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With the economy being as tough as it is, and so many people struggling to find work, including many who will read this, it’s very easy to fall into a dark hole of depression and despair. How will I find another job… when will I find another job? How will I pay the bills, feed my kids, afford the rent? When will this economy improve… will it EVER improve? As we spend hour upon hour on Craigslist and other sites searching for jobs, sending our resumes into a black hole called the internet, these are the questions that crowd our minds.
Then, of course, there is the interview process. Our hopes held high with that first phone call: “We were looking over your resume and really like what we see…” only to be shattered later with the second or third call (or better yet, a very impersonal email): “After going through the interview process, we have decided to go with another candidate whose skill set best fits the qualifications of the position. We wish you the best of luck in your on-going search for employment.”
It’s almost worse than getting laid-off. Rejection is never easy. Uncertainty never comfortable. Unemployment never fun. Or is it? Could it be? If we looked at it from a different perspective, is it possible to find an upside in all of this?
Maybe so.
Think about your life before your first job. What was your dream? Not your goal nor your plans, but your dream… that far away, far-fetched idea that you spent nights discussing with your friends in college, or discussing with yourself as your mind wandered in art history class. I wanted to write for a fashion magazine. (And save the world.) My girlfriend wanted to be Christiane Amanpour, traveling through the worst parts of the world exposing injustice and crimes against humanity. I’m unemployed now… she’s a mother of two.
So… could that terrible blow to our egos when we get axed from a job we sort of hated anyway actually be a blessing, a wake-up call that it’s time to do what we want to do? And not what we think we should be doing?
Instead of focusing our attention on all the terrible things about being unemployed, here are a few reasons why it actually isn’t so bad:
1. We can wake up in the morning and think to ourselves that ANYTHING is possible.
Gone are the days where our entire day, week, year… lives… are scheduled by the hour. Instead of waking up at 5am – heading to the gym for a 45 minute workout, back home to shower, in the car by 7:30 and at the office by 8:45-9am depending on traffic – we can finally wake up and enjoy the silence. We can finally wake up and enjoy the possibilities that the new day will bring to us. Maybe I’ll do yoga, or cook a magnificent dinner for my lover, maybe I’ll start writing that book I’ve always wanted to write, or paint or sculpt or walk on the beach… or maybe, just maybe, I’ll lay in bed all day because it’s been 15 years since I’ve had the chance to do it. The point is that we can finally decide how to spend our day because it’s no longer incrementally mapped out for us by the hour. Better yet, we finally have the option not to decide at all, but rather to float. We can let the day take us where it wants, rather than trying to control the hands on the clock and wishing hours away just so we can finally escape the office.
2. There’s finally time for exercise!
Gyms love to advertise with reverse psychology- which is just a diplomatic term for guilt. “Don’t use your job as an excuse to avoid the gym… or over eat and gain weight.” Ha! I’m wondering if any of those fitness trainers have ever had to work a 40-60 hour week, as well as cook dinner for their kids, walk the dog, get the kids to bed and then clean up after their mess. Unemployment, as difficult as it is, is the perfect “me” time. Get out there and bike… or go on a hike… or join the gym. Take a walk with your spouse for the first time in 20 years. Start to get fit together and go home to make yourselves a delightfully healthy lunch rather than grabbing some fast food on a lunch break! This is some much needed down time, a time to focus on you. Get those endorphins pumping and your mood will begin to enhance as quickly as your waistline begins to decrease.
3. Volunteer
One of the best ways to feel better about yourself is by helping another who is in greater need. Even if for only one day of your unemployment, take that time to give your time to someone else. Feed the homeless, read a book to school children, become someone’s mentor. Volunteering is such a fulfilling act of kindness… and the rewards are immeasurable. We all need to be reminded sometimes that things could always be worse… and for many, they are.
