This blog post will be a little different. It’s going to be a little harsh even. So expect some form of controversy.
Let me say it: Just stop trying to be happy already
Stop trying so darn hard. Just stop it.
I know you want to be happy. We all do. Happiness is that very thing we live for or gives our lives meaning.
But is happiness really there is to life? Should we only aim to be happy?
Well guess what you…
… you may be doing it wrong all along.
The chase is what you’re doing wrong
You can’t chase happiness. You just can’t.
It’ll be never ending, and with that, extremely taxing on you. Chasing happiness is simply loading yourself up with expectations thinking that you’ll be happy only if you get something.
But life doesn’t work that way. Why do you think so many people still feel so unhappy and unsatisfied despite working so hard to get what they initially wanted?
That’s why you shouldn’t try to be happy. Don’t even start with your head. Don’t start the thoughts that make you think you need a certain amount things to be happy.
Just stop it already. It’s time to relax.
You can’t filter reality
Many people today think that in order to be happy, it’s about blocking out the negativity or unhappiness others or the world bring to you.
To a certain extent, that is true, and it can work that way.
But you can’t filter reality. You shouldn’t make it your life’s work to prevent unhappiness in order to be happy.
That is like trying to create this protective bubble around you, hoping that it wouldn’t burst at all.
That is how you get paranoid. That is how you become anxious and wish that life doesn’t change for you.
Just stop that already. Simply accept that this is life.
It’s not that life is bad. It’s just that things don’t go as planned all the time. THAT is life. Period.
So be cool. Maintain a balanced and healthy outlook on life. Don’t be deluded. The world’s problems aren’t your problems.
Keep your conscience clear at all times, and you’re good. That shouldn’t be hard, right?
Just be happy
Happiness is a choice.
You know this!
Are you choosing it at all times? Are you taking responsibility for your emotions? Are you laying blame on others?
Are you still chasing?
Maybe it’s time you do something different. Everybody has been telling you to chase. Maybe it’s time you cut that out.
It may seem counter-intuitive, but that’s the point. It’s about doing something different so you can feel something different.
Relax. Be your own person. You’re not a bad person. There’s nothing wrong with you. Do you not know that just by being yourself, life will appreciate you and want to GIVE you happiness?
So why chase? Why try so hard? Why put your body through so much?
Just stop already. Attract love, good vibes and happiness.
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