• Gabriel

    Great post Cindy, hopefully I can try to develop as many of these habits as I can. Life is really wonderful, and I guess the best way to go through it is to be true to yourself and once in a while, to stop and smell the roses.

  • http://www.yinvsyang.com Pete

    Great post indeed. Very invigorating to read through all of the things that make me happy in life. I love the pics as well.

    http://yinvsyang.com/

  • Pol

    Good, positive post. I agree with most of this except the bit about friends. How can we choose the friends who are there for us and make us feel best and avoid those who drain us? What is the effect on a workplace or small community when we all choose not to be friends with that one person who drains everyone? What is the effect on them? Quite frankly, depressed people are often no fun to be with and can be unsupportive when they are wrapped up in their own problems. I have a couple of friends who drain me at times. I could not abandon them. They are probably the friends who I mean most to.

  • http://writerdad.com Writer Dad

    4,6,13

    I’m a really happy guy, and these are the three most important for me. I need to be learning something new, consistently; doing what I love, especially in regard to how I make my living; and I have to have a little silence in each of my days.

  • http://www.pickthebrain.com Peter

    Cindy,

    Thanks for this article. It’s good to start the new week off on a happy and positive note :)

  • http://shanelyang.com/blogs/articles/ Shanel Yang

    Fantastic post, Cindy! Love this list and will refer to it often. I’d like to share my own that was a guest post at Dumb Little Man called “25 Statements to Happiness.” These 25 statements gave me the clues to what it was I was missing in my life (how I thought about things) at a time when I was abjectly unhappy. Here’s the link: http://www.dumblittleman.com/2008/04/25-statements-to-happiness.html

  • http://effortlessabundance.com Michael Miles

    Wonderful observations. I think being proactive is the most important one – happy people realize that happiness is a choice.

  • http://www.cindysense.com Overcoming Lifes Obstacles

    Pol,

    Thanks for the comment. I understand what you are saying. And I would never say to abandon your friends when they are having a hard time.

    I’m saying it’s best to choose to not associate with negative people that bring you down. People who tell you you will never achieve your dreams, people that tell you that the things you enjoy are stupid .. etc

    We can not always choose who we work with – but we can choose how often and when to associate with them. We don’t have to have breaks with them – or associate with them after work.

    Your questions could really take up an entire post – I’ll have to get to work on that!

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  • http://www.levnow.com/blog Tabs

    I am happy, I look at the list and think okay, here are a few more things I can do to keep the mojo running.

    Thanks for the list,

    -Tabs

  • http://financialphilosopher.typepad.com/thefinancialphilosopher/ The Financial Philosopher

    I have found that people who would say they are “happy” are not in a temporary “state of being” but in a perpetual “trait of being,” which is called contentment.

    This is an inspirational list and I will not take away from it; however, I have observed that people who are content do not need external inspiration, such as a list of ways to be happy, to be “happy.”

  • http://www.cindysense.com Overcoming Lifes Obstacles

    Thanks for all your comments!

    Gabriel – I agree the best philosophy is to be true to yourself.

    Pete – Glad you enjoyed the article.

    Pol – I agree with you, and your comments could actually lead to a whole new post! (Better get busy writing it. )

    I agree that depressed people aren’t fun to be with. I had a pretty bad bout of depression in the early 90s and just wrote an article about Overcoming Depression on CindySense. It is important for you to be there for them – but you also need to take care of yourself, and don’t let them bring you down with them. We all go through times in our life where we are so overwhelmed that we do drain those that we are closed to.

    I’m talking about choosing not to spend time with people who demean your dreams and goals; People who are constantly negative and in general like to bring everyone down around them. People who never give you anything – but demand everything in return. If you work with a person like this, you don’t’ need to have breaks with them – or go out of your way to spend time with them. Why would you want to?

    Writer Dad – I love learning too! Thanks for the feedback.

    Peter – We should begin every day and every week on a positive note 

    Shanel – Thanks for sharing that link!

    Michael – Being proactive gives us the edge on what goes on in our life.

    Tabs – There’s always thing we can do to keep the mojo running 

    Financial Philosopher – Thanks for your viewpoint. I agree with you. Unfortunately not too many people ever actually achieve the contentment you are speaking about.

  • http://www.kathmandau.blogspot.com/ CG Walters

    Excellent list of tools for a more joyous life, Cindy. Thank you.
    Would you mind if I reference your article in my upcoming “Celebrate What’s Right”carnival
    http://kathmandau.blogspot.com/2008/08/call-for-submissions-celebration.html ? This is just the type of positive perspective that I am trying to put together.

    Many blessings to you and your dear ones,
    CG

  • http://www.balancedexistence.com Stephen

    I especially liked point 14. Mind their own business and 21. Take Responsibility. So very many people lack the maturity to take responsibility for themselves. The conclusion of psychological studies is that many of us do not progress developmentally beyond the age of 11. Those who can’t take responsibility for themselves are still blaming everything on their big sister to try to get out of trouble.

    Good article.

