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Why is Asking ‘Why’ Important in Life?

When you’re a child ‘why’ is a question regularly, from the most obvious of questions to the more complicated.  It’s a part of growing up and, although somewhat frustrating when asked regularly, it’s what children do.  There is a fascination with life, a pure curiosity about all the things as adults, we take for granted.

It’s at this wonderful time of life, questions, challenging behavior and curiosity, will be at the forefront of any child’s interaction with the world. Its positive behavior encouraged greatly and, although difficult to deal with at times, it’s a part of life and helps to grow children into adults.  The information given and retained will create a belief system for the child, create its values internally and externally and will shape their future thinking and actions.

So why do we grow into adults and stop asking the question ‘why’?

It’s amazing isn’t it?  We’ve gone through school, we’ve maybe gone to college, university perhaps, got a job, maybe married with children yet the one thing we kind of forget to do on this journey called life is ask more questions, especially the question why?   I guess in some way, we do what we do because everyone else is doing it, we get up, go to work, go to a job (we most likely don’t even like), drive home, eat, watch TV (or go on the internet) and the go to bed.  OK, that’s probably a complete generalization, but how often do you ask the question ‘why’ about your life? Why you do what you do and what happened to our natural curiosity and the eagerness to ask ‘why?

Personally I love to question things, but I’ve not always been like that.  A year or two ago I just did as everyone else did; I breezed through life not questioning a single thing and wondered why I felt unhappy about my life.  Now, I question most things, I don’t always believe what I read or hear and I’ve learned to ask why, listen to the response and then learned from it.  I’ve grown substantially from simply asking why, with that in mind I’ve put together a few reasons on why asking why is a good thing.

It’s very good for your health

It’s about being conscious, being mindful and aware of your actions on a daily basis.  When was the last time you actually looked at your daily routine, and ask why you do the same thing every single day?   It’s like we are on automatic pilot, like zombies going from one thing to the next not even giving it a second thought.  Don’t you think that’s unhealthy?  The fact that you don’t even question it, is it just that you just do what you do because it’s what you’ve always done, even though it might be stressful, it might mean you are eating the wrong things or going to a job you hate every day just because you don’t know what else to do.

Your health is probably one of the most crucial things in your life, it’s means looking after your mental state and your physical body which is, by the way, one of the most magnificent machines you will ever own.  It’s up to you to look after it because you have only one chance at this, asking questions because of your health has to be down to you don’t you think?

It’s absolutely essential for your happiness

Challenging things, questioning the status quo is critical for your happiness.  Asking yourself regularly ‘am I happy with this’ or asking ‘why’ of others is a great way to communicate not only with yourself but outsiders too.  It’s important to get clarity on your own motivations as well as others and a great way to check in with your ‘happiness gage’.

Life, as we know it, can be lived up to a ripe old age, if you are lucky, so it’s necessary to ask questions to find out if you are on the right track and then make some changes if necessary.  We all want to be happy don’t we? Start by asking why more and focussing on the stuff that brings you happiness rather than the stuff that doesn’t.

It’s a requirement for growth

When we ask questions specifically why, we get to learn something about ourselves.  Our response, tells us what we think we already know and what our core beliefs and values are.  For example, if you ask someone ‘why did you do that’ and the response is something that goes against your belief system, you may react in a negative way towards that person.  Being mindful of our own reactions can tell us a lot about ourselves especially in terms of how we see ourselves, good or bad.

Questioning with our minds open will enhance what we may already believe or indeed create an arena for consideration of other points of view and could lead to change.  This is where growth comes in, it can stretch our thinking in ways we perhaps would have never have experienced before.

Asking why can lead to wonderful exchanges of conversation and views, which in turn educates and stimulates the mind.  This kind of living can be powerful because it keeps the mind fresh, open and free just like a child’s.

Asking why can change a situation in an instant, it can create all sorts of wonderful new opportunities and open doors you never even knew were closed.  If I could give one gift to everyone that would be the conscious existence whilst living on this planet, as it is through our questioning of what currently stands that we learn and experience what life might become in the future.

Life for me is a never ending experience, an all en-compassing conscious decision to live a happy and passionate life and to do that we have to ask why more often, of ourselves, of others and of society.

Are you ready to ask why again?

Paula loves people and connecting across the world.  She has spent most of her life trying to fit resulting in years of pain.  Now that she has found her freedom her work now is to share those experiences. It is her intention help others growth by realizing their uniqueness; that we are here to something magnificent with our lives and to do things only they can do.  A life without growth is hardly a life at all… You can find her at The Daily Grow 







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