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Post-traumatic Growth: What Research Says About Why Some Grow While Others Break In The Face of Adversity

Have you ever heard of inspiring stories where people rise to impossible challenges and triumph? I’ve always wondered what gave them the resilience few others possess.

Lindsay Fox, Australia’s 10th richest person in Australia, grew up with an abusive father. So did Christina Aguilera (celebrity), Tina Turner (celebrity), Gloria Steinem (writer), Billy Hudson (entrepreneur & Professor), Maya Angelou (author and poet) and of course, the most famous example, Oprah Winfrey.

Yet we hear very little of what psychologists call “posttraumatic growth”. For example, a casual survey by Martin Seligman from the University of Pennsylvania, found that only 10% of his respondents are aware of the term. What is more widely known (97%) is its evil twin: post-traumatic disorder.

And that, he said, is the first problem: if you are aware only of the bad consequences of adversity, you’ll assume that’s where you are headed. This is why most people live life to avoid traumas.

When an awful event does happen – some of which, of course, are inevitable – they’ll actually talk themselves into depression. It is, after all, the only reaction you know of.

What more people need to be aware of is that growth, or at least resilience, is actually the normal reaction. If you experience anger, bitterness, grief and/or bursts into tears when something awful happens, that doesn’t mean you’re “going under”.

It just means you’re human.

7 More Factors of Posttraumatic Growth

Recognizing the growth potential of adversity is but one factor of posttraumatic growth. A number of research studies have since been conducted and here are 6 more factors that may explain why some grow while others break:

1. Spirituality

A study published in 2008 by psychologists O’Rourke, Tallman and Altmaier found that spirituality is highly correlated with posttraumatic growth. There are a few “common sense” explanations, but your guess is as good as mine.

So they did a follow up study and found that forgiveness predicted posttraumatic growth. Want to grow out of a trauma? Let go revenge and hatred.

2. Social Support

Those who suffer alone are more likely to break, researchers have found. But unfortunately, males tend to grief alone in an effort to hide vulnerability – making them lesslikelytogrowafteratrauma.

Those who surround themselves with supportive people, on the other hand, are more likely to come out stronger when an adversity hits. And if you think only friends and families can do that for you, think again.

Support from those who have had your experience can be just as helpful – even if those people are strangers. Back in the day, this takes the form of bereavement groups. Today, it can be a Facebook group or an online community.

3. Opportunity For Emotional Disclosure

A peculiar thing pops out when you read stories about those who thrive after an abuse. Almost always, there’s someone in their life they can talk to. For Oprah, it was her mother (who was also being abused by her husband). For others, it was a sibling, a neighbour or a best friend.

As it turns out, the opportunity for emotional disclosure is a huge factor in post-traumatic growth. Being able to “let it out”, matters big time.

But here’s the surprising finding that comes out of the studies: you don’t even need another person for emotional disclosure. You can write in a diary or talk into a recorder. And all you need is 30 minutes a day.

4. Narrative Changes

Whether you grow or you break after an adversity depends largely on how you view it. For example, if you think being fired is a rite of passage to your destiny, you’ll naturally feel better about it.

The people around you are the most common source of such narrative changes. When people are facing an adversity, they are usually too busy to see another point of view – it takes a third party to point it out.

Other common sources of narrative changes: books. For example, if you read about how Colonel Sanders failed to sell his chicken recipe for years, it can make you feel better about losing your job. Who needs those greedy jerks, right?

5. Take Decisive Actions

People who take decisive actions are more likely to grow out of trauma. Decisive action means they do something about their situation.

For example, disaster survivors who become actively involved in rebuilding the community are more likely to grow out of the experience than those who wallow on their losses. This is also true for cancer survivors who begin to live a healthier lifestyle and the unemployed who starts his/her own business.

So what’s the decisive action to take when you lose someone close? Grieve! There’s this unspoken expectation in the society about grief: people should recover after a certain period of time, men shouldn’t cry, you should keep it private, etc.

These expectations often prevent decisive actions and thus lower the likelihood of posttraumatic growth.

6. Avoid Substance Abuse

Last but not least, avoid substance abuse at all cost post trauma. Substance abuse is not restricted to illegal drugs, alcohol or otherwise obviously harmful substances. It can be something as simple as sugar.

Contrary to popular belief, eating ice cream after a break up doesn’t lift you out of depression. If anything, it keeps you in.

There are a couple of reasons why: not only does sugar uses up mood enhancing B vitamins, it also drains your body of chromium, which is crucial in keep your blood sugar level stable. A crash in your blood sugar level would make you feel… well, depressed.

And if you can’t FEEL good, you simply can’t grow.

Andrianes Pinantoan is part of the team behind Open Colleges. When not working, he can be found on Cerebral Hacks, where he blogs about psychology and neuroscience.

Photo credit: ‘Flower in Asphalt’ by Big Stock

  • Andrianes Pinantoan

    A quick shout out to Erin: Thanks for publishing my guest post!

  • martyhu

    This article is just plain really good. 

    • Andrianes Pinantoan

      Thanks Martyhu!

  • http://www.discoveryourpeace.com/ Eri

    Oh, so there’s a name for it … PTG.  I was involved in a near fatal car accident some years back, a very traumatic and dark time.  It turned out to be a pivotal period in my life; I chose the route “I will grow and won’t be defeated by this incident”. 

    Well done, Andrianes … your post is concisely on point.  I can relate to every item on the list.

    • Andrianes Pinantoan

      Glad you liked it Eri!

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  • Kanchana Randika

    Thanx for sharing nice advices.

  • http://www.easyfinancialtips.com/time-or-money-which-do-you-value-more/ Johnny@Easy Financial Tips

    Thank you for this article. I think so much of what happens to you after a trauma is whether or not you want to recover. Like anything, if you feel that depression, not having money to keep a roof over your head,  or not living a normal life after getting cancer is not an option, you’re mind will start exploring options for recovery. You just have to want it. You are right, society sort of tells us to accept being down. But if you want to rise above the negative things that happen to us and truly be an example for others, you can’t see any other choice but recovery.

  • Becjeanne

    wow. i had no idea….this makes so much sense. thank you…

  • http://www.facebook.com/vanya.t.dixit Vanya Tewari Dixit

    Lovely insight into dealing with trauma !

  • Gricel09

    This is a great insight on how to deal with trauma…..from my personal experience, after experiencing a very traumatic event years ago, being able to talk about it and surrounding myself with a strong support system definitely helped me through it all. To all those reading this article who are dealing with trauma, know that you can get through it. Take action and move in a positive direction with your life, you deserve it ;)

    -Jenny

  • http://twitter.com/alanasheeren Alana Sheeren

    Great article Andrianes. I’ve been talking and writing about posttraumatic growth (though I rarely use the technical name) for the last year after experiencing it first hand with the stillbirth of my son in 2010. I’m passionate about helping people realize that it’s a probably outcome BEFORE they go into a grief experience – or as quickly as possible once they’re in it. I appreciate everyone who is a part of this conversation – we need to shout it from the rooftops!

  • http://twitter.com/alanasheeren Alana Sheeren

    For some reason it didn’t use my info when it posted the comment below. I didn’t mean for it to be anonymous. :)

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