Self-Discipline

How to Build Self-Discipline

Discipline is freedom. You may disagree with this statement, and if you do you are certainly not alone. For many people discipline is a dirty word that is equated with the absence of freedom. In fact the opposite is true. As Stephen R. Covey once wrote, “the undisciplined are slaves to moods, appetites and passions”. And in the longer term, the undisciplined lack the freedom that comes with possessing particular skills and abilities – e.g. to play a musical instrument or speak a foreign language.

Self-discipline involves acting according to what you think instead of how you feel in the moment. Often it involves sacrificing the pleasure and thrill of the moment for what matters most in life. Therefore it is self-discipline that drives you to:

  • Work on an idea or project after the initial rush of enthusiasm has faded away
  • Go to the gym when all you want to do is lie on the couch and watch TV
  • Wake early to work on yourself
  • Say “no” when tempted to break your diet
  • Only check your email a few of times per day at particular times

In the past self-discipline has been a weakness of mine, and as a result today I find myself lacking the ability to do a number of things which I would like – e.g. to play the guitar. But I have improved, and I can say that it is self-discipline that got me out of bed this morning at 5am to run and then write this article. Believe me, I would love to be curled up in bed right now, but this desire is subordinated by my inner sense of purpose.

If you struggle with self-discipline, the good news is that it can be developed. For example, it is only in the past two years that I have trained myself to wake early. The following are what I have found to be the five traits of self-discipline:

1. Self-Knowledge

Discipline means behaving according to what you have decided is best, regardless of how you feel in the moment. Therefore the first trait of discipline is self-knowledge. You need to decide what behavior best reflects your goals and values. This process requires introspection and self-analysis, and is most effective when tied to written expression. I highly recommend taking the time to write out your goals, dreams and ambitions. Even better, write out a personal mission statement. I found that writing such a statement gave me a greater understanding of who I am, what I am about and what I value. Dr. Covey has an excellent Mission Statement Builder on his site.

2. Conscious Awareness

Self-discipline depends upon conscious awareness as to both what you are doing and what you are not doing. Think about it. If you aren’t aware your behavior is undisciplined, how will you know to act otherwise?

As you begin to build self-discipline, you may catch yourself being in the act of being undisciplined – e.g. biting your nails, avoiding the gym, eating a piece of cake or checking your email constantly. Developing self-discipline takes time, and the key here is you are aware of your undisciplined behavior. With time this awareness will come earlier, meaning rather than catching yourself in the act of being undisciplined you will have awareness before you act in this way. This gives you the opportunity to make a decision that is in better alignment with your goals and values.

3. Commitment to Self-Discipline

It is not enough to simply write out your goals and values. You must make an internal commitment to them. Otherwise when your alarm clock goes off at 5am you will see no harm in hitting the snooze button for “just another 5 minutes….” Or, when initial rush of enthusiasm has faded away from a project you will struggle to see it through to completion.

If you struggle with commitment, start by making a conscious decision to follow through on what you say you’re going to do – both when you said you would do it and how you said you would do it. Then, I highly recommend putting in place a system to track these commitments. As the saying goes, “What gets measured gets improved”.

4. Courage

Did you notice the sweat dripping from the man in the picture at the start of this article? Make no mistake, self-discipline is often extremely difficult. Moods, appetites and passions can be powerful forces to go against. Therefore self-discipline is highly dependent on courage. Don’t pretend something is easy for you to do when it is in fact very difficult and/ or painful. Instead, find the courage to face this pain and difficulty. As you begin to accumulate small private victories, your self-confidence will grow and the courage that underpins self-discipline will come more naturally.

5. Internal Coaching

Self-talk is often harmful, but it can also be extremely beneficial if you have control of it. When you find yourself being tested, I suggest you talk to yourself, encourage yourself and reassure yourself. After all, it is self-talk that has the ability to remind you of your goals, call up courage, reinforce your commitment and keep you conscious of the task at hand. When I find my discipline being tested, I always recall the following quote: “The price of discipline is always less than the pain of regret”. Burn this quote into your memory, and recall in whenever you find yourself being tested. It may change your life.

Peter writes about how to change your life at The Change Blog. He is also the author of Starting a Blog and Audio Book Downloads.

 

 

  • http://www.yinvsyang.com Pete

    2Pac had a great line “B****es do what they can, Real Ni*** do what they want”

    It may be a bit hostile, but such was his life. The point is he was a big proponent of that philosophy. Self discipline is the only thing we really need to learn. With it we can pretty much do anything we set our mind to. Anything at all.

    http://yinvsyang.com/

    • Michael

      Excellent article – I especially like your “Courage” segment. I find myself constantly downplaying any achievement and not feel any satisfaction from it. I don’t like admitting that something is difficult for me to do. My motto for so long has been, “life is easy – everything is easy”. Some part of me still believes it…I think I just formed a cockeyed way around with semantics. Life is easy, I can do anything, I just lack the drive. Of course that means the things you lack the drive to do are difficult…but you get the idea. Heh, I could convince myself of anything – so it’s definitely nice to read something like this – Thanks – Excellent post.

      • http://blackberryforsale.net/blackberry-for-sale/blackberry-for-sale Blackberry For Sale

        Self discipline can take a while to control but the rewards are great.

      • http://blackberryforsale.net/blackberry-for-sale/blackberry-for-sale Blackberry For Sale

        Self discipline can take a while to control but the rewards are great.

    • Veda

      Thanks Peter Clemens !

      A rare advocacy for Discipline. Very much needed in these days of blind licentiousness all in the name of ‘Individual Freedom’ ?!

      ‘Reign-in to Free-Out’ says an old Indian-Asian Wisdom.

      • Mags

        Very good, I completely agree.

    • Muhammad

      I agree with Pete: Self-discipline is pretty much the only we need; everything falls in place with self-discipline.

    • Zjonni

      Aww R.I.P the Late Great 2Pac! :) Such a timeless quote!

    • Jaden Levi

      Lotta good it did him. What a philosophy…do what you want.

    • Soup Weezy…..

      Indeed Bro…

  • S.

    Great article!

  • http://www.yinvsyang.com Pete

    BTW….great post!

  • http://www.pluginid.com/ Glen Allsopp

    Although this mind not be the best mindset, I write down how I feel after I’ve done something like go to the gym.

    So for example say i haven’t been in a while, once I’ve been I feel better in so many ways. I write them down so I can look back at it when I feel like not going and realise how much better it is for me.

    That is all the motivation I need :)

    • Mihaela

       I really like this idea, it makes so much sense. After all the hard work, we tend to remember only the satisfaction and how good we feel. So it is a really nice dose of motivation to read these feelings on paper whenever our motivation falters.

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  • Maray

    Great Article, although I have accomplished many of my goals, waking up early is still a challenge. The earliest I have been able to do is 6:30am. I believe I could use the hour and a half if i do 5am.

    Just downloaded the ebook a Year of Change, and I am loving it!!!

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  • Mariano

    Interesting….
    I can’t argue with what you say… but…
    Will it last? Will it endure? How long can you keep control until you low your guard?
    The difficult thing about self discipline (at least in my case) is that it feels like something I should force myself into it.
    Of course I can do it. I’ve done it many times (diets, exercise, etc.). The problem is that in the long rung I will inevitable slip.
    Why?
    Because you can force yourself out your balance only for period of time.
    And that’s it. You can’t keep a sustained effort indefinitely.
    The moment you relax, you naturally return to you point of origin
    The solution is obviously changing your “point of balance”. Changing your habits instead of forcing yourself not to follow them.
    That of course is very challenging path that will require lots of self discipline, at least at the beginning.

    • Dee Bee

      I’d love to be more self-disciplined.

      However, don’t we all have a Devil sitting on one shoulder, urging us to follow our heart’s desires…telling us it’s OK if we slob out and don’t achieve?

      Every time we determine to do something, it’s there, whispering, making us faint-hearted. We can knock it away once, twice, three times even, but the b*gger keeps coming back!

      How do you ever get rid of the voice tempting you to take the path of least resistance? Being strong, being determined, being strong-willed, day after day after day is only for the likes of Clark Kent isn’t it?

      As others have mentioned, too much self-denial, too much restraint (like dieting) can often lead to bingeing…breaking away and enjoying all the slobbish behaviour we are trying to stamp out.

      How do you develop that mind-set that determines you take the right course of action – always? Do you have to be a saint to acquire such a strong will?

      • Bobby Cooke

        We can not all be perfect. There are no absolutes such as “completely self-disciplined” or “complete lack of self discipline”. There is a continuum which we all lie and the goal is to move along gradually to where you feel you need to be. I think consistency is a HUGELY UNDERRATED element of self-discipline.

