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Goal Setting 101: Get to Where You Want to Be

How do you feel about setting goals? Maybe you’re not keen on the whole idea – it seems artificial to you, or you’re worried about failure. Or perhaps, like me, you’re really good at coming up with interesting goals – and less good at actually following through on them.

Either way, just having a goal in mind isn’t going to get you far. You need to set goals in the right way – setting yourself up for success, rather than half-heartedly aiming for a vague dream.

Here’s how to set great goals that’ll get you real results.

Step 1: Make Sure it’s YOUR Goal

One of the biggest mistakes that people make when setting goals is to choose things which they feel they “should” do, perhaps prompted by family, friends or society in general.

If you have a list of goals like “be skinny” or “make $50k” or “visit the in-laws more often”, go through and ask yourself whether these are really your goals. There are very few things in life which you really have to do – so if you’ve ended up with a bunch of goals that other people have set for you, start thinking about what you would really like to do. Don’t set arbitrary goals just because you think you should.

There’s not much joy to be had in chasing a goal which you don’t care about. Chances are, you’ll give up part-way and end up feeling guilty – or you’ll reach the goal, only to find that success doesn’t seem to make you any happier.

Step 2: Be Specific

An awful lot of people have goals like “lose weight”. A vague goal like this is generally pretty half-hearted. Sure, you might be very keen to lose weight, but chances are, you’re not taking deliberate and focused action.

Being specific means setting a concrete goal, one you can measure. Instead of “lose weight” you might pick “lose 30lbs”. Instead of “get fitter” you might decide on “jog for ten minutes without stopping”.

There’s no need to go overboard here, though. If your goal is to change to a new career, don’t focus too narrowly on that one “perfect” job – otherwise you might miss out on something else equally good, or even better.

Step 3: Set a Deadline

Some goals have daily or weekly deadlines built in. For instance, you might have a goal to “read for 30 minutes every day” or “finish one book each week.”

Other goals, though, are awfully easy to put off. Perhaps you’re writing a book – a big, long-term task which you probably won’t be able to work on every single day. In this case, you’ll want to set yourself a deadline.

A good deadline is a bit challenging, without being unrealistic. Build in room for life to be unpredictable – don’t plan for everything to go smoothly, because chances are, it won’t!

Step 4: Plan Your Actions

Most goals will need breaking down into concrete actions. For instance, you might have a sensible, specific goal like “lose 30lbs in the next 12 months” – but how exactly are you going to go about achieving such a big goal?

You might not always be able to completely control your progress, but you can always take care of your actions. That means that instead of saying “I’ll lose 1lb per week” (and giving up when your weight sticks stubbornly), you focus on what you’ll do – maybe “I’ll write down everything I eat” or “I’ll go to the gym three times per week”.

When planning your actions, find a good way to measure them and stay accountable. You might want to tick days on a calendar, keep a diary, tell a friend, or create a document on your computer to track your progress.

Now … Go for It!

You can set great goals all day, but if you wait for the perfect time to get started, you’ll never get anywhere. Work out what you need to do first, and go for it – today.

If you need a bit of encouragement, share your goal in the comments section below. Good luck!

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  • http://www.planetnaveen.com Winning Ideas

    Goal Setting is indeed a very important action that we take during our journey of achievement.Its actually try and test exercise rather than a perfect affair :-) It doesn’t matter we don’t achieve all points of our Goal but what’s important is how much important points we achieved because of this Goal Setting.

    Having said this, we all need to set our Goals in our relevant area and formulate a nice execution plan.

    It surely Helps.

    Thanks for sharing the information

    Naveen Kulkarni
    Author – Winning Ideas

  • http://potatoehead64.blogspot.com/ Marty

    Excellent! I especially like the reference to setting “your” goals and not doing things that “should” be done. We can choose our goals to be authentic to us. This gives us drive and purpose that is not contaminated by the desires of others. I’ve been writing about this myself in relation to forming a personal life mission statement. The article has been pretty well received on my blog.

  • http://www.fredtracy.com Fred Tracy

    Great article. I think one of the most important parts of setting goes is to set a deadline. It’s so easy to procrastinate when you can think, “oh, I can just put this off another day.”

  • http://hanofharmony.com The Vizier

    Hi Ali,

    Setting goals is easy, following through with and attaining them is harder. I think you have shared some great steps on helping us to set goals that get real results. Here are my thoughts on them.

