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10 Ways to Start Believing in Yourself Right Now!

Believing in yourself is another way of saying having confidence, but I think it is a much more explicit way to say it. It explains what is required.

What is confidence? Confidence is often linked with self-esteem and self-worth. It is self-assurance. It is believing that you have much to offer and that you are valuable. Much of that is gained through accomplishments and successes. Some of that is gained through other peoples opinions.

Confidence in yourself also means trusting yourself to be able to handle any situation that comes your way. This means preparation by gaining knowledge and experience.

Often times, we don’t strive for what we want because either we don’t believe we are capable of achieving it, or because we aren’t motivated. We may not be motivated due to  fear of failure, often caused by believing we’re not capable or not worthy of success. Motivation requires confidence and self-trust.

Knowing you are valuable and worthy is your birthright. Achieving and succeeding must be attempted in order to be accomplished. These suggestions will get you where you need to go!

1. Volunteer

There is nothing that will make you feel better about yourself than helping others and making another person’s day better. Feeling useful, wanted and needed  builds confidence and self-worth.  You will learn new things about yourself: things that you are good at and things that make you feel confident.

Acts of kindness boost your mood by boosting serotonin production. It’s a win-win activity!

2. Make a List

Make a list of all the things you have already overcome and accomplished in your       life. Then you can start adding new things as you accomplish them. Seeing this list in black and white is very empowering. (I speak from experience.)

 3. Surround Yourself with People that Support You

If you have highly critical people in your life, their words do affect your perception of yourself. Unless or until you can embrace the following, it is in your best interest to eliminate them from your life if you can, or minimize your contact with them.

- Know their words are just their opinions.

- Know opinions are not facts.

- Learn not to take things personally.

Find people with similar values and interests, who will support and enhance your  progress. When you surround yourself with people like this, their confidence in you, and your knowledge that they are there for you will motivate you and give you confidence.

4. If You Don’t Already Have It, Gain Self-Acceptance

In order to believe in yourself, you must first accept yourself. How can you believe in something you can’t fully accept? If you don’t have self-acceptance,       then that means that you are rejecting parts of yourself, possibly even hating parts of yourself. It will be impossible to believe when rejection and hatred are present.

Some people believe that one can simply choose to accept oneself. If this works for you, be grateful. I didn’t find it that simple.

When we were children, much of our confidence (or lack of) came from what others said or believed. For me, no matter how many times I was told good things about myself, I was never able to accept other people’s opinions. So, I was left to my own devices to figure out how to learn to believe in myself.

In my late twenties, I was “delivered” a method, and it started with gaining self- acceptance. You can find out how I became self-accepting on my website.

5. Change Your Focus

Stop focusing on what is missing or wrong in your life. Instead, focus on being grateful for all the things that you do have and all the parts of your life that are   working.

Every time you ‘hear’ yourself thinking something negative (and you’ll probably feel heaviness or a slumping of your body), replace it with a thought of something you’re grateful for and smile!

6. Take on Challenges

Create opportunities to prove to yourself that you are more than you currently believe you are. Who you currently believe you are was probably defined by other people. Again, it’s just their opinions.

You can start small; take a class, or go to a workshop that teaches something you consider a weakness.

Want something bigger? Learn something completely new. Take a vacation alone. Start a foundation or a company/business. Do something that scares you.

7. Keep Learning and Growing

The more we know and understand the better able we are to handle situations.  This includes learning about yourself: gaining self-awareness.

This means lots of reading, taking classes, and going to seminars and workshops.  Therapy and journal writing are also invaluable tools for self-exploration.       Explore! Investigate!

Investigate how you work, how humans in general work and how the world works. This will gain you knowledge, and as you use this knowledge in situations,   you will gain experience which gives you wisdom. And wisdom will increase your belief in yourself.

8. Set Goals

Set small, achievable, short-term goals to prove to yourself that you can       accomplish what you set your mind and effort to.