  • http://www.cindysense.com Overcoming Lifes Obstacles

    GG – I’m glad you enjoyed the post. I have no problem with you refrencing my article. You may want to subscribe to my newsletter on CindySense to get my Free e-book “your Guide to Happiness”. It adds to this article.

    Stephen – So true, if people would mind their own business and take responsibility for them selves, the world would be a brighter place. And hey “What’s wrong with blaming my BIG sister – I like blaming her.” :-) – Just kidding, my big sister has really taught me a lot about life!

  • http://www.attractionmindmap.com Evelyn Lim

    Tip#21 is the best!! Once we decide to take responsibility for our own lives, we start to do things that will influence how we feel each day rather than blaming everything and everyone else!

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    “Happiness is not achieved by the conscious pursuit of happiness; it is generally the by-product of other activities.” – Aldous Huxley

  • http://www.somedaysyndrome.com Alex Fayle

    Nice quick read, Cindy – and a good reminder as to why I feel I have a happy life. I practice all of those – and when I’m not happy, something’s slipped.

  • http://www.zencollegelife.com Ibrahim | ZenCollegeLife.com

    Great post. These types of articles make me happy to be alive. Thanks a lot!

  • http://withopenheart.blogspot.com Open Heart

    I would say that probably if you manage to do what you love (6), that is the biggest step towards a life of happiness and fulfilment – it just makes it easier for all the rest to fall into place.

    Thank you Cindy, a very nice post.

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  • Gracielou

    Just wanted to say thanks for putting this list together, definitely grateful that i stumbled upon it and cant wait to start putting it into practice.

    cheers!! keep up the good work!

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    Really great job with this – would have taken me years to try & narrow it down and you’ve done a wonderful job.

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    I think one other item to add to the list is humility.

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  • http://www.danadorfman.com/ Ruth

    These are all great habits to have. My favorite is #7 and living life in the moment. I recently came across a really cool book called The Pink Forest. In it Dana Dorfman expounds on her concept of momentology and how living in the moment and being aware of those moments really does make life fuller and more meaningful.

  • RaAr

    Given things are ok but happy comes from inside, outside circumtences hardly matters, just we have to think about positive in each thing. There may be many other habits which make us happy or the less than that above specified habit can also keep us happy. Don’t do bad or over things, be optimum in the things. Search the way in which you will be happy at present.

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    Someone on twitter linked to this article and I read it with growing delight! I have an 18 year old son about to go to University later this month and I have been musing over what I could/should say to him (I know! I should have done that a LONG time ago! I have, to some extent, but this is a major moment for him and his parents so it felt like it needed something extra). I couldn’t have put it better so I just sent the link to him and hope we get a chance to discuss it! Thanks.

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    Thats all true and good however, conditions can change and unhappiness sets in, like you may know what you want and that would make you have a happy life, but you can’t get the money to get in that position that would allow you to have the time to be happy. See some of us have to work and work long hours to make enough money for the basic in live, but life changes and the basic get boring and being bored without money. I know I could be happier than I am if I had the funs to bring me to that position. Happiness is a when a person can do what makes that person happy or group.

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  • Fred

    #8 should be “too seriously” not “to seriously”.
    Oh I’m sooo negative!

  • http://www.meditation-techniques-guide.com Vijay Kumar Raisinghani

    Great post! A great compilation of the kind of attitude one must keep in order to lead a truly happy and blissful life. Happiness in all situations and the art of living is not something that one inherits from birth, but one has to learn and develop these qualities in his/her lifetime.

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    What a wonderful post. Happiness is definitely a choice that we make through our own approach to this beautiful thing called life.

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    It’s true that happiness so often isn’t dependent on what we think it is.
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    Happiness, is a skill that parents should teach their kids. Each person has to ensure their own happiness.

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    Great words to motivate, uplift and absorb.

    May I post the full 21 on my site please with full credit to yourself?

    Thanks,

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  • http://smartalx.blogspot.com Alex

    Pretty self-centered approach, especially regarding #21. What about everyone else??? We live in a cooperative society. Everyone affects everyone else. So quite often you have little control over what happens to you.

    This advice is far too new-agey for me.

  • lol

    oh well this is so easy, all you have to do to be “happy” is not have any flaws. why didn’t i think of this before. thanks, whatever idiot wrote this article.

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  • http://www.personal-development-is-fun.com Meghashyam Chirravoori

    Gratitude, unconditional love and appreciation were the three things that touched me the most.

    If we can fill our lives with these 3 alone, I think life would automatically start becoming so so happy.

    Thank yo so much for sharing – because in reading these habits – I have in some way re-enforced and watered the seeds of these habits already present in me.

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  • Olga

    I’m happy and every person can be happy when want! Be happy this big work every day, but this happy work:) Every person be happy, we live one time and have one happy:)

  • http://www.lifelonghappiness.com Ricky Powell

    I completely agree… lots of good tips here. Happiness is not just a habit, but a skill that always needs to be worked on and improved! We all have the ability to make the choice of happiness everyday! :)

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  • kathy

    Regarding #8: “Don’t take life too seriously–nobody gets out alive anyways”

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