The stresses of modern life and fear of failure can threaten to keep us closed off from our fellow humans at times. Global terrorism, economic collapse and our own personal struggles all do their best to keep us down, to keep us disconnected and unsure of ourselves.
But it doesn’t have to be this way.
We all have it in us right now to do good things in this world, to be the source of good emotions for others – to go all in, in every moment and fight the good fight.
Below I’ve highlighted 3 steps you can start work on today to help you become a more open person, who gives off amazing energy to everyone they meet.
Own Your Mistakes
We are all fallible. No matter who you are there’ll be times when you will make mistakes. You will mess up.
The true test however, is how you deal with those mistakes. Because when you take full responsibility and own them, people don’t care, but moreso they see it’s OK to let their guards down too.
Taking full responsibility means you allow yourself to be vulnerable and open. And that is very attractive and authentic to people.
A great technique to help with this is to start reframing your experiences, so that every mistake is simply a way to learn, every failure a step closer to your next win. Once you reframe these mistakes you take control of your world and become so much more clear, carefree and authentic to others.
Remember you alone have total power over how you interpret your experiences. If amazing stuff is happening, it’s because of you. If bad stuff is happening, it’s because of you
Allow yourself to be vulnerable and take responsibility for every emotion and you cannot help but be an authentic and shining light in the world.
Secondly, when you’re talking to people always show them the real you. It will instantly create a connection with that person. Whatever it looks like, share your truth with the world.
If you feel it, express it. If you know 100% what you’re doing is right for you, then that’s all that matters.
If you say something that people don’t like or disagree with, so be it. As long as you aren’t actively or purposefully trying to insult or hurt anyone then that’s on them not you. Being authentic and connected is never about ‘people pleasing’.
Plus what you’ll find is that people will always respect you more for that anyway. They may not always like what you say but they’ll like you more than someone who tries to appease everyone for their own gains.
You might have already heard the phrase ‘what you resist persists’ before and it is so very true.
You can keep negative emotions balled up inside of you, try and ignore them, but all you’re really doing is keeping that bad energy sustained inside of you. You might not think it’s there because you’ve pushed it so far down. But it is, and it’s going to be like a little gremlin eating away at you over time.
It’s been proven that when people numb pain they don’t just numb that bad feeling – they numb every feeling they have. It’s all connected.
So by numbing the bad energy they’re also taking away all the other amazing emotions and becoming the type of person who is fearful of life, who doesn’t value or invest in themselves and who doesn’t take decisive action on their goals.
So from now on if anything is getting you down just focus on it for a few minutes. Say to yourself: ‘Yes I am feeling this way. It’s really not nice but I need to deal with it. Now.’
Take some time to work through it and believe me it’s amazing how quickly you can release the bad energy once you allow yourself to be vulnerable and open to the issues.
Resist nothing and it will ebb away quicker than you imagine.
So make a choice right now. Choose to be open, to be vulnerable to show the world your true authentic self.
And the best thing is, when you do you’ll see that the rewards are plentiful. You show someone the real you and that’s going to give them the courage to do the same. Real connection.
So go all in.
You’ll be so glad you did.
Matt Richards is an expert at helping exceptional people reach the very top levels of success. I show them how to think bigger than they ever have before, set massive goals, and then I help them get there.
My clients work with me because they’re ready to get to the next level. They’re ready to go all in, leave their comfort zone and reach for phenomenal places.
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