9. Live Up to Your Own Expectations, Not Anyone Else’s

Many times, lack of confidence comes from the fact that we are chasing other people’s goals for us, not our own. It is not your job to satisfy other people’s       expectations of you. It is your job to live up to your own expectations for yourself, to pursue your own dreams, and to use your own talents, skills and gifts       to serve the world.

10. Stop Comparing Yourself to Other People

Your appearance, accomplishments, earnings, success, and whatever else, are  your own. You have all the tools you need to fulfill your goals, not any one else’s.

I wish you all the best in you efforts to believe in yourself. It is a very worthy endeavor.

When you believe in yourself, anything is possible!

 

Michele Goldstein is a Spiritual-Interfaith Minister, life counselor, former teacher, writer, blogger, gratitude-junkie, and founder of Return Love.
Her mission is to share her unique message of healing, evolving perception, and the end of suffering derived from her own personal growth journey. michele.indigosky@gmail.com.

  • Rima

    very boosting..loved this article

    • Michele Goldstein

      Thank You Rima. I am grateful you enjoyed my article. If there is anything I can so can stay in that “boosted” space, let me know. 
      May Peace and Love be with you always,
      Michele Goldstein

      • Pres

        Honest  is the best policy ,thank you your words means a lot,Forgive others for your on peace of mind,bless you

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    An encouraging post “believe in yourself” and yes if we compare our self with others we can’t get anything.. a person is what he think about himself.. so think healthy and be healthy is the key to fitness mantra!!!!

    • Michele

      I totally agree that our thoughts create our personal identity and reality. Thank you for sharing.
      May Peace and Love be with you always,Michele Goldstein

  • Derek Lauber

    Love this post! 

    Always focusing on what you have instead of what you don’t, gives you the proper mindset to work towards what you want. http://lightboxleadership.com/blog/

    • Michele

      Thank you Derek.
      I agree with most of your statement, however, I believe we should be working toward what we need, rather than what we want. Wants are often created by the ego, unmet childhood needs and limiting beleifs.
      May peace and love be with you always,
      Michele

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  • http://karenyvonne.net/ Karen

    great post! I agree that we do have to change our focus from, what’s missing to what’s awesome in our lives. Use what you have to propel you forward and as a source of motivation when you are feeling low!

    • GANESH

      Yep, this is the best way of motivating to ourself by self

    • Michele

      Thank you Karen. And there is so much “awesome” in our lives, isn’t there? I hope you only see the awesome.
      May Peace and Love be with you always,Michele Goldstein

  • Sparta

    I think the 7th matter should be observable by people. The more we learn something new, the more we will have courage and knowledge to say abt anything.. this will enchance our aspect of life in a good way.

    • Michele

      Great point Sparta. Thank you for adding more value to the discussion.
      May Peace and Love be with you always,Michele Goldstein

  • Nayan

    Like it, Thank u very much!

    • Michele

      Thank you and you are very welcome Nayan.
      May Peace and Love be with you always,Michele Goldstein

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  • emedoutlet

     I liked some of your points:

    Making a list is really helpful in gaining confidence.

    Take on a challenge will surely enhance your confidence, even if you fail.

    Yes you decide, you challenge yourself, you meet with challenges and succeed.

    It’s my experience. Comparison will cause you depression and unhappiness. Every individual is different and nobody can be one like other.

    Thank you for writing very useful post.

    • Michele

      My pleasure Emedoulet. I am in total agreement with you. Especially about comparison causing depression and unhappiness. I would also add low self-confidence/low self-esteem and lack of motivation.
      Thank you for sharing.
      May Peace and Love be with you always,Michele Goldstein

  • Ganesh

    Great thought…
         When 999 people out of 1000 says that you cant do it , then be upset but be inspired by that one who belive in you.

  • GANESH

    Great thought…     When 999 people out of 1000 says that you cant do it , then dont  be upset but be inspired by that one who belive in you.

