Adversity

Overcoming Adversity

Do you ever think that there is no end to the problems you face? Do you feel that with each step forward, adverse circumstances pull you two steps back? If so, then welcome to the majority. Most people feel the same way.A wise person rightly said that pain is inevitable but suffering is optional. You have to decide how much suffering your pain is going to inflict upon yourself and those around you.Here are a few ways of thinking that will help you turn adversity into a postive experience.

Adversity is a Symptom, Not a Cause

Frequently adversity is a symptom of some other, deeper problem. You just lost your job, and you may think this is a devastating turn of events. But do you try to figure out why you lost a job? What made you so dispensable? Was it the right career for you?Similarly, if you are sick or your loved one is sick, try to figure out why the sickness has happened. Is it your lifestyle? Is it the environment around you? Is it simply your attitude?As physical pain is a symptom of some malady, your adversity is a symptom of another problem. Although your first priority is to handle the current situation, you should make a mental note of the source of the problem. Unless you solve it, you’ll keep getting into similar situations.

Adversity is a Lesson

The busyness of our lives doesn’t allow us time to pause and appreciate the people we have around us. Adversity often awakens us to the treasures that are far more important than money and material possession: our health, our family and our friends.Sudden financial losses teach us that we shouldn’t base our happiness on money. An illness teaches us to be humble and lead a healthy life. A sudden loss in the family makes us appreciate the cycle of birth, life and death. Such things may seem superficial, but you should learn from adversities if you don’t want them to control your life.

Adversity is Guidance

Sometimes adversity comes to your life to suggest that it’s time to change course. For example, when someone leaves you there is no use sulking and blaming yourself (and even the other person, frankly). Instead you should take it as a sign that a newer and more enlightened relationship should be sought that is more meaningful or constructive. Or maybe you should invest your time in other pursuits for the time being.”I was complaining that I had no shoes till I met a man who had no feet,” Confucius said, and this is so true. Rather than getting bogged down with our own problems we should pay attention to people who happily survive, and even prosper, despite all odds. When you open your eyes and have a look at the larger world, you’ll be happy to know how well life has treated you.This is a guest post by Amrit Hallan. Amrit has just begun sharing his thoughts on life at Lifeonomy and maintains a how-to blog at HowToPlaza where he publishes links to the latest how-to blog posts and articles from all over the web.

  • http://www.facingthesharks.com Shark Girl

    Great article. I’ve spent the past four years trying to learn law because adversity hit me, took away my government contracting career and I lost everything, including my my home, business and friends.

    It also took me those four years to realize I have to move on and find another career, which I chose art and am now pursuing that path even though I still have to learn laws.

    Still not sure yet what I’m going to do with law. It’s the most difficult thing I’ve ever attempted to learn.

    Been kicking and screaming for many years about adversity in my life, but then I also remember our soldiers fighting for my freedom and I can’t imagine being in their shoes. I’m thankful for them and have nothing to whine about in comparison to the adversity in their lives.

    • Larrystaley07

      I am also facing adversity right now, but appears not to your degree.  Lost my job just in August and now twice unemployed in 2011 (won’t look back at this year very fondly).  I will deal with this and move on, but to lose your home, business, and friends, is overwhelming.  You had no family or friends during this time that could have minimized some of this impact?

      Thanks.
      Larry Staley

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    Great article! Overcoming adversities are always challenging and I do appreciate your comments you made on this post. Especially “When you open your eyes and have a look at the larger world, you’ll be happy to know how well life has treated you.” as so many times we forget that living in itself is a wonderful thing. Thank you so much for the great pointers as well. Well written. Please also come by and hang out my blog Motivate Within that is dedicated to EMPOWERING individuals with resources to overcome life challenges at http://www.MotivateWithin.com I look forward to reading more of your articles.
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