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How to Find Motivation for the Things You Hate Doing

Everyone has things they hate to do, but need to do anyway. Sometimes it is doing basic chores that need to be done. In other cases, it’s the boring part of an otherwise interesting project. People who get things finished (as opposed to people who just get things started) have mastered the ability to push through the things they hate doing, to work on the things they love.

Getting over activities you hate means combating a special type of procrastination. Everyone procrastinates. Even on things that they normally enjoy doing. I occasionally procrastinate with writing, even though it is one of my favorite things to do.

While a few minutes or an hour of procrastination for a neutral task happens occasionally, you can procrastinate for years on the jobs you really hate. If there are things on your to-do list that never make it to the top, you probably know which jobs these are.

Stomaching Unappetizing Work

There are a few strategies you can use to make bad tasting tasks a little more pleasant. The first is simply to focus on it. You might have noticed that you chew a lot more when you don’t like the food in your mouth. This is probably an instinctive reaction to force you to carefully examine what you’re going to eat before you swallow.

You can do the same thing with the work you don’t like. By focusing on boring or awful work, it is easier to overcome your reflex to spit it out and work on something else. I’ve often found that focusing on work intensely can even make me like tasks I once hated. I normally hate cleaning, but if I invest 100% of my attention towards it, the chore becomes a lot more fun.

Normally, the first reaction to unenjoyable tasks is to “get it over with”. Finishing as quickly as possible so you can move on to something better. However, with this attitude, it is a lot easier to never get started at all, and procrastinate forever.

Try taking a reversed approach. The next time you have an activity you hate, commit to focus on it completely. Invest all of your mental energy and concentrate on the activity until there is nothing else in the world. You might be surprised how much easier the task becomes when you do this.

Make it an Art

Sometimes tasks can be unenjoyable simply because there is no quality in doing them. For me, writing an article is more enjoyable than cleaning dishes. While an article has incredible depth, ranging from complete trash to life affirming, dishwashing is a narrower activity. I either clean the dishes or they stay dirty. That on-off approach usually makes a task incredibly boring.

One solution I’ve found is simply to take that on-off task and give it more depth. See your boring activity as a previously unrecognized art form you can master. When you give an activity more depth, the interest level goes way up. More importantly, it becomes easier to focus on the task completely, making it easy to swallow.

Several years ago I did part-time work as a janitor. Although this wasn’t a glorious position, I found I was able to enjoy it by doing this step. Instead of seeing my job as being an on-off task, I gave it more depth. I saw that there were many ways I could increase the quality of what I did. Taking on those little steps made the work far more enjoyable.

Leverage Yourself With Another Goal

Despite your best efforts, the first two steps might not work. In those cases, trying to transform an ugly task into a beautiful activity won’t help. You might be better off just trying to get the work done, instead of wrapping a bow around it.

The first way you can push through the muck is to use your goals as leverage. Reconnect with why you started important projects and how any activity fits into your bigger picture of success. If you can do this, you can bring some of the motivation towards your final goal and use it to finish an ugly task.

This is why it is important to constantly remind yourself of your goals, and why they are important to you. Those reminders are often necessary to push through the tasks that don’t excite you.

Don’t Do the Work at All

The best solution is to simply not do the work you don’t enjoy. This may sound like a fantasy, but there are ways you can get away with avoiding the stuff that doesn’t interest you:

  • Outsource or delegate it to someone else.
  • Eliminate it from your project. (Is it really necessary?)
  • Find a better way to do it. Technology and tricks can often help you shortcut boring steps into ones that are more interesting.

Ultimately, you should try to minimize the amount of work you need to do, but don’t enjoy. Productivity shouldn’t be about pushing through the muck, but enjoying work you love. However, if you can’t get yourself to stop procrastinating on an ugly task, these are a few ways to move through it.

How do you motivate yourself to complete tasks you hate? Please share your tips in the comments below.

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98 Responses to How to Find Motivation for the Things You Hate Doing

  1. Shanel Yang says:

    Hmm. Your first tip is so counterintuitive, it just might work! I love your second tip. It reminds me of “whistle while you work.” Your third and last tips are solid.