  • Ramtin13682002

    Thanks I hope your article would change my life!
     

    • Michele

      Hi Ramtini, 
      Has the article changed your life? I would love to know how!May Peace and Love be with you always,Michele Goldstein

  • Petru3f

    Very inspiring article! I think self acceptance is essential because it is what defines our thinking. If we don’t accept ourselves we tend to think negatively about our capabilities.

    • Michele

      Thank you Petru. I also believe that self-acceptance is the foundation of all we do.
      May Peace and Love be with you always,Michele Goldstein

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  • Radmila

    Thank you very much for this inspiring post! I will prosper! I will achieve everything! I am a great Person! =)

    • Michele

      My pleasure, Radmila.  I love your attitude! You will prosper! YOu will achieve everything! And you are a great person! Keep on believing!!!
      May Peace and Love be with you always,Michele Goldstein

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  • Anandita

    thank you for the encouraging words .i will surely try to incorporate them in my daily life and live confidently an d happily

    • Michele

      You are very welcome, Anandita. I wish you all the best in living confidently and happily. You deserve it.
      May peace and love be with you always,
      Michele

  • Jyothy

    Itz very useful to me…!!! gr8 thoughtzz…:)

    • Michele

      I am so grateful, Jyothy.  May your light always shine.
      Peace,
      Michele

  • Vijeth K

    Super

    • Michele

      Thanks, Vijeth.
      May peace and love be with you always,
      Michele

  • Ahmed

    Thank you very much :) 

    • Michele

      My great pleasure, Ahmed.
      May peace and love be with you always,Michele

  • Khachoangnh

    i think it’s good for me! thanks Michele Goldstein

    • Michele

      I will pray that it is so, Khachoangnh.
      Peace,
      Michele

  • Etelibanan

    its an inspiration to have confidence,to aspire for exellence and to motivate others that they can do it…what you can….thanks

    • Michele

      Thank you, Etelibanan.

  • Guest

    “Stop Comparing Yourself to Other People” very important!

    • Michele

      Yes, it really is. I’m grateful that others recognize this so they can spread the word.
      Peace,
      Michele

  • Justpassingby

    I was thinking I had low self-esteem before I read this list. I’m already doing everything on it. That alone was a confidence booster. Thanks!

    • Michele

      I am very grateful to have provided you with a confidence
      boost. But the question is, how long did it stay? Self-esteem and confidence
      are impermanent states. They are situation-dependent. I have been working on a
      series of posts questioning the worthiness of pursuing the goal of raising your
      self-esteem. It begins with What Is Confidence? .

      If you believe you have low self-esteem, then you haven’t
      done #4. I believe that gaining self-acceptance is a much more
      valuable goal than self-esteem; one that minimizes or eliminates all the
      effects of low self-esteem (including decreasing self-consciousness) while providing
      you with an increased level of self-worth. Self-worth is a synonym of
      self-esteem!

      Believing in yourself is a choice; one that can be made once
      you recognize and accept all that is valuable in you. Don’t you deserve that?
      Register on my site and you’ll receive my Self-Acceptance PDF.

      Please let me know what you think.
      May peace and love be with you always,
      Michele

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  • John T

    Great list Michelle! I think a lot of these points are also linked to each other. For example, volunteering is a great way to change your focus and dropping comparisons with others is vital to self-acceptance.

    I think it’s also a great idea to avoid linking your self-acceptance to what you achieve, even though that can do wonders for your confidence. A good article which makes that point is http://www.howtoforgivepeople.com/how-to-accept-myself

    I guess a lot of it really comes down to your 9th point – if you are trying to please other people all the time than confidence never happens.

  • Veer

    This post is very nice and inspiring.
    If we compare our achievements with others, the only thing we get is low self esteem.
    So, rather than comparing what one has more over you, search your own passions and start working on them, and believe you can achieve them..!