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10 Ways To Be Happy, On Purpose

“He who depends on himself will attain the greatest happiness”
~Chinese Proverb

I was at a Women’s Leadership Conference about a year ago and had an “ah-ha moment”. We were all introducing ourselves and asked to share a few things to help with the process. One question left me baffled and ultimately changed my life; “What do you do to make yourself happy?”.

At the time I honestly didn’t know. I had a great job, friends, and family. I was independent, young, healthy, and yet I couldn’t figure out what made me happy. I vowed that day that I would be happy on purpose because I was tired of waiting for happiness to happen.

It’s not been an easy road, but it’s been the most fulfilling adventure I’ve ever been on and I feel that I should now share what I’ve learned with others.

1.  Know Yourself

“Today you are you, that is truer than true. There is nobody else who is you-er than you.”
~Dr. Seuss

How many times have we heard “no one will love you until you learn to love yourself” or “nobody knows you the way you do”?

So get to know the right-now-real you, both the good and the bad, and own it. Write down your qualities, characteristics, values, strengths, and weaknesses. What makes you happy? What drives you crazy?

The good news is that if you don’t like certain aspects of yourself right now, you have it in your control to change that. But to change something you first have to know what you’re working with. So do some serious soul-searching and figure that out!

2.  Discover who your idealized self is and start working towards that.

“Open your eyes and look within. Are you satisfied with the life you’re living?”
~Bob Marley

The question we all got asked when we were little was “what do you want to be when you grow up?” Now the question is “WHO do you want to be when you grow up?” You’ve taken a good hard look at who you are in this moment, and now is the time to figure out what’s next.

Think of the “ideal you” and start doing the things that your idealized self would be doing. There was an article on Pick The Brain a while back entitled “How To Fake It Until You Make It” in which the author, David Wright, suggests that we imagine the qualities that your idealized self has (the work it takes) and start putting them into practice.

It’s time to stop playing make-believe and to start taking action! Let’s DO this!!!

“You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself in any direction you choose. You’re on your own. And you know what you know. And YOU are the one who’ll decide where to go…”
~Dr. Seuss

3.  Be Authentic

“I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.”
~Bruce Lee

Always be true to yourself. When working towards becoming your idealized self it’s important not to lose sight of who you are in favour of who you think you should be. Don’t compromise your values, morals, or true personality. Your individuality is important! Some people live their lives trying to be more like somebody else. My question to you is this: If you’re trying to be somebody else, who’s going to be you?

There may be certain things about yourself that you’d like to change or improve upon, but be absolutely sure that you make these adjustments for yourself and for your best interest. If you change anything in your life for the sake of someone else, and it’s not really what you want, you will only become resentful and unhappy.

To be truly authentic, one must rise above the crowd and be a true individual. Find your truth; a reason for which to live and die.

“Few are those who can see with their own eyes and feel with their own hearts”
~Albert Einstein

4.  Understand that you can only control yourself.

When there are no enemies within, the enemies outside cannot hurt you”
~African Proverb

As I started my journey to being happy on purpose, I realized very quickly how little in my life was within my control. I had no power over other people; others will do, think, and feel what they want and there’s little I can do to change or even influence that. I could only manipulate my environment and the things that happened to me to a certain degree.

I started to wonder if I could control anything in my life at all and I realized that I can only control myself. More specifically I had control over my attitude and my reactions to what the world throws at me.

For example, if you lose the life of a loved-one, you are going to have feelings of grief and even despair or anger. You need the grieving process as a human being and part of being authentic is being true to your emotions; otherwise you are in denial of what you truly feel and want. You can, however, choose the attitude of “moving on” or choose to dwell on it. You can choose to react by lashing out to those around you and hiding in your room with nothing but your grief and anger for company. OR you could choose to spend time with people who will make you feel better or immerse yourself in a project or work to keep your mind off things until you start to heal.

The idea that you have such little control over life might be scary for some, but you can also choose to look at it as freeing yourself from worry. If I have no control over something, there’s no point worrying about it because I can’t change it anyways. If I have control over it then I can take action, and again I no longer have to worry because something’s being done!