        Also remember 4. Courage. Nobody is perfect and I am certain some of the greatest people had some problems with self-discipline, so develop a selftalk that is positive, optimistic and enthusiastic

      • Habadia1

        what you’re referring to is the  “flesh aka  carnal nature” which we all have

      • Habadia1

        what you’re referring to is the  “flesh aka  carnal nature” which we all have

      • http://www.facebook.com/francine.tuskan Franny Elizza Tuskan

        No, You don’t.

    • FAb

      Mariano, despite agreeing with some of what you wrote, have you ever tried to “force yourself out your balance ” for a period longer than 90 days? It seems that if you manage to do that, whatever your are doing become “routine or normal” hence your attitude changes and you won’t need to force yourself any longer.
      Exceptions happen in case of addictions…smoking, drinking etc….but even in those cases the first 90 days are the hardest…

      • Ravi

        Fab,

        I am really curious if the 90 days syndrome works. If we practice something something for 90 days does it really become a habit, because the whole discussion of self-discipline revolves around getting rid of bad habits and forcing yourself into good habits. What are good and bad habits is your own judgment, do let me know if this has worked for you as i might give it a try.

    • Prewesh

      That’s absolutely right. I’ve tried to quit smoking like 10 times.
      Everytime I start with fresh courage and enthousiasm.
      ut after e few days i kinda “forget” why I am quitting.
      It’s like I lose the drive to quit.
      How do we deal with that?

      • Angel

        i quit smoking i was a haed smoker i just told myself no this is yuck not gonna help me then i just stopped i havent had a smoke for nearly 2-3 years

        • http://conservativepunk.blogspot.com/ Orange Emilie

           Same here. I quit cold turkey and haven’t bought a pack in almost a year. The addiction does break eventually, and now it’s not a challenge not to smoke.

    • Ryan

      That is the most intellegent analysis of a situation I’ve read in a long, long time. Have you discovered any techniques for changing your fulcrum point?

    • http://bystander.homestead.com Changing your balance

      I agree with Mariano: “Will it last? Will it endure? How long can you keep control until you lower your guard?”

      Rephrasing what Mariano says, at the initial stage of change, we use self-discipline, courage, dogged determination, to change, until we have internalised the new routine. Whatever is internalised becomes second nature and we do it because it is now in our nature, not because of grim determination.

    • Kitty

      that is so true, and it’s how im changing myself now

    • Lyn

      People are creatures of habit…… when habits become more healthy over a long period of time through self discipline, the things that were difficult to change once are no longer the same, but the goals move onto different focal points.
      Freedom, as Peter Clemens wrote so well, takes on a different meaning

    • Still Learning!

      Nope. It’s like a muscle. You must practice, flex it and use it over & over. It gets stronger & stronger until very little effort is required to use your power of self control! It is transferrable to other areas ( as in continually refusing sugar drinks in favor of nutrition will help you have the self-discipline to finish that last pile of paperwork before you watch your movie) but gains strength for specific tasks (each time you choose to make the choice to use the stairs vs the elevator) much faster.
      As one self-indulges, this becomes habit and your self-discipline ability becomes weak again.
      Wonderfully, it can be flexed into shape once again!

      While I, myself, have bounced up & down, I see many who learn these traits as young people and possess this very useful trait as part of their character & personality. The good news is, all who read this are here to improve which makes the whole world better.

      I really like this quote and I don’t know where it came from but it has meaning on different levels if you say it with different inflections on different words:
      Be who you want to be!

  • http://www.marcandangel.com Marc and Angel Hack Life

    Peter, I love your points on internal coaching. It’s something I do daily. ;-)

    Marc

  • http://financialphilosopher.typepad.com/thefinancialphilosopher/ The Financial Philosopher

    Great post, Peter…

    I agree with Mariano with regard to striking balance. Self-discipline and self-motivation can be quite hyper-intentional, yet floating around like a leaf in the wind may be equally harmful.

    I do believe, however, that you make a case for balance within the frame of what I refer to as “mind vs brain.” Over the course of time, the will of the mind can overcome the desires of the brain. Forming good habits takes time and attempting to do this quickly may be self-destructive, and you do a good job of saying this.

    We each have a certain potential and we can not reach it with out some form of self-discipline. Success is no accident. We simply need to find our own balance to find it…

    Kent

  • http://shanelyang.com/blogs/articles/ Shanel Yang

    You must have a strong enough reason to commit to the change. For me, I was a nondrinker till age 30 (due in large part to my dad’s alcoholism and others of my family’s alcohol and drug problems). My big reason beyond my own health was to be a shining example to my 3 younger sisters. Unfortunately, by age 30, I found that being the teetotaler actually alienated them — and most of my peers. So, when my first boss at a law office insisted I take a shot of Stoli as part of an initiation ritual upon hiring me, I decided it was time to break my life-long habit. During the next 10 years, imbibing helped grease the wheels of social and business exchanges (including with my sisters), so I had no reason to stop. However, since last year, when I began my blog, I have been wanting to cut back and possibly quit alcohol altogether. It’s expensive and the fuzzy mindset it gave me was not what I wanted anymore — though it was very useful whenever I needed to relax from a day of legal work in a corporate environment.

    I had been trying ever since I quit law last October to stick to a healthier diet, regular exercise, and less alcohol. All with minimal success. Finally, I decided to try a water fast. I successfully fasted for 10 days, followed by a 5 day post fast (which I chronicled at http://shanelyang.com/2008/07/03/fasting-log-day-1/ ). But, the real trick would be to maintain my amazing results (20.40 lbs. lost in 15 days, no alcohol, and only raw food for 5 of those 15 days). Since I no longer was trying to be a role model to anyone, I had to find a different, sufficiently important purpose to keep to the habit of not drinking alcohol and of eating more raw foods despite the many temptations all around me. Then, it came to me: Treat my body like a temple. Now that is the type of all important goal that can sustain me through any temptation. Why treat it like a temple? Because it is the vessel that can extend my life to 120 years if I thus treat it — and to also cleanse it periodically with water fasts 1 – 2 times per year. : )

    • Sallyaversa

      I went on a 21 day fast in Jan. and lost 15 lbs. i have kept the weight off and have broken gluttony in my life. I like the idea of treating my temple as it should be treated for the Bible says your body is the temple of God. thanks for your reminder!

    • Habadia1

      you make a great point!  Before you are open to change you  have to hate a current condition in your life!

  • http://www.authenticselfdiscovery.com/ Authentic_AlexG

    6. Consistency

  • http://www.markhoustonrecovery.com/blog/ Jenna

    Good post — excellent points! I have to say — I couldn’t agree more that commitment is key!

  • http://ourbestversion.com Ari Koinuma

    Excellent primer on self-discipline.

    To Mariano’s point, I’d like to offer another angle to look at it.

    Self-discipline is an ability to control your behavior.

    That’s it. Simple. Yet, most of us don’t feel that we own our behaviors. We feel out of control, that we can’t subject our own actions to our conscious minds.

    When you define self-discipline that way, then the common equation that binds self-discipline to the ability to stick some rigid regimen disappears. Of course, self-disciplined people can stick to rigid structures. But when you gain true mastery over your own actions, then you don’t need some set of rules or protocols to decide how you act. You don’t let any other entity beside your conscious mind to drive your actions, except for carefully chosen habits that you either leave in or instill in your system. This creates the sense of freedom Peter is talking about. You are finally free to decide exactly what to do with yourself. You’re not enslaved to some habits that you can’t unlearn or emotions that you can’t suppress.

    Mastery over your own actions can be practiced and cultivated by challenging yourself to a certain routine, like exercising and diet. The more victory you experience over other forces trying to control your behavior, the more you trust your consciousness to control your actions.

    Besides, habits can be formed even around things you initially think are hard to do. Let’s say you commit to running 5 miles a day, though you can barely run 1 at the beginning. You have a hard time keeping up the habit in the beginning. But as you subjugate your body to your will and keep up the routine, the routine of running 5 miles start becoming more comfortable than not running it. You’ll start feeling odd, like you’re missing something, on the days you run. At this point your action is not so much a fight of laziness vs. will. Actually, doing it will seem normal and easier than not doing it.

    ari

  • http://www.americasbestcompanies.com Tim Scheer

    The statement “Discipline is a dirty word” is such a true statement for so many people. It is like a muscle. The more you work it, the better it gets!

  • http://www.johnnygoodyear.com johnny

    I agree with the notion of consistency. My first admonition to myself when I need to sit down and write (every day) is always: Turn the f*ck up.

  • http://AskTheTrainer.com Personal Trainer

    Discipline all begins with writing things down and analyzing them.