    I just had to laugh when your photo example of chores we hate to get done was dishes. I did them for a family of six since starting from when I was 6 years old till I was at least 16, when my younger sisters finally started helping out with that awful chore. I thought I’d never get over hating doing the dishes. But, then I realized how efficient and immaculate I got at that task after all those years of practice, and now I take pride in it and enjoy it. ; )

  2. Thanks for this article.

    Procrastination becomes a problem when you are procrastinating on projects that are important. Projects that are not important should be delayed or outsourced. The key is using the motivation tips you offer to get away from procrastinating on these important tasks.

    If tasks are both important and unpleasant then moving through them quickly is key.

    Other ideas to beat this kind of procrastination:
    1. Provide a small reward for yourself when you finish.
    2. Do it first off in the morning before you move on to more pleasant tasks.

  3. I’d do the best while having fun along the way. No point harming morale with nasty words or tones, especially to teammates or colleagues. :)

  4. This is a very interesting subject cos it really is a major challenge in everyones life at some point ore another.
    If you don’t find a way to deal and go about these things either consciously or subconsciously (I know plenty of people who made their way through these problems/challenges as if nothing and totally without considering it for a moment even…natural born :-), you are more or less heading for failure and disaster.
    So it is something that should be thought in school (maybe in stead of all the stupid religious garbage they feed our kids).

    Personally I use the two last advices the most. I delegate or sometimes( lately) I have had great success with swapping jobs with people.
    For instance I have swapped a lot of jobs with a woman who lives right down the road (lonely mother with two boys 8 and 5 years old).
    I love hanging with her kids, and I also keep her heap running.
    She loves cleaning house (no kidding, she say it’s great for meditating).
    I hate dishes but laundry is fun, she’s vice versa.
    Another old guy I know made me a great drawing desk for my art studio ( I only paid the material), so I drew portraits of all his grand children for him.
    This is a method I contemplate looking deeper in to, and I highly recommend it, cos you get to know people you otherwise would never spend time with, and that in turn usually leads to more fun stuff.


  5. Jimbo says:

    Smoke some pot, and doing the dishes or laundry becomes fun.

  6. Solomon says:

    I reward myself. If I know I have a job to do that I dislike (which I usually dislike because I’ve worked it up into a holy cow of disliking), I’ll put off having a coffee or whatever, and have it after I’ve completed the task as a reward.

  7. Annon says:

    You tell us you “added depth” but never explained how. After realizing you’re basically an idiot, I wasted no more time reading, but still felt compelled to let you know that this was a terribly written article. A retarded monkey at a keyboard may in fact have been more enlightening.

    Good day.

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  9. “Consistently and constantly force yourself to focus on the ‘critically few’ proactive activities that produce exponential results.” Yanik Silver

    Identify the things that are worth doing!

    Eliminate the 80% of all things that you are doing, the things yielding nothing in return!


  10. Janice says:

    “How do you motivate yourself to complete tasks you hate?” Well… I find that taking the time to smoke a bowl before tackling something I hate to do generally makes me not care about doing it at all. Sure it doesn’t get done but… I’m stoned… what do I care?

  11. sp says:

    This is one of many “self-improvement” websites offering nothing more than rhetorical advice. The complexities of human behavior are caused by a myriad of cognitive principles and common distortions beyond our current understanding. If you had any appreciation for science, you would realize how ineffective it is to be positively encouraging.

    The road to hell is paved with benevolence

  12. xiaobi says:

    It is perfect and useful.

  13. Spiderman says:

    Here’s the scoop, folks: this article was generated by an article-writing computer program. What do you think?

  14. Laurie says:

    I’m in the middle of changing a bedroom into an office. The work is overwhelming as the room is in pretty bad shape and there is a lot of stuff that needs to be cleaned out including the carpet. I am pushing through by imagining it when I am done. That is motivating me. I am also engaging my mind by listening to a book on CD while I’m working. That kind of takes me away. I invited an out of town friend to visit later in July so in my mind, I have a deadline. That will keep me going. I can’t wait to be finished so I can enjoy the room! :O)

  15. Kate-Monster says:

    Someone once gave me a book by a Vietnamese Buddhist monk called “The Miracle of Mindfulness” to combat my intense problem with menial chores. It helped a little, but it was so wishy-washy and vague about how “mindfulness” was attained, it didn’t sit very well with me. This post seems like a more direct, plain-English version of what that monk was trying to say in a hundred pages. Thanks!