“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.”
~Maya Angelou

5.  Achieve balance in all things.

“Before Enlightenment – chop wood, carry water. After Enlightenment – chop wood, carry water.”
~ Zen Buddhist Proverb

There is a Yin and Yang; everything has its opposite, and the key is harmony between them. For example you must strike a balance between selfishness and selflessness. Chose either extreme you will quickly find yourself unhappy. If you always give to others you end up being useless to everyone because no one will take care of you for you, and a person who never gives to anyone will live a lonely and unfulfilling life.

The same can be said for striking a balance between your emotions and your logic. Are you being true to your emotions (giving them validation) or are you totally absorbed in them (giving them control)? Your logic and your emotions should work together to guide you in a balanced and healthy way of living.

6.  Learn to let go.

Learn to let go of the things that are not within your control or that happened in the past. Instead embrace and work on your self-control and self-esteem. You will be more at peace with yourself and can then enjoy life despite what the world throws at you.

Ask yourself “How is this working for me?” Does it help you to feel sad or angry all the time? Is it productive and useful when you lash out when someone or something upsets you? Is it healthy to become obsessed about an issue, person, or event that you have no control over in the first place?

To let go is to fear less and love more. It means knowing that you can’t do it for someone else, that you have no control over another, and that the outcome is not in your hands. Letting go is making the most of yourself, not blaming another or trying to change them. It means caring about someone, not caring for them, and allowing another to make mistakes and be a human being. To let go is not to regret the past but to grow and live for the future.

“If things start happening, don’t worry, don’t stew; just go right along and you’ll start happening too.”
~Dr. Seuss

7.  Give your life meaning and actively seek your inspiration.

“Love the life you live. Live the life you love.”
~Bob Marley

So many of us go around searching for the meaning of life or waiting for inspiration when really it’s within ourselves and up to us – no one will do this for you!

While at the Woman’s Leadership Conference I had the privilege of listening to our guest speaker, Canadian Olympic Gold Medalist, Clara Hughes. She shared with us that she suffers from Clinical Depression and that sometimes she gets so down in the dumps that she forces herself to ACTIVELY seek her inspirations. Clara stated that inspiration hardly ever just falls on your lap and that if you need it you have to go and find it for yourself.

Don’t look for the meaning of life; instead give your life meaning! One way that I did this for myself was by becoming a “mother” to something – I got a dog. His name is Charlie, and he’s been such a blessing for me. We’ve worked really hard on establishing a good relationship and I’ve learnt a lot being a “Pack Leader” for him. In doing what was good for Charlie (teaching him commands, working on his walking habits, regular grooming, giving him lots of love and work for him to do) I also became a better person. I learned to be more patient, how to be more assertive, and have become more active.

So go out there and find your meaning! Get inspired! Join a not-for-profit group, volunteer, get a pet, become a Big Sister or Brother, and go to some self-improvement or awareness workshops. Invest in yourself and you’ll soon reap the rewards of being content and feeling productive in your life.

8.  Focus on the positive.

“There are two ways to live; you can live as if nothing is a miracle; you can live as if everything is a miracle”
~Albert Einstein

The expression “everything happens for a reason” annoys and upsets some people because it suggests that your path is predetermined and that The Fates or God is in charge of your life. The idea that a child dying of cancer, for example, is meant-to-be is frustrating and unfair; but the reality of it is that you have no control over your outside world. So I choose to think “in everything I have to find my own reason”. Instead of asking “why did this happen to me?” I ask myself “What positive thing can I find in this?” By focusing on the positive of any situation (and trust me if you look hard enough you’ll find it) I help keep myself positive and happy.

The good wouldn’t be as sweet without the bitterness of the bad. You go through the tough times to strengthen you for the excruciating ones to come. It’s in experiencing these tough times where you will truly be able to live with gratitude for what you have that is good.