  • http://freeflowlife.net Simon Hill

    Thought provoking Peter, thanks. Perhaps this relates to the Self Coaching trait but I think one of the keys is ‘wanting’ to be self-disciplined rather than ‘needing’ to be self-disciplined. In other words I really believe you have to acknowledge up front that self-discipline has benefits for you and therefore seek to achieve it. For that reason I love the quote you noted – ‘the price of discipline is always less than the pain of regret’. That’s my motivator.

    Simon

  • http://www.attractionmindmap.com Evelyn Lim

    Hey Peter, I just love the quote you have here “the price of discipline is always less than the pain of regret” and not to mention, the picture of the guy you posted on this post…LOL….it’s a sure motivator for discipline!

  • http://www.low-carb-ketogenic-diets.com Brian Dickey

    Great read. Some times discipline is just a matter of getting it done kinda thinking. Just get up and go for it.

    Great post…
    Thanks.

  • http://www.vedainformatics.com Harish Agrawal

    Hey Peter, Very Very Good article. I so agree with what you said that “Discipline is freedom.”

    -Harish

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  • http://www.becomingsomething.typepad.com Natasha Becoming Something

    Did you know that Stephen R. Covey is also a Latter-day Saint a.k.a. “Mormon”? He wrote a fantastic book called The Spiritual Roots of Human Relations that I highly recommend. I was 12 when he was on Oprah discussing First Things First and I was taking notes, drawing out my 4 quadrants on a paper. :-)

  • http://www.becomingsomething.typepad.com Natasha Becoming Something

    Shanel Yang, that’s exactly why Mormons don’t drink. Our health code is about treating our bodies like temples.

    I found your story very interesting. I decided not to drink for the same reason you initially did. And all these years later, knowing myself better, I KNOW I would become an alcoholic if I took it up. I think that’s a perfectly legit, respectable reason to mention to anyone who’s trying to initiate you with alcohol or who thinks you’re just trying to set yourself apart as “better” in some way. I’ve never felt uncomfortable being the only person not drinking. With enough confidence and acceptance of other people’s decisions, I think any non-drinker can blend into a drinking situation.

  • http://www.becomingsomething.typepad.com Natasha Becoming Something

    (Sorry, I’m posting this twice because I just noticed the REPLY option! OOPS!)

    Shanel Yang, that’s exactly why Mormons don’t drink. Our health code is about treating our bodies like temples.

    I found your story very interesting. I decided not to drink for the same reason you initially did. And all these years later, knowing myself better, I KNOW I would become an alcoholic if I took it up. I think that’s a perfectly legit, respectable reason to mention to anyone who’s trying to initiate you with alcohol or who thinks you’re just trying to set yourself apart as “better” in some way. I’ve never felt uncomfortable being the only person not drinking. With enough confidence and acceptance of other people’s decisions, I think any non-drinker can blend into a drinking situation.

  • http://www.youfabulousyou.com Christie

    This site is very motivating, at a time when I need it most. The key here is to create a schedule and stick to it, no matter what (unless in case of life threatening emergency of course).

    Christie
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  • http://www.punintended.com/blog Bamboo Forest

    “The price of discipline is always less than the pain of regret”.

    Wonderful! Who is the author of this quote, or is it unknown?

    I’m a big believer in building the trait of self discipline. Very solid article. Thanks.

    • http://freeflowlife.net Simon Hill

      Robin Sharma uses it all the time and attributes it to a friend – name escapes me.

      Cheers

    • http://www.pickthebrain.com Peter

      Yes, Robin Sharma made me aware of the quote. He attributes it to the motivational speaker Nido Qubein.

  • http://www.fetishself.com/Articles.html Lana

    Unfortunately, I don’t know anyone who can stick to anything for a long time.. And it works only when we are obsessed with, in this case self-discipline, or anything else for that matter.. turn into neurotic being

    …It doesn’t mean, we shouldn’t pursue the self development path, but adding a little of self awareness doesn’t hurt…J

    Perhaps, it will work well as a guide for parents on bringing up their children in this manner…

    Also, I’ve practiced self-discipline for many years, such as diet, working out, and even though it didn’t stick totally, that is it didn’t become my second nature, some of it remained with me, and grew to be automatic.

    Strong motivation is a key. But when motivation is gone, the old self is back, nevertheless, with some updates J

  • http://www.SuccessConsciousness.com Remez

    People often say, “I do what I want to do”, but do they really do what they want, or is it just some sort of programming? Are they really free? Self discipline is a way to get out of being programmed. It develops more awareness of one’s thoughts and state of mind, as well as builds the ability to make decisions based on reason, not just emotions, and to follow them through.

    Self discipline is the way to freedom from negative habits. It awakens inner strength and power, and has nothing to do with being rigid, callous or lacking happiness. Any kind of success requires self discipline, be it success at the job, making money, achieving goals or improving relationships.

    Actually, it is not so difficult to develop at least some measure of self discipline. You can find a few simple exercises, which can be practiced any time of the day, at the following address http://www.successconsciousness.com/index_000006.htm

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  • http://www.theyoumovement.com Barbara

    Great post. I have four words that can help sum up some of this message:

    live in the moment.

    Barbara

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  • Geethika

    Great and inspiring article!

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    TL:DR

  • http://www.franklincovey.com Matt Murdoch

    Please note that FranklinCovey just launched a new website and the Mission Statment Builder mentioned in this article has moved to: http://www.franklincovey.com/tc/resources.

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  • http://themasterssecretkey.com Candace

    I agree live in the present moment.

  • Greg

    Self discipline is not a natural thing. It is the result of a man made modern lifestyle. You will never see an obese kalahari bushman yet this person has no self imposed discipline – indeed they cannot even write. They also do not sit down and study music or hunting skills yet they have them because they are in harmony with their environment. They “listen” to their feeling of hunger etc and respond appropriately. This comfortable safe man made environment is not natural and the imbalances are seen everywhere – it is a failed and dying system that is now turning on itself. The best self discipline can do for you is speed up this process of destruction and if you are fit you may be the last left to turn off the lights. Better to spend your time coming to terms with what death is – fear of death and avoidance of pain is the cause of all the ills of modern man. What you resist persists.

    • http://www.liz-stafford.com Liz

      I just found your blog today. It’s great by the way. =) Tons of useful info for all levels of self-improvement.

      I thought your post was spot on.

      Just remember that before you can sit down and write out your goals and really take control of your self-discipline you first have to see there is need for a better system, or way of getting things done. After that, its need, want, will, and action.

      One another note, Greg mentioned that Self discipline wasn’t a natural thing etc.

      I would have to disagree.

      I think self- discipline dates back to even when we were cave men. The difference between the (modern man) and the (kalahari bushman) in my opinion is a matter of more and less (respectively) things to disrupt them.

      Doesn’t the kalahari bushman know that it is time to go and hunt? Do they not know that it is time to sit with family and eat what they have gathered? Some might argue that this is not self discipline but personally I think its just hard to be disciplined with all of the distractions in the modern world. For the kalahari bushman I would say that life is its own form of self discipline.

      On http://www.pluginid.com/5-things-ive-learned/#more-2819 there was more then one article on how taking out just a few things we do everyday that arent needed helped with getting what mattered done.

      Dont productivity and discipline go hand and hand?

      As far as the whole – prepare for death thing. We are all going to die. Shouldn’t we do it on our terms? Doing as much as we possibly can that makes us happy and productive.

      “What you resist persists.” That’s exactly why you should embrace the changes in discipline. The changes in lifestyle. The changes in Outlook that can better your life.

      What you resist persists, but what you embrace changes everything.

    • Mano

      Well said. Being a female,we have the Hurried Woman Syndrome.Rushed ,greedy.keeping up with what the commercialism dictates.The peace is lost,together with patience and love for each other.

  • Drew

    Great article! So true and well written.

    • http://www.pickthebrain.com Peter | Pick The Brain

      Thank you! Glad to hear you enjoyed it ;)

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  • http://timelesslessons.com Valeria | TimelessLessons

    Great read. Some times discipline is just a matter of getting it done kinda thinking. Just get up and go for it.

  • Asdf

    Cool article.
    With the progress we’ve made in the developed countries comes a lot of unnecessary substance that leads us to excess.

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    Self-awareness is the starting point for all change. If you want to change the way you create your life, begin with awareness. It is an important tool for attaining clarity in all aspects of your life.

    You have to focus on your strengths and qualities instead of paying too much attention on your weaknesses.

    Do what you love to do and be the best at it.

  • Wouter

    Thank you, you saved my life!!

  • http://kieferscorner.com Kiefer

    I tell people all the time they don’t have to get old, but most wont take the steps to help themselves.

