Sometimes confidence is everything.
It can make people like us a few seconds after they’ve met us, it can make others respect us without knowing us. It can make a whole room of people listen to us carefully and believe our words only because we’re saying it confidently enough. It can also cause fear or make others feel inferior to us.
In the communication between two people there is always one who sets the rules and decides the direction of the conversation, who subconsciously influences his opponent’s actions (even if they both don’t realize it).
Basically, confidence helps you be that person and win battles and arguments without the need of even saying something.
That doesn’t mean you’re a bad person.
You may be humble, shy, an introvert, or else. But in today’s world that means you’re often trampled and you’re rights are being violated.
Confidence can get you out of that trap.
It is a unique quality that makes you look and sound better, stronger and what you say will almost always be accepted.
Being confident in yourself means believing in your abilities and potential, and this is a great thing. Because even when you fake it, you actually start believing and that improves your performance, you start seeing yourself in a different way and can now achieve much more. You’re motivated, certain in your in what you do and know how to show that.
We can all benefit from a little boost of confidence every now and then. So here are a few quick and easy exercises that can help you motivate yourself and accept your strong qualities:
- Think of a moment when you felt extremely confident. Remember a time when you won something, passed a difficult exam, received a compliment, looked great, were in a better shape, got a promotion and so on.
Visualize the picture and try to really feel the emotions and thoughts you were filled with at that moment. Recall it with every detail.
What were you thinking about? How were others looking at you?
Remember the smell and noises around you. How did you feel? What was your posture and what did your eyes radiate?
Great power and confidence, I’d say.
- When you encounter a situation in which you want to take control:
Take a deep breath, put a big smile on your face, stand up and look your opponent straight in the eyes.
Body language can work wonders when you don’t know what to say and do or how to react to something.
Doing this immediately gives your brain a signal that you have a reason to be confident in yourself and it needs to keep that state for now.
- Think of a role model – someone you really look up to, respect and admire. Then play a little game in your mind pretending to be him for a minute.
Speak and act like him and make yourself believe that you really have what he has. Now you are invincible, nothing can get in your way – not the person in front of you now, or your boss, colleagues … no one.
- Try the Mirror Technique.
- Write it out – this task seeks to establish the importance of loving yourself for who you are, defining your strengths and advantages and increasing your confidence.
Write about yourself and how you look, but ignore all the things you don’t like about your appearance, or just find their positive side.
Describe the color of your hair, your beautiful eyes, teeth and skin. Maybe you find your arms or legs well shaped, have tip-tilted nose, like your hands, nails. Write it down if you are slim, tall, if your ears aren’t big, if your skin isn’t pale.
Now add to that every compliment you’ve ever received on how you look. Keep in mind that other people like things in you that you often can’t stand or take for granted. Some may even be jealous of you. So try to see yourself from another point of view.
Remember that time when a friend of yours told you that you look great in blue? Write that down.
Also don’t forget to mention how charming you are on your latest photos on Facebook.
Maybe someone likes the way you smile or how you wear your hair. Think of what your husband/wife/boyfriend/girlfriend (or ex) likes about you?
The next step is to note down your good qualities, traits, bold deeds you’ve done and what others adore about you as a person – if you have a positive personality, if you’re funny, serious, determined, loyal, reliable, quiet, practical, tidy, adaptable, etc.
You think you are a good parent? Add that to the list.
Or maybe someone told you that you’re smart, helpful, polite or else. Write that too.
Now take a look at all you’ve written and stand in front of a mirror. Read everything out loud and try to really mean it. Realize how beautiful you are and what a great person you’ve become. Love yourself for who you are, because to go any further in your personal development, you’ll first have to appreciate the things you have now.
Each of these simple strategies can be very powerful when practiced daily. I truly believe in the importance of making it a habit.
Once probably won’t work, or will have a short-term effect. But spending 5 minutes a day, every day, will be a huge step in your self-improvement.
This is just a small part of all the ways that exist for boosting your confidence. What others do you use or have heard of?
Lidiya K. is a writer and blogger in the fields of self-improvement, life hacking, human potential and minimalism. She’s the creator of Let’s Reach Success , where her mission is to motivate and inspire and think of creative and unusual ways to overcome fear, procrastination, insecurity, clutter, failure, overthinking, discontent and much more.