“Some people feel the rain. Others just get wet.”
~Bob Marley

9.  Surround yourself with like-minded people.

“A man should choose a friend who is better than himself. There are plenty of acquaintances in the world; but very few real friends”
~Chinese Proverb

Change is never easy. It’s even more difficult if the people you choose to spend time with aren’t the “right people”. Just ask someone who’s had to kick a bad habit (smoking, drinking, drugs, junk food, etc.) what it’s like being around people who haven’t quit or cut back yet. It’s easy to fall back into your old habits because they come with a certain comfort. It’s the same when you’re trying to be positive and happy and surrounding yourself with people who are negative and miserable. Misery loves company right?

So surround yourself, instead, with people in whose presence you feel optimistic, happy, and vibrant. If you can’t think of one person in your life that meets this standard it’s probably a good sign that you need to find new people!

I’ve had to “weed out” people who I thought were my friends – these were the people who always seem to be gossiping, talking about negative things, and focusing on the downside of every situation. I learned to be picky about the people I spend time with and limit the amount of time and energy I spend with those who tend to be toxic to my well-being. And no, it wasn’t fun or easy doing this, but it was worthwhile because they were just bringing me down.

Sit down and write out two lists for yourself – on one side write down the names of people who give you good energy and on the other side write down those who more often take your energy. Then try to steer clear of those who drain you and make an effort to spend more time with those who motivate you and are positive.

“Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter won’t mind.”
~Dr. Seuss

10. Keep going

“If you can’t fly then run, if you can’t run then walk, if you can’t walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward.”
~ Martin Luther King Jr.

I was watching Firefly (2002-2003 TV series) and there was a saying that a few soldiers shared that was an even better version (I think anyway) of the Martin Luther King Jr. quote: “When you can’t run, you crawl. And when you can’t crawl you find someone to carry you”.

Sometimes you can’t do it on your own. But you can’t just stop either. I went and talked to my doctor about my depression when it got so bad that nothing I did seemed to make a difference. I talked to my friends and family about it and found support and love when I did. I got the help I needed when I could no longer do it on my own and it’s made all the difference in the world.

I’m proud to announce that I am doing much better now. I know what makes me happy and I do it for myself. I am purposely happy every day, even when it’s rainy and cold and everything seems to be going wrong.

“Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance you must keep moving”
~Albert Einstein

Melissa Morrison is a Job Developer with YesYouCan Employment Consulting in Sault Ste. Marie, Ontario Canada. She works with people who have disabilities in finding meaningful employment and facilitates motivational and job-ready workshops. Find out more about Melissa and YesYouCan here.

 

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  • http://www.TransformationalMotivation.com M. Tohami

    That’s a great list. I would add find something you’re really passionate about and then give it all what you’ve got. This is the fastest path to happiness.

    • Melissa

      Being passionate about something is one more way of giving your life meaning!
      Thanks for sharing :)

    • Melissa

      Being passionate about something is one more way of giving your life meaning!
      Thanks for sharing :)

    • Melissa

      Being passionate about something is one more way of giving your life meaning!
      Thanks for sharing :)

    • Melissa

      Being passionate about something is one more way of giving your life meaning!
      Thanks for sharing :)

    • Melissa

      Being passionate about something is one more way of giving your life meaning!
      Thanks for sharing :)

  • http://payforpaper.com/ pay for paper

    very useful tips! much I know! but some interesting things learned new)

  • http://www.colon-liver-cleanse.com/ Sean

    Focus on the positive and being grateful for what you already have brings more happiness to me, thanks!

  • http://www.colon-liver-cleanse.com/ Sean

    Focus on the positive and being grateful for what you already have brings more happiness to me, thanks!

  • http://www.clintcora.com Clint Cora

    Point #8 about focusing on the positive is a key one and it makes me think of two different groups of people who are exceptionally good at this.  The first group are the Paralympic athletes.  I watched the winter Paralympics on TV for the first time during the last games in Vancouver and was in total awe of what these disabled athletes could do.  They must have focused only on positives in order to be able to achieve their results not only as athletes but as people.  As a certified ski instructor myself, I know what it takes to develop skills on snow and when I see these Paralympians, I can really appreciate their efforts.