    They lack discipline!

    A very logical post, live long and prosper.

  • james

    Jesus is the only way, Jesus saved me two years ago, dont ask how

    • Meghannreed

      how?

    • Habadia1

      Why not ask how?  Don’t you think He wants others to know also!

    • Scott

      Really? Jesus nd the bible nd every bible is a misunderstood story of the sun nd the zodiac signs nd galactic calender that our ancestors thousands of years ago noticed. Do you know wat the “jesus fish” represents? It represents our time period, the age of the pieces. Whos symbol is represented by a two fish swiming in a circle… an age is measured in 2150 years so in 2150 the age of aquarious will begin will everyone have pottery on their car nd believe in a different god? nd the three day resurrection thing is about the sun too.. our ancestors noticed patterns in the sun where days would get shorter nd nights longer they stayed the same for three days nd then days started getting longer again meaning spring nd a new year was on its way. Theres alot more aswell similarities between religion aswell. Look into it im sure itll blow your mind. But im glad the sun can save you I mean it is the ultimate bearer of life nd with out it we would die so that is motivating. I apologize for any spelling mistakes lol… nd when I say ancestors I mean ppl who lived in 10000 B.C.

    • Yvonne

      I guess Jesus worked in you with ways that you don’t remember? And it was not worth much to remember for Jesus has already saved you? (In a way, no point looking at the ugly past. It would be rather unwise..I mean one should be forward-looking. Though past mistakes do serve as a reminder.) So somehow you forgot…or it’s just too much to explain..Actually I don’t even sure if asking these will do anything…cos i don’t think you know the answers as well…yea? I hope I am not being mean or anything. I mean no harm nor offense. I just want to know how He did it.

    • Yvonne

      It is not worth* too much to explain?* Sorry for the typo.

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  • http://www.persuasive.net AJ Kumar

    Awesome post! I agree with you 100%, conscious awareness is a huge tipping point!

    AJ Kumar

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  • http://www.discipline.com mohan

    do the best thing which is truth.

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  • Veda

    Peter Clemens article How to Build Self Dscipline serves as the much needed ‘recknowing’ for the current times which having gotten more and more ‘amoral’ is fast
    heading towards a dangerous state of ‘morbidity.

    A cautious reminder – both to oneself and
    the others that a lack or a lacunae in the due
    degree of ‘self discipline’ would inevitably
    lead to a sure censuring – reprimand and even a possible punishment
    from the society at large – was in fact quite a common text of ordinary conversations till about the decade of Seventies …. But thereafter it got out of vogue as it went getting accused as some ‘moral threatening scuffling individual freedom’ etc… and the society went about ‘mutually sanctioning social indiscipline and that eventually has led to all sorts of personality disorders.

  • http://www.everythingcounts.com Everything Counts

    Self-knowledge grows as you subject your life to examination. Listening to your own speech, reflecting on your own thoughts, looking at your own actions—these are the processes by which you master yourself.
    You shape your philosophies and yourself by observing and striving to understand the events of each moment. A focus on virtues to attain and vices to forego is crucial. – Paul

  • michael youngblood

    i love your infomation on self discipline. I would like to use some of this material in a video im teaching. I wanted to make sure it was ok first.

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  • kardel sharpeye

    no no no, it’s all wrong. have you ever thought that maybe our brains aren’t good at holding commitments? i bet none of your readers are happy about their self-discipline, before or after reading this article. perhaps the solution should be using external material for holding commitment. like to do lists but even cleverer…

  • http://www.affirmationsforpositivethinking.com Positive Thinker

    These are great suggestions but often people fail to follow a discipline because they let their mind drift and they lose focus. The first step I would suggest is to discipline the mind so that it stays focused on what you want to achieve and doesn’t get distracted. This is easier said than done, but like any discipline it comes with practice and requires that you track your thoughts everyday. You can find more at http://www.affirmationsforpositivethinking.com – there are articles on how to direct the mind and subconscious mind.
    Once the subconscious mind is disciplined and your mind is focused on what you want – following your discipline becomes almost automatic. Sure there are actions to follow and you have to have the courage, commitment and awareness to get through some of the challenges, but without a disciplined and focused mind, the rest is pointless.

  • jerome

    it’s like running a Business, every little choice crates a bigger/better life in the long run

  • Veda

    Very glad to find so many approve of the merits of self-discipline and so many more want to pursue the same. Peter Clemen’s good words have gone further !!

  • http://pitercentre.blogspot.com piter silitonga

    yes..I like this article..most of us have no discipline..

  • agatha

    I can’t agree more!! :)

  • aventura

    Self talk is harmful?

    • dabEARS

      yea it can be because you might be puttiing your self down when you talk to yourself about something.

  • http://todaysgoal.com Trevor

    It’s all about the discipline in life. Without it, there would be chaos. Think about it, how many times have you thought about just taking something? Self discipline kept you straight. Great post here.

    • santhosh

      I feel somewhat better after i read this article.it’s very nice.I like it ?but, I’ve a residual doubt?is self discipline is necessary for every human.

  • tt

    it would be discipline for me to check emails once everyday

  • Mags

    I found this article to be well written AND inspiring!!

  • Jared

    I like it well talked out too. im 17 years old and I never knew how important discpline was. I like the quote at he end too “The pain of discipline is less than the pain of regret” makes sense and im sure the steps will help me build my own self disipline thanks and good job.

  • Courtney

    This article helped me a lot. I actually took notes and I’m going to try to exercise these practices and much as possible bit by bit. Thanks for the piece of mind.

  • http://www.unlockmypotential.com Jesse

    Great article regarding self-discipline. It takes self-discipline to do what you are doing. I took a leap myself and chose to start my own website recently.

    Thank you for living your purpose.

    Until next time…

    Jesse

  • juice

    great article thanks much!

  • http://www.positive-thinking-for-you.com Howard

    I study personal development everyday of my life and I must say that you have nailed it with your entire breakdown on the essence of self-discipline.

    If only more people would dedicate as much time to improving themselves as they do to complaining about others the world would be all the better for it!

    Really nice writing and insight!

  • http://inspirational-board.com Happytom

    I believe it’s all about what matters to you. Human always tend to find their own comfort zone, and thats where emotions and feelings comes to play a part, as they direct us to where our comfort zone is. There’s nothing wrong to be in this comfort zone, as it might give happiness to the individual, which might be what he is looking for.

    Self-disicipline is the harder thing to do, of course. You are forcing yourself to step out of this comfort zone, and do something that is against your own level of comfort.

    The 2nd option is of course what I want to be, like most of us here. I know it’s arguable, but sometimes reality just bitach on your life. In my case, I’m in the military now, and my comfort level has already dropped significantly since i entered here, and i am still pushing myself to be discipline in my business. The largest challenge now is to fight against the new lifestyle, and the new environment that i have.

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    Positive Thinking plays a major role in all personal development including self-discipline!

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  • rebo

    my paradigm just shifted and i felt it. thank you for the great article.

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  • murk

    there is a book called core desires. it covers this issue in a very realistic aspect. i believe it is written by john c. maxwell. I would like to say i enjoyed the topic and found it to grant me a sense of immediate action towards anything i felt needed to be addressed. at least the ones i felt i could and should improve on. I would just like to note one main point. I will keep this as simple as possible. the word “train” is very important. it takes time to train your dog to play dead and roll over. it takes time to train a child to ride a bike or tie their own shoes. it takes time to train yourself to be a doctor a wrighter a teacher. time and traing are the true keys here. patience is a virtue. people who are looking for something over night are those that will not find the success they are looking for. if you first try and fail do not see this as failure but as a step forward towards training yourself into self disipline. you know where you want to go but are you willing to do the work. TRAINING yourself to be a better person wont happen overnight. i know my dog did not roll over even after numerous attempts but he rolls over on command now. remember “train yourself” it is a process.

  • Kavish

    This article comes at the right time for me! Thank you very much.

    Kavish from Mauritius

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  • Veljko

    Awsome Piter…. Thanke you

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    I think that it has to be something that you really want to do. Make sure the goal is worthwhile and break the it down into small managable tasks.

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  • http://bystander.homestead.com Changing your balance

    Just wondering if the picture of the man doing pushup with his fists is Peter?

    In the 1970s, with the Bruce Lee kungfu movie craze, young men like me decided to learn to do pushups with our fists. At first it was painful, but after practising for several months, it became just another routine, like cycling or threading water.

    Today, I can still do 10 pushups with my fists even though I haven’t done it that way for decades.

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  • http://www.topmenedzer.pl Michal Ksiadzyna

    Great article! Besides self-disciplne, what do you think about external sources of it? For example having a coach or something that pushes you to do things you need to do instead of the ones you want to do?

