10 Ways to Instantly Build Self Confidence

Walking faster will not make you “more confident.” It’s the opposite. Walking fast makes you seem like you have obligations, for which people will be displeased with you if you’re late. As if they’ll downright leave you if you’re late. However, walking slow is more confidence thing. It says, “I don’t need to get their fast because people will wait on me.”

This desire to have self confidence is the bane of American society. The fact that people haven’t caught on to this is pretty sad. The fact that there are still lists of 10 ways to get more confident is even more sad.

In my opinion, coming to peace with oneself, the role you occupy in your own life is the key to having ‘confidence’. And even then, it is a form of confidence that is diametrically opposed to the one presented here.

Also, while being good at something sure does give you confidence, it also has the caveat of making everyone want to be the best.

I feel cheap to cite a book that’s been written over 3000 years ago (but people should read the Tao at least once in their lifetimes): “Oversharpen a knife and it will dull quickly”.

The point being that being bigger, better, faster, more is never going to lead you to ‘happiness’ until you learn to be at peace with yourself. To not equate your worth as a human to your worth to a corporation.

Great comment Illusionist. Face it folks. You’re average. Don’t worry about it so much. It’s hilarious to see the latest kids coming into the workforce. They’re so confident and full of self-worth. They all think everything revolves around them because for some reason in the good ol’ US of A, the whole “you’re special and above average” BS has been pushed so hard in recent years. Get over it kids. You’re not that great.

do know about your area of operation i.e. confidence comes from the knowledge and knowledge comes from knowing things around you — be expert in your subject.

good one — we need more on this!!

It seems that a few people, who commented, have missed the point of the article.

It is meant to build confidence, some one who is already confident does not need to build it in the same manner that some one who is not.

The point of the article is to help some one with out confidence to do things that will make them feel more confident. Confidence is learned, this is a start.

Setting and accomplishing goals incrementally is definitely goals is also essential to building confidence.

I agree with all of the points noted except number two: turns out that ‘important’ people (yeah, sure, that’s relative) like CEO’s of large companies etc all walk slowly. The psychology behind it is that they aren’t in a hurry; the world will wait for them and they have planned ahead well enough that they don’t need to hurry to get where they need to be on time.

Definatley a great start for some one who lacks much self confidence . For number two; at some point in their life they had to walk “fast” to be able to walk slow.

You forgot posture. It will make a huge difference, you literally will see more and people will look up to you. If people believe you are confident it will help reinforce that positive feedback loop, making it easier for you.

#1 should have been dump your girlfriend. I’ve never met a girl interested in helping you be more confident. If you’re feeling low, dump that bitch now before she dumps you and move on to something better.

After reading some of the rather vicious comments by the “self-realized” elite here, aren’t you wasting your self-important time with the ferocity of your protestations about a simple “ten ways” list? John has simply presented a few ideas to help the guy whose daily grind is selling, cold-calling, meeting and greeting. A lot of those guys need help in believing they can do it, and these tips help a guy believe a little more in himself, in spite of his lack of training, schooling, polish, expertise etc. Thanks for posting them, John. I know you did it out of concern for the common man, and not for the benefit of these ridiculous know-it-alls who live to carp.

There is no doubt that having self-confidence leads to greater well-being and positive emotion. Great post.

The walking faster part is the total opposite of how it should be. Confident people move slowly and with ease when they walk, and have little to no movement when they sit.The person who moves the least has the most power.

Thanks

I stumbled upon this article and I liked it a lot. Gave a reference to this in my article “14 Simple Things To Do For A Better Body” here http://www.kumito.com/articles/14-simple-things-do-better-body

Did it bother anyone else that it’s all “herself”?
What about the men? Equal rights does not mean women get more.

there were 10 things on the list, could have done 5 of “herself” and 5 of “himself”.
Of course the author could have followed proper English writing rules and just stayed consistent and gender neutral but directing the comments to “yourself” as they did at the last of the article.

omfg this person is actually getting their infor from professionals…..you guys obviuosly lack confidence and didn’t really tried it.. I heard this from many couselors, therapists…so ppl like chris shut it what do you guys have backing what you say.. what are your sources I have tried these things and they do work… My teacher once told me if you lie to you self and say your confident many times over you are…..now I kinda agree with you this isn’t a quick fix there is never a quick fix for building your confidence everyone has to build their confidence if you commentors are looking for a one time permanant fix ghood luck cause I don’t think there is one. I personally find these to always rebuiold my confidence

There are some great tips here but I really do think that the most important factor is number 6 – Compliment other people. It really does help with your presentation and thinking if you are positive about your work colleagues.

mona
reading your post it looks like you are caught up in self doubting thought processes.

don’t worry about age most peeople never know exactly what they want to do. why should you? we live in an age of uncertainty which is why it is a very hard time to be a student. i am too a student.

i must say, a breakdown, even though horible, was what i needed to smack me in the face and provoke me to think for myself.

i say this because it has provoked me to learn to find time for myself. see what i like, what I want and what i want from life.

your life is your own, you should stop worrying what your mates, your family or ANYone else appears to ‘want’ from you and find time to learn to love yourself.

trust me im no hippie, this i have learned through experience.

‘a wise man learns from experience, an even wiser man learns from others’ experiences’ -plato

oh and do you excercise or do many hobbies? it is important to do things that interest you.

