For the life of me, I always felt like I suffered a bad childhood. Well, sometimes at least.
I remember being treated unfairly many times.
When I was teased and bullied relentlessly by my brother and cousins, I was told by my parents to stop being a crybaby and to get over it. They all got away with it.
When I turned the tables and played a joked on others, I was reprimanded heavily and told to respect others.
It was extremely frustrating for me. I still remember it to this day.
But that’s not to say I’m sore about it. As unfair as life can be, a lot of good can come out of it.
Here’s 9 things to remember when you’re being treated unfairly
1) It will make you stronger and rise above the situation
Always remember that despite things not being in your favor, you will become stronger after everything settles down. I personally believe this will happen even if you don’t make the choice to learn from it.
It’s the acceptance of life being unfair in itself and that nobody can escape from it.
So calm down, and just remind yourself that in the future you’ll definitely be able to handle it better.
2) You can grow and become an inspiration to others
Do you ever encounter situations where you and your friends get treated unfairly and everybody except you reacts in a very bad manner?
I remember working in an office once. Some boxes had to be moved and a bunch of us guys we tasked to do so. I was the only one who moved them. The rest whined that they were tired and that it’s not in their job scope to do such menial tasks.
Make a positive spin out of being treated unfairly for the sole fact that not everybody will. Rise up and do it. You’ll stand out and gain the respect of others that way.
3) Remember to be grateful
Push aside the negativity and frustration you feel. Just remember and be grateful for the good things that are in your life.
The unfair situation is nothing but an external nuisance that doesn’t belong in your life. So don’t give it power.
4) Seek the solution yourself
Another way to stand out is to immediately find the solution yourself. The (unfair) situation will never change, so you might as well leave it be.
Again, you’ll stand out this way. Not everybody is resourceful or independent enough to go find the answer themselves.
People like to lay blame instead which is honestly a very common trait in average people. Don’t be average. Be awesome.
5) It is just part of life
Because not everything goes your way all the time.
The key idea here is to not dwell on the situation and keep asking, “Why?” or “What did I do to deserve this?”. The answer will NEVER come.
You might as well accept it, move on and focus all your energy on becoming a better person.
You should be asking better questions instead like, “How can I learn from this?”
6) Don’t be a crybaby
You know what’s easy? Whining, crying, ranting and basically creating a lot of drama to gain attention.
It may seem like you “deserve” to make a big deal out of it. After all, you got treated unfairly. But nobody likes a crybaby.
What you think and how you act around it may not be perceived well by others.
Handle yourself well and get a grip. Inspire others instead. Nobody wants the additional fuel to know that life is already unfair.
7) Man up
This is for all the guys out there.
Empower yourself now. Accept the pain, fight through it and move on.
Yes, pain and even the kind which you don’t deserve can be acceptable. As long as it isn’t that bad and you know deep down you can get over it, then just get over it already.
Pain is simply pain, but it’s not the end of the world.
8) If it can be helped, change your environment already
I find that a lot of people accept unfair treatment to an unhealthy extent.
They say things like, “I can’t do a thing about it. It’s my job” or “Oh they’re my friends. They were just joking around. I can’t be so petty and sensitive.”
You CAN do something about it and you CAN acknowledge how you really feel.
Get out the abusive environment and dump the toxic friends already. You shouldn’t have to live an unhappy and unfair life because other factors.
These factors need to be thrown away, not reasoned with.
9) Lastly, don’t make life unfair for others
Don’t take it out on others. You shouldn’t be unleashing your pain and negative energy on others just because you are feeling that very pain you’re trying to avoid in the first place.
Try to think on a bigger and grander scale, that you have the ability to accept unfair situations and stop the negative flow.
You can rise up above it all. You can inspire others. You can grow and eventually be immune to the pain of being treated unfairly.
You are bigger than this.
Life is too short to fuss and whine over little unfair bits. Grab life by the balls already. Treat it however you want.
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