  • http://www.ido-doi.com Stella Aghenie

    How to self-improve fast, You will have times in your life when you will feel like you’re the most unattractive person to walk the Earth. You will need somebody to pull you aside and say – you will not reach higher with your hands in your pockets. You can set many records, if you do guarantee yourself that you will do what you promise yourself, and listen to your dreams, to self-improve faster.

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    Great post. I love this line: “Self-discipline involves acting according to what you think instead of how you feel in the moment.”

    A person who lacks self-discipline is a fool. I highly recommend this book: “Self-Discipline in 10 Days: How to Go from Thinking to Doing” by Theodore Bryant. This book is more a workbook with exercises than a treatise. It walks you through the fear types that hold us back and teaches you how to overcome them at the moment when action is needed. Take it on faith and just do the exercises.

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    Self Awareness is highly crucial in this process. Too bad its often overlooked as it may hold the key to your ills.

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  • Steve Kosvic

    This has been a great experiance – finding this site. On the subject of self dicipline I can’t help but think of my father – one of the most beautiful men I’ve ever known and two statements he told me many times. “The only person who will ever stop you from having (or doing) anything in life is yourself” and “Your mind is both your greatest asset and your worst liability”

    Matthew Kosvic

    • kalsang dolkar

      vert true….. i just love ur dads words….

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  • Ali

    Much needed article..
    To Prewesh.. to break the habit of smoking.. i have a few suggestions..
    I’ve not been a smoker but i broke my terrible coffee addiction successfully..

    1)First, get rid of all the cigarette packs lying around your home, workplace, garage, any other places you frequent….most importantly the stores from where you purchase the cigarette packets.
    2)Next, start hanging out less with the after-work crowd, or colleagues with whom you tend to smoke…
    3)Then fix a day when you will smoke the last cigarette… say 5 days from now….make an announcement… or write it somewhere prominent.. in your house/office…
    4)Let D day come… and keep your mind focussed on staying away from cigaretted for 24 hrs…. stay away from all people, places and things that can make you slip…
    5) At the end of the day reward yourself with something good, a good dinner or something…
    6) When you start missing it then think of all the ways smoking has ruined or reduced the quality of your life or will in the future – the expense, stained lips and teeth, effect on your lungs, reduced stamina, effect on your self esteem, possibly strained relationships .. etc etc… learn to HATE a cigarette… make yourself despise it and its effects…then it will become easier as you go along..

    Good luck.. Take it one day at a time..decide to stick it first for 1 day, then 3, then 7, then 14, 21, 30.. so on… you can do it… you CAN DO IT and you WILL!!!

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  • Robert J. Perez

    Great article Pete; you got it right, without self-discipline, we are slaves of whatever the mind desires. It is also crucial, not only to attain our goals or objectives, but also to experience that gratifying inner feeling.

  • david

    why is that most, if not all, articles on self discipline start with the author relating to the reader, “For example, it is only in the past two years that I have trained myself to wake early.”, then there is “here’s my solution, followed be the same thing in every article, “commit to it!”

    If i could commit to it then i wouldn’t be reading articles on the internet.

    lol

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  • http://www.gettingfitkeepingfit.com Terry Kyle

    I agree with the above posters. Self discipline is one tough thing to do.
    Terry from How to lose weight fast

    • chi

      when you kill somebody because of anger is it self discipline?
       

  • http://lifeabundanceinfo.com nick bogatin

    I would like to add how self-discipline helps to be a human.Self-discipline should be considered as a type of selective training such as:

    creating new habits of thought, action, and speech toward improving yourself and reaching goals.
    Self-discipline can also be task oriented and selective.
    View self-discipline as positive effort, rather than one of denial.

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  • http://Jan132011at5;55am Calvin LeDoux

    Great article. I ran a couple of marathons it took a lot of self-disipline to complete just the training required. However after this I was so conditioned and so proud of my accomplishment I succeded in every part of my life. I started getting awards at work like employee of the mounth, superviser of the quater it was the most happy I had ever been. I have to say the self-disipline I got in Marine Corps boot camp tought me that if I wanted something no matter what bad enough. I could have it. So yes its hard butt well worth it.

  • arun

    Peter clemens, the article tat you have written is good with lots of information. I am trying your steps for sure. Thanks a lot

  • Omar

    wow this was really helpful! I can’t describe how glad I am! thank you soooo much!
    this was amazing!!!

  • http://bhconsulting.ca Brian Hogg

    I couldn’t find contact information, but appears the article was copied over at:

    http://actioncoach.com/How-to-Build-Self-Discipline?pressid=1184

    Might be good to contact Mark and let him know to remove it. Always a sign of a great article :)

  • jo mari

    I really like this article.Yes it’s true that self-dicipline has a big impact in achieving one’s goal. I’ll try to put an effort to practice on the five traits mentioned above.Thanks a lot:)

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    This makes me inspired! I like it too..its good to know and realize if we set our mind to a goal for us to do the thing continously in focus. Doesn’t it take self-discipline to build up self-discipline? And if I don’t have any, how can I use what I don’t have?

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  • Ιωάννης

    Πάρα πολύ ενδιαφέρον αρθρο.Το προτείνω ανεπιφύλακτα

  • http://wealthhabit.net Justin

    Great info about self discipline. I look back at times in my life when I was most disciplined and they were definitely the most productive. Here’s an interesting blog post about a scientific experiment with 4-year olds and marshmallows, their ability to not eat the marshmallows, and how their lives turned out down the road. Interesting thinking around self-discipline: http://bit.ly/dQw7wM

  • Tracey

    Fascinating. Breaking down self-discipline to a five-part process reminds me of another interesting post, here: http://blog.wealthhabit.net/2011/02/in-1972-stanford-psychologist-named.html

  • RoyLadd

    Maybe the guy in the picture should have had more self-discipline when he got that tribal tattoo.

  • Mo

    I like this article and it helps me to improve my activities and the 3rd point impress me much

  • Mohan

    I like this article and it helps me to improve my activities and the 3rd point impress me much. Thank you

  • http://crisortiz.net Cris

    Hello,

    You know, I was looking around some blogs regarding self discipline. I was seeking motivation from someone that would actually understand or have experienced what I am going through right now, and this is exactly what i was looking for.

    Thank you for the article.

    C.

  • Jenna

    I appreciate you taking time to write this very informative
    article, after going running! You have a very different
    perspective and it actually allows readers to visualize and put
    the pieces together (little by little) to make
    changes. Very positive, was inspired.

  • http://Www.themurphyagency.com John Murphy

    I got to thinking that certain decisioms are easy because we’ve built in a ‘default’ position about something. Example, it’s always been my position to not pick up hitch-hikers, so when I see one, I don’t even have to consider it. You can apply this to self-discipline. In order to grow my business, I need to be prospecting every day. But let’s face it, you get swamped sometimes, and it’s easy to put off cold-calling for a day or two. So I made it my ‘default’ position not to leave the office until I’ve done some prospecting every single day, from making a call, writing a newsletter, sending out a mailing or something else that will bring me closer to a new client. This removes all rationalization when it comes to the activity in question. No matter how busy or tired I am, it’s unthinkable to go home before I’ve made that call or sent out a letter. Your post here reinforces that idea for me. I should apply that same technique to other things I need to do, like getting regular exercise!

  • Brian

    Another blog about discipline:
    http://online-guitarlessons.net/how-to-play-guitar-discipline-and-motivation.html

    It deals with discipline in playing the guitar, but the concepts are general applicable imo.

  • david edward

    kindly i like this article and i do appreciate it makes me more inspired.i was looking around some blogs regarding self discipline but unfortunate i get it good

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  • http://www.marknolan.com Mark Nolan

    I liked this quote: “Self-discipline involves acting according to what you think instead of how you feel in the moment.” That is the truth, mind over knee-jerk reaction. Think it over. The mind is powerful if we will just use it.

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  • Hanna C.

    I think tonight has been my revelation…. at 2am it dawned me that I have no self-discipline!! I find this article and the stories are a perfect match of my daily life!

    I know I can’t live like this anymore!! I have SO MANY talents & I’m to afraid to reach out and have the courage to persue any of them OR have the discipline to work towards them!

    This article seems very helpful & may change my life hopefully! I need change REAL bad!

    • Kelvin Walker

      I totally understand how you feel. I’ve been getting myself back on track this year. I’ve lost 30 pounds and I am working to lose 15 more. I’m back in school and I am going to make sure I use the talents that I have. I watched this video of Will Smith on youtube where he talks about how to create your life. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pfWGoLj1JCM&feature=player_embedded

      • Mr feels pathetic

        HTF is that supposed to help with self discipline having self discipline and being ambidextrous are two different things FYI

        • Mr feels pathetic

          Sorry I replied to the wrong comment my bad no hard feelings

    • Tomorrowisanotherday

      Same with me!!! 