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As a recent graduate of philosophy who came accross this article in a “next-step” search, i must include a few observations. I have spent years listening to the people around me, studying identity and trying to comphrehend the springs from which a person’s concept of being flows, and i have discovered that so many share a link. When i consider the people i know who are thought confident, myself often one, many of them do have the traits described. And none of them think about it.
A past lover once told me he thought i seemed confident. Really? i asked. Why? He shrugged, and this has been the basic response. Confidence is not fixed, it is a processural stream which people may step in and out of which is in a constant state of flux. And they do this unknowingly.
What is amazing about confident people to the unconfident person is that they seem to be without a care in the world, or at least, their cares seem not to bog them down. And that is their choice. The human mind can overcome anything. Once you realize that only you control how you experience the world, confidence will no longer be an issue. You can take things in stride, take them with a grain of salt, or not take them at all. Life’s possibilities are endless. Go.

It’s interesting that you connect the idea to fear, however, that people often fear what they don’t understand is a very general sentiment. I think of how often heterosexual people who are homophobic, for example, are claimed to be afraid of homosexual persons, that is afterall implied in the term. And this is linked to the idea that they fear what they don’t understand. However, i do not think it’s fear, and i don’t think it’s that they don’t understand. The problem in this example is that they do think they understand, and they have done so within a limited construct. When i claimed that people often don’t realize that they control their world, ie, their perception or experience of the world, i didn’t mean that they lack an understanding of it. What I meant was that they often are not aware of the possibilities of their experience, that they control what they perceive, and as such they can overcome said barriers and choose how they feel about whatever occurs in their life irregardless of the given circumstances. Any barriers people percieve in life, that maybe they need ‘confidence’ to overcome, are usually only perceived by them. And to many people this realization may seem “easier said than done,” due to a number of factors, maybe even fear, like you suggest. But if fear has any place, it is in that part of ourselves that knows, deepdown, that there are no barriers in life other than our minds, that we can go forth as we please, and that we are responsibile for the choices we make.

I think the article is surface level. It is addressing the symptom rather than the cause. It gives options as to improve one’s confidence, so to speak, but it ignore’s my initial point. I spoke about people who appear confident, and noted that they basically aren’t occupied with whatever may mentally ail them. My second passage elaboarted on the concept, locating their not being preoccupied with such things in their choice to not be preoccupied. These are the things that help/hinder confidence. This article isn’t wrong, per se, but it’s kind of like of get-rich-quick scheme for the mind. All along however, a person is working towards achieving what i have been positing all along: don’t worry, brush it off, go forth. If this is done, then confidence seeking becomes moot, because you’re mentally in the clear.

i notice everything ive come across has all pointed to that . ways to let go –

suppose the question is what is the best ways to do that

and i take it when the reasons are more disturbing thats when proffessional help fits in.

hey dannielle, love philosophy but wasnt brave enuff for the degree!

what do you think the best way to think is?
e.g. i was thinking earlier its probably best to:
1. elliminate inner dialogue
2. focus on what you want

Amazing. i appreciated .but let me focus on few palces where u mentioned respect.i believ i couldn’t make my
self clearer,but still have a chance to do so. my lack ofconfidense is what i was told to have not what i discovered myself. in class at home ..let me tell u something. i always say things that somebody else woudln’t dare to reveal.for instance.i always have that fear of failure,looking diffrent,expressing my real feelings but never afraid of saying the truth.many around me translated this to my eager for perfection. which is absolutly the opposit. i express my worries openly before all my friends,actually, no specific person .however i discovered this is not a successful outlet to feel good . cus backbiting hurted me so much. but now things has changed to the best. it is said that “ne pas cherchez a contenter les uns et les autres car les gens sont pas les memes’. i really believe in this saying. not everybody are safe not to fall in self doubting confidence. no body is perfect.i believe in a “change” but time palys an important role which i do respect.in fact, i lost many people because of my being stern. mayeb this artical is not realy well organized, but i decided not to erase a single word ,believing that it’s a step toward building selfconfidence. and excuse my english because it’s not quiet good. plz respond. All in all “repsected Danielle” . the time ur giving to this site trust me is very worth to be spent for. im so glad i recieve such analysis from a professional. because i acually have no well trained prcon in this field to criticise or analyse who be am..just carry on this actvity it’s a helpfull way u r affording to “poorish” people like me. Thank you.

Asking a philosopher ‘what is the best way to think,’ is probably one of the most complicated questions one could ask! To respond to your suggestion, i don’t know how one could eliminate inner dialogue, as thinking is basically a conversation with yourself, unless you mean second-guessing yourself. And second-guessing yourself needs to be distinguished from one’s conscience, which is that manifestation of inner dialogue.
That’s a tough call. In the Anglo-American tradition, the best way to think would be to consider all repercussions of an action before you act. However the continental philosopher would argue that in such a case they are not acting naturally, whatever that may be, and are in fact restraining themselves in some fashion. The continental philosopher would argue the best way to think would be with spontaneaity, to say and do whatever comes to mind. And this, the Anglo-American would say, is foolish. That’s what the greats think. Now I’ll leave it to you to decide.

The points covered here r very good to build your selfconfidence. My confidence loosed over the years while knowing the people and their attitute especially in very personl relation as well as work envionment and ur boos. The way your boss treats you. So I would say guys just call yourself that “I am the best” and should not allow anyone to decrease your morale and and confidence. Believe in one thing, “If u belive urself people ( world) will believe in you.”

I agree, except I’d add that you have to make sure you don’t cross the line into arrogance like this blog points out: http://sophiasparx.blogspot.com

Please do not offense by my comments! But here are my 2cents.

To Phillydawg: Your average cus you say you are! Dont think of yourself like that!

To Tim Smith: Your right in someways! But Its obvious your lifestyle does not require you to dress up. I highly recommend everyone to look nice! You do not need to buy clothing from Chanel, Eddie Bauer, or Versaci. Walt Disney said, “image is everything”. Joseph Kennedy, father of J.F.K. and R.F.K. Said “its not what you are but what people think you are”.

