Love Or Fear? Which One Are You Allowing to Drive Your Life

Written by Caz Makepeace - 33 Comments
Categories: self improvement

‘There are two driving forces in your life: love and fear.

Love is your higher self.

It is the place of pure intention and hope.

When your higher self drives your life you are on purpose and empowered. Life surges through you; you thrive and society thrives because of it.

Fear, of course, is its opposite and is your lower self.

It is, unfortunately, the place from where the majority of us exist. When fear drives your life you stagnate and die. You don’t live your true purpose and you become dark and heavy and the world suffers as a result.

Who is the driver of your life?

Who are you allowing it to be? How do you know?

Most of the time you don’t, as you are totally unaware of what is controlling you and your victim circumstances.

Ask yourself.

Are you living your true passion and purpose? Does life course through your body allowing it to feel light and powerful?

If the answer is no, then you are allowing your lower self  to control your life. It is a bitter pill to swallow but the truth is fear drives your life.

“But fear is a good thing,” you say, “it protects me and keeps me safe.”

Fear does serve a very important purpose; to warn you when you are in physical danger and this is when we should heed its call. At any other time, fear suffocates you and prevents you from knowing for yourself how beautiful you are and all you are capable of.

When Fear Drives Your Life

Fear once was the dominant driver in my life and I was dying inside because of it. Deep down I knew I was capable of more but my lower self was in control and I could just never allow myself to be.

I had gone through my life dreaming of becoming a writer. Writing was always my silent passion. It was the form I took as a child to express myself. It was where I felt most safe and most recognized. I could express my thoughts, opinions and ideas without it being criticized or ignored.

My lower self, though was always the driver of my life. This was the part of me that believed I was worthless and had no ability whatsoever. It was never shy to tell me so either. I would write from my heart and it would say,

“That is crap Caroline! You cannot write. No-one will ever read your words or be inspired by them. Don’t be so ridiculous to think you can do this.”

And so it went and I would put down my pen and give up on my dream. My lower self had me believe that it was just a far out wish; much similar to my one of being a rock star. That it would just never happen, and so I would forget about it.

The Struggle for the Higher Self to Win

My higher self was always there struggling to come out and be the driver. It was holding onto my dream for me and was trying to make it a reality- but it had so many obstacles to overcome first.

For years my lower self dominated and nothing I tried could make it take a lessor role. I was dying inside and living such an incomplete and unfulfilled life because of it. It was not living my life on purpose.

My higher self kept trying to surface and eventually, through much introspection and self-improvement work, allowed my lower self to finally recognize what my higher self always knew.

That I was powerful beyond measure, that I was worth sharing with the world and that I could be, do and have anything I wanted. I could make a difference.

My higher self now drives my life. It knocked my lower self to the ground and asked the fear to remain their only as a warning to me in those moments of danger when I truly needed it.

When your Higher Self Drives Your Life

I no longer just write my thoughts in the privacy of my journal. I am now regularly published across the net. I write two popular blogs that both have newsletters and podcasts; I have written a few ebooks and have almost finished my book on my experiences travelling the world inspiring others to do the same, and have just hosted my first teleconference on travel blogging.

I regularly receive comments from my readers as to how my words uplift and inspire them. I am beginning to live my dream and my purpose. I tell you this to impress upon you the absolute power there is in taking the time to work on yourself. You can move mountains and you can free your soul.

You came here for a purpose and for most of us fear holds us back from being who we truly are. We don’t even notice this so habitual are our limiting thoughts, beliefs and actions.

We need help to move aside those lower forces of fear and allow love to guide us into our purposeful future.

Now in my life when I reach a moment of decision or courage, I recognize so clearly the voice of fear telling me what I should do to become less. I did not know this voice before, it acted with me being so totally unaware of it. At times now the voice can get strong enough to almost make me follow it, but the driver in my life has changed.

I have moved beyond freedom into living a life on purpose. The fear is still there but I know how to control it. I know when to listen to it and when to use it.

