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How Not To Be Afraid Of Anything Ever Again

 

Fortunately, all fears are learned; no one is born with fears. Fears can therefore be unlearned by practicing self discipline repeatedly with regard to fear until it goes away.

The most common fears that we experience, which often sabotage all hope for success, are the fears of failure, poverty, and loss of money. These fears cause people to avoid risk of any kind and to reject opportunity when it is presented to them. They are so afraid of failure that they are almost paralyzed when it comes to taking any chances at all.

There are many other fears that interfere with our happiness. as well. People fear the loss of love or the loss of their jobs and their financial security. People fear embarrassment or ridicule. People fear rejection and criticism of any kind. People fear the loss of respect or esteem of others. These and many other fears hold us back throughout life.

Fear Paralyzes Action

The most common reaction in a fear situation is the attitude of, “I can’t!” This is the fear of failure and loss that stops us from taking action. It is experienced physically, starting in the solar plexus. When people are really afraid, their mouth and throat go dry, their heart starts pounding. Sometimes they breathe shallowly and their stomach churns. Often they feel like getting up and running to the bathroom.

These are all physical manifestations of the inhibitive negative habit pattern, which we all experience from time to time. Whenever a person is in the grip of fear, he feels like a deer caught in the headlights of a car. This fear paralyzes action. It often shuts down the brain and causes the individual to revert to the “fight-or-flight” reaction.  Fear is a terrible emotion that undermines our happiness and can hold us back throughout our lives.

Visualize Yourself as Unafraid

By visualizing yourself performing with confidence and competence in an area where you are fearful, your visual image will eventually be accepted by your subconscious mind as instructions for your performance. Yourself image, the way you see yourself and think about yourself, is eventually altered by feeding your mind these positive mental pictures of yourself performing at your best.

By using the “act as if” method, you walk, talk, and carry yourself exactly as you would if you were completely unafraid in a particular situation. You stand up straight, smile, move quickly and confidently, and in every respect act as if you already had the courage that you desire.

The Law of Reversibility says that “if you feel a certain way, you will act in a manner consistent with that feeling.”  But if you act in a manner consistent with that feeling, even if you don’t feel it, the Law of Reversibility will create the feeling that is consistent with your actions.

This is one of the greatest breakthroughs in success psychology. You develop the courage you desire by disciplining yourself repeatedly to do the thing you fear until that fear eventually disappears—and it will.

Confront Your Fears

Your ability to confront, deal with, and act in spite of your fears is the key to happiness and success. One of the best exercises you can practice is to identify a person or situation in your life of which you are afraid and resolve to deal with that fear situation immediately. Do not allow it to make you unhappy for another minute. Resolve to confront the situation or person and put the fear behind you.

Move Toward the Fear

When you identify a fear and discipline yourself to move toward it, it grows smaller and more manageable. What’s more, as your fears grow smaller, your confidence grows.  Soon, your fears lose their control over you.

In contrast, when you back away from a fear-inducing situation or person, your fear grows larger and larger.  Soon it dominates your thinking and feeling, preoccupies you during the day, and often keeps you awake at night.

Deal With the Fear Directly

The only way to deal with a fear is to address it head-on. Remind yourself that “denial” is not a river in Egypt. The natural tendency of many people is to deny that they have a problem caused by fear of some kind.  They’re afraid of confronting it. In turn, it becomes a major source of stress, unhappiness, and psychosomatic illness.

Be willing to deal with the situation or person directly.  As Shakespeare said, “Take arms against a sea of troubles, and in so doing, end them.”

When you force yourself to face any fear-inducing situation in your life, your self-esteem goes up, your self-respect increases, and your sense of personal pride grows. You eventually reach the point in life where you are not afraid of anything.

About the Author: Brian Tracy is one of America’s most respected authorities on developing organizational and human potential.  He is the top selling author of over 50 books that have been translated into dozens of languages. His insights in to leadership, personal effectiveness, business strategy, and success psychology, which he presents to more than half a million people around the world each year in his talks and seminars, produce immediate changes and long-term results. His experience, combined with his effective ability to inform, entertain, inspire and motivate audiences, makes him one of the top speakers and trainers in the world today.

Brian Tracy is Chairman and CEO of Brian Tracy International, a company specializing in the training and development of individuals and organizations. For more information, please visit: http://www.briantracy.com

  • http://jerrykatz.net Jerry Katz

    Very good article, we should move out from our comfort zones and face our fears!