    The second group would be many of the normal, everyday locals I saw down in Cuba.  Life in Cuba because of the Castro regime is not easy.  They have shortages in so many things the rest of us take for granted. Yet they still celebrate nightly with music, dance and each other.  They still know how to be relatively happy despite the lack of many things.  They are definitely focusing on the positive quite well.

    • Melissa

      I find that the more barriers and hard times you come across in life, the more important it is to try and stay positive – not an easy task!
      Great examples Clint – love your website too btw – good stuff!!

      • http://www.clintcora.com Clint Cora

        Thanks Melissa – it was a great article worth commenting on :)

    • Cr65432

      that was the dumbest sh*t i have ever heard

    • Cr65432

      that was the dumbest sh*t i have ever heard

      • W Canaday

        Then you need to get outdoors more often and listen more. Her list, based on real-life results, is sound. They produced results for her and that is all they needed to do. YMMV, but the general attitude she shows will go a long way toward a healthy and happy life. On the other hand, your negative, condemnatory tone, leads directly into a self-destructive death spiral. Lighten up, find the worthwhile in what she said and, if you can’t find any – but others can – consider that the problem is not with the others, but with you. 

        Then fix it.Have a nice day.

  • Chetan

    Melissa ! I liked the post.  You have made nice use of Proverb which always make an article more interesting & easy to Digest :)

  • Geepys

    good work;keep going!!!

    • Melissa

      Aw thanks Geepys!!

  • http://About-The-Secret.com JonKinsey

    To me it seems that the beginning of happiness is the decision to be happy.  No matter what road is taken to happiness it all has to begin with this simple choice.  Do I want to be happy or not.

    Jon :-)

    • Melissa

      LOL good point!!!

      • http://www.facebook.com/kris.ericksen Kris Ericksen

        There is a quote from somewhere that says something along the lines of: “You can’t choose what happens to you but you can choose how to respond to what happens to you.”

  • Gezahgne

    I feel good know. It is a very nice site! 10Q  too much.

  • Sarinestar

    thank u so much for this beautiful writing it really changed my mood

    • Melissa

      thank YOU for the compliment – I love writing – It’s nice to hear it’s appreciated!!!

  • A living one

    Great post. I love the way you choose quotations and proverbs. Your post got me to *that* inner state … when you *know* you have lots of things to *do* in your life. Its you who is going to die,  so LIVE YOUR OWN LIFE.

    • Melissa

      YAY!!! Thanks so much!!

      Quotes and Proverbs are awesome  :) I’m slightly addicted to them.

  • http://reignroyale.blogspot.com/ jared

    Very well thought out, we should all strive to better ourselves and reach for ourg oals. I think thats a very big part of knowing one’s self

  • Sarinestar

    i reALLY liked this list it really motivated me and changed my mood ..thanks i like it a lot sometimes we need to hear this kind of things to be appreciated for what we have and who we r….

    • Melissa

      I’m glad it’s helping to motivate you :) Makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside!

  • http://unveilingthesecret.blogspot.com/ Boldermind

    Happiness is a choice….To be happy you start feeling that happiness. :-)

  • Sarah Morrison

    Great job Mel! Very proud of you :) You BETTER be happy or else I’ll have to MAKE YOU HAPPY. That’s a threat … somehow. 

    A wuv chu!

    • Melissa

      A Wuv Chu Too Sari :) Thanks!!!!

  • Mcmusamaliyongo

    this is incredible congratualations

  • Asrat worku

    I feel happy and all the great advise of you is shaping me .thank you for all.

