Words That Overcome Fear And Dread

Written by Dr. Clark Falconer - 34 Comments
Categories: self improvement

Everyone knows sex sells. Greed sells too, and again, this is something we all know. But little did we know that the really big, best seller of all is FEAR and it’s companion, dread.

Here are some current ‘epidemic’, ‘impending’ ‘catastrophe-in-the-making’, brilliantly-marketed FEARS: Fear of recession, depression, terrorists, war, disease, food, air, climate change, computer crashes, natural disasters, breast size, impotency, break-ins, drug czars and addicts, immigrants and aging.

Here I focus on an area closest to my own experience as a physician-psychiatrist: the fear of illness and dying. As you read about overcoming and transcending this fear, think of it as an effective metaphor for the other fears listed above. When you come to the end reread the piece substituting each fear.

Start with this fact: To fear our body is a powerful way to create disease. Why is this? Because fear is about being attacked and when you think you are going to be attacked you are both hard-wired and soft-wired for flight or fight. This, in simple terms, is bad for your physical health when carried on continuously or repetitively on an intermittent basis. Your body is not set up to be constantly on the alert for danger or shocked repeatedly by the unexpected. It is not necessary to go into the physiology of why this might lead to high blood pressure, heart attack, stroke and even cancer. Here is the rub: If fear can be created it leads to disease thereby proving that the fear was warranted. This is every politician, salesman and businessman’s dream: to create a need for snake oil.

In the external world we no longer buy a car or a house just for comfort and to raise a family, former symbols of success and stability that they were. We now buy an alarm system surrounding a car or house to protect us from an attack that is inevitably coming.

Similarly in our internal world, in the case of fear of illness, we are taught to wait to be attacked from within by scary pathogens of all types, prions, viruses, bacteria, fungi, worms or ravaging cancerous cells. We are then inundated with words and images encouraging us to attack back with drugs and vaccines. Television sets, both advertisement and news, are now literally more like warning systems for an impending attack, even if it is a sneak attack like impotence. Get them, (it), before they, (it), get us. This simply doesn’t work to ease fear; it creates fear. In the process a lot of drugs are sold in pharmacies and in the streets, for when you are talked into fear and then become an attacker you solidify the idea that attack must be coming and complete a circle of dread. If I need one drug, then I must need another. If I attack anything I inevitably will be more afraid as I wait for retaliation.

The facts are that, as I point out in the book, your body is a perfect part of the perfect whole always healing itself. It is an error to think your body is defective or that you have a basic fault, or that you are split and separate from a perfect whole. The words you use to overcome fears are central to your sense of peace of mind and joyful living.

Focus the words you choose on wholeness and unity and thereby stop ‘buying into’ fears such as the fear of illness and the enticement to attack and demonize your body. As you see you are part of larger wholeness your immune system is strengthened so your body can naturally do what it does best, serve as an amazing communication device.

Put your attention on remembering yourself. Make it your intention to do the following simple exercise daily. With your eyes closed take a deep breath in and repeat these three phrases ten times, morning and night as you breath out: 1) I Won’t indulge in fear and I Won’t identify with my body 2) I Will love the world and I Will forgive myself and others, and 3) I Am whole and healed. I AM LOVE.

As you work these Three Words, Won’t, Will and Am, you will begin to experience recovery from their healing power.

Dr. Clark Falconer is a Guest Blogger for PickTheBrain. He is a practicing Psychiatrist from Vancouver, Canada and the author of the new, critically acclaimed book The Three Word Truth About Love And Being Well. To receive daily tips on the power of words follow Clark on Twitter.

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  • http://www.ideaswithakick.com Ideas With A Kick

    I hate the fact that society uses our fear response so much to try to sell us stuff: insurance, pills, yogurt, toothpaste etc.

    One of my favorite affirmations for overcoming fear and feeling more relaxed is “I can handle it”.

    Eduard

  • http://www.timelessinformation.com Armen Shirvanian

    Hi Dr. Clark.

