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7 Practical Steps to Making Your Wildest Dreams Come True

Five years ago, I was miserable and alone.

Today, I get paid to do what I love. And I have an amazing family.

It did not happen because of luck. Or because I did my visualizations. It happened because I took practical steps forward each and every day.

And in this article, you’ll discover what those steps were.

1. Semi-Clarity

The first thing you have to get clear on is this: What do you REALLY want? You doní’t have to be crystal clear, but you do want a general idea of where you’re going. If you still can’t answer this question, just start somewhere. If you don’t know where you’re going, it doesn’t matter where you start.

You probably have “shoulds” in your life. You should do this. You should do that.

Is it what you truly want?

What you should do is not important. What you truly want to do is what matters.

Once you make that distinction, and once you’re willing to eliminate what other people think you should do, everything changes.

This is your life. And if you want to live the life of your dreams, you have to reclaim your power. You have to take responsibility for your life.

2. Embrace Confusion

When you’re starting out, you will be confused. I know I was. All I knew was that I wasn’t happy. I was frustrated and I just wanted to hide somewhere with a nice bowl of ice cream with candy on top.

This confusion happens because you’re embarking on a new journey. It’s a sign that you’re breaking free from your old way of being.

Itís like when a butterfly breaks free from its cocoon. At first it seems like the whole world is crashing down, but suddenly, a whole new world opens up.

There are wings. There’s freedom. There’s life.

That’s why confusion is not to be avoided, but to be embraced. It is a sign that you’re on the right path.

3. Mentor/Training

In order to take action when you’re confused, you need someone to guide you.

This could be a book, a training course, or even a mentor. But whatever you do, pick one source of information. Do not become an information junkie. It is another form of procrastination. If you want to create your dream life, you have to move forward.

You have to constantly think about what you can do. And what your next smallest step is.

4. Action

Action is key.

People talk about visualization and the law of attraction, which is fine, but it won’t get you what you want. Things will not magically manifest in your life unless you take action.

It is only when you take action, when you commit, that things will start to happen.

When you show you are willing to do this, that’s when your life will change. Jump and the support net will appear beneath you.

So, what did I do? I focused on my next smallest step. I was confused, and I still am from time to time, but I just focused on what I needed to do next.

I’ve built a successful online business around my passion. When I was building it, all I did was focus on my next smallest step.

5. Commitment

I believe one of the most important factors of my success was my commitment to making it work.

I still remember the first time I walked into an Aikido dojo. In the beginning, I was constantly looking for permission. I was asking the sensei if I was doing things right. I was looking for approval. After a few months, he said Iíd made dramatic improvements.

What changed?

I stopped looking for permission. I took back my power and I used what I had to get the results I needed.

I committed to what I was doing. I no longer looked for permission to do anything. I just did it.

I no longer train Aikido, but it gave me one of the biggest learning lessons in my life. You have to commit to what youíre doing. Itís not about maybe achieving your dreams. It’s about making it happen. You either do it or you die trying.

It’s not a question of if, but a question of WHEN.

6. Proper Expectations

Most people give up before they see the first sign of success. That’s why you need to have the proper expectations.

You cannot expect to live the lifestyle you want in 6 months. There are a lot of products promising you that, but that’s just marketing hype.

Ignore it. And embrace reality. This will take longer than you expect, but shorter than you fear. And besides, who cares how long it takes?

Are you going to give up on your dreams and live the rest of your life in regret?

That’s unacceptable.

7. Excuse Management

And finally, you have to fine-tune your internal bullshit detector.

You will have excuses.

We all have reasons for why we canít do something. But if you truly want results, you have to get proficient at swiping your excuses to the side.

In the end, the difference between those living their dreams, and those who are just getting by, is their mindset. They are unwilling to put up with the excuses their mind makes. These are just thoughts, merely suggestions from your mind.

The Big Takeaway

You can make your wildest dreams come true.

Will it be scary? Hell yes.

Will it take a long time? It will take the time it takes.

Will it be worth it? More than you can imagine.

But most people never do what they truly want. They end up looking back at the end of their lives wishing theyíd done more.

The truth is that the path to your dreams starts with one step. And you can take that step today.

But will you?

The decision is in your hands.

You alone hold the keys to your success.

What do you say? Drop your thoughts in the comments below.

About the Author: Henri is a freelance writer and the founder of Wake Up Cloud, where he helps people turn their passion into a thriving lifestyle business. When you feel ready to take action, grab his free special report.