  • RJ~RENNER

    You Rock Melissa

    • Melissa

      Sometimes I also Roll

  • Helen

    im sending this to someone in my life who has so much to offer and a very bright future…and sometimes just needs to be reminded of that :) ty 

  • Helen

    im sending this to someone in my life who has so much to offer and a very bright future…and sometimes just needs to be reminded of that :) ty 

  • Joseph McGahan

    Point 2 is my favourite,  (9 others close 2nd).     It

  • http://www.stayadventurous.com/ craig zabransky

    Some great wisdom in this post… Thanks for sharing. And perhaps what I enjoyed most is the simplistic advice and that Dr Suess is the most quoted.
    Stay adventurous, Craig

    • Melissa

      Dr. Seuss was perhaps my first favorite author. My parent’s used to order his books through the mail for me when I was little and they’d read it to me.
      He was a man of great wisdom!

  • flowerpower

    :)

  • http://embracing-emotions.blogspot.com/ ZeaS

    A Humanist Perspective :D

  • Edward gangi

    A bit generic, no?

  • http://spiritsentient.com JasonFonceca

    Absolutely beautiful Marie. I love this list. My favourite is: Surround Yourself With Like Minded People :D

    Bam!

  • Steve Wells

    Great list. I think it’s crucial to realize that you are responsible for your emotions and therefore happiness and nobody else. If you understand that it’s the way you look at things that makes them good or bad, and learn to master your emotions (and I’m not talking about supressing them), you will find the ultimate control over happiness. IMHO. =)

  • Steve Wells

    Great list. I think it’s crucial to realize that you are responsible for your emotions and therefore happiness and nobody else. If you understand that it’s the way you look at things that makes them good or bad, and learn to master your emotions (and I’m not talking about supressing them), you will find the ultimate control over happiness. IMHO. =)

  • Me

    The little star that the song was about went twinkle twincle & was happy.  And Mozart wrote the famous tune for it when he was about 6.

  • Anigma117

    Thank you.

  • Anigma117

    Thank you.

  • Sean Lazier

    love this

  • Pegasus Flow

    Excellent article. Very wise and insightful.

  • http://twitter.com/IvoryPearl2 Ivory Pearl Bridal

    We need to be more happier in this world.  Thanks for sharing.

  • Al21hitch

    Thank you. I’m in the depths as I write this, but this helps. The least einstein quote gave me a reason to wake

    • Melissa

      I’m so very glad to hear this!
      Keep on keeping on my friend – things get better because you are in charge!
      Remember if you can’t even crawl, go and find help – find that person or persons to help carry you.
      Most importantly know that you are unique and of value to the world.

  • Al21hitch

    Thank you. I’m in the depths as I write this, but this helps. The least einstein quote gave me a reason to wake

  • http://milano.bbakeca.com/bakeca-donna-cerca-uomo/milano-1 Donne Milano

    I think that is the most important to be surrounded by like-minded people. Nice post!

    • Kama

      I will share this with many people.  Great Article! 

    • Laura

      That one’s not exactly easy for everybody.

  • Jessica Cohen

    This is a terrific list! Love it.  I would add to the part about surrounding yourself with like-minded people that like-minded does not always have to mean those in agreement .
    I love to surround myself with people who make me think rather than those who judge.

    • http://www.facebook.com/kris.ericksen Kris Ericksen

      Totally agree!

  • Her @6degreeslove

    Beauty. Pure beauty. And much needed. Thank you.

  • Oana

    I really took my time reading this wonderful article, while sipping drops of water and writing down lists and characteristics. I found it very simple and very provoking (in a good way!). It helped me establish some key points where there was all relativity surrounding me, and that really got me messed up at times, the feeling that I have no more certainties, that everything is relative and there is no solid ground I can stand on anymore. But sometimes, at these beautiful times, I discover a hidden gem (like your article) and I reconfigure my horizons. So thank you, you’ve been very inspired to write this, I really loved reading and will put it to practice starting right now! :)

  • Tucaratupapi

    write blogs, keep reading, challenging yourself, visit another country, learn another language, ¡busque su elemento y aferrece a él!

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_D2DMLPDHQE7RGZQJMWNKOFMR3M Venus

    Love it… I will share.

  • Goldenboi08

    Worldy wisdom has limits, Godly wisdom is boundless.

