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How to Beat the Fear of The Unknown

When my coaching clients find their purpose in life, they become so enthusiastic about their new discovery.

But the fear of the unknown leaves them in a frozen status.

They are afraid of entering and exploring the new ground, because they think they might get in trouble. They are afraid of losing what they already have by jumping into the unknown.

So, they remain paralyzed.

They know what they should be doing, but they can’t take action because they think there is a risk involved with this big life transition.

The Internal Conflict Between What You Want and What You Already Have

Yes, you will be leaving your well known life and begin to embrace a totally new lifestyle.

But, here’s something that’s worth thinking about:

Aren’t you already in trouble?!

What urged you to search for your true passion?

Weren’t you hungry for a meaning in your life?

Aren’t you already feeling the pain of being lost and wandering aimlessly through life lacking a real purpose?

Are you happy with doing work that has no meaning and wasting your precious time doing something that doesn’t really matter to you?

This Shallow Life Leaves You Already In Trouble!

So, what do you have to lose?

As Steve Jobs says, “You’re already naked, so there is no reason why you don’t follow your heart”

Life is short. So, get out of your fears, do something and make a difference.

In fact, once you start taking action, you’ll figure out what works and what doesn’t, and you will soon gain clarity about what you should be doing to live and connect your passion to a profitable path.

The only way to beat the fear of the unknown is to take the first step. If you’re afraid of getting in trouble, remember that you’re already in a bigger trouble by not following your heart. If you listen to the voice of your fears, you’ll live an empty life. But, if you listen to the voice of your heart, you’ll live a remarkable life.

Take the first step and beat the fear of the unknown. There is nothing to lose and everything to gain.

 

M. Tohami helps unfulfilled professionals live with passion. He’s the creator of The P.A.S Technique: The world’s easiest way to find your passion and purpose in life. Click to discover how he recovered from a broken self-esteem to become a bestselling author.

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  • http://flawlessconfidence.com Martin

    Thomas Edison said it the best: “We shall have no better conditions in the future if we are satisfied with all those which we have at present”. You choose: remain in the same situation (have fun with your unhappy life!) or take the first step and see where it will lead you.

    • http://www.mlquotes.com ML Quotes

      True, but one thing we need to remember is that we’ll never be totally satisfied (at least most of us) with what we have.  We know there’s always something better once we reach a certain point.

      But still, I think if we are aware of this fact, we can be happy in our unsatisfaction.

      • http://flawlessconfidence.com Martin

        That’s true, but the question is: how badly do you want it? Maybe there’s always something better, but most people don’t really care that much. They are satisfied with what they have (or they pretend that they’re satisfied because taking action is too difficult). Sometimes it’s a good approach, sometimes it’s bad (when you’re dismissing your problems).

      • http://www.TransformationalMotivation.com M. Tohami

        when you do what you’re passionate about, you’ll be satisfied AND you’ll always aspire for more. So, you’ll continuously have both satisfaction and aspiration.

        • http://www.mlquotes.com ML Quotes

          To clarify, I was talking more about satisfaction in terms of results, not of where we are or what we are doing at the moment.
          For example running. I love running. I’m always satisfied/happy/feeling good to run, fast or slow, raining or snowing. However, in terms or result, I always want to run longer, higher, etc.
          But you’re right, we can be satisfied and aspire for more at the same time.

    • http://www.TransformationalMotivation.com M. Tohami

      That’s a great insight Martin. Thanks for sharing.

  • http://Mazzastick.com Justin

    Hi Tohami,
    Oh yes, the fear of the unknown and the mental uncertainity that it creates will definitely cause us to freeze in our tracks.

    I use faith and inspiration to move me forward whenever I get that “frozen feeling.” It is true that once we even take a little action in the direction that we want to go the fear feeling will begin to go away.

    • http://www.TransformationalMotivation.com M. Tohami

      So true Justin. The fear feeling will go away and you’ll also gain more clarity about the best way to manifest your passions.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Kashyap-Rawat/100000374371899 Kashyap Rawat

    all fear we have is due to our own ego. ego  creates imaginary fear in ourselves. speaking spiritually, ego does not want us to be free from fear. as it would mean death of the ego itself. the earlier we understand this basic truth earlier we will be free from all  kinds of fear. ego does not want us to be quiet when we become quiet our inner intelligence comes into picture. one way is meditation to  quiet our mind.
    http://24x7meditation.blogspot.com/

    • http://www.TransformationalMotivation.com M. Tohami

      I agree that meditation is an important practice to get quiet and slow down. I just can’t understand the ego part. If you can elaborate that would be great.

      • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_IVHBK77DEMJDB7W233LG3TJRIQ davidj

        ego can make things a “must win” situation and put added pressure which can paralyze you with the fear of failure. if you’re carefree about the outcome instead of making it a “must win” situation, there is less pressure which could lead you to take action faster.

  • http://www.clintcora.com Clint Cora

    One way to beat the fear of the unknown is to actively network with those who are already immersed in those new areas.  They would be able to shine a light into those new horizons for you and therefore make the unknown a little less scary and intimidating.

    • http://www.TransformationalMotivation.com Mohamed Tohami

      I can’t agree with you more. Networking is key to activate the power of passion in your life.

  • http://www.colon-liver-cleanse.com/ Sean

    Religion exploits the fear of the unknown so staying away from it can help as well

    • http://www.TransformationalMotivation.com M. Tohami

      I don’t see the point here. How can religion exploit fear? In fact, faith gives you power to pursue your dreams and be the best you can be.

      • raj

        u re an atheist. goto hell

        • Chun

          you are the reason why people fear of religion and be atheist.

      • LRH

        He said Religion. You can have faith and pray without belonging to a specific organization and being told what to do by a man made religion.

  • Livingauthentically

    I think we are actually afraid of the fantasies that we fill the unknown with. The coming reality is rarely totally new – there is usually lots of continuity. So we can usually take small safe steps into a better future.

    • http://www.TransformationalMotivation.com M. Tohami

      Yes, small steps will lead to more clarity and hence bigger steps.

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  • http://www.whole-life-success.org John Curran

    Great article! The statistics indicate that 1 out of every 3 people in the world are unhappy with their life. One of the top questions people ask themselves is… What should I do with my life? Finding one’s purpose and fulfilling the need for significance is the receipe for long term successs and happiness in my humble oppinion.

    • http://www.TransformationalMotivation.com M. Tohami

      I can’t agree with you more John. Do you have a link to the source of this interesting statistics?

  • Suzanne

    Yes, one step at a time towards your goals is all it takes for huge progress. And that one step ultimately will lead to the second at which point you will ask yourself “what the hell took me so long?”

  • Suzanne

    Yes, one step at a time towards your goals is all it takes for huge progress. And that one step ultimately will lead to the second at which point you will ask yourself “what the hell took me so long?”

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  • http://www.tourismdentalindia.com Dental Tourism

    A cautious overoptimism is good and I agree fear of unknown is a deterrent to a curious mind. It is good to be bold. If this was not the case ancient explorers would not have been brave enough to venture out on perilous journeys. But again it was their prejudice and fear of the unknown that led to the massacre of the locals. I think even the boldest of the persons does have some fear. 

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  • Sparrow1411

    I am afraid of dark places cuz I don’t know what Is lurking in there waiting to grab me… I know it’s stupid but I don’t think I’m afraid of the dark.. Even when I am in dark water, any help?

  • Sparrow1411

    I am afraid of dark places cuz I don’t know what Is lurking in there waiting to grab me… I know it’s stupid but I don’t think I’m afraid of the dark.. Even when I am in dark water, any help?

  • Sparrow1411

    I am afraid of dark places cuz I don’t know what Is lurking in there waiting to grab me… I know it’s stupid but I don’t think I’m afraid of the dark.. Even when I am in dark water, any help?

  • Renier Engel

    Wow. That’s amazing how our fear can prevent us from doing the things God wants us to do.

  • Keith Clarke

    One way of defeating a fear is with a larger one. I find visualising myself looking back in my later years at my life and feeling the regret and sense of loss as a result of all the things I didn’t do and the person I didn’t become creates such a profound sense of fear that I cannot let that happen. The immediate fear then pales in significance. It doesn’t disappear, but allowing it to rule is no longer an option.

  • look

    Fear is keeping me at a low paying wage, in a relationship that is mediocre, hardly any friends, and living at home with my folks. So yeah, that is what fear brings to the dang table.

  • Ako Si Aimee

    Thank you! I’m experiencing this fears of unknown right now… Somehow this helps me to think what should i do..

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