Are You Self-Esteemed?

Have you ever thought about your worthiness and capabilities? Do you have any opinions of yourself which are making you less motivated for finishing your job, or maybe even living your normal life? Every one of us should work on their own self esteem.

Defining self-esteem

Self-esteem is a psychological term that describes a person’s emotional value from his or her own perspective. It’s a judgment of oneself as well as an attitude towards the self. It is characterized as a circle of beliefs such as “I am worthy” and “I am competent” and emotions such as pride, shame, despair and triumph. We can paraphrase Smith and Mackie by saying that the self-concept is our opinion of the self. It is the positive or negative evaluations of ourselves, and our feelings about it. The self-esteem of an individual is closely related to his or her self-consciousness.

As a social psychological form, it is pretty attractive because scientists have defined it as an influential predictor of future outcomes, as achieving academic education . Psychologists usually define it as a bearable personality characteristic, though normal, short-term variations exist.

Self-esteem theories

We can start by paraphrasing Carl Rogers, the greatest psychologist of the humanistic genre. Every human being is worthy of unconditional respect from everybody else; he or she deserves to esteem himself and also to esteem himself and to be esteemed. By evaluating this, we can understand that even evil human beings deserve respect and should consider treatment.

The other theory has been written by Abraham Maslow in his work called “Hierarchy of human needs”. The hierarchy of human needs defines the “need for esteem”, which has two types, the esteem for self-love (self-confidence, skill) and respect received from other people’s recognition. The healthiest expression of self-esteem “is the one which manifests in the respect we deserve for others, more than renowned fame and flattery”.

Types of self-esteem

Individuals with positive self esteem:

• strongly believe in specified principles and values and are defending them even when running into opposition.

• can act according to the best choice at the time, whether someone dislikes their choice and judgment.

• are not losing time thinking about and evaluating the past, nor about the future. They are always learning from the past and tend lean to the future but are always living in the present.

• fully trust their skills to solve problems. They have no problem asking others for help when needed.

• are able to enjoy a diversity of activities.

• resist manipulation.

• consider themselves equal, rather than inferior or superior.

• can work toward finding a solution, without underestimating themselves or the others in the group

Threatened egotism is described as a response to criticism that threatens the ego of narcissists, often followed by aggressive reactions. Narcissism is a temperament people may have which represents exceeding self love. It is characterized by a puffed view of self worth.

An individual with low self-esteem may show certain characteristics as:

• Heavy self-criticizing

• Dissatisfaction

• Hypersensitivity to criticizing

• Excessive will to please

• Perfectionism, that leads to frustration

• Neurotic guilt

• Chronic indecision

• Pessimism

• Neurotic guilt

• Envy

When individuals with low self-esteem get negative feedback, they may take it personally, and can be dilapidated by it. It can be a lot more dangerous if the feedback criticizes directly the individual’s moral character, decisions and achievements.

I am worthy

All you have to do is pause and listen to the negative messages you send to yourself. Catch them and delete these messages. After that, generate some positive messages via images and memories. Talk to professionals, vent your frustrations, discover what you need and get it yourself.