  • Harlookaur

    That goes under    7.  Give your life meaning and actively seek your inspiration.

  • Julianodoyle

    Very cool.

  • Mehul

    Nice compilation :).    At its core, its the same thing that shows up at many other places, but you put it all together very nicely.  Set of proverbs & sayings were icing on the cake!

  • Mehul

    Nice compilation :).    At its core, its the same thing that shows up at many other places, but you put it all together very nicely.  Set of proverbs & sayings were icing on the cake!

  • Golfball04

    Glad I stumbled on this.

  • Gladysmburke

    you are there and must stay there. other people need this. lets hope they pass it on. my 21 yr old son sent it to me and asked me if i had written it. quite the compliment. we must give our children these words of wisdom. thank you 

  • Kay

    This was very nice. Thank you for this.

  • http://twitter.com/chinchak Chinmay Chakravarty

    Very helpful to be happy!

    • Stuckftw

      That was really nice. Thanks for sharing with us and keep up the good work :) Bob realized all that with a joint in his hand and he shared all these amazing quotes. I know its a bad habit to smoke weed all the time but it really makes you open minded and helps you get a better perspective of life, so the best thing to do is to keep balance try to relax and learn to love others!

  • Meghan

    What a beautiful article!  Thanks so much for sharing! :D 

  • Woodpest

    Great article!  I would add one step; pray like everything depends on God and work like everything depends on you.  Sometimes problems seem so overwhelming that it seems like nothing we do can overcome the problem.  Whatever you call your creator has the power to help us through a situation.  If you don’t believe in a supreme being, THEN YOU have a problem.  I have received strength I KNEW was not my own when I prayed and received help for what I thought was insurmountable.

  • Woodpest

    Great article!  I would add one step; pray like everything depends on God and work like everything depends on you.  Sometimes problems seem so overwhelming that it seems like nothing we do can overcome the problem.  Whatever you call your creator has the power to help us through a situation.  If you don’t believe in a supreme being, THEN YOU have a problem.  I have received strength I KNEW was not my own when I prayed and received help for what I thought was insurmountable.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_6C5ZBER4SLF7PAJWDA4ALOJFHE Rajesh

    Very good and inspirational article. I am going to share it.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_6C5ZBER4SLF7PAJWDA4ALOJFHE Rajesh

    Very good and inspirational article. I am going to share it.

  • http://bit.ly/vWMH6H B Rumba

    Great article, I’d add: learn how to chill out and relax, really relax. Listen to music with headphones on, get a massage, that sort of thing :-)

  • Rennied

    Great tips! the quotes were very touching.

  • FogCityT
  • Dionne Baldwin

    These things are so incredibly true and I remember hearing them while growing up.  Words like these never made sense until they “clicked”.

  • http://www.tourismdentalindia.com Dental Tourism

    Great stuff. Takes a load off me. Thanks. 

  • http://www.facebook.com/meganapelletier Megan Pelletier

    Thanks for sharing! Happiness is truly the key to maintaining good health and well being!

  • http://www.nwagold.ru/ Владимир Жолдош

    Very good and inspirational article. I am going to share it.

  • kashyap

    i would like to add one more point. tranquility comes from within, if we try to find it without or outside we would be never satisfied. and to get peace within one has to learn to respond to outer circumstances in a peaceful way. we get disturbed not by external things its our response to the outer world creates the havoc in our life. So first step towards a meaningful & permanent  tranquility is always to watch our own thoughts our own trigger points that causes stress & anger inside us. Then change them with more positive responses.some techniques to help watch our thoughts & change our thinking process here..

    http://24x7meditation.blogspot.com/2011/10/quiet-your-busy-mind-in-just-5-minutes.html

  • mayuramvsankaran

    I liked the points made by the blogger, Melissa Morrison, though they are commonplace enough, for the way that she has presented them. Very good!

