…..:)

What an useless tips…If they worked I wouldn’t feel the way I do right now.

we all feel demotivated at one or another stage but we have to move in life without thinking of negatives.We have to constanly check ourselves what we are doing to achieve success.For this we should know whats the real meaning of success.Know to achieve and feel good
http://youngnerves.com/2012/07/success-means-true-dedication/ 

I’m optimistic by nature , Always think positive . Im in the relationship with the man for 5 years who is had very bad deppression . When we first me He was in medication of deppression and not allow to drive. He always in bad tempe , easy to get angry but I feel sorry for him so I chose stay by his side to help him without listen to my family and friends . 2 years he got better and better but doctor said he is the type of person very easy to get deppression so I alwys care for him. He had a job , lucky that he love his job . Beside working he don’t like going out . Not drink, no smoke and don’t like noisy place . No movies or hate to have time with our family.he only like work and surfing. He can spend hour and hour surfing . I’m a family person , love hangout with family & friends.but I don’t want go by myself all the time .everyone keep asking where is he . If i push him to go he will go but show a not happy face and want leave early. I’m so care and worry for him get a deppression so I always please him so I stayed home with him.day by day after 4 years live a life like that I become a difference person . Lost tempe easy , angry without reason .annoying with people around me . I feel like I start like him 4 years ago. I live like that for 1 more year than I think I have to get out this relationship even I love him so much . He’s a good man but I can’t cope with his tempe .im out now but I still can not change myself back to normal.. I hate myself , can’t see any future . My family were great to support me but I feel embarrass for not listen to them in a first place. I hate myself but I try to act normal so no one can notice it. When I’m alone feel so bad . Do I have a deppression ? What cani do now?

我认为这是一个很好的剖析。

I am also depressed everyday I feel like I want to die, i have no motivation to do anything and if I do think of something positive like going to the gym or getting a pedicure the thought of doing it makes me wanna die I do have a full time job and I’m 28. Also I’m on celexa and I was seeing a therapist and it doesn’t help what should I do?

I have been feeling depressed for quite some time now…i don’t think it’s just temporary I’m a 1st year college student. I feel alone and hopeless and invisible every single day! I’m not sure what to do or who to talk to..as it is I don’t really have many options..

None of that helps in any way

what if any of these does not work for me?

What should you do if you are really depressed but don’t want your parents to know? I want to help myself through the internet and not have to bother them. 

Im jake and i kinda feel down because lately ive been having a hard time in high school because i failed like 4 classes my junior year i moved here when i was a freshman and being shy i havent gotten to know the school very well and make a name for myself so i ve also had a hard time finding a girlfriend with my last relationship ending at the begining of my sohpmore year and im just super depressed because i have no GF, my jobs sucks, my dad is moving on and i hate my mom sadly, and im failing constantly because work works me to late to finish homework and i just cant keep up with life pretty much and to top it off everyone is always mad at me sometimes i think i should just walk up to my dads room and pull out his pistol you know? I wish i could be a rich kid and just enjoy life because no girl at my school wants to date a poor kid

If you have access to MDMA take it, it is the best possible anti-depressant on the planet if you do your research. You will only take it once and when do you you will realise everything in mind and will clear all negative thought and appriciate life for what it really is. Dont get me wrong I dont do drugs, my GF had been depressed and she simply did not know why and as time went on it got more serious, medical professionals would prescribe her anti-depressants which would make her simply feel less emotions in her life and make her more uncapable of things. I did some research search and came to the conclusion of MDMA. We sat down took a pill each, opened our hearts to each other, over the duration of 4 hours she had found everything that is wrong with her thought and emotions. It has been two years since then and we are the happiest couple i have come across we are planning to get married, she is a very positive and enlightend person we go well out of our way to help others. It really shows you the meaning of life for a night and how life really is when your childhood bad experiernces/everyday stress/emotional down spirals/insecurity/ego is simply shredded from you. I do not want anyone to tell me I am recomending drugs as this is a simple one off day that will change your life. My girlfriend says it was the best $20 ever spent in her life, and no it is not addicting.