    • Lucyperez

      It’s a great article but I still feel my fear is way bigger than what I can do about. I have been having this fear since I was a little girl and I still do. It make me feel really bad because whenever I argue with someone and the argument gets a little out of hand I panick cause I think the person is going to hit me and I know I won’t do nothing. Please give me an advice if possible. Thank you

    • Lucyperez

      It’s a great article but I still feel my fear is way bigger than what I can do about. I have been having this fear since I was a little girl and I still do. It make me feel really bad because whenever I argue with someone and the argument gets a little out of hand I panick cause I think the person is going to hit me and I know I won’t do nothing. Please give me an advice if possible. Thank you

      • Xu

        Lucy I didn’t expect to read anything like that when I came across this page, but I have the same problem. It’s gotten better over the years, but no one around me realizes that, and they get more angry at me for my reaction to them. My roommate even tells me that it’s “my fault” that I’m still traumatized. He’s wrong. I wish I could say something meaningful and helpful, but right now all I can do is be someone who understands your situation.

      • non sequitur

        Hi Lucy, I suffer from PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) which is what you are describing. Mine is triggered with sounds. I can’t be in crowds or around lots of people for very long before it sets off a chemical reaction inside me that no self-talking, drug therapy, etc. has ever had any effect over. I have learned to know when I am “really” in danger and when it is my body’s memory. Knowing the difference helps me keep going even when other people are reacting to the change in my appearance. (I’ve been told that I look like I just saw a ghost. It’s called hysteria. I let my body have it’s feelings but I act like a parent who’s baby (my body) is crying because he/she’s teething and I hold onto my rational thinking and functioning while the baby cries. Just giving you this because you may want to know (and sometimes it helps knowing) how other people have learned to adapt to what they’ve been given to deal with.)

        What I’ve learned is to ask myself some questions in the heat of a moment to rationally access whether I am in any real, physical or (mind games) psychological danger. I also “practice” or talk to myself about anything that I may need to “confront” someone on. I go over and over it (and yes, I feel the stress of the confrontation but) I find that a positive way of talking something over with the person develops and that I am given through imagining it what I am going to say and some choices that may not have occurred to me at the time. I try to keep my sense of humor, my compassion for both myself and the other person and the understanding that it is in both our interests that this is being dealt with present while I am confronting the person. Mostly, I earnestly strive to stand on the truth while being compassionate (in a sense making the confrontation into a prayer of hope).

        Other times when a confrontation develops suddenly, I may have to walk away because the feelings are too strong and I need time to do all the things that I need to do to take care of myself first. So, walk away, but give some sort of signal that you will be back to talk about it later or (if you know that this is a person who is “dangerous” to have in your life or at that moment) just give ANY excuse to get out of there and don’t bother with any plan of talking things out. I actually have practiced responses to leave so I can react without too much thinking – sort of like a soldier or athlete does before going into battle: 1. Shake my head, “Can’t, right now.” or “Later.” Walk away. 2. “Caught me with a terrible headache.” Put your hand up, wave and walk away. 3. OVERWHELMED by feelings: both hands up, “Can’t.” Walk away. You can come up with your own that fit your personality. You have that right.

        If you are walking away so full of anxiety and need to give yourself some breathing room for a few minutes or to get you to your next destination clear headed, try something like singing a favorite song in your head or reciting some lyrics or think of a favorite movie, TV show or children’s book. All this is called self-parenting: you have to develop strategies for yourself to take care of the small, weak, scared part(s) of yourself. Know yourself. Embrace yourself. Promise and then see yourself through whatever comes, even when you misbehave. Develop trust in yourself that you will do whatever it takes to see yourself through. Good luck! (God bless us – Every One!)

  • Dianne

    Fear serves a purpose as well. We have too many people do too many stupid things that are life threatening to themselves or to others because they have big egos and little fear. You can be a fearless lemming and jump off the cliff if you want to, but I’d rather not be so brainless. I am sure it was the fearless speculators and hedge market wheeler dealers and the real estate flippers who entered into giant mortgages they could not afford because they were not afraid of failure, but that’s what brought us into financial disarray. They were right…no consequences for them. It is the rest of us that pay for their fearlessness and irresponsibility. We have people fearlessly destroying our environment by drilling for oil in sensitive places and watching it spill out into our oceans and they don’t care because they aren’t afraid of consequences. We have political parties fearlessly stripping away benefits from the elderly and disabled and health services for women because they don’t care about anyone but themselves and being unafraid mean you have the right to bully those who are weaker and without the power you have. No, thank you. We need a little more humility and a little bit of caution (call it fear if you want) and a little less ego if we’re going to survive. I’m not optimistic that we will or should.