I really don’t agree with what you say. All that you talk about are things that are temporary. Sure everyone should wear neat clothing etc but it doesen’t enhance the way we perceive ourselves. Confidence is the feeling that you have the ability to do something. By wearing nice clothes you’ve eliminated the fear or atleast lestened the fear of looking bad style wise, but whose to say that you aren’t worrying about your weight, your voice, your posture, your acne, your stutter, your one leg, whatever. There are a million things that could be influencing that persons confidence, some of which are unchangable but could still be accepted by the individual. Confidence is the ability to accept who you are regardless of what inabilities you may have. The only thing which i can truely agree with is the speak up part because it conditions you to have an equal part in conversations.

I look forward to any replies because i am extrememly interested in this area of peoples lives

broman, you and i share the same problems, Its taco tuesday here in cali, so i am out to have dinner. I enjoy talking to you. So like the terminator./; I’ll be back! You have the same thoughts i have, we must of had the same life experiences training or share the same background somehow.
thanks bud. I truly believe that sharing ideas thoughs and experiences is all a person needs to get through their issues. I always seek ideas from day to day people who actually work, and sweat as i do. No offense to Psychiatrists but I think they can tell us why and the hows the brain works but I would never ask them for advise. They live in a world thinking that everyone that goes to them is phsyco. Atleast that is what I think. I am off to my tacos. 3 for a dollar at del taco. cant beat that if I wanted to.

couldnt quite understand what your sayin miko but interesting.

if we are talking about being a good business man i am sure the tips on this page will help you look good for a speech and such like. you dont necessarily have to carry these tips in all your life ‘cos i dont think it is healthy to do so.

everyone is different but everyone can learn to realise that you are responsible for your own actions. the more this happens you can let go of so called insecurities.

finding cruches is not the way for a healthy mindset IMO

Please no one take offense with this post.”BUT”
I read most of these posts and it seems like most of them are posted for the wrong reason. Let me explain! I could be wrong but it seems like, most people post comments from literature they read and not actuall experiences. Most of us like to escape reality by reading and imagination which is a result of lack brain stimulation. The mind tends to make up stuff on its own when there is nothing to stimultate it. miko; its sounds like you need to go out more…! It sounds kinda like let me impress you with crap I really dont understand and maybe it will make me seem more intelligent. We are all intelligent, and the reality is that we tend to mask things we do not understand with crap no one understands. Like, maybe if I confuse the hell out of everyone they may think OH! this person really knows what he’s saying or doing when in reality that is not the case. Also it seems like all the advise or comments posted are from some kind of best seller book or something! You guys again 99.9% of us are pretty good at giving advise but we tend not to use it ourselves. I like to have reality checks now and then. Again I dont mean to offend anyone. I trully dislike but like it when someone critizises me! Because, that is like grinding the burrs and defects from my life to make my days easier.

I enjoyed reading about your tips on self confidence. For me, I haven’t always been confident. In high school I was extremely shy. I slouched and was not proactive. I was this way because I knew of no other way to be. Later on in life, what has helped me is finding my purpose in life and making the decision to be confident and successful. I am amazed that by making a simple decision to pursue success that my confidence is also increasing. By taking steps in life to find your purpose, believe in yourself, build yourself up, and give back to other people, you will then begin finding confidence. Ultimately, make the choice to take life head on and don’t look back.

please give me a practical advice.i have a suiter in university who isnt a logical boy he loves me for 4 years but after 1.5 years i feel that he isnt suitable for me but from that time up to now i cant undrestand him that i dont like to speak with him and when he want to talk with me i cant do anything and when i escape from him he follow me and can find me and can stop me every where.

agree! know thyself
it may take some doing if you are covered in bad habits and covered up sense of self. but once you get there anything is possible

Great tips. Thanks a bunch.

Do not hold grudges,and people should not haunt the past in your face!!!!!

Tanya

Im not a true Christian,but I love God..but not as much as i should.

Down sides of money

jealousy greed

Sophia Loren once said, “Getting ahead in a difficult profession requires avid faith in yourself. That is why some people with mediocre talent, but with great inner drive, go so much further than people with vastly superior talent.”

I love your mention of Gratitude. It has a magic beyond imagination. Great post. Thank you.

Hi,

It’s really amazing to read different people’s perspective and point of views .. everyone see the world from a different angle .. from a different point ..

I like the 4th piont (Personla Commercia) .. Keep reminding yourself of what u have accomplished in the past years .. motivate ur self .. n -take this advice from me- DO NOT WAIT FOR A MOTIVATION FROM OTHERS .. coz u’ll be w8ing for ever !! .. if u want somethin .. get it ur self !

I do consider my self as confidence .. I wasnt suprised when I read this artical since I’ve been practicing all the 10 points since I was 11 years old ! (thanx to dad)

I learned that we shouldnt spend time thinking about wt people r thinking abt us ! .. if we want people to accept us .. then we should accept ourselfes first !

OK .. am sounding like Dr.Phill now .. lol

Anyway .. Thanks for the artical .. n thanks for every1

Dressing sharp sure does get me sucked everynight.

