How to Stop Loving Someone Who Doesn’t Love You

So, you are finally at the place where you realize that the one who you love does not love you. Yet, you cannot stop thinking about them. Perhaps you even run into them when you are out.

The radio keeps playing songs that make you think about them, and movies are even worse. So what are you going to do to get over them? Read on to find out how to stop loving someone who doesn’t love you.

  1. Do Not Keep Replaying Memories

You hold yourself back when you keep thinking of the good times. You need to stop replaying the good memories over and over in your head.

The fact is – they do not love you anymore, if they ever did. Stop thinking about what happened, and stop imagining that you will have good times together in the future. The relationship is over. This must be accepted in order for you to move on.

  1. Get Rid of the Reminders

Anything that you have of theirs will also keep you stuck in the same loop as the memories. Get them to pick up their stuff, and get rid of any pics or photos you have of them.

Do not keep the t-shirt that they gave you and keep wearing it. Burn the reminders if you have to.

  1. There is No “The One”

Get rid of the myth that there is only one perfect person for everyone. There are many fish in the sea, and most people will have multiple relationships before they find the one that sticks.

This is a part of life experience, and there are things that can be learned from each relationship to help make the ultimate relationship better.

  1. Stop Repeating Ideas

Along with the fact that there is not “The One”, there are some other things that you should not continue to repeat in your mind over and over.

These are things like “How can I live without him/her?”, “She/He is the only one that I will ever love”, “Everything reminds me of him/her”.

These are all self defeating thoughts and will only keep you stuck in the same loop and unable to move on. Stop repeating these thoughts and you will begin to know how to stop loving someone who doesn’t love you.

  1. Your Ego was Hurt

Your ego has been hurt by the breakup, and knowing this gives you power to heal the ego and to stop feeling as if the breakup is your fault.

Your ex is the one that did the breaking up, and it hurt your ego. This is not your fault, and it is not even personally about you. It is about their decision.

Use this to move on and begin to live your life again.

  1. Avoid Seeing Your Ex

It is crucial to avoid places where you know that your ex will be, especially at this time. No matter how much you think that you need to see them, this will only serve to keep you thinking about them and playing “What if?” scenarios. Avoid the places where you know they will be, and you will be fine.

If you have been wondering how to stop loving someone who doesn’t love you, then the previous tips will help you begin to do just that. You can start right now, and you will be feeling better before you know it.

Understanding the psychology of love makes it easier to begin to move on. Have you used some of these tips with your exes?

Or do you have any in addition to these? We welcome your comments below, and look forward to hearing how you got over someone and began to stop loving them.

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Alex J. Stevenson is founder of How to Get Over Your Ex 101 .Com and the training material ‘The Master Training Kit: How to Get Over Your Ex In 14 Days’. If you are feeling down right now, then he is providing just what you really need at this moment. Visit his site for more help.


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3 Responses to How to Stop Loving Someone Who Doesn’t Love You

  1. Lori says:

    This was not helpful. You can’t simply just stop replaying memories. They are in your mind and you can’t get them out. They just keep playing over and over again

  2. kayla says:

    tell me about it, cant stop loving him, he shows me all the time he doesn’t care but how can I stop loving him? cant take the pain anymore.

  3. Fraps Ledger says:

    Lori and Kayla; You both are correct. I am stuck myself and though probably older, I am dealing with this same problem. The first two are the best guidance you can get. You need to get rid of everything that reminds you of him/her. STOP thinking about them. Start thinking about any and all times they hurt or made you angry by their behavior and focus on those! Completely break off any and all contact with them, get rid of their number. Open your heart and clear the clutter from your memories. Know without any doubt that if they cared they would be back without any contact from you. If they don’t that relationship wouldn’t of stood a chance to grow anyway. Go find someone who can and will make you happy and your put heart at peace. Dance even though there’s no music right now, you’ll be hearing music again before you know it!

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