  16. Mara says:

    got up early today to start work early . . . . just reading this article first . . then I may just have a coffee . . . and then . . .. aaaaargh

  17. Paul says:

    Being stoned makes the most menial chore enjoyable!

  18. Joe says:

    I make a list of all the things that I need to do. When I’m feeling energetic, I go on productivity binges where I just blast through as much as I can before I get bored.

  19. ThaiMed says:

    Some really useful tips here! First off the article was great.

    @Shanel Yang, I was in the same boat for 5 years, this article also hit home for me too.
    @The Success Professor, you drove the nail in a little further, the perfect explanation.

  20. S K Jain says:

    I like all the tips. Thank you.

  21. JoeSpro says:

    I think the basic idea is just tricking yourself into doing whatever unpleasant task it is. So, lookign at it a different way and setting yourslef tasks is probably a useful way of doing this. But now I’m procrastinating over deciding to impliment this approach…

  22. That’s another great method I use very frequently, and recommend warmly..


  23. One thing I do that seems to help is to put the task in my Blackberry and set an alarm, reminding me that I need to get something done.

    I don’t know why but it seems to motivate me to finish it up. I think it’s probably because I like the act of deleting tasks as I finish them. A sense of accomplishment I guess.

  24. Oao! this one must have a few issues and a chip on both shoulders (at least makes for well balanced bullshit).
    Just because you don’t agree with the article or in some way find it offending, it doesn’t give you the right to call people you most likely don’t know or ever saw for “monkeys” and other offending things.
    Cos that only shows us that you most likely don’t have any skills what so ever when it comes to argumentation, or you you have no control over yourself and what you say/write when you get upset.
    All this says a lot more about you than the writer of the article (Witch I and many more find interesting).
    If you disagree, you should tell us why and point out to us where the writer is wrong. In stead of attacking the writer and his skills….that only show you have gotten a bad upbringing obviously since no one have bothered to teach you that.


  25. This seams to be something a lot of people struggle with, and I also get the impression that some have a positive effect from reading about it, and to discuss it with others.
    I know I do (despite and contrary to what some people seam to mean).


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  27. James Watts says:

    Wow, I dont get it. Just get up and do it. Its not that bad.


  28. Pol says:

    It is easy to write of what we don’t understand as rubbish. I was reading the “added depth” as rather than automatically doing a routine task, do it to the best of your ability and focus on what this means to you. I can swear and grumble as I do the dishes or I can totally focus on why I am doing them – hygene issues, service to my family etc and how I am doing them – can I improve speed and eficiency etc?

  29. Luke says:

    Well reading through the first Tips got me really mentally motivated to get started right now. then i read the last one and that totally killed all my motivation, eventhough outsourcing or removing it is in my case simple not an option…
    — should have left the last one out. maybe i can forget it again…

  30. Jen says:

    Yeah, but looking at your things the next day and seeing how much you really ‘cleaned’ them, you’ll want to procrastinate even more…

  31. Mr Green says:

    The way I achieve depth and meaning in whatever task I may do is altering my consciousness with the aid of cannabis. Thus, I perceive the rich details of reality

  32. me says:

    eat that frog

  33. Tom Rooney says:

    The motivation to do exercise is also one of the most procrastinated. The benefits far outweigh not doing it, but most people can find the easiest excuse for not doing a simple walk for 20 minutes.

  34. Okuda says:


    I did’nt like the article anyway.

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  36. Homer J. Simpson says:

    But how do I get motivated to read this long a$$ article?

  37. LOL @ Homer says:

    LOL @ Number 30

  38. Perfect it and make money out of it!
    Sounds weird at first, but chances are many other people hate the same things and would like an easier way to do it or someone else to do it for them.
    So get really good at it, find a system that helps you doing what you hate and turn it into a business.

