We spend our lives moving from one experience to another. And along the way, we build relationships. And most of these relationships are positive. We enjoy one another’s company, and enrich each other’s lives.
But, sometimes we get stuck in a bad situation. Like a storm with no end, the relationship erodes our self-confidence, and sense of well-being. Oftentimes, we don’t even realize it’s happening until it is seemingly too late. But, the reality is – it is never too late to rid your life of a toxic relationship.
Here’s how –
Identify the Culprit
It doesn’t matter if it’s a friend, lover or family member. Think hard. Who in your world never lifts your spirit, and is constantly filling your life with negativity? And, rather than giving you encouragement, this person is constantly ensuring you never reach your full potential.
I am sure you can identify these people pretty quickly when you really think about it. And, I mean really think about it. Now, of course, none of us are perfect. Which means – all relationships are flawed to some extent. And, that’s totally fine. Who needs perfection, anyway. So, I’m not talking about the person whom you are currently battling with over an everyday issue.
No, I am talking about that person who is consistently bringing you down. And, who is clearly not interested in your happiness.
Have a Conversation
Communicating in a clear and concise manner is a skill that I’ve come to learn is vital in so many aspects of life. With none being more important than your personal relationships. How many of us let our feelings just sit inside and fester? And, instead of expressing our dissatisfaction, we just lock it away and let the negativity destroy us from within.
Well, rather than damaging your own emotional and psychological well-being, your best approach is to talk through the issues with the other person (in a calm manner – no throwing things around the room!)
If they react in a positive manner, and consequently change their toxic behavior towards you – then great! If they get defensive, and refuse to acknowledge their own destructive behavior, well then…there is really nothing more you can do.
You are obviously at a breaking point with this person, hence, the conversation. So, if at this juncture, they are unwilling to change, and work towards a more positive relationship. Then, it’s time for you to move on.
And, by the way, I know how hard it can be to confront someone who has hurt you. It is easier said than done. But, if you are really serious about breaking free come the cycle of negativity, you have to face the person. Maybe not right away, but soon enough…you will be glad you did it.
You’ve identified the culprit. You’ve expressed your dissatisfaction. And now, you are confronted with a potentially life-altering choice. Should I stay? Or go?
This is the deal – if you stay in the toxic relationship, then you are imposing a detriment to your own life. In other words, you are now (at least partially) responsible for the consequences of this toxic relationship.
Leaving your comfort zone is never easy (yes, bad relationships are sometimes comfortable – oddly). But, in order to grow as a human being, and to reach your full potential, you need to walk away from the people in your life who truly do not have your best interest in their hearts.
Once you break away from a toxic relationship, your heart and mind will be free. You will literally feel a weight lifted off your shoulders. Your constant self-doubt will begin to dissipate. Your sense of self-worth will increase. And, your happiness will reach new heights.
In the end, we are all masters of our own universe. The question is – do you have what it takes to take control of your own existence? I’m pretty sure you do. So, go for it!