There are so many comments, I read many, but not all.
I just left my new husband because of my dwindling confidence. I liked the article, but I liked what others shared more.
The part about walking was interesting. I have a lot of pain when I walk and that wears on my confidence because I am not able to do what I love anymore with out pain. I also liked the part about not gossiping and being negative about others. I find that I do this a lot. Not meaning to, but more just for idle conversation. My husband would tell me not to, and I never realized until now how weak that does make a person seem. Although he did not help me to feel better about myself and often made me feel much worse, I enjoy thinking that he had a good point now.
To those who are afraid to even go out, I wish you all the strength in this world. It is a dark and lonely place to not want to enjoy even a few moments outside your home.
I think that the trick is to push yourself to. Even if everyone hates you, it is never about them… enjoying a few moments out of the day to smile and see the beauty that is there right in front of our noses is what is more important.
I’m plagued with boredom, and a sullenness that often keeps me indoors, but I always feel a little bit better when I got out and breath fresh air.
A serious problem I have is sometimes talking to people I know. I always feel awkward around others. I am a survivor of all sorts of abuse and I think that that is the reason why. Perhaps a trust issue?
Does anyone have any suggestions to help me build self worth so that I’m not so uncomfortable sharing my time with people I like or already know. I always feel like such a burden. It is funny because I’m attractive and smart and funny, I even love to dress well and usually carry myself as though I’m very confident. Inside I just clam up if I have to get close to anyone.
Thanks and Bless you all.
A

Great Ways to increase your self confidence…I simply appreciate.

I have a problem that everytime i woke up for college i was feeling sick, and beeing sick everyday because of my nervs and because i wasnt that confident so now i have droped out of college, but now need a job and im scared that the same thing is going to happen before i go to work? any advice please!

thanks a lot … im gonna practice all the 10 of the above given points and would surely succeed in my life Thanks again

so how can i get the exact tought about this topic “self confidence” which is the best for me please contact me and i wanna to reach @ the exact tought for my life.

jus try to find out that u wanna proof anything to ur family or

Hi, i read the page on how to be confident its just that i never feel confident even when things are good, could somebody please help me?

here has another 10 tips for confidence. let check it out. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yO27wPFZZG0

good stuff…

Very good tips to groom a person. I will try to apply them in my life periods. Thanks

I perfectly agree with you that perception is reality—how you see yourself will most definitely be how others will see you and how people see you equates to how much they will respect you. Thank you for your tips on how to improve self-confidence! It’s amazing how we can actually build self-confidence by modifying our behavior. True, these strategies entail discipline, but hey, improving self confidence is surely our ticket to success—and I guess anyone would agree that a few lifestyle checks would definitely be worth it, especially if it’s your whole life on the line.

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I was once a timid, anxious , scared yong woman, who would always sit in a corner and not say a word.
At the age of 30 that changed, I decided to walk through the TERROR BARRIER and I got CONFIDENCE on the other side.
I now equip, encourage and empower individuals to get the same personal power.

Be ENCOURAGED!

To your SUCCESS!

I believe very STRONGLY that PURE CONFIDENCE COMES from taking ACTION. Courses are great, however I teach clients how to step into their personal POWER and stay there.

You can too, if you want me to work with you, I can , I have been there , so I can resonate with how you FEEL.
I have ovecome and am soaring with CONFIDENCE and SELF BELIEF!

To your SUCCESS!

You must FEEL THE FEAR and DO IT ANYWAY, Susan Jeffers.
Take COURAGE and step out.
Your CONFIDENCE will then be birthed into your personal power.

hi,
well i didnt read all of posts, but its interesting though. I wonder what does it depend on. I mean a real super stable selfconfidence. cuz i felt very confident sometimes, but it goes away. dont know how to make it stable. and ps for all who think they are not good looking so they dont have high self confidence> first, good looking is not prerequisite for good self confidence but just the opposite!!! trust me, when i look back at “pretty” ppl in my life i can see that they were all just really self confident but most of them not really pretty, and this guy i know, he is a cripple and very much not so pretty, but he is probably one of the most selfconfident ppl i know and i tell you, he probably had more chicks than some stunning looking guys. just because he really belives in himself…..still i wonder, what is it based on??

Confidence is a HUGE area, however it usually comes down to two BELIEFS…
Can I do it?
Am good ENOUGH?
f you keep walking through your fear, keepm taking action.
Or hire someone to walk you through your barriers, then let them come down and you walk in your own POWER.

First of all, I dont agree that confidence is always attractive, some people a frightened by confident people and hate them for their confidence.
But in saying that confidence is a good thing to have, it gets you the things you want in life.
For all those people who have placed posts, slagging off the people discussing how to gain confidence, there are plenty off people like you out there.
The people who pay out people who try to improve them selfs are the types of people who hold others back so they can feel better about them selves.
First rule of being confident, ignore these people.
Second rule, learn not to worry about things, worring is “A WAY OFF THINKING” that is a learnt behaviour, have faith that things will work out even if it does not seem to be the case.
Third Rule, when talking to your self in your mind, dont say “I wish I was popular” (example), say “I Am Popular”, If this feels uncomfortable, like you are lying to yourself, That is where you are doing good in your mind, keep doing it, your subconsious mind is objecting, eventually the sub counsious will follow what the consious mind is saying. If you say I wish all the time thats all you will ever do.
Fourth rule, dont care what people think about you, go out there with clothes with holes in them and be proud that you are going against the flow, wanting everyone to like you will never happen, there fore you will never be happy if you are hoping this will happen. Be happy with the people who do like you for you and if no one likes you, work out why ?(eg.maybe you compain to much)
Fith rule, learn as much as you can, where ever you can, knowlege is power.
Sixth rule, if someone pays you out, dont respond directly or in your mind. They are nothing, calling them this and that, is an acknolegment that their comment had power over you, that makes you feel weak inside.
Usually these people are loosers and they will eventually hang them selfves and when you see it happen you will say nothing to prevent it from happening, then have a good laugh when it does.
Seventh rule, dont get upset if you make a mistake, evryone does it, learn from it, hide it if you can, from others, no one needs to know (dont draw attention to your mistakes)
eight rule, dont do things that are morally objectionable, that way you cant feel guilty for them later.
ninth rule, love yourself, strength comes from within,
Tenth rule,try to be the best, but never expect to be the best, there is always someone who can lift more or has a bigger doodle.
Thats a summery of what I think it takes to build confidence, I am sure that there wil be people who post responses paying me out, I say bring it on, I laugh at you, Hahahah I laugh because I am not you, hahahah and to those who are trying to improve yourself I say, I hope all your dreams come true, you are awesome, because alot of people dont even bother to try or worse still put others down to feel good.