4. You can finally be your own boss.
Have you ever dreamed of owning your own business? Or maybe working from home? It can be very liberating to finally have control of your time. You have flexibility and a better balance between your personal and professional time. Whether you choose to embark on an entrepreneurial journey or find yourself another job in a company, it is important to take this time of unemployment to get to know yourself, and your needs thereby becoming the boss of your own life.
The most important thing to keep in mind is that you will find a job again. You will get hired again. This economy is cyclical, and we are due for the upswing. In the meantime, try to fill the downtime with positivity and pro-activity. Get to know yourself, so that when you do find a new job it will not define you, but you will define the job… and where this new venture fits into your life.
Good luck and enjoy the ride!
Melisa Verrecchia is a Guest Blogger for PickTheBrain and a freelance writer.
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When you wake up worried about how not to be evicted this month, if you’ll have enough gas money to get to the occasional half day gigs you’ve been lucky enough to get for slightly better than minimum wage, another day of pasta for your only meal (thank heavens for pasta!)and forget about visiting anyone for the holidays, you do not wake up in this delighted trance you so eloquently describe! What you describe is when you may be unemployed and still have funds to support you.
Great article…a really nice spin on a really shitty situation. @Morgan I get how you feel but all of us who are in the same unemployment boat are facing the same depressing challenges, it is refreshing to be encouraged to look at a bad situation and try and find some of the positive. I think having this attitude might even get us back to work quicker!!
It’s just a matter of time…
This article is amazing! What a wonderful way to keep people motivated! Perfect for the New Year! As long as there is a sense of positivity, anything remains possible. Thanks for the words of encouragement and the light thus shed on seemingly dark times….
Great post! Indeed, losing a job is not the end of the world, and may in fact be a golden opportunity to put your life in place. Thanks Melisa.
Melisa – great job. Love the fresh and relevant spin on the lemonade theory. Especially love the ‘anything is possible’ reminder. Thanks for sharing your perspective. Looking forward to future articles from you.
Hello Everyone!
Thanks so much for reading… much appreciated! Coincidently, I just got laid off last night which will make it three times in one year! I’ve just come to a point where I have no choice but to TRY to remain positive. I have my bad days too, though. Morgan, I completely understand your position, and greatly respect your point of view. I know there is a very grim reality that many people are facing, and this article was not meant in any way to ignore those people, nor make light of their situation. I’m just trying to keep a smile on my face and my mind sharp during this very difficult time, and thought I’d share a few ways I do it with the rest of the job seekers in this world. To any of you who might be currently unemployed, I wish you the very best of luck in 2010. Happy New Year to all! And again, thanks for reading!
I didn’t know of many who can still keep their smiles when they lost their job. You’re a rare one, Melisa. Keep your head up and all the best.
For those that have their basic needs in place (food, shelter), it’s great. For those that don’t, it sucks.
I’m a fan of making dreams happen and living your values … I also get how some people are in brutal survival mode now and I empathize.
At the end of the day, perspective is a powerful thing, so change the frame, change the game.
nice post. thanks.
very nice post and it arrived in the right time, i know lots of people who have been laid off and who would love to hear that
Sometimes it’s really that simple, isn’t it? I feel a little stupid for not thinking of this myself/earlier, though.
I have recently been laid off and I am learning to find myself again. What do I like to do? What can I see myself doing? I have been going to the gym to refresh my mind and body. I am nervous financially, but I think the break is good for me to re-align some core values. Thanks for this article.
-Jenna
Hey there Jenna,
I am so sorry to hear about you being laid off… I know exactly how you feel in regards to the financial concerns you face. It seems, on certain days, that no matter how much yoga I do or how long my walk is along the beach on a sunny day, that dark cloud of money worries is always looming. Are you able to collect unemployment? While it certainly isn’t a means to sustain oneself, it definitely helps.
I will be sending all my positive vibes your way in the hopes that you find a fantastic new job soon… and a refreshed, re-aligned and re-vitialized new you even sooner!
Good luck!
Melisa
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