  39. Karen says:


    that’s what kids are for.

  40. the foreigner says:

    Thich Nhat Hanh I presume?

    Mindfulness is usually attained through meditation, but that can take a while to master.

    I’ve practiced meditation for a few years and I can tell you that I’m _very_ mindful about my dishes. Trouble is, that doesn’t seem to clean them.


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  42. the foreigner says:

    Thanks for a great article, Scott =)

    I’d like to add one more point: Just get started.

    I’ve often noticed that once I get started, I realize that the chore wasn’t as bad as I imagined it to be.

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  44. Manny Pescador says:

    I focus on how great the “RESULT” will be when I “ACCOMPLISH” this task that is before.

    Simply focus and take action! My thoughts are for bigger , better things; this simply requires action!

  45. CreativeK says:

    Excellent tips. I have been avoiding cleaning the playroom for months! LOL Hubby is getting quite frustrated needless to say.

    I do believe you are correct on totally focusing on the one horrible project. I always find something ELSE to do besides that! Thank you!

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  47. jardel says:

    don’t forget inspiration things
    like a model photo when you are tired to go gym or things like that
    music helps in most of cases too, kudos if the letter is good

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  49. Cris says:

    I have found often getting a bit of a buzz on before I start a normally boring project makes it much more interesting.

    Mopping the floor boring? but look at the pretty swirls I’m making- I’m an artiste!
    I don’t want to make dinner? puff..puff..poof! I’m a famous chef making a special dish.
    The dog pooped on the rug again? It’s a bomb! And I have to carefully transport it to the bomb disposal unit (toliet) Everybody stand back!

    Whereas performing a regular boring task can be boring, focusing on details and imagining or pretending different scenarios can really liven things up…

  50. KJ says:

    Cool post!

  51. Definitely Professor,

    Getting big, disliked tasks out of the way, early in the day frees you up mentally. I feel great once I get the weak, unattractive things handled – it’s like a load off my back, really.

    Have you guys ever heard of They have a time-management program that talks about that.

    Cool name though – my friends at school used to call me the professor too!


    +Bryan Ogilvie

  52. Mike Lewis says:

    The “Mary Poppins” movie had a song called “A Spoonful of Sugar” which said

    In ev’ry job that must be done
    There is an element of fun
    You find the fun and snap!
    The job’s a game

    I love working out ways to keep things simple so I make tasks more of a game by simplifying them as much as I can. I also distract myself from the tedium of doing them, e.g. by listening to podcasts while I wash the dishes or watching TV while I do the ironing.

    I also multitask to give myself more of a sense of achievement for the same amount of time. For example, every weekend I start running virus, spyware and rootkit detectors on my computer before I do my weekly backups. While they’re running, I put a load of clothes in the washing machine and, while that’s running, I wash the dishes.

    For me, getting started is half the battle. I figure I can do just about anything for ten minutes, after which I’ll give myself a break. The ten minutes become twenty then forty then anything up to an hour and a half before I stop. It can also help to visualise an on/off switch for myself and imagine switching it to “on” to get going. Lowering my expectations by aiming for good enough instead of perfect helps too.

    For the difficult I-really-don’t-want-to-do-this task, I do it today as a present for myself tomorrow.

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  54. Cedric says:

    I have a lot of motivation problems, but I find that once the things are done Im a lot more relaxed. so I just imagine Im relaxed to start with and it goes easier.

    some of the comments on here, someone just decided to start a flame war. come on ppl; this is a small post about doing a task or chore with more motivation not an excuse to put others down just because you go about things differently. sheesh!