    • Ocean_paradox

      Dianne I agree that in our minds there is an element that separates out rationale which is needed for longevity and separates us from other more primitive creatures.

      But Fear is not needed at all, ie. you would not jump off a cliff as you know you would injure yourself, but you would jump off a cliff into water if you were about to be shot upon the cliff top. Reason be is a higher chance of being alive rather than staying put and being shot. If you were afraid you would stay put and be shot.

      I say never be afraid as a moment may call for drastic action but always be wise. The reason the financial mess blew up is here in the UK, even as the banks went under they were bailed out by the government so there was no reason to fear at all! The reason that those others drill for oil s that the price of the oil far offsets that of any lawsuits so another safety net, just like all the other scenarios listed.The reason they are powerful IS DUE TO FEAR, we need to not be afraid to stand up for what is right. People like Tibeten Monks, Au ng San Suu Kyi of Burma and The Tank Man of Tiannamen Square – also all the great people around the world. We need to stop being afraid as courageous individuals we are strong, united… we are invincible!

      • Peter

        I think we need to distinguish between fear and anxiety. Let’s define fear as being scared of something that currently poses a threat, and let’s say that anxiety is being scared of something that isn’t currently posing a threat. By this definition, fear is extremely useful, because it motivates you to get out of the bad situation that you’re in. Like Dianne said, people without this fear can do extremely stupid things. But I think this article deals more with anxiety. Anxiety is only useful to the extent that it causes you to prevent whatever you think might pose a threat from posing a threat. In all other aspects, it is detrimental to human health.

        For example, if someone is in a car that’s rolling toward the edge of a cliff, then this person has every reason to experience fear, because there’s a very high chance that the current situation will end very badly unless the person does something. This is useful. But if a person becomes short of breath and has increased heart rate, blood pressure, and sweating every time they are in the high part of a tall building, then this is anxiety because there is no actually danger of falling, and this is detrimental. This  kind of anxiety can dominate some people’s lives, like people with OCD, GAD, social phobia, PTSD, and panic disorder. This is why it’s important for people to face what scares them so that they can get rid of this negative anxiety.

        As for the abuse of power, these people are not afraid because they have no reason to be afraid. People in power can usually do whatever they want with little opposition.

  • http://www.clintcora.com Clint Cora

    I’m a regular follower of Brian Tracy and love the tips here on conquering fear. During the winter, I use these tips as far as confronting certain fears head on. For example, there are very steep ski slopes known as double black diamonds at the ski resort I regularly ski at all winter. I make sure that early in my ski day, I get on these double black diamonds at least a few times since they have always been a source of a bit of fear for me at least in skiing. The more I get on those slopes, the less fear I have with them.

    The other thing I also noticed is that when there are others involved who conquering the same fears with you, the easier the challenge, at least from a fear point of view. We’ll not talk about the actual ski technique!

    • http://www.iqtell.com Haim at IQTELL

      @Clint,

      “when there are others involved who conquering the same fears with you, it’s easier” – If someone like you can do it, than you can do it to! You can see it especially with kids while they are learning to swim…One kid knows a bit better than the others and faces the water…that triggers the rest of them to storm the pool :)

  • http://www.meanttobehappy.com Ken Wert

    Thanks for the wisdom and insight, Brian (by the way, I remember picking up yours, Jim Rohn’s and Earl Nightingale’s tape programs from the library some 25 years ago or so, launching something inside of me that has led me to the blogging world today).

    I’ve always been one who tends to deal with fears directly. When I was afraid of needles, I confronted the fear by forcing myself to watch the injection and thinking about how much it really didn’t hurt all that much. Did the same kind of thing with heights. It really works.

    Learning to overcome our fears is a crucial step in the process of living happy, fulfilling lives. Thanks for the reminder and the motivation.

    • Maikel

      I am afraid of needles, and tried to watch it when the nurse injected something to my mum. It turns out that she was a monster and made my mom bleed. A lot. Now i am more scared than before.