You did good job for me

you boost my confidence and mental energy to do well in my day

Thank you very much

keep doing and keep encouraging people like us

have a great day

Your article Motivates me alot .

as always awesome

this is tut how to look like a sc person, and not becoming one.This 10 steps are just one step i the real scale.And they are not necessary.

This post is very useful. I am already subscribed for this. I love to read the new users feedback comments.

iam a MBA student, where i need to prepare a lot of presentations though english is my 2nd language but that doesn’t bother me but i don’t have confidence to go up on the stage and start talking about the presentation. Its something very hard for me and iam losing so many things in life.

Can some one please suggest what should i do to come over this problem of mine

cheers

hi, i understood whats written here bout self confidence and i thank you for that, the thing is i really cant speak fluent in english and understand all of it.

good idea
i like those steps to become self confident
i am going to use this for my speech
thank u
bye bye

I agree with John

Great article for how short it was.

I checked out the site you recommended…

looks interesting!

Does this guy do any work on the East Coast?

when ever i want to study i just lose my self confidence please help i am very depressed

Great tips. Another tip I found very useful is to face your fears on a constant basis. The opposite of self-confidence is fear, and by destroying your fear and facing it, you will build self-confidence much quicker and will establish a powerful self-esteem.

It is also crucial to alter ones mindset in order to grow confidence. Think of the all wrong habits that take place in your life, and change each one, bit by bit.

Hi everyone. I am troubled and confused at this point in my life. Im not sure what my problem is exactly, but i am always worried about what other people think of me. I cant seem to make any new friends in school. And whats worse is that one of my closest friends is sooo popular and can become friends with anyone he wants to. Lately i just dont want to socialize with anyone. When i actually try to i get nervous and my voice gets quiet and mumbly. I also always worry about how i look. Please help.

hi everyone..i’m having a speech class this semester.when it’s time for me to talk in front, there’s a tendency for me to be shaky, my face becomes so red and my hands are so cold..I’m really nervous when I speak in front of people..I hope this article could help me with my problem..

Thank you for the post!

self-confidence are the best way to success in our life, and without it we can’t do anything.. we must become our self to solve all the problem that face us in this life.and the most thing should know him; ho can be give us the self-confidence are the god we must think in him and to take the power from him….

As said by many, great post indeed. Another sure way to success is a proper goal setting and actions towards that goal. Goal setting coaching can ne found at http://casesolving.com

Stop looking towards others and comparing your achivements to theirs, there will always be someone better than you in EVERYTHING. Compare yourself to yourself and you will find that you are just as good as you are and nothing ever changes that. If someone laugh at you becaouse they could do better at whatever it is you are doing in that instance, they are simply ignorant. Forgive them.

Search the truth and the truth will sett you free.

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I lack self confidence in one part of my life, girls.
When ever im around a girl a like, its like a loose the abillity not only to speak, but to be myself in genreal. im affraid that if i act myself they will think im wierd (well i am, but only slightly lol) and im affraid to talk about anything with them, or get a convosation started, coz they might take me as being boring or strange. I have a great fiend who’s always trying to help and big me up, highlighting the posative stuff about my personaillty, but he cant always be there for me.
I just want to be able to walk in a room full of people and not saclude (think i spelt that wrong)into my shell, and for those horroscope fans out there, yes im a Cancerium

EVERYONE LISTEN TO THIS AND YOU WILL INSTANTLY FEEL BETTER. THIS WORKED FOR ME!

Ok, so posture is very important. All you need to do is flex your abdominal (ab) muscles and your glute (butt) muscles and you will walk straighter and better. This will give you confidence! Believe me. I tried this and I could speak what was on my mind, made me feel better and livelier, and also helped me with my OCD to take the focus away from my bad thoughts.

I usually don’t do this at night though because I’ve noticed people usually don’t care about image at night.. haha (not 100% sure about that thought) also it gives me a break from flexing. It’s not that big of a hassle though. Makes you feel great! Also the confidence you had during the day will carry over into the night so you really don’t have to focus on your posture at night. Plus people are more tired at night so they don’t really care. Trust me, this works!!!

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I am so want to get my self confidence back
cause every time I try where I dont see people again I in to not feel conftable enough like everyone else
to say it really confidently being myelf cause I plan to make it happen
and it is really frustrating could anyone me out here

The post does really boosts up your energy levels and also makes you think of your self at least once. I think these ten tips for instantly building your self confidence is really an informative post.

I really thank for mom who has really boosted up my self confidence, right from childhood. she was the one who always made me think that i can do anything, if i have self confidence with in myself.

I am also now passing the same message to people who meet me and teach them how important is self confidence.

Most of this article is right on. Thanks for taking the time to write it and post it.

I have zero self confidence, and this is ruining my relationship. I’m too jealous when it comes to my boyfriend being friends with other girls. I feel like the reason he talks to them is because I’m not giving him all he needs..it’s ridiculous to think he’s only gonna need me as a friend and no one else. I don’t know what to do )= I always feel like the other girls he talks to are prettier than me and stuff like that.

Hi, I came across your blog from Google.

This post is 100% correct and realistic. I agree with these strategies to help build confidence.

These can definitely help.

Have a nice day.

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Great insights. The wonderful thing about self confidence is that we can start building it at any time. I’ve noticed that it’s often about just doing small things that, over time, build up our self esteem and create a new, more effective way of living life.