  • Kamalaish Kumar

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  • Carlos

    Amazing..thank you! 

    • http://www.wakeupcloud.com/ Henri Junttila

      Thank you for reading!

  • Bjismvos

    I really needed to hear this. I’ve been trying to figure out just what is it that I want to do with my life for a couple years now. I’m good at what I do-at several things actually. But taking orders for or working for people possibly for the rest of my life isn’t one of them. Countless layoffs and soured job experiences have helped me to determine that. So far these experiences may all sound negative- and some were. But the good part about that is I have gained so much experience in return. So much so that I now know that I have so much more to give-and that I am so much more than what I have been. For so long I’ve asked myself just what the hell is it that I want or need to be? I’ve put all this pressure on me to figure this question out with various ideas swirling around in my mind, praying for the answer before I go insane with worry feeling that each idea I came up with was not good enough. But it wasnt until just now-until after reading this article that I realized that all I want to need or be is my own person, to have my own business and that no matter what dream I decide to pursue, that as long as I follow the steps to making my dreams come true that I will be ok- and that I will be on the way to life long fulfillment : )

    • http://www.wakeupcloud.com/ Henri Junttila

      That’s amazing. Thanks for sharing that. It all comes down to doing what you can do with what you have. 

      And to me, the challenges of life are there to help us grow. They aren’t always fun, but without them, we would not evolve.

      • Bjismvos

        Ain’t that the truth-and still got a ways to grow : )

  • Melanie

    Great article – thank you

  • kebamorapedi

    Inspiring Henri, have to agree with you, clarity on focus is the first major step to making our dreams come true.Great article indeed.

  • guest

    So true, whatever you wrote in your article is so TRUE and very inspiring.
    Thank you so much. To let you know, I also have a dream and I am working so hard to achieve it .BTY I remember, one wise man saying ” to achieve ones dream,it takes 99% perspiration and 1 % inspiration and  the dose of inspiration I got are from articles like yours. So, thank you so much. Please keep writing…

    • http://www.wakeupcloud.com/ Henri Junttila

      I shall keep on doing my best. And you keep on taking action :)

  • Foongyanlee

    Inspiring, and I believe so!

  • http://widism.com/ Clay

    Confusion is definitely not to be avoided. Many people give up at this early stage, when they realize this is not comfortable and this might be painful for a while, thanks for reminding that it is a necessary step toward more enjoyment to come!

    • http://www.wakeupcloud.com/ Henri Junttila

      Definitely.

      And to quote Eckhart Tolle: “Confusion is not ‘I don’t know.’ Confusion is ‘I don’t know, but I should know.’”

      So could you let go of wanting to know? Let the not knowing be there and do what you can.

  • N Y Mansouri

    Thanks for sharing your dream pursuit journey, very inspirational and energizing!

  • http://www.facebook.com/ruiner22 John Ezetta

    Bullshit meter… I love it!! X)

    Nice Article. I’m somewhat of a freelance writer (only keep to myself), and this is a wonderful read!

    • Pekka Kohonen

      Kiitos inspiksistä!

      • http://www.wakeupcloud.com/ Henri Junttila

        Eipäs tässä mitään :)

  • http://www.facebook.com/MusicFiend82 Muh Lee Nuh

    What if you have no passions in life and it’s not about confusion, but a lack of belief in anything on this planet worth dreaming of?

    • http://www.wakeupcloud.com/ Henri Junttila

      First, I would say to realize that you can change how you view the world.

      Second, everyone has interests + passions, but no one can do things for you. You have to take the first step, even when you don’t know what to do. 

  • Jasonomanga

    Very helpful writing style- easy to absorb points. I read this while drowsy and remembered everything in the morningt thanks!

    • http://www.wakeupcloud.com/ Henri Junttila

      Great stuff ;)

  • Rupertbenzcentury18

    borhiya…khubey inspiring!!!

  • Gdgigliotti

    Growing myself is easier with a blog like this, thank you. 

  • Joanna

    I loved this. A great start to yet another morning of wondering. I’m going to trade in the wondering for focusing.

  • http://goalsetting-workshop.com/blog/ Jorge Blanco

    Excellent post. I’d like to point out that you want to visualize because you want to know where you’re going and what it’s going to be like, but getting your brain into all that is no use if you don’t take action. Hence, follow up visualization with action. Once everything is clear in your head, take the first step to action, not tomorrow but today.

