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6 Powerful Ways to Overcome Fear (And Craft the Lifestyle of Your Dreams)

You want to follow your dreams.

You want to live the lifestyle you know you deserve.

Yes, the one you’re secretly afraid of following.

But something is holding you back, or so you believe.

What if I told you that nothing is holding you back?

You’d probably roll your eyes, right?

But it’s true. Nothing is holding you back. You can have the life you want, and more. And in this article you’ll discover how.

1. Listen to Your Heart

You know that subtle inner voice of wisdom that you have?

Yeah, it’ll guide you to your life purpose, if you are willing to listen to it.

The problem is that that wise voice is often covered up by the fearful, doubtful voice. When you calm down and really listen, you’ll know what steps to take.

It’s not easy, but everyone has that internal guiding mechanism.

That means you, too.

So use it.

2. Willingness to Move Forward

You have to be willing to move forward, even when you’re afraid.

You have to be willing to start your journey before you’re ready.

The stars will not align. Things will not be handed to you on a silver platter. You just have to start.

If you don’t know where to start, it doesn’t matter what you do, because all paths will lead you there.

And if you discover that you’re heading down the wrong path, you course correct. In the end, you cannot know if making a mistake now is exactly what needs to happen for you to realize your dreams.

3. Tiny Steps

Fear comes up when you try to do too much all at once.

Yes, dream big, but also be practical. For example, don’t think about starting a business, think about what the next smallest step would be.

What can you do right now to get the ball rolling? Maybe it’s simply starting a blog and seeing what happens. Or maybe it’s calling up a friend who can point you in the right direction.

You know you’ve found the right step to take because it feels doable.

4. Break Free

Break free from the shackles of your mind.

Notice that you are not your thoughts. You may have thoughts of fear, doubt and anxiety, but if you can stay as the awareness behind it all, your thoughts no longer hold the same power over you.

You are not the dance. You are the dance floor.

Never forget that. It’s because of you that the drama of life is possible. Enjoy the fears and challenges in your life, because they are what make life exciting.

And also enjoy the fact that life has a tendency to live itself. You don’t have to figure anything out or control life, because it’ll live itself.

5. Build Presence Power

Anchor yourself in the present moment.

Pretend that you don’t have a past or future, because in reality, you don’t. All you have is the present moment.

Notice what’s here, right now. Feel your body. Be aware of the sounds around you. And tap into the joy of what’s already here.

You already have everything you need to be happy. And when you operate from this place of stillness and peace, your life will change.

6. Perfect Average Day

Last, but not least, grab a pen and a piece of paper and write down what your perfect average day looks like.

Who do you want to be with?

What kind of thoughts do you want to think?

Where do you live?

What do you want to do?

What do you want to eat?

Let go of any preconceived notions and let it all flow.

Get some clarity and let go of fear.

The Takeaway

The most important thing you can take away from this article is this: you are not your fears.

Your fears do not hold you back from anything. No one holds you back from crafting the lifestyle of your dreams, or building a business around your passion.

The only person holding you back is you.

When you can reclaim responsibility for your life, you will be free.

However, most people aren’t ready.

Are you?

About the Author: Henri is the founder of Wake Up Cloud, where he helps people turn their passion into a thriving lifestyle business. When you feel ready to take action, grab his free special report.

  • Yes! I love this article. People are held back by nothing more than themselves. They don’t give themselves enough credit for their creativity, their ingenuity, their determination. . . You can do whatever you want to do! Start by entertaining the idea that it might be possible, and then allow yourself to take the tiny steps needed to get there without getting ahead of yourself and projecting about your fears of the future. Thank you for talking about finding not only what it is we may want to do, but about how to muster the courage to get there. 

    Jessica Sweet

    • Agree completely, Jessica. Well put. Well put, indeed :)

  • Thank you.

  • Points 5 and 6 have been instrumental in my recovery from anxiety and panic attacks. Every few months or so, I hang a fresh poster sheet on my wall and re-do my ideal day design. A change in diet can be remarkably effective at ameliorating fear and anxiety as well, especially adding more whole foods that are high in magnesium. Thanks for the tips.

    • Good tip on food choices. I’ve found the more trashy foods affect me as well.

  • Victoryang02

    I am ready.

  • I really enjoyed how you articulated your message with this post and focused upon things that people can control…..themselves. Fear can be such a complex culprit if we allow it to. Recently, I just left a full time job and pursued my own business. There has been great fears in this process but, I just decided one day that I will never get to the point where I will be 100% free of risk. So, I made my leap and I haven’t regretted it once. I did realize that some of my fear was actually helping me to focus on items that needed my attention for planning. Once I developed a plan of action the fear just simply went away! Ah….what a double-edged sword this “fear” is….

    • Fantastic insights there, Chris. Thanks for sharing. And kudos for taking the leap into the “unknown.” It’s never as bad as you THINK.

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  • Thank you for this post. I particularly like your advice on moving forward. If you don’t take the risk, you’ll never be able to make things happen and make something out of your life. Have the courage to take the road unknown to you. If it turns out to be one with lots of potholes and whatnot, do something about it.  Fix the potholes or avoid it if that’s the best plan of action.

    • And something most people never realize is this: what if the potholes and apparent failures are needed for you to craft your lifestyle in the future?

      What if you have to “fail” in order to succeed? We just can’t predict the future.

  • I love how you explain that we are not our thoughts. As long as we are aware of that, we realize there’s no reason to get trapped by our fears and that we have the power to control them and let them go.

    • Absolutely. Let them pass, and move on. Not always easy, but it doesn’t have to be.

  • hepsoj

    The Buddha said, ‘When the pupil is ready, the teacher will appear’. I agree absolutely with your final point.

  • hepsoj

    The Buddha said, ‘When The pupil is ready, the teacher will appear’. I agree absolutely with your final point. All of the other points you make, when taken on board will prepare the mind subconsciously; then one day ‘the pupil is ready’.

  • Kyle

    I think a biggest part of overcoming fear is knowing that what you’re most worried about is what other people are going to think. You need know that it doesn’t matter – because most people are concerned about with themselves then they are with what you’re doing. If you don’t take action – you will never know how successful you can be.  http://www.locatefate.com/

  • The best way to face fear is to face it directly. The more try to run away from it, the more it will haunt you.

    • Yes. Welcome the fear and notice what is really underneath it.

  • Great questions and exercises – thanks for sharing.

    A thought about the ‘perfect average day’ exercise. There’s a lot of research on the theme that we’re just not that great at predicting what will make us happy. See Dan Gilbert’s work for example – he talks about how to base forecasting on others’ experiences rather than our own imaginations:
    “If you want to be a better affective forecaster, then, you would do well to base your forecasts on the actual experiences of real people who’ve been in the situations you are only imagining. The more similar to you the person is, the more informative their experience will be, of course. But what’s amazing is that even the experience of a randomly selected person provides a better basis for forecasting than does your own imagination.”
    — http://www.edge.org/3rd_culture/gilbert03/gilbert_index.html

    Just some food for thought – might suggest some alternative questions, like ‘Who is the happiest person in my extended family, and how could I make my life more like his/hers?’

    • Great tips.

      Some of the wisdom and foresight also comes from trying things and seeing how you like them. At least that’s how it’s been for me.

    • thank you

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