  55. Norma says:

    I’ve found a couple of things that help, especially with housework (cleaning) that I really don’t want to do and put off as long as I can:
    1. I tell myself that the vacuuming and dusting, mopping, etc. is burning up calories, and so I’m “working out” as I move. It’s like I’m killing 2 birds with one stone.
    2. I call friends and talk (or listen) as I’m doing mundane tasks (ironing, dusting, etc.) It becomes automatic and I don’t even think about the chores, and pretty soon they’re done and I’ve been in touch with someone I haven’t talked to in a while. Again, I kill 2 birds with one stone.
    3. I make a game out of it some way. Use a timer and try to beat it; find some “secret” shortcut to get it done quicker; start a puzzle or some other game and let myself make another move or put in 15 pieces in the puzzle, etc, once I’ve done a specific task, etc. In other words, I try to make it fun.
    4. Lastly, when I’m really unmotivated, something that ALWAYS works is that I remember that I am blessed to have a roof over my head, floors to mop, clothes to press, furniture to dust, and I’m richer than 2/3 of the world’s population. I remember people south of the border who live in a 12X12 room for a house if they’re lucky, have dirt floors, little possessions, and risk their lives to cross our borders just to have a chance at what I have. I thank God that He has blessed me and in humility, realize what I’m fortunate enough to have, and press on to complete the dreaded task with a new attitude of appreciation and gratefulness. Works every time! :)

  56. PJ says:

    If procrastination were a paid for service–I would be a billionaire. I have walked into my office for years, swearing I would get the millions of pieces of paper (insurance, bills, medical info, mortgage, etc.) taken care of and filed neatly. I don’t even walk in anymore–I walk by it. I do my computer work in the dining room just so I don’t face the pile upstairs. If that isn’t dysfunctional I don’t know what it.
    I guess I need to say to myself–“Okay self, one day you are going to die and you’d better have some semblance of order or your husband isn’t going to survive you.” He’s so busy he hasn’t the faintest idea where things are.
    So—I think the only way this is going to get done is by me saying, ” I am doing this for God and my husband—God says to carry our cross–and no joking aside, this is a cross for me. I hate tedious mundane paperwork. But, no one else is going to do it—-so it’s got to be me.
    I will write again when I tackle my fear of paperwork—may I will write again this time next year—-I hope!

  57. vondra01 says:

    Short and useful :-)

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  59. Interesting post, and its obviously provoked alot of interesting comments.

  60. Interesting post.The best way to find motivation for the things we dont like doing is to reward ourselves after successfully completing that particular task.

  61. shabnam says:

    My problem is that I hate things that I have to do. For example I hate cooking and I hate eating all days at restaurants … And I dont have anybody to cook for me :)) …

  62. Yoni says:

    I personally like DailyFeats.

    They incentive you to do the things that make your life happier and healthier every day.

    People should definitely check out their website

  63. Yam dela Cruz says:

    1. I inspire myself by thinking that not all people are capable of moving their body to do work. 
    2. I take it as a challenge. 
    3. I have learned to take it easy so I can appreciate it first and eventually do it. 

  64. Ravi Gehlot says:

    Excellent article.

  65. Abby says:

    Thanks for this article.I do all the laundry and dishes (all the cleaning and cooking too.) BUt I would rather be doing my artwork. Problem is, I never finish doing the housework.The Laundry (folding and putting away) is the WORST. But your article cheered me up. I am motivated to think of a way to sort the alundry so that it’s not the never ending nightmare of my life!!!! thank you…

  66. Hotpinkparties says:

    The way I get through a diffiult task or chore like taking my son’s dog out which I absolutely dispise and cant wait til he’s old enough to take do it himself, or washing dishes which in my opinion is a total waste of time.  Anyway, I give the pain of these chores to  God as penance and this  motivates me to complete these unpleasant duties in no time,the dishes are clean and the dog has been walked and fed  and I get God’s wonderful blessings as an awesome bonus.   It’s a win win for me!!!

  67. day dream but don’t lose focus on what you are doing. think of things that are fun and great as you work things that interests you. Then you put your self on “autopilot” on the task you have. Me doing the dishes I think of syfy things, things from video games and movies. It helps but if you get to detracted on it then you might space off and stop working all together. Think of what you are doing is a journey and it ends when your task ends.

  68. mr lazy and single says:

    I`ve thought about hiring my boss to come home and put the fear of God in me to do the things I`ve got to do at home.  I`ve also thought about getting a girlfriend or wife to nag me into doing the same things.  Or that I could “watch“ myself, and be so disgusted with my laziness that I would compell myself to do these things.