  • Mgb Mohan

    happiness is state of mind.i follow this method and its really effective,..just remember   that you have two choices when confront ANY situation  in which make you feel good or another one make you feel bad…….i always choose the positive one and never turn back to the negative one.  For example. if someone stole your wallet with heavy load …you choice to worry about it or you have choice to move along and forget about it……you may have your own preference of action for the situation

  • Maggie Sisk

    The Firefly quote made me like the article even more! (:

  • OliviaLynn

    I have been feeling very low – this has been a great reminder of how to be happy. 

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1219088823 Dan Suda

    love it!

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1219088823 Dan Suda

    love it!

  • http://www.jillknits.com Jill

    I found this post just when I needed to read it the most. Thank you for sharing.

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  • CP

    Being happy is a difficult topic and I have found that it is in fact a journey not a destination. I am therefore  grateful and satisfied that the tips you have suggested are all based on continuing habits rather than one-off actions.

    We all need a bit of inspiration and streamlining in our life. Check out http://www.eficncy.com for a great resource of tips and articles as well!

  • Ralp Suelto

    One of the most important thing in life, cause the root why people move is to be happy. 

  • Marina K. Villatoro

    What
    a great article. I’m sure it will be useful for a lot of people.

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  • Toma

    This is inspirational..am going to give a lecture on Friday i have to give this as an example..it may touch someone heart.

  • http://bharatbuysell.com Free India Classifieds

    Reading this made my happy thanks !!!

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  • Bobby

    Thank you so much for this article. This is just what I needed to read.

  • http://goodrelaxation.com/natural-relaxation-mat/ Good Relaxation

    Great post. Simple thing that people sometimes tend to forget but should not forget.

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  • W Canaday

    Step outside. 

    Outside of your door. Outside of your fears. Outside of your comfortable little niche. Outside of your circle of friends and acquaintances. Outside of your experience and your education. (But bring your faith and ethics with you!)

    A quote that I like to keep in mind is that “You can’t out-give God.” I don’t mean financially … although I have seen it borne out there, too … but in giving of yourself to larger causes, other beings, bringing beauty into the world that didn’t exist before … the list of positive giving goes on and on.

    Then, even if you end each day alone, you will never be lonely. You will fall asleep fulfilled with the vigor of the day still resonating within. You will weep that the day has only 24 hours and that you cannot be awake for all of them.

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    Not that this isn’t great and all that. It is. I live by most of this stuff. I have borderline as my main problem, though. In any case, great stuff, but I just think it should be noted that better health doesn’t neccesarly mean better life.

    For instance, I never had any friends and my family was abusive and neglectful. I was in some deep depression. Multiple suicide attempts. Somehow, I managed to change my life last February and continued changing. I was really proud of the progress I made. I gathered up the muster to ask five guys at my job if they wanted to hang out sometime. All nos. Whether because my extensive scar tissue or because I was gay, none of those dudes wanted to hang with me. Girls would, but I didn’t want to be called at, “hey, girl”. You know, cuz I aint a girl. I don’t talk bout cute boys or whatever. I like to work on my truck and go camping.

    So I went back spiraling. I always felt I wasn’t acceptable because I was crazy or gay and then found out it was true. When my birthday and new year’s passed and I was only for the 23 time in a row, I snapped. Angry all January and suicidal. I wanted to be a terrorist, I wanted to hurt people I hurt.

    In the end, I found I really had changed last year February. I picked up the pieces and put em back together. I’m enrolled for school and got a better  job. Am I giving up on being accepted? Yes, of course. I’m giving up on people. They’ve always hurt me and the best way to not be hurt is to not put yourself out there. Social abstinence. Is it sad? Yeah. But at least this time its a sadness I chose.

    I still fight the suicidal impulses. I don’t know what’s going to happen this year. Which is progress because I knew exactly what was going to happen just a few weeks ago, I was going to end it. I’m returning to this better place of mind and just taking care of my star player, me.

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    Thats a great list. I think it was Richard Bach who said in the book Illusions – “If your happiness depends on making others happy, then you are in trouble. Something like that. I guess trying to seek happiness in making others happy can sometimes lead to frustration

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