  • Nothappy

    it really needn’t be this long, you paraphrased “move towards the fear” in so many sentences….

  • http://www.planetnaveen.com Naveen Kulkarni

    Interesting post. Best way to beat the fear is to “stop” feeling and “start” action.

  • http://www.Mazzastick.com Justin | Mazzastick

    Hi Brian,
    I believe that once we move towards our fears which only exist in he mind anyway we can learn to un-learn our fear based responses.

    There is nothing worse than a paralyzing life where we cease to move forward and enjoy the many blessings that life has to offer.

  • http://thebooksthatchangedmylife.com marc van der Linden

    I like the way you describe how the phenomena of fear works. During the years I learnt to deal with it. However, sometimes it still catches me at an unexpected moment. It seems to be something where we have to learn to deal with our whole life.

    For me, the method of conscious talk with my fear works the best for me. Another one is changing my body position in a fearless stance. However I believe visualization is a very powerful way too, I seem not be capable to to this is consistent way (yet).

    Thanks for sharing!

  • http://www.motivationmagazin.eu Marko Hanzelic

    Although fear is an important tool for survival, it also paralyses us at some of teh most impropriate moments. That’s why people, who have a control over their fears prosper better than the others.

  • http://www.higherawareness.com/blog/are-your-goals-measurable/ Personal Goal Setting

    Thanks for sharing this helpful article.. I persoanally have a lot of fears in my life, and this has definitely opened up my eyes on how i can better manage those fears.

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  • kashyap

    all fear we have is due to our own ego. ego  creates imaginary fear in ourselves. speaking spiritually, ego does not want us to be free from fear. as it would mean death of the ego itself. the earlier we understand this basic truth earlier we will be free from all  kinds of fear. ego does not want us to be quiet when we become quiet our inner intelligence comes into picture. one way is meditation to  quiet our mind.
    http://24x7meditation.blogspot.com/ 

  • Milfordbeach

    Thank’s A lot

  • Bryan

     what if this is about the paranormal?

    • FN

      If you’re scared of the paranormal you should pray to God and ask Him to protect you. As long as you do so there is nothing that can harm you. Take it from me. I’m an exorcist. I deal with demons and paranormal a lot in my life. Just knowing God is protecting me keeps me from being frightened. It’s what keeps me going down the path I’ve chosen. It’s normal to feel fear. If you tell yourself you have no reason to be afraid because God is protecting you… Well I can’t think of any reason as why you’d have the need to feel afraid.
      Walk in peace and know the Lord is watching and protecting you at all times.
      Father Nightroad.

      • 4rouemotricefils

        what if i’m buddist?

        am i fucked???

        • yourfucked

          yep deal with it bro

        • peanutbutter&bacon

          he has faith in something higher than himself that he feels can and will protect him and because of that feels no fear…u dont have to be a buddhist or jewish, catholic, an atheist or a voodoo witch doctor to understand that…your fucked just for being a dick :P

      • dr.x

        Seriously….

        • Jeremy Kraft

          Always nice to see intolerant atheists on these threads

          • Dr_XX

            Where’s the intolerant part? Or do you just equate atheist with intolerance?

          • Dr_XX

            Also, where’s the atheist?

      • jim

        firstly, the bible forbids worship or belief in supernatural powers or entities other than god himself. Its mostly in all the passages to do with worshipping idols. secondly, if knowing god was protecting you keeps you from being afraid despite alleged encounters with monsters and ghosts and whatever, why are you reading this?

    • yea

      what i realized is all fears is connected. so if you are afraid of something unseen then focus on all “real” fears and confronting them. soon you will realize you are not afraid of zombies taking over the world.

    • yea

      What I realized is that all fears are connected. So if you are afraid of
      something unseen then i would recommend focusing on all your “real” fears and confront them.
      soon you will realize you are not afraid of zombies taking over the
      world anymore. Sorry for the stupid grammar errors in my first reply.