    • dj_books

      Same thing that happened to me except my marriage, family, and lifes on the line. And it’s 3:30am. I need self-discipline as well as some lessons on how NOT to be selfish but I think this is a start, all of the hard work falls on me. Pray for me and if you’re an atheist, WISH ME LUCK!

      • Azrim Giab

        Its comforting to know that I am not alone in this… I also realize that I lack in self discipline. I resolve every sunday to turn my life around from Monday…and I fail… I lost my gf, I lost my family, and I lost my faith… Today…3 years of this cycle…and I am resolving to change again…

      • d

        may the lord be with u and give u strength may he guide u on your journey through life ALMEN!! we all go through struggles even us men of faith

        • sakshi shivhare

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      • Soup Weezy…..

        Alot of us are in the same boat, different situations, some may be the same, but I know for a fact it can be acheived… I’ve started and noticed change before, then right back to my old ways because I had no self discipline.. but i’m on it now they say tomorrow starts today.. Lets do it

    • Azrim Giab

      Just curious, did you achieve the change that you were hoping for?

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    It took me some self discipline to write a comment when all I wanted to do is browse and scan.

    • Ttops

      WOW, same here.

      • alx

        saaame

    • Too lazy

      Same here :)

  • http://DaretoDreamCourse.com Sean M Kelly

    As Dr Robert Schuller said one time “Inch by inch anything’s a sinch”. And self discipline is one muscle that’s worth exercising and as Plato once said “The first and best great victory is to conquer self”

    Be Free, its where dreams come true!
    Sean

  • Dafe

    i realy liked the way i felt after reading this article. i felt all this while i had nothing to loose if only i was self disciplined and confident. i nw realise that the hardest thing to do is to believe, after that acting afterwards would be much easier. thanks alot

  • Hari krishna

    Very Nice artical.. I Plucked a right chord by reading this…

  • lorenzo dorsey

    my first step was posting this comment..now im going to clean my room…study for my text..finish my resume..and stay off twitter..all you have to do is start. thank you.

  • sara

    Fine I’ll do my friggin book report… :-)

  • http://www.real-god.com Alicia

    AMAZING work .

    thanks for sharing these tips. Deeply and very well explained .

  • leon

    Great article and thanks for the link to the will smith youtube clip.

    I also recomentd:
    http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/06/self-discipline/

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  • nash

    Great article! Got me feeling so inspired. Its so easy to give into your emotions and needs when at the end of the day your happiness depends on the discipline you use to achieve those goals you have. Once you’ve achieved them through being disciplined you’ll be a happier more fulfilled person. Knowing you’ve done all you possibly could. Not by being lazy and a procrastinator!

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    You need to have self discipline is you want to achieve something. So many people don’t know what they want from life. So, being or not being disciplined is not an issue for them at all. The just go through their Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday…
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  • Mr. Procrastinator

    I love the picture you used. It is energizing.

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  • dave

    Thats all good. but its alot harder if you dont know what you want in life.

    I do not know. I dont think there is anything- I would of realized it by now. Money is not that important to me. Nothing interests me to study. girlfriend or future wife…- meh. etc etc.

    Therefore I have to ‘come up with’ discipline to avoid consequences like bad health. ummm do this consistently?…- I’m Doomed. Really… no information can help me.

  • shameer

    really useful…… thanks for the article

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    This is the key to success, it’s easy to say but can be difficult to put into practice, I know I try every day to achieve the self-discipline needed to work on a personal project rather than find anything to distract me.

  • wezi

    I have always known that i lack selfdescipline.This has open my eyes thanks

  • Payam

    Great article. Doing what is right even when you don’t feel like it at the moment. If I follow this one tenet, I will be able to achieve anything I want…

  • Steven

    Thank you

  • Alejandro Fernandez

    I have always had a problem with Self confidence and what not and i feel that it has to do with my early childhood. These problems are becoming more and more apparent so now i feel like i must face them and conquer them and this article is rigth just do little things to make you feel better about yourself like a basketball game its not about the 3 pointers its the quick 2 pointers that win the game.

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  • ibdee24

    This a great article because i never knew about certain facts about self-discipline and u know this has always being my problem.I gat to work on it.tanx a lot,u r a blessing.ibdee24

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  • Naomi

    This is exactly what I needed to hear. I have been putting off way too many thing. For example a boyfriend which I need to let go of, I need to go back to school . Overall I just need to be more serious .

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  • mukesh panghal

    thx for giving dis tips……..

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    I enjoy talking to myself. I have some phrases thatkeep me motivated and disciplined in the face of challenge.

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      I have been working on discipline and self-motivation and come back to this article quite often.

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      Ah yes, the self talk.  What stories do we tell ourselves and how useful are they?  If I tell myself that discipline is impossible for me, then I am probably right.   But if I change my story to something that serves me better it could change my life.

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    One of the things I struggle with is geting up early. This is an area of self discipline that I have been working on for quite some time. Will try out the other tips you shared.

    • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_QMQUUBEUME5ADTMTN3GLN4SXNA alissa

      I’m one of those people, too. I’m more of a night person than a morning one. Recently, I’ve been naturally waking up earlier than usual because I’ve been sleeping earlier. Makes sense. Also, I’ve been focusing a lot more on what I eat. Eating healthy and vitamin enriched foods truly make a difference. So, try not to stay up late and get things done earlier.

  • Kingkaush

    thanks a lot for a great piece of counselling for self discipline  

    • Bodhihoang

      Discipline is highly adapted by enviromental influences  & relationships. A person like me who not only lives in a junk area and who does not have friends or any relationships discipline becomes near impossible.

      • Bodhihoang

        Also, I think discipline should be fortified/replaced with the positive rather then just trying to discipline yourself by not doing the negative , it’s like trying to not think of a pink elephant within the next 5 seconds, always fails from my experience.

  • Nela_nla

    ok, great we have to change our self in to disciplined

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  • wisdom seeker

    a good article and practical too!

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  • Lizgabbie

    Awesome article!!!!

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  • Blam

    After learning self-discipline, life becomes soooooo much easier, you can do anything and be really good at it. But it is fuck hard to master.

  • Jesse

    The price of discipline is always less than the pain of regret.

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  • Sid

    My mom is making me copy this entire article on paper…

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  • http://cs600i.com Brother CS600i

    This is a great article.  I can remember many instances in my life where I was punished physically, mentally, and monetarily by not being disciplined.  When you talk about pain of regret, this punishment is true pain of regret. 

    There are lots of tidbits in this article that can help one develop self discipline.  However, I still think we all operate on different circadian rhythms, don’t you?  My experience is that my circadian rhythm is very difficult to change.  Do you think it is possible to change one’s circadian rhythm?

    Lizbeth

  • http://cs600i.com Brother CS600i

    This is a great article.  I can remember many instances in my life where I was punished physically, mentally, and monetarily by not being disciplined.  When you talk about pain of regret, this punishment is true pain of regret. 

    There are lots of tidbits in this article that can help one develop self discipline.  However, I still think we all operate on different circadian rhythms, don’t you?  My experience is that my circadian rhythm is very difficult to change.  Do you think it is possible to change one’s circadian rhythm?

    Lizbeth

  • Paulbern007

    November 20, 2011
    I’m Paul and I promised myself I’m gonna start jogging daily for 30 minutes starting tomorrow and I’m gonna do whatever it takes to achieve my ideal body 4 months from now.  If you can remember me, you may check my result by sending me email at paulbern007@yahoo.com
    Thank you for this article. It reminded me of my military training which I’ve long forgotten.

  • Perserra

    What incredibly useless drivel. The key to self- discipline is commitment? You might as well say ‘The key to self-discipline is self- discipline.’ Are you a con man or just an idiot?

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  • Allanperry23 Ap

    If it was that easy for someone to accomplish all that they desire, wouldn’t you think more people would take heed. In the perfect world or for the perfect person this is the blue print for success at whatever one wants. In the real world the distractions that come with living makes these simple tasks feel impossible. I am struggling with self discipline but with articles like this it reassures me that I can overcome the odds. Thanks

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    Great Post! I’ve found that a little self discipline goes a long way. Thanks, Matt.

  • Matthew Nutley

    For many years I suffered from an illness called procrastination! To read an excellent post like this has helped me to stay motivated! Thanks

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  • rontgen

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  • Carrington350

    Finally an article that makes sense.  Instead of saying “I am going to lose 10 lbs…or I am going to quit drinking…” it would be better to approach it as “I am going to be in control!”   Thanks for the article.