Thanks for this blog. I do have really low confidence in myself. As Low self esteem as well. I agree with everybody that said walking faster is a sign of low confidence. I always walk fast when I pass a certain crowd. So that they won’t look. I always feel like people are looking at me and judging me and I hate it. I hate caring so much and always trying to win approval from people who probably don’t care. I will admit that my confidence has gotten better. Especially since I surround myself with amazing friends. I think that if you make a goal and you reach it, it’s realllyyyy a big boost. I still have a lot of work to do since I do have real bad self esteem. Anyway..thanks for the blog <3

hello friends i think that will be good i improve my self confidence today now a days i am not worring about these and all

hey hi i am suffering from low self doubt and low self confidence, cause of my appearence i have a great body, good face, i look more than average, i wear good clothes, but usually i become self conscious and get anxious about my looks and what others might be thinking about me..plz help me out.

hey i really dont know how to build my self confidence straight away i have gone through loads of stages where i dont know what to do with my life i want to beleieve in myself again and feel like i can do anything! help me please!

Thank you for posting such a help full article. I am 27 years old and working in a company. I am slim and not physically healthy like other people of my age around me. People mostly make fun of my physical appearance that why i never feel confidence in social gatherings. who i can overcome this complex?

Please advise thanks.

nice article!

I disagree with the idea that walking fast makes you seem important. I think that walking fast is a sign of being anti-social and we are human beings, social beings…. It is not good for your health to walk fast unles you are exercising. I walk 5 miles a day for exercise, I am in excellent shape and I meditate while I’m walking, breathing in good air and taking in my surroundings broadly. I also feel that people who walk fast are in some way uncomfortable and don’t want to be seen, bothered or talked to, which is rude rather you are in the city or not. I think you are an easy victim when you walk fast, allowing people to see that you are in a hurry, therefore not aware of your surroundings and/or you don’t like and appreciate where you are. Besides, why hurry through life. People who walk fast and run do not seem that they are on a mission, they just seem insecure.

I am a hypnotist and I help lots of people to improve their self confidence. Over the years I have come to realise that the people that may mock you or pull you down and come across as over flowing in confidence, actually have less confidence than their victim. They are simply trying to compensate for their feelings by making someone else feel worse than they do. So the next time someone is giving you a hard time…..pity them!

I need Major help with self-confidence…everyone says I have none and I am starting to believe them..Can anyone steer me in the right direction? I would really appreciate it.. Kevin

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It is very helpful.
The more you contribute to the world the more you’ll be rewarded with personal success and recognition.

i hv nt tasted this 10 ways b4, they r amaizing

This information is certainly of a great help to generate self confidence in a person. Thanks a lot for providing this information in a systematic way.

your website is realy great I really appreciate wht you’ve written, i wana suggest that you can also provide videos that demonstrate all those qualities. I will be very grateful thanks a million!

Thanks a lot for the article and the comments that have been made of building self confidence. I will try my best to remember by following all the 10 steps and hopefully i will be able to gain self confidence.

thanks for this blog!!
now i feel better & i try to have more self confidence in my self!
because of this blog i realize how stupid i am..so now i apply this tips to help my self and also to show my skills & knowledge to the people w/ no fear!!

Nice guidance dude go on!!!!!!!

Amazing to see the simple ten steps, but keeping them in mind is more difficult. Change takes time, more important be yourself.

OMG the posture part is sooooo tru i cant beliv it, i actually have my shoulder back wenever i giv a speech in front of loads of people because i feel so scared amd show lack of confidence. i always think that if I have my shoulder up then people will presume that am big headed and i h8 the fact that i always take notice of what people say and not do the stuff that i like, its sooo frustrating.

Im really appreciate for this blog .From this time i want to change my lifestyle your 10 ways are very useful but two thing has problem in my opinion ,i need to more time for better thinking and next week i will explain for you with details.good job

I like this article, it helped me a lot. Thanks!

i have low self confidence in front of many people and when i share my emotions with friends and others’

Smart people learned how to get knowledge and wisdom

THAT WAS A VERY NICE AND USEFUL ARTICLE THAT I HAVE EVER READ!!!!!!
THANKS A LOT!!!!!!!!!

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i like this article, it makes good reading.

I like this articke so much, I hope it will help a lot of people

I love the article.

I would like to add some self confidence tips:

Let’s try something. Stand up (or at least sit up straight) and take a DEEP breath. As you breathe in so deeply it begins to hurt, allow your chest and stomach to protrude outward . Take in every last breath you can possibly fit. Hold it for 15 seconds to really extract all of the oxygen and then exhale slowly for 7 or 8 seconds.

Now that was a deep breath wasn’t it. You took everything you possibly could take in and yet how much is left around you? Would you agree that there is an abundance of air? Of course you would. This is the way that your life is too and you can live an abundant life!

That was so nice of you to share the above tips Some people are born confident and are always up for everything and some loose their confidence with time . I think the best way to overcome the feeling of low confidence is to recall the past occurrence when your confidence was high,that will certainly imbibe in you the faith which you had lost in yourself.
Here’s a fun test on this theme , hope you will enjoy taking it!
Am I Confident?
Do you believe in yourself and your ability to do things?
http://www.3smartcubes.com/pages/tests/confidence/confidence_instructions.asp

wow, this website REALLY helped me, i hope other people listen.my boyfriend says that hes seen a real difference.Thank you!

these suggestions will bring a great change i my life.

very good

IT IS ALWAYS GOOD TO MOTIVATE PEOPLE BECAUSE MOST PEOPLE ARE IGNORANT ABOUT LIFE AND FOR THAT MATTER THE NEED TO MOTIVATE PEOPLE TO DISCOVER THEIR POTENTIALS IN LIFE. I AM VERY CHALLENGED TO DO SOMETHING

Good article. I dont believe in instant staff, but this article proved me otherwise. Point on gratitude could use a bit of revision. A clearly defined vision always produce successful goals. I think a clear mental picture of what u want to achieve coupled with the gratitude concept wil produce more rewardin results.

