Being small has its perks, but it also has its cons—such as no one rarely trusts you with the big stuff. Whether at work or school, I find it difficult to have someone rely on me. They seem to equate my short stature with my skills, which I’m pretty sure are the complete opposite.
Though gaining someone’s trust isn’t easy, it’s necessary to make them believe that they can depend on you. No one wants to be the excess baggage in a group. But then again, trust isn’t something that you receive from the get-go, but something that you earn.
What I’ve learned it’s a lot more than wanting to be a dependable person, but actively trying to be one.
1. Assume responsibilities
Don’t wait for someone to approach you and hand you tasks. Take the initiative to learn what you can do to help and volunteer to do it. It’s necessary that you know your strengths, so you’ll have a clear idea what you can contribute to the group. When in a team project and no one is giving you anything to do, don’t just sit around but find what you can do to help. There will be people who like to do everything and leaving nothing for others, but prove to them that your set of skills can measure up to their standards.
2. Live up to your promises
Make sure to always deliver your promises. If you set a deadline for yourself, then try to meet it no matter what. It’s empty promises that can make people not trust your words. While it’s necessary to know your strengths, it’s also important to be aware of your weaknesses. Don’t take too much on your plate, or you’ll end up backtracking what you’ve said you will do. And even if asking for help may not be your cup of tea, it’s better than not being able to live up to your words.
3. Step up to the challenge
When no one else wants to do the dirty work, pull up your sleeves and take on the challenge. Don’t be afraid to go out of your comfort zone, because only then will you be able to know your limits. If you’re afraid that it’s far from the usual things you do, then think of it as a learning experience. You won’t experience growth if you keep on doing the same things and not shaking things up. Besides, wouldn’t it be impressive if you manage to accomplish something deemed impossible or difficult by others?
4. Own up to your mistakes
One thing that’s difficult for many is to have accountability. But only when you know how to take responsibility for your actions will you manage to gain someone’s respect. Don’t beat yourself up too much when you commit mistakes, because everyone does it, too. However, learn to accept the consequences of your actions and don’t find something or someone else to blame. Instead, learn how the mistake can change you for the better and let it be a lesson for next time. The important thing is that you try, and if you may have failed, at least you acknowledge it instead of denying that your actions lead to a mistake.
5. Be resourceful
Squeeze out all the creative juice you can manage and be the hero in sticky situations. Resourcefulness is a quality anyone can appreciate. Knowing that you’re someone who can figure out a solution for impossible situations can definitely earn you some cookie points. Be innovative, be ingenuous. The crazier the better. Be the person with all the solutions in dire situations. Of course, it’s easier said than done, but knowing how to think out of the box can help in the process.
Dependability is a trait one wants to say they possess. But we all know that it’s less about wishing it to come true and more on making it happen.