  • Mack

    makka pakka is my fear

    • JCA_929

      WE SHOULD NOT BE AFRAID OR DARK,SNAKES,AND FROM SATANAS THINGS WE HAVE TO PRAY ALWAYS THE PRAYERS:IN THE NAME OF THE FATHER AND OF THE SON AND OF THE HOLY SPIRIT AMEN 

    • JCA_929

      WE SHOULD NOT BE AFRAID OR DARK,SNAKES,AND FROM SATANAS THINGS WE HAVE TO PRAY ALWAYS THE PRAYERS:IN THE NAME OF THE FATHER AND OF THE SON AND OF THE HOLY SPIRIT AMEN 

  • Joshua Oziegbe

    What about this……

  • feared

    lol i cant just go into the darkness and search in a hunted house for demones or ghosts and say to my self iam facing my fear 

  • feared

    lol i cant just go into the darkness and search in a hunted house for demones or ghosts and say to my self iam facing my fear 

  • katie

    but it’s a spider! :( I can’t confront a spider or it’ll lay eggs in my brain!

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100003867407773 LucyElfenlied-san Uhh

    Hopefully this works for video games…..

  • kelsey

    well i dont think i can confront my fear because mines is emetophobia (phobia of vomiting) and im not going to confront by making myself sick .. 

  • M0j0bean

    So I’m driving along, and this cab driver pulls in front of me. Cuts me off. I give him the middle finger.

    I pull into a shopping center, he enter the next entrance. He pulls in the next entrance and turns towards me. I stop the car. He gets out.

    He’s a big latino with prison tattoos. he asks me why I gave him the finger.
    I tell him, I don’t like the way he drives and that I am having a bad day.

    I tell him,” ok, I apologise for fipping you off. NOW GET BACK IN YOUR FUCKING CAR!’
    He looks at me and I repeat, “DUDE, I AM HAVING A FUCKING BAD DAY AND IF YOU DON’T GET BACK IN YOUR FUCKING CAR IT’S GONNA GET WORSE.”  then I repeat calmlt and quiely, “Get Back in your fucking car.” He gets n and drives off.

    Moral of story, tattoos and motorcycles don’t make you tuff. Standing up for yourself no matter who’s fucking with you does.

    All men bleed and no one likes getting punched in the nose.

  • http://urbangallivant.wordpress.com/ Rohit Gupta

    The funny thing I noticed about overcoming fears and anxieties is that most of my development can be attributed to overcoming them. It is kind of an indirect approach, I try to subtract the negatives. What remains is only positive.
    Great read!

    • Kamaldinkz

       yeah i guess it’s the best way cuz when fear growns up you cant even live allll day allll night yo only think about that stuff so thank you author i really enjoyed it was usefulsubject

  • Walkie Talkie

    Fear is not good at all! It is mentioned about fight or flight. It depends how you interpret that! Fear is something that stop us from doing 100 % and stop us from acting as we should. 

    Humans are born afraid, well we are blinding us from that as far as we all know. But at the same time we all have fear, because most of us dos’nt question them self’s. Just think about it, true love comes from understanding, from learning and  from knowing. All kinds of fear comes from not knowing. We shouldnt fear at all, because the changes will came when you love fear. Not loving it as scaring the shit out of you, but loving it as in using it to understand continue understanding. But for those who says: “Yeah, but that makes fear a good thing”. No it does not, that makes you better. The things are still theme same. Is the power of mind. You can look at hammer as a tool for a house construction or a weapon to kill people with. It is all about how you see the world and how you see things. By freeing us from fear . We are able to see and understand what the truth about everything is. And that truth dosnt have to permanent. But then you will know what is what. 

    Knowing of not knowing. Love of fear. Love of your self. How much do you love your self to continue discovering the unknown. Just imagine your self in the wood. When the dark falls, its more scarier the when there are light and sunny. That tells us that you and me are happier with what we see rather then what we dont see. 

    When you see that you can accomplish something, you will see that you can do things, and that is enough for us humans. Because all we want for our selfs is to matter! And that comes from knowing your self and what you are capable of. The more we spend time on trying out things and doing things, then of coarse we understand things and dont fear anymore because we will rather spend time on the solution of things. The more we do things, the more we can visualize things happening. Experience and action is the key. 

    Until you have seen and known you wont believe or understand truly. That tells us that we should start taking chances. 

    It dosnt mean that you can do any thing. Because we have to have some basic human ethics while doing things. First of all we have to be honest with our self. Don’t cheat. Because we will se true an eye of what action we do. So be careful of what you do. 

    Love is the key, not fear. With love you can teach everyone how to accomplish success  in any sections of life. People and things will scare you. Love this things, dont let it bother you, try to use that as the catalyst to understand. Then you also learn how to understand. Make a scenario of what you fear and “act as if”. 