Good Article….Many successful People are successful not just because of their knowledge but their ATTITUDE and ACTION, and the attitude of been confident is what is shared here….Positive and confident communicators are not born they are made, using techniques and strategies of the above values that already exist in one self…..These values are outlined here to become successful in one’s life be it from Business to an intimate relationship….

I was really motivated

this is really gud..
infact my of those points come in me..i need to develop the rest.n il surely make an attempt..:)

This is very useful article. Helped a lot!

i m very much in need of this article. nd i fond it really helpful. thanx a lot

i’m feeling confident already while reading this article and i hope i,ll be more confident and its awsm

Great site, but you have to remember that there are several types of introversion, and mine is, by far the worst. I don’t think I could do any of these tips, I think the mountain is too high to climb, but I love the fact that there are people trying to make life easier for us. I wrote a blog (blog was one of the suggestions but nobody has read it so it’s clearly not working) about one such experience on the website. It’s a rare window into how difficult it can be.

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This is a very good article. And this is very useful in making ur selfconfidence.
Thanks……..

thank you……………this article is very helpful and gave me the way to build up self confidence…

very good article

great article .. i only have problems in 5 and 8 , rest of the things i do but still …. and one more problem ,i think alot before doing anything . thanks anyway

Within the spectrum of what or who you are, there is always what or who you were and within the spectrum of what or who you would be, there is always what or who you are. All are intertwined: the past, the present and the future, but always look at the future with a difference. Hardwork and optimism are the words!

Good suggestions. Check out http://www.newselfesteem.com for more information on proven methods used to build self esteem and self confidence.

this is good one! thanks alot

Some good advice and common sense here, mixed in with some questionable:

” People with confidence walk quickly. ” Not necessarily. Walking quickly can make one look like a slave to the schedule, or stressed, or under someone else’s authority. A slow measured walk can display confidence just as well if not more so. The world can wait.

Anyway, a good move. Posture, speaking up, being willing to make mistakes, all valuable. The emphasis on gratitude, compliments, and contribution are also very important antidotes to rudeness and self-centeredness. We should be confident, but also always aware that we are interconnected and interdependent.

This is a good one. Self confidence is a key to successful living

I want to self Confidence

love it i think ill try it….

Mike Larookie-your being a bit judgemental, NOT everyone or place in the U.S is materialistic, you saying that makes you sound ignorant.
I dont need to belittle or bash other countries to make myself feel better and im pretty sure thats not helping your self confidence in a positive way.
This page is pretty vague which makes it more versatile, its a good way, i believe, to help those who need a self confidence boost and to get started in the right direction for positive self feelings. If people are visiting this website, including myself, then they are trying to do something to help themselves and i think its great that there is information like this on the web!

I never thought I could possibly come across an article on boosting self-confidence and must admit that I learnt a lot.I am a student in Limkokwing Varsity in Botswana

Thanks for the tips, they seem easy to use

I always try to dress neat/ clean, fix my hair and make up the best possible and FORGET IT!

If I go to the pool in my suit, even if I don’t exactly love how I look in it, I say ‘scr*w it!’ and dive in! who cares how i look, anyway. Did I come to win a fashion show? no i came to swim and have fun. It’s such a downer when people are too self preoccupied to be in the moment.

I just want to tell people, ‘come on! life’s too short!’

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feeling great about yourself is the best feeling ever!

nice article…self confident people can achieve great success in life…

ya its working very nice steps

really wonderful steps and i am follwoing right now

heY! thank you so much! i’m starting to follow these right now!!

No. 10 is suggested in the Bible about success.

if you have loose your self confidence first you share your problems or you can not share your problem then write in a paper because you share your problem it is decrease your problem level and support to other way so share your thoughts.

this steps not very easy.weak people can not do it.This is my opinion

really found a good one after a long search

i ws badly needing it.. thnkx a lot…

hey these tips are really useful…. they are actually a boost to everyone.

This is an interesting article about the various aspects of confidencce. I have recently read a book which would support some of the statements but also it challenges some of the comments too. Well worth a read if you get the chance. The book is called Inspirational Leadership, the guy also rights a blog which also has some interesting views on management styles

I’m too shy to speak out loud in crowds or do presentations in front of people. So this may really help me bring my confidence level up.
Thank you. =)

Thank u for a valuable information about self confident

Not sure who has plagiarised who but this information is identical to ezine article…ummm – doesnt anybody in the states have anything new and fresh to say?

Good suggestions. Check out http://www.newselfesteem.com for more information on proven methods used to build self esteem and self confidence.

Mind blowing article…

Very good suggestion. I am impressed

i like too much this suggestion and i should be develope my confident level by adopting this all things its very important to build our currier life.

Well done
Nice style of telling some difficult points in an easy way, I hope you will write more useful articles on building the confidence issue.

Many of us don’t know importance to build our self confidence and how we can improve our confidence.

Your tips are powerful enough to motivate one and to build one’s self confidence instantly, especially your point of view to build confidence form compliments, speech, dress and posture.

But I am really unable to understand how can self confidence is improved by
“Walking faster” and “focusing on contribution”.

