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Reading Between the Lines of Motivational Books

The motivational book industry is one of the biggest and bestselling printed materials industries not just in America, but around the world. While this is completely understandable, as many books out there have the potential to actually change the course of people’s lives, it behooves us to look at some claims with a skeptical eye. Here are a few themes that are played out in motivational books that you should think about carefully before buying into:

  1. 1. Things could be a lot worse, so accept your fate.

This is one of the most bogus arguments that I hear from many motivational speakers and writers. Of course, things could be a lot worse. Things could be worse in any instance, as natural disasters, crippling poverty, and armed conflict going on around the world can attest to. At the same time, however, these problems do not, in any way, affect or connect with problems that you are going through. To say that you should just accept life as it is, is tantamount to never striving for change.

  1. 2. Money and/or status are the most important things in life.

Although not all motivational books are guilty of this assertion, many of these books are underpinned by the idea that we are aiming for “success”, which means money and status, and that our problems are simply obstacles to this idea of success. As Portnoy states in the iconic novel “Portnoy’s Complaint”:

“American society [...] not only sanctions gross and unfair relations among men, but it encourages them. Now, can that be denied? No. Rivalry, competition, envy, jealousy, all that is malignant in human character is nourished by the system. Possession, money, property–on such corrupt standards as these do you people measure happiness and success.”

  1. 3. You don’t have to sacrifice anything.

This is patently false, and when motivational books promise you that you can have it all based on a following a set formula, know that you are being duped. Life is tough, and we all must sacrifice one thing in order to accomplish or acquire something else. The tricky part is know which battles to pick, what to leave out, and what to compromise.

  1. 4. You can handle your problems without help from others.

This is one assumption that runs rampant throughout many motivational books. And I’m convinced it is a direct result of America’s heritage of the puritan work ethic that dictates that we can all pick ourselves up from our bootstraps if we try hard enough. While I’m certainly not disagreeing with some of the themes of this tradition, I will say that, as John Donne put it, “No man is an island.” When the going gets tough, hold on to your nearest and dearest, and learn to ask for help when you need it.

While there is much that we can criticize about the self-help, motivational genre, it does fill a hole that is sorely lacking our lives. The most important thing to remember is to treat everything with a healthy, open-hearted, optimistic doubt.

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This guest post is contributed by Leslie Johnson, who writes about health, green living, parenting related articles at masters in health administration.

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  • http://Mazzastick.com Justin

    Hi Leslie,
    I would say that at this time in our history would be an important time to network with other like minded people. I was once the lone wolf type but I prefer to work with others so that we can collectively put our heads together and create something magical.

  • http://www.clintcora.com Clint Cora

    Yes, one of the things that some people find surprising in my talks and books which are considered ‘self-help’ is that I advocate that many of the goals we want to achieve in life require the help from other people, i.e., group power.  Groups have the ability to motivate, inspire, push and keep individuals accountable.  So maybe the term ‘self-help’ does not always mean solitary activity after all.

  • http://www.clintcora.com Clint Cora

    Yes, one of the things that some people find surprising in my talks and books which are considered ‘self-help’ is that I advocate that many of the goals we want to achieve in life require the help from other people, i.e., group power.  Groups have the ability to motivate, inspire, push and keep individuals accountable.  So maybe the term ‘self-help’ does not always mean solitary activity after all.

  • http://dailybitsofwisdom.com Kyle Beck

    After reading countless numbers of self-help books, I often find myself complaining that I don’t have it all.  “Why isn’t everything working out?  I know how to make things come into my life…so where are they?”  That’s when it’s important to remind ourselves to be patient and realize that by focusing on one thing we have to let go of another.  Leslie’s absolutely right…anyone who says you don’t have to sacrifice anything is just trying to jump on the motivational book bandwagon.

  • Guru Eduardo

    If a book isn’t refreshingly different from the rest, why bother reading it.  

    Where as most books follow the ‘warrior’ theme mine encourages you to seduce life.   To entice life to give you freely that which you desire.   And lest you think it sounds like another version of the Law of Attraction…it’s not!   It’s based on scientific research and just written in a way that is fun and easy to read.  

    Ok,  that sounded like a shameless plug.

  • http://www.planetnaveen.com Naveen Kulkarni

    Leslie,
    I think we all are somewhere, somehow motivated by some kind of motivational material whether it is printed books or a digital one. And if you ask me, I am definitely benefited by most of the books I came across. Again, the reason was my selective listening. I picked up ONLY those points from the books which resonated with my ideas and beliefs I had set in for my life. Other points, I just ignored.

    So one shouldn’t attempt to try and adopt everything a motivational book says, but pick up the points which are of immediate benefit for him. Yes, other ideas, let them be back of his mind and when time sets in right, bring them on front stage.

    You certainly made valid points above.

  • http://www.self-help-genius.com Kay

    Thanks for this post, what I have found most interesting is “Things could be a lot worse, so accept your fate.” Surely in life there is room for self improvement/ development, that is why we go to school and learn new things, we seek promotions in our jobs and all the other  things we aspire to do or be in life. I do not know why someone would just leave their life to fate like that. One thing I know is anyone’s circumstance/ situation can be improved if they try and not to sit and moan.

  • http://www.findyourdamnpurpose.com Joey Weber

    Howdy Leslie,

    Awesome list.  You’re right, there’s a lot of high-minded junk out there in the world of motivational books.

    One of the things that gets me is that you can motivate yourself into success.  Motivational material is like caffeine – may give you a jump start, but tends to lead to a crash.  

    I wish more material focused on making actual achievements.  Success leads to success a lot better than hype and motivation.

    Anyway, you rock and thanks for this. 

  • Oneshotvariety

    Awesome post! Great advice for anyone, especially for someone who can easily fall for some of these motivational gimmicks!

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