    I love a scene in the movie “THE MATRIX” when Neo, the main character, is brought to meet an oracle to help him get his mind straight. Anyways. While waiting to meet the oracle at the waiting room. He sees a kid bending a spoon by looking at it. Neo tries that him self and before he starts bending it, the kid says: Try not to bend the spoon it self, that is impossible. Rather imagine that there is no spoon.

    The power of the mind.

    It is all about satisfying the mind. The more honest we are to our self doing it, and the more bad habits we get rid of, the more we understand. 

  • Coolaid1222

    i iam a stone i do not move i do not tremble

  • Dave

    All good points in this article but personally I can’t do any of them.  Once a fear has taken hold of me there is no way out. I have tried all of the above methods, to no avail. 
    I can’t love, can’t touch a member of the opposite sex or can’t enjoy social situations with people I don’t know. 

    These methods don’t help. Bad times.

    • Lewis

      And because it doesn’t work you are going to give up? Just because it has “taken hold of you”? Man up and face it. Don’t let it control you!

  • http://www.facebook.com/david.tsanava David Tsanava

    I love this article. Do not let another minute of fear, comfront it, right away.

  • Eliza inverno

    I am 12 and terrified of boats and I have always had a slight fear of them but it mainly started last year when I went on a cruse it sounds really stupid because if I have Been on a cruse ship I should be fine but I had a terrible experience and I can’t get over it. I really need help because next year for camp we go to Tasmania and have to take the plane there and the boat back or vice verser and I want to go so bad and if I don’t get over my fear or they don’t let me go on the plane there and back i am just going to refuse to go until my mum says fine don’t go! I really don’t want to regret not going when all my friends come back and tell me how fun it is 😔

  • Max

    I have a aweful problem infact i want to die i dated this girl and she dated this guy named christian but they broke up so i go her and she hates him and starts making fun of him and he makes fun of her so i defend her and her mother is gonna talk to the princable what should i do?? 😰😰😰😰😰😰😰😰😰😰😰😰😰😰😰😰😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

  • Matt r

    I wanted to commit suicide but this changes everything!!!

    • Mary Jane Sunshine

      Cool, Matt. I have felt this way too, but really, this does change everything.
      Fear only weakens our ability to fight it..

      • Christopher

        Ive lived in sucidal fear for years now, and for some reson, I have realized that which is causing my fear is just chemicals and words in my brain. I mean, if a chemical or word can change feeelings, then they must not mean anything in the first place.

  • Joesph

    Great article, next time someone gets in my face and he think he will intimidate me with is eyes and his mouth of hot air he will be very surprised that he dealt with the wrong person.

    No physical contact not unless I am forced to do so. I see as you want to hurt me so I will be the first to hurt you. I fear no one, no one is any better than anyone else. You may feel your better than someone else but your just lying to yourself.

    Your also being very conceded and self centered.

  • Sad Angel

    the ones who asked about paranormal was already afraid!

    • Christopher

      People who are concerned with the paranormal should see a psychiatrist.
      Speaking from experience……

  • May5

    Honestly, it’s a bit weird but I’m scared of getting greifed on Minecraft.

  • No name

    What if you fear the world ending ?

    • we’reallgunnadieee

      (O_o) uhhh…

    • Christopher

      Accept it, because you cant control or stop it from happening. Live it up!!!

  • Jav

    At time of arguments don’t ever let your mind think of you strength that you can beat the one you have argument with, but also don’t let it think for opposite side that he/she is stronger than me and will beat me badly.

    The main point in an argument turn to fight, it’s obvious both will try avoiding damage and to beat opposition. When it’s works like what I said, then why should we focus (I’m strong enough to beat him or he/she is strong enough to beat me).

    Thanks for reading

  • Roholjio Huijo

    fear is a imaginative thing so if you picture yourself being protected you will feel safe

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  • Tee

    What if you read this article and you knew everything that was said that it’s true and u knew it before u read it, but u are frozen u just don’t take any action.. Like I know I should act in the way I see my self and then I’ll become what I think of but, I can’t do it I keep thinking that I might not reach there! I might not be sucssful or have a big name in the media industry.. I don’t want to be famous but I’m a film maker and I want to be a very good film maker/editor , in so scared that everything I’m doing is nothing and I won’t be sucssesful I’m paranoid about it I can’t stop thinking and I need help..