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    This post has inspired me to go to the gym in the morning,  I know it will do me good!!

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  • Itsgettingkindalate

    Wouldn’t you say that “Commitment to self discipline” in itself requires self discipline? This segment is a bit of a gimmick and does not provide a real insight on the matter being discussed – more like an infinite loop. 
    The rest of the article, however, is quite well written. 

  • Jennchaves87

    I love it. A lot of us forget what it takes to have discipline at all in our spoiled lives in a modern world, but this article brought back a reality check for me and a good one at that. Thank you!

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  • Ameer

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  • W223

    started out liking this. Many helpful points. By the second point, I’m thinking “I know my behavior is undisciplined or on wouldn’t have found this page.” 3rd point your a flower child and everything is Rosie. by the end I’m thinking your gay. Might want to rephrase some stuff.

  • J-Jay

    This is very helpful, along with all the other information here.

  • Anonymous

    If anyoneone can benefit from this, it’s us older guys, as we tend to loose 2 of the 5.

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  • Patience

    This article is actually influncial for me as i have come to dislike my public interface and how it inhabits me from doing the things i would love to do. I’m looking forward to practice the five points you mentioned and see my progress, Thanks 

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     Everthing will falls into places with self-dicipline

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  • Anonymous

    Persistence is the name of the game. The most persistent are the most succesful. And in order to be persistent, you need self – discipline.

    Great article

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  • molly

    you are a machine! be proud!

  • Tina

    It is reassuring to know im not the only one who struggles with my confidence and worries to much all the time and even more so that there are techniques i can try and use to overcome my worries and anxieties and to help rebuild my confidence thank you 

  • Tina

    It is reassuring to know im not the only one who struggles with my confidence and worries to much all the time and even more so that there are techniques i can try and use to overcome my worries and anxieties and to help rebuild my confidence thank you 

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  • peacebeme

     “The price of discipline is always less than the pain of regret”.

    Really great quote. I am going to remind myself of this today and from now on.

  • Gaghazan4

    a  very good article. The very start is startling….”discipline is freedom”.

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  • Noel

    I found this article to be quite helpful especially 3 and 4.  I just made a list of all the commitments that I’ve made, most of which I’ve been failing to keep.  It was a useful exercise.

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  • Arpita Sharma

    It is not enough to simply write out your goals and values. You must make
    an internal commitment to them. Otherwise when your alarm clock goes
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  • Cyn

    This is great because I talk to myself all the time.  Always convincing myself that this is what it’s going to take. Even though I don’t want to do it and it is hurting my heart.  I need to omit this to be able to go forward and do that.

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  • Nana Abena

    very warm and encouraging,reali came as a help to me.thanx

  • Anon

    Thank you Peter, for taking the time and making the sacrificial effort to write this article – I am encouraged. I was not disciplined as a child growing up and have since struggled to instil the necessary self-discipline to realise my dreams of becoming a successful novelist and artist…but though it may be very difficult to change ingrained patterns as an adult, it is not impossible. I will not give up until I am the strong, courageous, disciplined person I desire to be!

  • Shiqui23

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  • Crankbz

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  • Vattikondabhargav

    Excellent post…. very good…. each word entered sharply into my mind… very good motivation .. thank you …
     

  • Pankajda_2000

    Fantastic pointers with examples. it is definitely  going to boos the morale and get disciplined. it is helpful to understand the meaning of life we are living. Pankaj

  • Kumarsamakesh

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  • Caleblobb

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  • Sarahjohn135

    this is wonderful…I really need to take this advice into consideration. I need to study for the SATs and I haven’t yet realized the level of dificulty yet. Thank you for half-way opening my eyes by what you wrote in the Courage section.

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  • Get Real

    I would go one step further “Discipline is Love.”  When you love your self, you do things that are in alignment with your dreams.  It’s also a beautiful way to frame doing things in your mind.  For example, I love my self and want to be super healthy so I get up at 5AM to workout!

  • Get Real

    I would go one step further “Discipline is Love.”  When you love your self, you do things that are in alignment with your dreams.  It’s also a beautiful way to frame doing things in your mind.  For example, I love my self and want to be super healthy so I get up at 5AM to workout!

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  • mike

    people still look at me funny when I tell them I wake up at 5 and have a run! it seems to me that the mental and emotional challenges are much more difficult than the physical ones

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    This was great, I needed this.  Self-discipline is tough, but we gotta get thru it. Thanks a lot man! 

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  • Luke

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  • Mitchie

    This really motivated me, thank you. 

  • Megan Neilsen

    Peter, 
      I looked up self-discipline because I am aware I have none. I am almost 20 years old. I had a hard life growing up. Lots of abuse, and I was not taught self-discipline, let alone discipline. I am a greatful recovering alcoholic as a result of my childhood. I have 149 days clean and sober.. and counting! :D But I got on here so that I could learn how to create and stick to a schedule. My schedule in the morning is to get my clothes ready to go for the day, then take a shower, eat breakfast, then I end up spending most of the day on facebook. I don’t mean to, I just do. I want to be able to wake up earlier (I get so much more out of a day if I get up early) take a shower, remember to brush my teeth, and wash my hands after using the restroom. Then when I get the laundry done, I often find myself just throwing it in my closet in a box where my socks and other stuff like that are in. I have a pants toat, and that box. Then I hang up most of my shirts. I want to have enough discipline and ambition to just take the extra few minutes it takes to do that. I want to limit myself on facebook. Like down to an hour or 2 here and there. But that is going to be HARD! But I think to myself, if I can get sober, I can stay off of facebook ;) I also want to learn how to eat better. It’s just me and my grandpa so we don’t eat at the same times and it’s hard to cook healthy for one person. I usually just eat a bunch of junk food, and then like ONE healthy meal a week. I look really good and I am lucky I still do. My body is getting older and I can FEEL my metabolism slowing. I want to tackle it before it is DOES become a problem for me. Plus I want to feel more energized, and not so lathargic. I want to find a project to do, and the ambition to do it! Not back out of it.. Like you said REGAURDLESS of how I feel in the moment. Are there any tips you may have?! My email is meganneilsen@hotmail.com Thank you this article was VERY helpful to me! :D I just don’t know where to start!
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  • Em

    Thanks for your article. I am really bad when it comes to self-discipline… and I think I’m actually getting worse. The more stressed I am, the worse I get. I’m actually in my first year of med-school now, and I’ve realised, that talent might have helped me get this far, but there is NO WAY I am going to survive the next 5 years without self-discipline.

    So I’ve written that quote up in front of my desk: “the price of discipline is always less than the pain of regret”. But it’s really not that simple… you actually have to generate the motivation from within yourself. Haha.. easier said then done.

    Other people that are undisciplined always rub-off on me too.. anyway I’m rambling.. I just have to find something that clicks for me I guess. Writing this out has helped me sort out my thoughts a bit. Thanks!

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  • Zjonni

    This is just the kind of article I was looking for! :) Its always great to know that you arent alone in really hard situations. I constantly go through the vicious cycle of promising myself I’ll get this or that done and then haitng myself later because I’ve done absolutely nothing :( I’m definately saving this article, Peter, because I ALWAYS need a self-dicipline boost!

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  • Amadi45

    I am going to apply this concept of self discipline to my life immediately. If I want to achieve my ultimate goal in life, I must learn self discipline. Let’s do it!

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  • Lungleng

    This is amazing. Thank you so much, hope it will help me changing my discipline life.

  • felixrush

    This seems to have less to do with discipline and more to put effort on what you hold as the core selfish goals you wish to live by versus fleeting desires. 

  • A_Random_Person

    Self discipline……. I wish I had it. Instead I have procrastination. In fact, i’m procrastinating this very moment, typing a comment on the internet. *Sigh* I have a  5 page essay on Self discipline  due tomorrow and all I have to show for it is the title, my name, and the class. A bit ironic that procrastination is not having the discipline to just get things done.

  • Cris

    Great Article. Napoleon Hill also emphases on self discipline as being
    very important in achieving success. See his 10 rules for self
    discipline here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-tA6lLt8TsI

  • Sasha

    love this article. i never understood the value of self discipline. self disciple seemed so rigid and oppressive to free spirit. and its only recently I began to understand the true freedom, self fulfillment  that self discipline provides.  fun things are fun and easy they dont require u to test u boundaries, they dont help u to discover who u are  . what easy and fun it dissipates rather quickly and then its emptiness. what do they say, i moments of pleasure is not a happy life cant remember it exactly) Great article thank you for writing it. and thank you for sharing u experiences 

  • Derek Lauber

    Great post. Self-discipline is definitely a trait which requires practice and constant attention. Expanding on your conscious awareness point. It is usually our emotions that derail our discipline. Being self-aware of our emotional patterns and hooks is a must in order to coach yourself through challenges.