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On my oppinion, reaaaally vague techniques and ineffective techniques have been offered here…..I do not agree with walk faster thing…..WALK SLOWER….do things slower. First you’ll have the time to think about things while you’re doing them and what should be the next thing to do and second a self confident person in as an independant person, master of his/her time. You have calculated how long you’ll need to go somewhere. Of course to make yourself important in the eyes of somebody you can always say that you are very busy or you don’t have the time, but I thought the main goal of the article si to make yourself important and meaningfull in you own eyes…….;)

I could add to that from my own experience….
1. Spend some more time infront of the mirror and try to correct whatever you do not like in your outlook and try to understand how cool you actually are.
2. GO TO THE GYM. First it takes the stress away and it gives you very good positive vibe and even your body is tired your mind is rested and stress hase been pushed out. And finally in couple of months when you look stand infront of the mirror you will see how cool you really are.
3. Be different than the others. I am not talking about beeing outsider or something like that, but just try to show with some details in your stile in your way of talking and remebmer that this is your unique thing. It is what makes you different than everyone else. And knowing that you’re different in some positive way is enough to make you feel more confident…..:)
There are many many things but I beleive that people wil find their own trikcs of knowing that they are worth talking to once they go down this road….:)

its very nice and basic thing to build selfconfidence

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very well said and impressive suggestions regarding self confidence, it will help alot.
Jazakallah
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i am here to just ans the objection of emo that walking fast doesn’t works, i agree that it doesnt works always but it works to build confidence, many of times slow walking effect on this

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It’s a very good suggesion. I’ve started following it.

All very well for the able body, but what about people with physical disabilities who cannot walk fast or have a good posture? I am one of these people and I suffer from lack of self confidence on a grand scale. How do I improve myself from a wheelchair?

its good ive learned a lot!! Thanks…!

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Some of them may help you.

But no 10 steps, there is only one way for instilling self confidence. Just progress in your job, profession, position or whatever you want by planning. Once you achieve it, the light comes from within. You are standing erect and walking quickly but constantly failing in your work life. Eventually you would again loose your confidence.

I feel really confident when a bunch of cash is in my pocket

Great article

It is a great step to help cowheart people.

Listen guys, I’ve read a bunch of spiritual books, bought a ton of self help. This advice right here is IT. If you just apply what is right here, I’m absolutely sure the many other pieces will fall in place. You’ll probably start taking care of yourself better, being more present, cultivating genuine love, eating healthier, and start gaining spiritual depth. Drop all those self help programs if you can just DO what is being said right here. I truly feel the person who wrote this is genuinely confident in a rare way. Peace and love yall!

i read your topics, they are all intersting. am impressed. Thanks alot

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These concepts are so simple yet powerful! Thanks for the reminder! Application is key! I’ll be sure to make these practices something I add to my daily actions!

nice tips… but i don’t agree with walking faster
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Here’s a comment I wrote on Linkedin which I thought I’d share with you…

Confidence is a result. It is built through time like any learning process. It requires action to get the ball rolling…the rest in my experience tends to fall in to place if you’re committed to it. We all start out shaky…that’s just life. For a longtime I used to believe I had to be perfect – that stops confidence dead! Nikes ‘just do it’ phrase has some real merit and I also appreciate it doesn’t always feel easy. Sometimes, if it’s really important you just have to do it and ignore those thoughts that say you can’t or you’re not good enough, because it’s your thinking that creates the fear. Nothing else…fear is a self created illusion.A poor use of the magic you have available in your imagination.

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Good ways to improve self confidence, at times when we feel low. But, to maintain a long lasting confidence levels, one must develop a complete strong personality.

Finding the above ways interesting, will definately try these to change my way of looking at things.

take care

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excellent advice, thanks.

I think this article is really good n everyone who has lost his/her confidence or wanted to build confidence shud read it and also try to implement.While reading i came to know that i have lost my confidence n i need to use ur tips of confidence,thanks for your help this site and initiotor is really doing good job,i appretiate ur work!

thank you so much! Its a great help for those who are in fear to express their self . Yeah.. we need to gain more confidence so that in the end there are no regrets and sorrow. god bless!

VERY NICE AND GRACEFUL SUGGESTIONS….
SURELY I’LL FOLLOW IT
THANKS!!!!!!

Great list! Perfect to use as a daily or weekly quick reminder.

i really like this as it help me in getting boost up

Everything you have said here will work to create a better self esteem. I love it!

I especially like what you said about “your perception of yourself will have an enormous impact on how others see you”. This is SO true.

If you change the way you see yourself, you can most defitely help to change the way others see you too!

What a great blog!

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How inspirational, thanks for helping us discover how best we can motivate and carry ourselves i see a great change in me.

Really i inspire when i read these all things.

its very nice msg for every one .thanks

its really great msg towards confusion…..

i learned a lot very thankfull to u……..

i also lack self confidence..confuse in front of people, especially who are elders.i hope this page will help me in building my confidence..thanx a lot

I have a big issue I can’t trust nobody and I’m married but I can’t even trust my husband am I not normal or what is it cause I’m beautiful and that I know but somebody help me cause its driving me crazy and I don’t know what I should do.

nice post

I am writing a series of posts that discusses becoming more outgoing and self-confident.  I really like what you have to say, and feel that it goes a long way in helping people develop self-confidence.  I’d love it if you would check out my blog at http://www.online-dating-mastery.com/?p=1776 and let me know what you think.  I work as a dating coach in my normal 9-5, and find that many men suffer from a lack of self-confidence and in turn aren’t outgoing enough to attract the people they want into their lives.  It’s something that we all have to work on.  Thank you–JT  

i hope this is gonna help me wid my problems…really liked it…some of them even matched with me for who i am..I’ll do my best/..thnk u..n thumbs uo

Great article, I only do six of those things and feel that my confidence level is good. People who have self-esteem and confidence issues should really give this a read.

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