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5 Ways to Become More Self Confident Everyday This Work Week

Developing self confidence is one of the most important things you can do to create a more powerful, successful life.  It impacts all facets of our lives, from relationships to career.  Those who are truly invested in creating a better world for themselves understand, that like most things, the journey is long. Knowing that, however, can make it very daunting.

That’s why it’s so important to have a long term goal – but to break it up into small manageable parts. The key is not necessarily the size of your benchmarks, but the frequency with which you hit them. It’s the cumulative effect of these small but achievable victories that will have you well on your way in no time.

Here are 5 quick tips to make this a confident week:

  1. Sit up! Set your alarm to go off 3 times throughout the day to check in with your posture. Body language is one the quickest ways to bolster instant confidence.
  2. Get to know someone new. Have lunch this week with someone in your office that you don’t normally hang out with.  Breaking your routine allows you to jump out of your comfort zone which is a fantastic catalyst for self confidence breakthroughs.
  3. Work it out – sitting at your office, or standing at your job is often very sedentary and mundane. So make a point to get some exercise during the day – whether it be a brisk walk for part of your lunch, or a quick work out in before you get there. Exercise fills the body with endorphins that create positive energy that you will be projecting throughout the day. You’ll be amazed how much you get back in return. Good health is not just an integral part of living well – it also happens to be an instant confidence booster.
  4. Accept a social engagement that you normally wouldn’t. Putting yourself out in the world forces you to engage in situations and with people. Whether you like it or not, the world is a social being – slowly building your confidence so you can find your place it in, is one of the most gratifying things you can do.
  5. Knowledge is power. You have to keep feeding your mind. Once you’ve learned something, no one can ever take it away. So whether it’s a new language, a new skill, or a new hobby – sign up for something this week that will broaden your horizons, skill level and happiness. Learning something you can be proud of and provides you a weekly dose of happiness is an immediate confidence booster and the recipe for success.

Got a great self confidence tip that you think would help others? Leave in the comments below!

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  • Lee

    I would like to agree on most of it but how could one accept a social engagement when one feel so paranoia?

    • Taylormay8344

      Hi Lee,

       I’ve recently moved abroad with my partner for his work. We’re both having to start from scratch with regard to friendships etc and I’m not working, so meeting new people is really hard. We’ve been here a month now, and we’ve both had to really jump out of our comfort zone, we’ve both come from a place where we had loads of friends both together and separately, and to go suddenly to nothing, where i’ve not had to actively make new friends is very difficult.

       However we’ve been to BBQ’s and parties, we’ve also been invited to cycling events (we’re both keen cyclists!)And every time we’ve gone, either together or on our own has been soo nerve racking, but you have to remember that EVERYONE else does or has felt the same. I think every time you go to a new event or spend time with a new friend you feel nervous- what if we have nothing to say to each other?? What if we have nothing in common?? What if i’m left with no-one to talk to?? But if you don’t take that leap and try you will end up more lonely than on that one night/event.    
      You will be fine. Just feel confident in yourself, and what you have to offer other people that, are probably in the same boat as you, and looking for a new friend.

      I hope this helps. We’re in this boat together.

      Sarah

      • Lee

        Hi Sarah,
        Thanks for your input, you are indeed in the same boat. Making the first leap is the challenge and am always wondering how people look at me and how they think of me. All this is making me freak out and staying away from people.  Am planning for a coffee with some friends and am wondering who to invite and etc.  Thanks for the input and I really appreciate it. 

    • Taylormay8344

      Hi Lee,

       I’ve recently moved abroad with my partner for his work. We’re both having to start from scratch with regard to friendships etc and I’m not working, so meeting new people is really hard. We’ve been here a month now, and we’ve both had to really jump out of our comfort zone, we’ve both come from a place where we had loads of friends both together and separately, and to go suddenly to nothing, where i’ve not had to actively make new friends is very difficult.

       However we’ve been to BBQ’s and parties, we’ve also been invited to cycling events (we’re both keen cyclists!)And every time we’ve gone, either together or on our own has been soo nerve racking, but you have to remember that EVERYONE else does or has felt the same. I think every time you go to a new event or spend time with a new friend you feel nervous- what if we have nothing to say to each other?? What if we have nothing in common?? What if i’m left with no-one to talk to?? But if you don’t take that leap and try you will end up more lonely than on that one night/event.    
      You will be fine. Just feel confident in yourself, and what you have to offer other people that, are probably in the same boat as you, and looking for a new friend.

      I hope this helps. We’re in this boat together.