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  • J Websterjr

    Thank you for the good insite to becoming more discipline.

  • ThapeloT

     I have learnt a lot, and i promise i will never ever forget this quote i will always recal it in my mind ” a price of discipline is always less than the pain of regret”

  • Matacapi

    Amazing!

  • Jo

    Thanks to you, I can now finally change the world.;)

  • Parkabbienew

    Like the second..i normally justifies my undisciplined behavior.

  • Sustain Lokesh

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  • Hamed_Rasooli

    Well… First of thanx a lot for this nice peace of information, than i would like to say that what i get from your informations are the following:
    courage to pursue the target and our commitments again and again.
    never give up and just be focused to face the pain  every single day.
    and at the end what really touched me is that if we wake up earlier in the morning we are more successful in our life and we learn much more in our life.

  • laloo73

    Awesome article!!!

  • Anabelle

    Live isn’t easy, but its worth it. Those who became great overcame the temptation to quit. Self discipline is difficult for a reason. The reward is staggeringly incredible.

  • Victor

    This will change many people’s lives. Our extraordinary ability to be able to develop self-discipline is what separates us from animals; it is what makes us Great.

  • Bunyonb

    Worthless article. Did nothing for me and conveys no new information or insights. Also the guy you used in the picture for this article looks like a rapist.

  • Deninel Moorey

    i will try

  • Arjun

    Thanks.. Really great article.

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  • Member of Procrasti – Nation

    Lol I wonder how many came here while trying to find the self discipline to do something they didn’t want to do but found this article to be easier to read instead…

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  • Mariana

    Amazingly written ! Simple and clear ! All I was looking for, thank you ! I hope to come back and post my progress for now I struggle immensely with procrastination and lack of discipline and I’m not happy!
    Thank You again!

  • ELIMEKS

    WOT U SAID IS TRUE, GOD BLESS U

  • Mine

    this was the worse article ive ever read!

  • Elwyn

    A great article. I possess a certain degree of self discipline, I must do because I was once a meat eater, but when I saw what went on in a Greek abattoir I decided there and then to become a vegetarian. That was in March, 1997, and I haven’t eaten meat from that day to this.

  • محمد أحمد

    Great post.  I am adding this blog to my RSS reader!

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  • http://twitter.com/selfgrowth4ever Vishaun Kistan

    Great article.Thanks for showing the way of How to Build Self-Discipline.These tips are really valuable for all of us.

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  • Hannu-Pekka Kulmala

    Here’s an excellent exercise that I use to develop concentration and self-discipline among other things. I think you’ll find it interesting.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hzk0AlxJ-IM

    • Mr feels pathetic

      HTF is that suppose to help you with self discipline there’s a difference between having self discipline and being ambidextrous FYI

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    Thank u

  • Seph Fontane Pennock

    Hey there Peter,

    So cool to see that you’re also writing about self-discipline!
    I’ve have been studying thesubject of self-discipline for quite some time now, and have just released a free eBook about it.
    Maybe you’d like to check it out?
    My blog is: http://www.builddiscipline.com

    Cheers,
    Seph

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  • Claudia

    Thank you for this article :)

  • tandn

    Amazing!

  • dR

    NICE

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  • vanleft

    Thank you Mr. Clemens! It’s taken 13yrs of spiritual analysis (finally surrendering to Christianity), 17mos. on Vyvanse after a “well above average case” diagnosis of ADHD per 11yrs of spousal prompting, and 24yrs of career frustration to prompt me to seek a messenger like you sir. Though have had periods of committed discipline, they have not been sustained and thus have little freedom and a lot of frustration.
    Your precept “The price of discipline is always less than the pain of regret” really resonates (put it on your tombstone!)! Has usurped most of my favorites putting it amongst my top three right next to: “Strive not to become a person of success but rather to become a person of value.” – Albert Einstein.
    Standby. Much obliged!
    Van

  • David

    A guy said to me once, “Lets say your wife asks you to make a hole in the wall for a project she’s working on, what’ll you need?” I said “a drill”, he said ” you weren’t listening, you need a hole. For thirty years I wrestled with the idea of self discipline only to discover that the motivation to embark upon any course so odious, it has to be recognized as a means to an end. To simply change a lifestyle because of guilt or vanity will ultimately place you in a position of defeat because the energy to change will quickly be overtaken by feeling of purposelessness. Its a natural scale that will always lead to failure. Create the greatest outcome and work to that end. A soldier will fight for ten feet of ground with their life if they know that their family back home is at risk, but if its only for ten feet of ground they might retreat to save their life.

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  • Bob

    I wonder how many people (including myself) were reading this article when they should have been doing something haha

  • Steven Lee Adams

    I call Bull@$$#. I am the most undisciplined person I know, ask anyone who knows me and they will tell you the same thing. What I have done is live a life doing what I am passionate about, consequently I learned to play the guitar on my own, started a band and played in front of thousands of people, then decided I wanted a career as an artist, put the guitar down and went to art school, it didn’t take discipline to go to school, I couldn’t wait to get there because I was learning about something I loved! For the last 22 years I have made my living as a professional artist and have the freedom to do whatever I choose, I am a scratch golfer, not because of discipline but because I love golf, this goes for much of what I do in life, I am good at what I do because I do what I love. Discipline is for people who do what they hate, it’s for people trying to fit into someone else’s idea of who they should be. Do what you love and say goodbye to the guilt and oppression of discipline….

  • Bobjeslol

    What if I have so litle self discipline I’m unable to read this atricle?
    Meh I still have to study for Greek but after 10 minitues of learning I give up, not cause I can’t do it, but cause it takes way too long.

    • Bobjeslol

      Going to continue playing games now :)

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  • Valeria Lassiter

    Peter,
    Thank you for this article. I come back to this article time and time again, and it inspires me to keep going. It is inspires me to do the things that I think are best for me. Thank you for the insight and have a wonderful life.

    Valeria

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  • soren

    I think self-discipline is a matter of character. Some have it, others don’t. You have to want something in order to discipline yourself to work for it, and I find too many people just don’t really, really want anything in particular. They are taught to want things: fame, money, power, etc. but by nature they don’t, and so draw on any sense of discipline they might have.
    Developing it in a Pavlovian fashion is a possibility, but it has been unfashionable since the Second World War when it was heavily employed by fascists, communists and militarists. However, we’re going to have to be more self-disciplined in the future because there will be many more of us on the planet and we can’t have anarchy.
    Too many school kids lack it or don’t learn any discipline at home because parents are too indulgent and society has too many distractions. Meditation is a good teacher of self-discipline, but few practice it.

  • Mr feels pathetic

    I agree self discipline is important but I struggle with thoughts of filling life with work makes life miserable I guess this mindset comes from not working that much now but I can’t seem to get myself out of it

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  • Rosieblue

    Lovely quote: “Don’t be disappointed by the results you didn’t get from the work you didn’t do.” Worth remembering next time I procrastinate. I’m working on my self discipline, as I find procrastination extremely stressful.

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  • Adrian Socha

    Great article! I also have a blog in which I discuss self-discipline and how it is important to achieve happiness but not just that, imagine how much better of you would be economically if you were disciplined. Here is my blog, check it ONLY if you’re keen about self-discipline. http://happyselfdiscipline.blogspot.com.au

  • Oscar

    I need help setting up a system to keep track of my commitments. would buying a pin board and writing down my commitment, pinning it, and everytime i get closer to achiving it pin it next to it help?
    can i please get some advice, contact me to OscarE661@gmail.com if possible. thank you, really appreciate it.

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  • Steph

    Most people make the mistake of thinking they don’t need discipline to succeed, but
    the truth remains that without discipline, success will remain elusive.
    Building self-discipline is more or less like cultivating a new habit—the more
    you practice it, the more you get used to the new act.

    In training yourself to be disciplined, you must understand what it entails for
    one to be disciplined and what you stand to gain the moment you achieve
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  • Maria Francis de Rodriguez

    Wonderful article. Thank you.

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  • Jean

    Self-discipline is the key to success to any endeavor. Without self-discipline, one cannot make any progress in life.

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  • Mk

    Very insightful indeed. It is one of the key areas in life that many of us often neglect: self-discipline. Hence, many of us do not achieve what we initially sought after. Nonetheless, thanks for this great article, it helps me to pick myself and follow through to any endeavours to completion. After all, the I would rather “pay the price of discipline than to suffer the pain of regrets” . Cheers folks.

  • kathryn

    This is a great piece! Thank you, <3

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