7 Smart Ways to Build Self Confidence

“Your perception of yourself has an enormous impact on how others perceive you.” – Erin Falconer of Pick the Brain.

 “If you really put a small value upon yourself, rest assured that the world will not raise your price.”  ~Author Unknown

I believe the best way to build self confidence is by broadening your life experiences. When you work hard to increase your knowledge, skills and experiences, you’ll automatically become a confident person.

Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage.  ~Anaïs Nin, Diary, 1969

As you constantly increasing your exposure to life, you’ll build your confidence in mastering or doing anything.

Confidence is something that you have to workout like a muscle.

You can’t be confident at everything. We all lack confidence in some areas of life that we are not familiar with. However, those with healthy self esteem will feel OK with not having enough skills, knowledge or experience in a given situation. Because, they are confident in their ability to learn or do something, if it is a MUST – Specially, if you’re passionate about.

With passion you can do wonders.

Here are 7 smart (and may be uncommon) ways to build self confidence:

1. Travel:

“I always wonder why birds stay in the same place when they can fly anywhere on the earth. Then I ask myself the same question.” – Harun Yahya

Explore the world and get out of your comfort zone.

When I tried camping in the desert for the first time in my life, it was a scary, yet very exciting, experience. I returned back home with a big self confidence boost. I was so proud of myself that I could do something that most people don’t dare to do.

Having dinner around fire in desert and watching the foxes playing around you is a super confidence booster.

2. Walk on Fire

Have you heard of Firewalking?

It is the act of walking barefoot over a bed of hot embers or stones. Walking on fire has existed for several thousand years, with records dating back to 1200 B.C.

It is probably one of the ultimate tests of a person’s courage and strength.

If you can walk on fire, what else can you do?

Ask around and you might find a place in your country that holds Firewalking events. It is an amazing way to conquer your fears and give your self confidence a BIG boost.

3. Express Yourself

It’s been said that the things that are hard to say are usually the most important.

Try saying something you believe important but you’ve been holding for a while. Choose a friend or a family member and talk out your mind.

When you feel the relief of expressing yourself, you’ll have a confidence booster. Express yourself without expecting a certain response from the person listening to you. Talk and don’t expect comments. Whether the feedback is positive or negative, the only thing you should care about is your ability to say what you want to say and feel important.

As you practice expressing yourself and your ideas, you’ll gain more & more confidence.

4. Join a Toastmasters Chapter

One of the best places to build your self confidence is Toastmasters.

It was started by Dr. Ralph Smedly in 1920s and grew to become the world’s largest non-profit organization for public speaking and leadership development, with over quarter a million active members worldwide.

You’ll build your ability to confidently speak in public in a very safe, friendly and empowering environment.

Go to and check a club in your city and most probably you will find one.

5. Learn one new skill every year (at least)

Increase your skill set regularly. Every year you should at least have acquired a new skill. With a powerful skill-set under your belt, you will be confident in your ability to get things done.

You’ll have more experience and you’ll gain more confidence in your ability to deal with different life situations.

You’ll feel that you can accomplish more and that you’re becoming more than average people who stop learning and growing after college!

Moreover, you’ll impress your friends and family with your newly acquired skills and have a good reputation among your peers as someone who cares about his own personal growth.

6. Break a record!

I once read this story about Bruce Lee {source}

Here’s the quote:

“Bruce had me up to three miles a day, really at a good pace. We’d run the three miles in twenty-one or twenty-two minutes. Just under eight minutes a mile [Note: when running on his own in 1968, Lee would get his time down to six-and-a half minutes per mile].

So this morning he said to me “We’re going to go five.” I said, “Bruce, I can’t go five. I’m a helluva lot older than you are, and I can’t do five.” He said, “When we get to three, we’ll shift gears and it’s only two more and you’ll do it.” I said “Okay, hell, I’ll go for it.” So we get to three, we go into the fourth mile and I’m okay for three or four minutes, and then I really begin to give out. I’m tired, my heart’s pounding, I can’t go any more and so I say to him, “Bruce if I run any more,” –and we’re still running-”if I run any more I’m liable to have a heart attack and die.” He said, “Then die.”

It made me so mad that I went the full five miles. Afterward I went to the shower and then I wanted to talk to him about it. I said, you know, “Why did you say that?” He said, “Because you might as well be dead. Seriously, if you always put limits on what you can do, physical or anything else, it’ll spread over into the rest of your life. It’ll spread into your work, into your morality, into your entire being.

There are no limits. There are plateaus, but you must not stay there, you must go beyond them. If it kills you, it kills you. A man must constantly exceed his level.”

What record can you break today? May be you should try something you thought impossible!

7. Study Self Confidence

When you study the science behind anything, you can deal with it more intelligently, make smart decisions and take smart actions accordingly.

Self confidence is no exception.

Study self confidence and you’ll be smarter in dealing with this subject and incorporating it in your life.

Check out the Simple Self Confidence Course by Erin Falconer and Barry Davenport. I know Erin and Barrie personally and I trust that you’re going to get tremendous value out of their course.

This course might not be available now, but you can join the waiting list for the next round.

Finally, I would like to leave you with an inspiring quote that you’ll need to ponder upon a little bit. It says, “Lighthouses don’t go running all over an island looking for boats to save; they just stand there shining”.

Let your confidence shine!


Mohamed Tohami is a bestselling author and the creator of “The P.A.S. Technique: The World’s Easiest Way To Find Your Passion and Purpose In Life”. Visit his Transformational Motivation blog now to grab a free copy of his special report “4 Steps to a Life of Passion”.

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