  69. Jonah says:

    Josh, I have not read the article yet, only the comments. Letting your imagination wander is a great way to distract one’s self away from the loathsome thoughts of the task. The problem of starting the task still remains. Given that I enjoy daydreaming I should think about the time I’ll have doing the task. But then I have the issue of how long it takes and will it ever get done!?!?

  70. Jonah says:

    Josh, I have not read the article yet, only the comments. Letting your imagination wander is a great way to distract one’s self away from the loathsome thoughts of the task. The problem of starting the task still remains. Given that I enjoy daydreaming I should think about the time I’ll have doing the task. But then I have the issue of how long it takes and will it ever get done!?!?

  71. Jonah says:

    Josh, I have not read the article yet, only the comments. Letting your imagination wander is a great way to distract one’s self away from the loathsome thoughts of the task. The problem of starting the task still remains. Given that I enjoy daydreaming I should think about the time I’ll have doing the task. But then I have the issue of how long it takes and will it ever get done!?!?

  72. KaysandraS says:

    I find what motivates me is music, especially new music.  I am a big procrastinator and I need music to keep me going.  I detest washing dishes I have always felt this way since a little girl, but music get’s my hype.

  73. Brandone1523 says:

    One thing that you must ensure doing is getting pleanty of sleep. I have an example why it is so important, and that is the event which took place today. I got an hour and a half of sleep last night even though i had lifeguard training from 830 am to 6 pm. I went from 830 to 1130 to get my certification for CPR, after that part of training was over with and we got our break until 130 i decided to skip the part i hate the most, even though it could cost me a whole summer of working at this pool. Not unless i find another place to get recertified. To top it off, i was just promoted as a head lifeguard after only 2 summers of working there. I use to get pleanty of sleep, now since college started, i started to get careless about sleep. Without good sleep i then started not caring about a lot of stuff. Im going to pull myself back together and be the person i know i really am.

  74. Brandone1523 says:

    One thing that you must ensure doing is getting pleanty of sleep. I have an example why it is so important, and that is the event which took place today. I got an hour and a half of sleep last night even though i had lifeguard training from 830 am to 6 pm. I went from 830 to 1130 to get my certification for CPR, after that part of training was over with and we got our break until 130 i decided to skip the part i hate the most, even though it could cost me a whole summer of working at this pool. Not unless i find another place to get recertified. To top it off, i was just promoted as a head lifeguard after only 2 summers of working there. I use to get pleanty of sleep, now since college started, i started to get careless about sleep. Without good sleep i then started not caring about a lot of stuff. Im going to pull myself back together and be the person i know i really am.

  75. edie says:

    Then why are you reading material on a self-improvement website if you feel this way?  I found the tips very useful, myself, especially the “finding depth” idea.  Sometimes it works to change your mindset from “gotta get this done, ugh” to something more creative.  I will give an example– I started adding personal little messages, or just a random sticker or something, when sending in my payments for kid activities like soccer, piano lessons, etc.  Anticipating the smile on the face of the person opening it helps me accomplish the task. I’ve had a few phone calls from people who say I made their day !

  76. Cult45 says:

    I was gonna wash the dishes, but then I got high, ooo-ooh

  77. Sindy says:

    Thanks. I like the tip FOCUS on the task or job. I found it helpful to find a YouTube video on the subject by an expert on the chore. I watch the expert while I am doing the chore like… Watching food TV while you are cooking.

  78. Sindy says:

    I agree that seeing the task finished is the way to go. Steven Covey says “start with end in mind” but, I can’t see it finished… I only see how much I don’t want to do the task. Focusing intently helps me because my mind wants to distract me. I call it “creative avoidance”. My mind will assault me with other preferable activities ( like what I’m doing now). Hyper focus , grand idea.

  79. Guest says:

    i hate math and school, is there a way to eliminate it? :) high school sucks

  80. Pnutbrit says:

    Scooping your roommate’s dog poop from her yard in exchange for the rent. She has 4 Bernese Mtn dogs. It is a positively DISGUSTING job. And hard to motivate on that one, hence how I arrived at your site. Thx for the tips btw. 