    • http://www.wakeupcloud.com/ Henri Junttila

      And if it isn’t clear, take action anyway.

      There comes a point where you can only do so much visualization/thinking.

  • http://twitter.com/Mark_Bowness Mark Bowness

    Great words Henri. Six years ago my world fell apart – the pain and depression was unbearable. However, it ultimately ended up being the best position that I could have ever have found myself in. After fighting through the confusion this gave way to clarity of mind and clarity of vision and I set in motion a process to create and define my life. I still have so much to learn but I love learning!

    It is all too easy for us to exist. If we grasped the reality of the fact that we live life once, we wouldn’t hesitate to ensure that our wildest dreams come true and your 7 steps will help us well on our way to getting there. Thank you so much for sharing.

    • http://www.wakeupcloud.com/ Henri Junttila

      I’ve found in my own life that often when the suffering is the most intense, that’s also when the biggest transformation can happen, if I allow it.

      Thanks for the comment, Mark. And thank you for sharing :)

  • Eng Shazakh

    Like it
    Inspiring and motivating words , i will keep it in mind .. Many thanx for you

  • Kathy

    Thanks. I have a tendency to focus on a negative and then it snowballs and I can’t seem to let it go. I focus only on that negative until that is all that I can see. I stop seeing the positives in my life and end up making bad decisions and then wondering what happened. I am tired be ause I refuse to admit I have limitations until my body and mind slap me in the face. Recognizing this is a big plus. Recognition is the key to doing something about it.

    • http://www.wakeupcloud.com/ Henri Junttila

      Absolutely, Kathy.

      Recognizing what’s going on is the first step.

      What I like to do when things get out of control like that is to simply welcome whatever’s happening.

      Let the thoughts be (not always easy) and focus on what you’re feeling, and welcome it in.

      Resistance is futile :)

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  • eerin

    it takes a lot of courage to encounter yourself than somebody else , the negative force and all those illogical fears never seem to get of mind.. you did a great job writing your personal feelings it makes me feel I am not alone fighting against it 

    • http://www.wakeupcloud.com/ Henri Junttila

      We all face the same fears deep down, so no one is alone. People feel alone because they believe the thoughts that pop up.

      But that’s another story ;)

  • Christopherh

    I’m so happy I found this website. I never knew there were so much people who struggle with the same issues like change or what they want to do in life. I’m a senior in high school and just really scared of moving miles away from home but its all for the better. :)

    • http://www.wakeupcloud.com/ Henri Junttila

      We’re all more alike than you may think :)

  • http://www.shapedaily.com/10-tips-for-reducing-anxiety/ Christine@ShapeDaily

    #6 Proper
    Expectations really stuck out to me the most. It reads “Most people give up
    before they see the first sign of success. That’s why you need to have the
    proper expectations”. In any project that you do, things are not going to take
    off immediately. In due time, if you stick with the project, good things will
    come from it. 

    • http://www.wakeupcloud.com/ Henri Junttila

      Absolutely!

  • Riz Khan

    Excellent stuff!

    • http://www.wakeupcloud.com/ Henri Junttila

      Thanks!

  • wilsona3

    Just gave up my job and started hunting for a new one. I was looking for a good motivation and here it is. It is an amazing one. Thank you!

    • http://www.wakeupcloud.com/ Henri Junttila

      Thank you!

  • Tshepo501

    I am starting a new life now!

  • http://www.facebook.com/sheila.a.burke.5 Sheila Anne Burke

    This is terrific.

  • Irabor Mark

    That was a nice piece, thank you.
    There is a time to dream, but you must know when to snap out of your dreams and turn into reality there is one basic quality of heart that we need to take action; courage. Success is not for the lily-livered. Success is not for fearful people. You need courage to take action.

    Courage is simply acting in the presence of fear. If you take fear out, courage loses its definition. The important thing is that you must not allow fear to snatch the initiative from you. Most successful people have fears like everyone else, but they act inspite of their fears.http://madeforsuccess.blogspot.com

  • http://www.facebook.com/peiru.li.946 Peiru Li

    I read it from another website. It is such a great article.

  • http://www.facebook.com/peiru.li.946 Peiru Li

    I read it from another website. Such a great article.

  • Brian Burson

    Thank you.

  • zeedee

    Thank you for the inspiration. The biggest things I have taken away from your advice is to just take the next small step…and no excuses! Commit yourself to making your dreams come true.