i feel like this all the time and i know why but i cant help me self thinking about it. so i thought why not try talking to other people about it. eg talk about why and how i feel and hear what other people go though. any one want to talk

 mr wesley i have to say something, do you have a good income i’m sure you do i will tell you the secret to ending depression…..give a depressed person a million dollars to spend on anything and BAM!!! depression gone, but when the money runs out hmmmmmm notice how depression seeps back through the crack…. we make ourselfs sick we made us the way we are and people like you who think your words can change the world are pathetic. i can’t believe i seeked help and found an answer to my problem myself the only other problem ontop of this problem is how to gain wealth. hope i tought you something………….MONEY=HAPPY have a good day sir…..by the way i’m 24 and my name is Anthony Mavros

its time to wake up,its time to be strong, its time to work harder, stop being always dependent on others.life is simple if you stopped being  materialistic be more concerned by your soul..your god..they will move u up and be less depressed

This morning I was feeling very upset. For  me the blues are not over yet but thanks for reminding me that I have so many things in my life that I should be grateful of. 

You can’t see part of the text because of the annoying social networking bar! 

I’m socially anxious. I think i will have trouble with some of the items :/

Look at the condition of your heart. Identify the places where you have been hurt and seek healing. To ignore your emotions and speak yourself “happy” will not bring long term results. We all have moments of feeling blue, but depression is serious and need to be addressed and identified. I have lived without depression for 5.5 years now.

http://andlovewillfindyou.blogspot.com/2012/12/when-heart-goes-numb.html

I’ve been struggling with depression the past year, and I have been so sad and so fed up with being sad. Can anyone tell me that these work for sure? What have you guys done to get out of depression? 

im a struggling broke med student, arggg

Im so glad everyone on here is so supportive of each other in the comments section, i wish the rest in the internet was like that, but alas…

This was a very good article, and while most of these points can be told to you by any counselor, reading it and understanding the positive reasoning behind it is much, much better in my opinion, because its so easy to brush off advice while depressed. So thank you for this, i will try and implement 7, 8 and 10

I’m a woman going through perimenopause.  I cry at the drop of a hat and my mood is generally low.  I hate this feeling and can’t seem to shrug it off. The mood makes me feel anxious and I’m trying very hard not to panic when I cry.  I call it a kind of meltdown because there are so many tears – I have no idea where they’re all coming from!

I don’t want to take ADs -I’m waiting to have some counselling, but how can you prevent a depression that’s mostly biological which I think this is? 

hello guys, i hae been suffering from my wife since i married her,for the last 12 years. I have 4 kids. I can’t divorce her now, because I think , another woman will not take care of my children. My wife is a greedy woman, disobedient and highly ill disrespectful to me. May be, I have become a heart patient. I am writing this in a state of big depression. Please give ur suggestions. Should I divorce her or should I keep suffering?

Great article OMG, you have helped me 1 million times over by posting this. Thanks

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Hi bloggers. I’m also struggling very deeply with a form of depression. I can’t talk to anybody I know lately. So I found this place. I have been playing a lot of video games, an smoking meth, a habit I broke a few years back but recently allowed it back in my life. I live with addicts, we never really speak cuz I’m always in my room. I just feel ruined an worn down. To weak to reconnect with the ones I feel I lost. No one calles, no one visits. It’s been 3 months since I did anything that involved putting myself out there. My physical appearance has depleted, so I’m even more afraid to show myself around anybody. I’m slowly fading away in front of a tv. Feeding this sickness an I don’t know what to do….. Someone must be feeling the same way.

If this works for you, you’re sad, NOT depressed. This post just makes me mad. Anyone who would write this non-sense has NEVER been depressed. “Stop moping”? Really? Right. I’ll try that…

I’ve been depressed for a long time now and i just wanna die. I can’t ever seem to be happy. I always feel like I’m all by myself. I need help.

After the breakup depression begin in brain which can effects and mind works not normally,depressions become serious problems.

Dealing with Breakup Depression

The challenges facing today’s families are plentiful. With both parents usually working demanding jobs, there is scarcely any time to even enjoy a meal together. Kids are given what they want, not what they need. Parents being busy and overwhelmed often do not have the energy to provide structure and boundaries essential for proper functioning. The absence of structure leads to an excessive use of media, which can lead to addiction, isolation, depression and anxiety. This is very useful information. another useful site is http://www.cissyhelps.com