    Fear sure is used as a marketing ploy far more than we sense at first glance. It works really well, and most do not see what is being used. At the same time, I am tricked on some levels.

    I do work with a similar mindset to what you are saying there, filtering out material that isn’t useful, and making sure to use the right words so I don’t weaken my chance at my goals.

    Thanks for this.

  • http://blog.self-improvement-saga.com Nea | Self Improvement Saga

    Words can’t express how much I enjoyed this article. I recently published an article about taking care of yourself to naturally prevent swine flu (and any other illness/disease/condition) rather than running out for vaccines and medical visits. It’s been interesting watching fear of illness spread even faster than illness itself. Sometimes I just want to say, “Everybody chill out!!” All is well.

  • clark falconer

    Eduard: Thanks for the comment. I would encourage you to not hate however that only invites retaliation and fear. I also like your idea of ‘handling fear’ because our words certainly can help us. With fear however it is also important to realize that handling it is essential because like it or not, our feelings, including fear, are part of the human condition. Clark

  • clark falconer

    Armen: I am grateful for your taking the time to write. Keep filtering and shining the light of your mind on effective words. Blessings. Clark.

  • clark falconer

    Nea: Thanks for your positive comments. Just make sure you keep ‘chilling out’ yourself. That is the best way to change your world and extend love to others for as you said all is well. Thanks again. Clark.

  • http://www.dmgsouth.com Dee Gardner

    I’d never really looked at it from that perspective. With a little reflections I see how people around me are sick because of fear. It’s funny because I don’t really fear getting sick and hardly ever do. But I do wash my hands on a regular basis. :)

  • clark falconer

    Dee: Thanks for your comment. Of course it is a contradiction in part to my piece, as I sense you may feel your hand washing is to your own fears, but the facts are that part of being human is not only living with fear but also dread. In my piece and in my book I attempt to show how we can successfully manage this, in particular the fear that we and others go about manufacturing and putting into us. The question for us all is how do we contain it in a creative way on a day to day basis, always knowing that fear and dread are essential to anything creative and make up part of LOVE. If you choose to read my book I’d love to hear your comments. Thanks again. Clark.

  • http://turbed.com/ @Turbed

    Very insightful indeed…

    Thanks so much for the love.

    Oh, and you’re awesome!

  • http://blog.simpletruths.com Matt

    Dr. Falconer,

    Have you read the book “The Culture of Fear: Why Americans Are Afraid of the Wrong Things”? I think you might enjoy it, since it is very similar to your topic. It’s more in the style of “Freakonomics” or “The World is Flat”, and I am a fan of that writing style. Do you have a Twitter username? I’d like to follow you, mine is @simple_truths (it’s for the company that I work for). We also have blog, it’s http://blog.simpletruths.com.

    Thanks!

    Matt Lee

  • Cristina

    I really enjoy the topic and the approach. For me personally fear is the biggest enemy because it destroys my efforts to be calm and happy. Therefore I would be happy to read more about this.

    I will for sure buy your book, dr. Falconer!

    Thank you for spreading these ideas!

  • clark falconer

    Thanks to you.

  • clark falconer

    Chirsitina: My gratitude to you. Please read the book slowly as an experience. Let it wash over you slowly. Don’t spend a lot of time initially understanding that comes later. Blessings. Clark.

  • http://www.pickthebrain.com Editor, Pick The Brain

    Hi Matt…i noticed you asked for Dr. Falconer’s Twitter. You can follow him @ twitter.com/threewordtruth

    thanks for the comment!

  • clark falconer

    Hi Matt: Thanks for the comments and the reading tips. I have read and enjoyed the World is Flat. I’ve already checked out the blog, congratulations. I will definitely follow you on twitter. Regards. Clark.

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    i’m fearless!anyway,thx for sharing!

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    Valuable insights. It’s amazing what we can accomplish and how much better we feel when we move away from a language of fear. We do have the power to make our workplaces and personal lives much more enjoyable by being mindful of the words we use. It takes some time and commitment but it feels great once we do it.

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