  • http://www.Furries-happyclub.com/ The Furries & The Happy Club

    Thanks! This was exactly what I needed right now. I have developed a pattern of avoiding things that scare me or make me feel uncomfortable.
    I realize that it is causing me a lot of unnecessary suffering and has started to limit my life.

    Sometimes what feels good and simple in the short run is bad in the long run.

    THANKS!

  • Clara

    I’m afraid of college algebra because I felt less than a person from my stupidity.

    • Christopher

      Hi Clara, I think that you, as a person, is far more valuable than college algebra…..I know algebra really well, and it hasn’t made any real difference in my life……I learn more from half hour sit-coms. LOL

  • siddy

    I am really scared of birds and I can’t face the fear at all. What can I do?
    I’m also scared of being in the car on my own if someone leaves me in there. What can I do about these fears????
    (BTW I’m a girl who’s 11)

  • Mary

    I am afraid of a person. I have to deal with this person everyday. I am constantly thinking about this person, afraid that they will try to hurt me, I think too much about it. I don’t talk to this person anymore but I feel like I am trapped inside a jail house. Like there’s no way out. I am afraid to even raise my hand in class thinking that the person will be affended and will try to put me down again. I am scared. Everytime I see this person which is every school day i get scared and like nervous. I hate this person so much for what she has done. And no matter how much I try to forget about what happened I can’t. It’s like I’m suffocating. One day I can b totally confident in that I will not let that bother me anymore, but it always comes back. I feel like there’s no one who cares about me. No one has no idea what I’ve been through. I get judged a lot at school. I used to b the kind of girl who had like no problems. I was a very happy girl, until someone ruined that girl I ones was. I’ve tried to bring the girl I used to b. But it’s really hard to do that. Especially when she has already told like everyone in the school about the problem we had. If only they knew the reasons why I did them then maybe they’d understand. But I’m the type of person who doesn’t like gossiping about ppl. Who keeps to herself and now I’m like a whole lot quiet than ever. It’s like I don’t exist now, but also when ppl do see me in school sometimes they give me like dirty looks. And those ppl r the ppl she hangs out with. I confronted her 3 times. Not thinking of doing that anymore. This happened a year ago. I just want to get through this year. I want to die sometimes I swear but there’s always that part of me that doesn’t let me no matter what. This person fucked my life a lot. Now I live behind like shadows. I hate this person so much for what she has done. I need help!!! Now

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  • Zagesh

    Actually you are born with fears, most humans have an hereditary fear of spiders, just to name one.

  • Liz

    I’m scared of jumping my horse any higher than 2″7ish as I am scared I will get my striding wrong and will come off and won’t be able to jump again..any advice?

  • http://www.wleewarrenmd.com W. Lee Warren, MD

    Great post about facing our fears! I think learning to start moving towards the things we’re afraid of is a great place to start. Most important thing is to start moving. Start today. Here’s an article I wrote about doubt and fear: http://www.wleewarrenmd.com/drain-your-doubts

  • The #

    This has taught me only that people in comment sections are mostly pricks who flock together to troll the innocent. Fears are learned so don’t learn them. And my personal tip is remember. Your the scariestthing out there. You shouldn’t be afraid. Everything around you should be. Be Miley and come in like a wrecking ball.

  • jb

    but what if i am forced to face my fear repeatedly, every day, but it gets worse and worse all the time? these advice things always tell you that “confronting” it will make it magically disappear but i have never found that to be the case. unlike when i avoid it which saves so much heartache. i’m sure many people with phobias or anxiety disorders feel the same.

  • Marcel

    I have a fear of so many things, because I grew up around fearful, catatonically arrested developmental women who were confined to their own mental torture chamber, ignoring the sight of a beautiful day, in search of any excuse to justify their fears, thus instilling within me that same fear. The fears they had, whether reasonable or not, have been programmed into my mind since a young mustache, and now i’m a poppa mustache. Over the years, i’ve come to realize that fear is an acronym. It means: Fantasized Events Appearing Real. But, one can also argue that fear is an instinct implanted within all animals to aid in sustaining the longevitity of the species. This instinct has been warped, twisted and contorted in such a way that most of our fears are associated with death; Death of our physical anayomy, death of our pride and ego, death of our reputation, etc… How do we overcome our fears? The same way we master any other skill- focused, mindful, reflective repetition.

  • Lana Del Ray

    I’m scared of roller coasters. So I have to ride the scariest one ever?! WTF!!!!!!