Exactly Where You Need to Be

“You Are Exactly Where You Need to Be.” (No, seriously)

When I first heard this quote, I thought it was nonsense, just a way to make people feel good about being stuck or having a late start in life. After all, if you are exactly where you need to be, then you would not be stuck now, would you?

Yet, as I delved more into the world of personal development, it started to make sense, especially with a traffic analogy.

In Traffic: Exactly Where You Need to Be

Abraham Hicks talks about an interesting study the Mythbusters did. First, they studied the amount of traffic passing through an intersection with four-way “Stop” signs in a fifteen-minute interval. Then, they changed the intersection to that of someone directing traffic. Interestingly, the amount of traffic passing through actually decreased. In other words, when people were allowed to make their own decisions at the four-way “Stop”, more traffic passed than when someone else made the decision for them.

Then, the intersection was changed to a roundabout (traffic circle) with no stop signs. Here, people decided when they would go. In this configuration, the most amount of traffic passed in a 15-minute interval.

The lesson learned is this: When people are allowed to make their own decisions in order to get to where they need to be, the traffic that we call life flows the quickest.

Yes, even when someone pulls out in front of you at the last second and causes you to slow down, it’s still the fastest way for both of you.


When someone pulls in front of you at the last second, it interrupts your flow. For example, this happens often at your job. You are enjoying the ride and you are in the flow, doing your thing.

Suddenly, someone wanting to move faster or just join your path seems to selfishly dump a bunch of work on you, work meant for two people. He also expects you to do in half the time.

Detours can take you to an undesirable part of town, a place you will be so glad to get out off before something bad happens. Detours can also take you to a beautiful part of town, places you may have never otherwise seen. What at the surface looked like a disaster at the time (a crippling disease, the loss of a job, the death of a loved one) usually leads to something better.

In other words, take the bad with the good. Look at them as learning opportunities. Oftentimes, the bad is an impetus for making changes for the better. It could be something as life-changing as starting that business you’ve always talked about in order to escape unreasonable deadlines and a supervisor who likes throwing you under the bus because you failed to meet those deadlines.

So, perception is important here. How you interpret the events of your life and how your respond matter most. Ask the Universe to help you get out of your own way. When you are able to do so, you can start showing people your higher self and in doing so help them.

Force Negates

Humans are such interesting creatures. We live for the interesting moments. And yet when those interesting moments do occur, we get angry.

Everyone on the Road of Life is exactly where they need to be, on their own journey, and going their own flow. When we try to force other people to follow our paths and ride our ride, resistance comes. We have a very human tendency to unconsciously impose our beliefs on other people in order to justify them to ourselves. Other people actually slow down or even stop as a result, their own flow conflicting with yours.

In the end, we all get to where we need to go. Enjoy the journey.

Benson was at one time in his life feeling down and out. Through humbling experiences, a pioneering spirit, and just plain stubbornness, Benson dug himself out of that deep, dark hole. Now, he chases his dreams much more confidently and self-assuredly. If you want more success and confidence so you can chase after what really matters, claim your audioset blueprint today.


Erin shows overscheduled, overwhelmed women how to do less so that they can achieve more. Traditional productivity books—written by men—barely touch the tangle of cultural pressures that women feel when facing down a to-do list. How to Get Sh*t Done will teach you how to zero in on the three areas of your life where you want to excel, and then it will show you how to off-load, outsource, or just stop giving a damn about the rest.

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