  81. elwoop says:

    Fuck some bitches

  82. Athena Peaceriver says:


  83. Jill Hotner says:

    i’m in my mid 40’s and have finally realized that getting up in the morning and doing the things you hate first is the only way you will get them done. Priceless advice,

  84. c barber says:

    naaa when i tried that my body was like “nope, nope nope” and all i wanted to do was lie down lol

  85. Lau says:

    Thanks Norma. Very inspiring!

  86. Loomzii A says:

    How do i get myself to even read this ..

  87. Loomzii A says:

    I hate reading !

  88. Astral Planes says:

    I’ve been using your #1 suggestion and it works for about ten minutes – better than. nothing. I tried talking on the phone while doing it but I could not focus on either properly (ADD). Music annoys me and it’s distracting. when I go to wash dishes or the floor, i find myself doing something like cleaning out the junk drawer until it’s perfect and ignoring the floor. I swear, the 12 x 12 dirt floor dwelling with no stuff in it is looking good right about now. In one day it would be filled with stuff though – I’d find something, trust me. However, something that’s beginning to look like a possibility is doing it better than anyone else could – don’t ask me why, dunno – but there it is.

  89. Astral Planes says:

    I’d outsource the housework – I can afford it, but I’d have to clean it up first and put all the clutter away. It tears away a little bit of my soul every time I try to do it. I wish I knew why. Tried the reward. Might work for others though.

  90. Astral Planes says:

    I’ll check that out – ty Brian

  91. Astral Planes says:

    By the way – and maybe someone has an answer for this, I like doing laundry, even hand-washing, putting it on a line, ironing, folding and pairing but hate putting it away. I like polishing all the shoes in the house. (but they stay where they were when I finished them) I love to cook – three meals day, from scratch. Even with ADD. Hate the clean-up)I sewed my own wedding dress and veil with a needle and thread. – that took a lot of tedious repetitive, work I found soothing instead – maybe because there was a point to it. i like cleaning the bathroom (the small one only) I’ve always wondered what the point of dusting is. In other words, why some things other people hate and not other things? Maybe it’s rooted in mom making me clean my room, i.e, putting clutter away (40 years ago???) kidding abou that – but then again..:( Dunno, but open to anything that will work.

  92. Astral Planes says:

    That’s funny, lol..but it might work. try videotaping yourself or hire a pretend wife.

  93. Astral Planes says:

    That is a great idea! (swapping).if I could get the place decluttered first. I’m with you re: laundry.

  94. Astral Planes says:

    Another great idea – even the doggie one.

  95. Astral Planes says:

    Scott, ignore the rude offensive people who trashed this article; they could have had the good manners to withdraw without leaving a trail of negativity behind. I found it very useful and the replies as well, and taking the time to put it up and share it with others was very kind and gracious. I’m glad I found it.

  96. Astral Planes says:

    Someone mentioned to break a big task down and I just tried that out. Here’s how it went: I had clothes and trifles on my easy chair – plenty of those, throws, little items – on other living room surfaces and it was just too daunting and miserable. So I focused on one chair only. Motivation? My sweet little hound likes that chair. What I had to do first though (anyone else?) was I had to mentally regard each item on the chair from a distance, take some time (a lot) and figure out where each item belonged. Then I made piles depending on where they went. Ok so far. Now putting them away. Half went out into the trash, and recycle – killed me to part with it but hated sorting it more – and the other plies I just gritted my teeth and did it. I feel slightly ill and weak and depressed now instead of happy the chair is free. Has to be the mommy-clean-your-room thing. Really can’t figure this out – so motivated and creative with other things. So two of your suggestions worked -1) how the task might benefit someone I loved who was helpless to do it, and 2) I reduced the amount of things I’d have to put away another day. The ruthless tossing out of things IS making me happy. Might just throw the whole lot out except the kitchen appliances the shoe cleaning kit and the iron – love the zen of ironing and shoe-polishing.

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