I know who to allow to be the driver of my life.

Start Choosing the Driver of Your Life

What is possible for you? What is your higher self asking you to do? What is your lower self squashing that it shouldn’t be?

It will always remain squashed until you find a way to remove that fear and let love for yourself and all things be the greater power.

Fear does not want you to take control because then fear will no longer have any strength or power.

You need to know for yourself just how worthy and capable you are of living your true purpose. My mission is to help people become aware of their higher self and allow this to be the dominant driver in their life.

The choice is yours as to whether you will allow fear or love to drive your life.

Love is our higher being.

With love all things are possible. With love we thrive.

Imagine the world if we were all driven by love and not fear?

Bio: Caz Makepeace has been living and traveling around the world since 1997. She is co-founder of the popular  “y Travel Blog” where she shares tips, stories and inspirations on world travel. She also shares mindset and success tips for putting the mojo back into your life at her blog “Mojito Mother

 

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  • Arnie Hansma

    I agree, but cautiously, for it can also be the great debilatator

  • http://www.clintcora.com Clint Cora

    This is a nice reminder that we should always aim to follow our passions.  It’s a shame that so many people out there are stuck in jobs they hate because of the fear within that’s controlling them (fear of losing security, fear of failure if they take changes).

  • http://www.clintcora.com Clint Cora

    This is a nice reminder that we should always aim to follow our passions.  It’s a shame that so many people out there are stuck in jobs they hate because of the fear within that’s controlling them (fear of losing security, fear of failure if they take changes).

  • http://www.colon-liver-cleanse.com/ Sean

    Fear is definitely the energy which is dominant in today’s world which I think is pretty obvious. Just turn on the news and every single story has to do with fear, death, destruction, and depression. Then the commercials that sponsor the news are Anti-Depressants!

    We’re supposed to be connected to love as we all are when we’re children, it just gets taken away from us to do social conditioning, but we can break free from it and connect with it again!

    Thanks!

  • http://www.colon-liver-cleanse.com/ Sean

    Fear is definitely the energy which is dominant in today’s world which I think is pretty obvious. Just turn on the news and every single story has to do with fear, death, destruction, and depression. Then the commercials that sponsor the news are Anti-Depressants!

    We’re supposed to be connected to love as we all are when we’re children, it just gets taken away from us to do social conditioning, but we can break free from it and connect with it again!

    Thanks!

  • http://www.theemotionmachine.com Steven

    Fear and Love are definitely one of the core dichotomies in life. The thing is: I don’t believe we can ever truthfully avoid fear. In many ways, it’s the yin-yang of love. I think the key is being able to rechannel the energy of our fear into love.

    Thanks for this post!

  • http://www.yTravelBlog.com/ yTravelBlog

    Exactly. You have to learn to control the fear and use its power in the right way

  • http://www.yTravelBlog.com/ yTravelBlog

    I try very hard to avoid the news for this reason. Once you do, you realize the world is not so scary after all.
    It is sad how our society conditions us to feel fear more than love.

  • http://www.yTravelBlog.com/ yTravelBlog

    Absolutely! The fear prevents so many people from doing what they loved. If only they took just small steps forward every day they would realize how easy it really is and how rewarding

  • Susan

    OMG, you’re telling my story, Caz!  Well … part of it.  I, too, dream of being a writer; I, too, feel that it’s been my “silent passion”.  My jaw dropped when I read, “It was where I felt most safe and most recognized. I could express my thoughts, opinions and ideas without it being criticized or ignored.”  I could have written that!! 

    So.  My challenge is to demote my fear(s). Your words inspire me greatly, but … it is not as easy as it sounds.  Fear has become entrenched its ways after being the resident evil in my life for > 40 years.  *sigh*  Nevertheless, your story gives me hope that … just maybe, someday, with a lot of continued effort … I might be able to stop giving fear free rent in my head (and heart), and realize hope and love at last.

