I’m sure you have experienced a wake up call at some point in your life. Events such as a divorce, a new baby, a firing, a terrorist attack, or a near-death experience tend to hit us like a ton of bricks and are not easily forgotten.Personally, what I find interesting is that implicit in the idea of a wake up call is that we have, in some sense, been asleep. What is it that we have been asleep to?When I think of wake up calls, the word that comes to mind is “priorities”. Wake up calls tend to make us stop, pull back from the runway of life, and consider exactly what it is that is important to us.Very often we realize that we have had our priorities upside down. Perhaps we have been spending too much time at the office, too little time with our kids, or have been neglecting our health. So to answer my earlier question, it seems to me that many of us travel through life asleep to what really is important.If you are in a slumber, the following are some ideas to help you wake up and remember the important things in your life:
Connect to Your Own Mortality
Some may find it depressing to think about death, but it can actually be a great technique to improve your life. Try, for example, to imagine laying on your deathbed. What could potentially give you cause for regret? Would it be all the money you didn’t make? Or would it be the friendships you didn’t nurture, the time you didn’t spend with your family, and the places you didn’t see? Now, consider if the way you currently live your life will give you cause for any regrets when you do actually come to lay upon your deathbed.Steve Jobs is a famous advocate of connecting to your own mortality. In his Commencement Speech at Stanford University, he said: “Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important thing I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life, because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure — these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important.”
Write a Personal Mission Statement
I admit to being one of those people who normally skips the exercises in self-help books. I did, however, decide to follow Stephen R. Covey’s advice in The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People and write a personal mission statement. In short, a personal mission statement is an individual statement of who you are, what you are about and what you value. The process of writing such a statement helps to clarify your inner-most thoughts and feelings, and once finished is something you can turn to for guidance.If you are interested in writing your own personal mission statement, I recommend Dr. Covey’s Mission Statement Builder. Also, if you would like to see an example you are welcome to read my personal mission statement.
Have a Meaningful Conversation with an Older Person
As you grow older, you naturally acquire experience and knowledge of what is important in life. For example, is there anything you could tell the “you” from 10 years ago that would make life easier? I’m sure there is. Unfortunately, though, unless you have a time machine this is impossible.A great way then to acquire the wisdom that comes with age is to seek out an older person, such as a grandparent, and have a meaningful conversation with them. Ask them about their life, what they have learned, and what they would do differently. You may just find they experienced many of the thoughts and feelings you are currently are when they were younger.
Meditate
Usually the problem is not that we don’t know what is important in life, but that it is forgotten as we get caught up in the everyday tasks that comprise life. One of the best methods I have found to overcome this problem is meditation. Meditation is a great way to relax both your mind and body. Such a state is ideal for gaining a better understanding of who you are and what you value.
Volunteer
It is easy in life to become consumed with your own sense of self importance. A very effective way to step back and see life in a greater context is to volunteer. For example, helping those with less than yourself will help you realize just how fortunate you really are. So often we act in such a way that we don’t already have the important things in life, when in actual fact they are right under our nose.
Peter writes about personal growth and self awareness at The Change Blog. If you enjoyed this article, you may wish to download his free e-book, A Year of Change.
Good tips. Connecting to mortality is certainly useful for prioritizing. However, when I do it, I don’t dwell on the idea that I’m going to be dead and gone like a lot of people do, I instead cover all the scenarios and dwell on ideas like, if a concept like reincarnation is true, I don’t want to have to come back to this dualistic psycho planet and try again. It makes me want to let go and make peace today, not tomorrow.
i have a hard time fining a answer to malcolm important life.
I like this article Peter! A lot…another great practice for connecting with your morality is to write your own Eulogy! I know this sounds morbid, but thinking about the things you want said about you when its all over is great practice for connecting with mortality!
Great post. Wake up call always comes if we fail to make good priorities and stop our spiritual progress. And it is usually not pleasant. It doesn’t have to be like that.
Great post, Peter. I’m also a firm believer in mission statements. Simply knowing what you want your life to be about is a great way to align your priorities accordingly.
I like to think of my mission as to make the world a little better, one smile at a time. It’s the reason I finally had the courage to publish my book and continue to follow my passion for writing.
And it’s important to realize that your mission doesn’t necessarily have to be some huge “save the world” type of thing. It just has to be whatever is right for you.
Awesome Post! Thanks so much for all the wisdom….
I feel that all of these things can be influenced by just perceiving how good your life CAN be versus how it is now. I’ve written a few articles on how what your future holds can always be brighter than what your present situation is, and I believe that is a great wakeup call in itself.
Thanks for the positive comments everyone.
Dax: you raise a point which I implied in the article, but perhaps did not explicitly state. That point is: whilst it is inevitable that things will go wrong in life, many of the “wake up calls” that people receive are avoidable.
I had a mission statement for a long time, and it bored me. Then I adopted Guy Kawasaki’s idea of a “mantra” and I live and breath mine — “freedom through organization.”
Great post!
Peter –nice post! And I especially like your comment that many wake-up cslls are avoidable. It’s been my experience that the calls start as tiny nudges and just get bigger from there. The point is to learn to catch the nudges before they become 2 x 4s.
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This is a really beautiful and inspiring post. Thanks for writing it and motivating me to reconsider my priorities. The Mission Statement is something I’ve been working on for a while. I think I’ll have to pick up again now.
“Have a Meaningful Conversation with an Older Person”
I’ve always found it to be enriching to engage in conversations with the elderly. They just have so much historical anedotes under their sleeves.
And it does pay to lend an ear for half an hour or more, their experiences serve us a guide or tool for us to ascertain how we’re going to deal with situations and unfavorable conditions in our lives where they successfully came out unscathed.
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The important think in life is not where you go, but who is traveling by your side. It was more eloquent than that…
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Peter,
thanks for sharing your ideas online. I just read your ebook and I share a fair amount of your beliefs.
I’m currently living a minimized life in terms of physical belonging since I am travelling South America for a year on a motorbike. Riding a bike for extending period of time gives plenty of time to think and reflect upon life.
I’m running a video blog myself. It is not commercial or intended to make money but in order to share what I am doing with people not able to do the same. It is also a great tool for digesting experiences out of the ordinary.
I have seen much more of such interesting concepts about life. But you know the most importnat thing, which we need to know is that we cannot change that fast by mission statements. We all have to accumulate a certain degree of experiance and practically informed knowledge, which can make us think about life in a more different, constructive way. Mission statement helps, but more than that it is what we experiance in our own life that dictates our day to day life. I enjoyed what you have written anyways. Well done
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Thanks for sharing! Life is so short that we need to make full use of it.
I needed this wake up call today. Great post!
Thank you for this…really – thank you. I want to try this and to observe the result. I will write my personal mission statement and try to follow it…please tell me, that i won`t fail
))no, i`m sure i won`t – after all, at least i will know what actually i want – this is also important. One more time – THANK YOU!