      Sarah

  • http://www.millionwaystosave.com/ Emily Hunter

    One of the things that I do when I’m feeling low on the self confidence is to do scaffolding exercises.  Scaffolding is working with a task that is definitely doable – and doing that bolsters the confidence that I have.  If I’m having trouble with writing, I take on a writing task that is somewhat easy – writing a silly article or something.  That little boost in my confidence is usually enough to get me going on the bigger one task and taking on the world. 

  • http://www.millionwaystosave.com/ Emily Hunter

    One of the things that I do when I’m feeling low on the self confidence is to do scaffolding exercises.  Scaffolding is working with a task that is definitely doable – and doing that bolsters the confidence that I have.  If I’m having trouble with writing, I take on a writing task that is somewhat easy – writing a silly article or something.  That little boost in my confidence is usually enough to get me going on the bigger one task and taking on the world. 

  • http://www.motivationalspeakeradelaide.com.au/ Motivational Speaker Adelaide

    Great tips really learned a lot, I just hope that I can apply it. This is a really great post hope that you can do more posts like this one…

  • http://Mazzastick.com/ Justin Mazza

    Getting outside of our comfort zone definitely helps us to have self confidence. 

  • http://twitter.com/DarwinismsBlog Darwinism’s

    Great post! Simple and effective tips…good stuff!

  • Yikkwan11

    Do sth your fear and love sby you hate, then you’ll be surprised of how generous and brave you are. This will boost your confidence.

  • http://conversation-skills-core.com/ Dean| Conversation Skills Core

    Another tip for self-confidence would be great eye-contact. When you make sure to look directly in someones eyes (not constantly, but a good bit) while you talk to them or listen, you feel more confident.

    That’s because eye contact can be a pretty personal thing, so it can take courage to “reveal” yourself in that way to others. And using your courage is one thing that leads to more confidence.

  • http://www.prosperitytribe.net/ Charles

    How about doing feared things first. I learned this a long time ago. Whenever I have something I need to do that makes me feel uncomfortable I try and get it out of the way ASAP. That way I find I have a lot more energy and confidece throughout the rest of the day knowing I’ve slayed my dragon early.

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  • http://www.youturnlifecoaching.net/ Life Coach Nea

    I like these tips. I think that another good one is setting your alarm (or an egg timer) to alert you to check in with your mind. You can notice what you were thinking in that moment and gently shift any negative thoughts to something that uplifts you.

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  • http://www.peppervirtualassistant.com/ Agatha Tefora

    I’m not a confident person and my Boss is aware of that. She asked me on how she can help me improve my confidence and I know that only I can come out do that. She asked me to do stuffs I don’t normally do. One of which is to talk to a stranger. I did that and so I’m still doing it and now I’m learning to be more confident in conversing with other people and yeah – knowledge is power. You can use this in building the confidence you need.

  • Kelvindiscreet

    I am uncomfortable with handling conflicts, confrontation.. when people just expresses unhappiness, anger, I will freeze.. blank mind.. or stumble

  • Anonymous

    Personal development can help you clarify personal goals and create pathways to move towards these goals with a spirit of enthusiasm and determination.

  • Cbpete

    I am searching to learn about self confindence. On Mon. I was told I didn’t have any self confidence. I started a new job 3 weeks ago. My new boss said I “have that deer in the headlight look” everytime he talks to me. I have until Fri. to save my job.
    Help!

    • Sree

      I’ve been there, and it becomes even more difficult to break out of that mindset when you have this pressure, and this comment at the back of your mind. Take a deep breath when you feel pressured, focus on doing your job really well, and be easier on yourself. Smile a lot- it can cover your diffidence temporarily. And I’m rooting for you!

  • Cbpete

    I am searching to learn about self confindence. On Mon. I was told I didn’t have any self confidence. I started a new job 3 weeks ago. My new boss said I “have that deer in the headlight look” everytime he talks to me. I have until Fri. to save my job.
    Help!

  • James

    I’ve always found that learning something new has helped with my self confidence. Theres nothing better than learning a new skill, challenging yourself at something your unfamiliar with to boost your confidence. 

    Thank You!

    http://lifeandmind.net

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  • Nareshmyana

    Really helpful me…thanx a lot

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  • Alan

    A gem of an article.

  • http://www.lowbudget-pharmacy.com/ Well

    Great advice! Especially I would agree with accumulating knowledge. As knowledge  often shows that we have some additional value!

  • gemma

    very informative i learn a lot from this thanks i keep on reading
    searching,,, knowledge is so powerful.. thats true.. thats why we should
    be patience to searching all the time… more power

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