    I dream of being able to tell the other side of your story, too–about love overcoming fear, about success overcoming stagnation, of passion overcoming conformity.

    Thank you for your timely and profound message!  Methinks I need to re-read it a few more times …  ;-)

  • http://twitter.com/JerryKatz10 Jerry Katz

    Fear is a big hindrance to success, so we must learn how to conquer it.

  • http://www.planetnaveen.com Naveen Kulkarni

    Great thoughts,
    It will be such a wonderful world when whole world is driven by love.
    However, I would like to add a bit different dimension to it.

    What’s surprising is like love, fear is also a driver. Because it also has force within it. For example, some folks work only when they feel that they are going to lose their jobs. Some people take actions only when they fear that things are getting worst.

    For them love cannot be a driver but that’s again, the question is what field they are in? Are they doing what they were always passionate about? If they were doing what they always loved, fear would not have been their driver. And again there are some situations where fear makes you take you cautious decisions which is good.

    When fear drives you to do something, just do it. It might be just right. What’s important is the major driver of our life should be our passion, our love. For uncertain situations, let the fear drive. Both fear and Love have forces.

    Thanks for the insightful article.

  • guest

    Grammar…………

  • Anonymous

    Has anyone here seen Donnie Darko? Eerily reminiscent…

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  • http://Mazzastick.com Justin

    I generally don’t let fear stop from from doing or being what I want. I trust that whatever I do I will at least learn and remember something from the experience.

  • http://thebooksthatchangedmylife.com Marc Van Der Linden

    Inspiring story! 

    It reminds me of my own story. Many years ago I shifted from becoming a fighter in life to a lover of life. This shift was so dramatically that it has changed my whole life in less than 5 years – friends, relationships, finance, health and the way I life and work.

    Thanks for your sharing your story!

  • K Anderson

    OMG, the last 3 years of my life have included major heart surgery, the loss of a parent(6 weeks after surgery), and a level of deception by someone I was close to that involved a child….that downward spiral has been debilitating.   I have just now started to mend me again, your article spoke to my inner self so strongly.  Thank you for reminding me what I need…reminding me to seek the things that lift me up, and allow me to listen to the correct voice in    

  • http://twitter.com/legal_ayuda Gabriela

     Everyone at some point in our lives we have been afraid, that’s natural and we take it as part of our lives, but when it becomesconstant and paralyzes us then it is not normal and is wheredeem seek help, lest we stop looking forward to meet our goals.and no matter what kind of fear that we seek professional help is best.

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  • http://www.yTravelBlog.com/ yTravelBlog

    You are so welcome Susan! I’m so glad I could help inspire you. I think overcoming fear first starts with recognising that it is there, only then can you work on controlling it.
    Start by doing little things day by day to confront your fear and then you realize it wasn’t that scary after all and you become that little bit braver. Before you know it fear doesn’t hang around so much and you’ve allowed that stronger and more loving you to break through instead.
    go for it!

  • http://www.yTravelBlog.com/ yTravelBlog

    Yes. Don’t run from it, run to it and swallow it

  • http://www.yTravelBlog.com/ yTravelBlog

    Yes definitely. Fear has its place and you have to learn to know when it is serving you and when it is not.

  • http://www.yTravelBlog.com/ yTravelBlog

    I think learning from your experience, whether good or bad is so important.

  • http://www.yTravelBlog.com/ yTravelBlog

    My pleasure and thank you for sharing yours. Its amazing what small shifts can do for us and our lives.

  • http://www.yTravelBlog.com/ yTravelBlog

    I am so happy that my article could help you. You certainly sound like you have been through some difficult times. Focus on what good you can take from those experiences and use that as a powerful force to move forward. You can do it!

  • http://www.yTravelBlog.com/ yTravelBlog

    Yes. Fear is definitely a normal part of our lives, it is the fear that gets in the way of us serving our higher purpose that needs to be controlled. And if you can’t do that yourself then turn to those who have walked that path already and can help you.

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