    Step 1: Make Sure it’s Your Goal

    I totally identify with this. When I was younger I used to follow what other people told me to do and set goals that were not really my goals. It doesn’t take a genius to figure out that I never really achieved those goals because they were not that important to me. Only when I started taking charge of my life and setting goals that I was passionate about did things change for me.

    Step 3: Set a Deadline

    Setting a deadline is important if not we will have trouble with time management when it comes to achieving our goals. Chances are we will procrastinate and put things off thinking we have all the time in the world. But as you say, nothing really goes as planned and so when we set deadlines, we need to make room for the unexpected. This is an important step that we would all do well to be aware of.

    Step 4: Plan Your Actions

    Having a plan is important when it comes to achieving our goals. Our plans are guidelines about what we want to do and achieve. They also prepare us for problems that might arise. Of course the best laid plans rarely go as planned so it is important to remember that plans should be adjusted to changing circumstances as needed. And after it is all said and done, executing the plan is the most important step which we should not put off.

    Thank you for sharing this article!

    Irving the Vizier

  • http://www.balancedworklife.com/blog Bryce Christiansen

    I like this article. Reminds me of the other one you did on Dumb Little Man.

  • http://www.vergilden.com Vergil Den

    You should also think about protecting your downside risks when you plan your actions (or better yet, profiting from them) http://www.feelgooder.com/the-positive-power-of-negative-thinking/

    Vergil Den

  • http://ihihomeinspections.com Bonnie

    Great article, I really like number 1 beause I don’t know how many times I’ve done something only to realize it wasn’t even my goal or dream. Having it written down is huge too. Thanks for the reminders.

  • http://singleagainonlinediary.blogspot.com Yvette Francino

    Hi!
    Thanks for the great post! I’ve been hosting a new project in January called The Love Project and the theme this week has been goal-setting. I featured this post on my Website Wednesday post: http://singleagainonlinediary.blogspot.com/2011/01/website-wednesday-goal-setting-love2011.html

    I hope you’ll come visit!
    Yvette

  • Keri

    I am currently reading The Happiness Advantage, which discusses how one can be happy before success, versus success dictating happiness. The most recent chapter discussed goals, and creating habits. While it is true that it takes 21 days to make or break any habit, getting that far is the test! Obviously you want to set attainable realistic goals, but figuring out what keeps you from even starting to achieve your goals is very important. Do you want to stop watching so much tv but find yourself reaching for the easily accessible remote? Take out the batteries as our them in another room!! The likelihood of you getting up to get them when a perfectly readable book is right next to you is doubtful! Want to work out in the mornings but find the act of getting out of bed deplorable? Sleep in your work out clothes with your tennis shoes next to your bed! 2 seconds and your out the door, no time to think

  • Keri

    Continued: about staying in bed! Also, if you feel overwhelmed, set small controllable goals to get to your ultimate goal! If you have 1000 emails that have racked up in your inbox, limit yourself to responding to 15 a day, for only an hour. Do not deviate from your limit. By doing this you will be able to feel in control instead of overwhelmed, and you will give yourself time to tackle other projects. Before you know it, you will be caught up with your emails, and you have taught yourself how to set small, achievable goals!!

  • Erenaheta

    My goal is to believe that I deserve to have fun and do what I dream of doing! From 8 years old my nan died to today 25 last month I dont know if any one else has felt buy i had discovered the question of why is everything hard… Why is everything such a struggle… But most of all why do I fall into the trap of being the victim….? This replaced the question of how can I do this… to get this… Because in the long run I can help do this and it would prosper my family so much more… It would show this and that… And they would wish they hadn’t did this and that to me over the years.. So getting back to asking why which I always asked why is this always happening to me I’m good.. I’m doing this for my family not for me etc but the difference in my question had changed because this question was now for the very first time asking why am I and this is very important… Why am I struggling… Why am I hurting… Why am I working so hard

    • Erenaheta

      But on top of that let me add why am i so dam unhappy and so dam disappointed and unsupported I am putting so much effort and time into these things For OTHERS that I am getting so hurt… (Just Pondering on that thought… )

      For the very first time I found myself thinking of what I would love to do… Unaware of how to go out there, I am very vulnerable and eager though rejection is hurting my soul and am unaware f how to do so, I forgot to know how to make friends and have fun with out being around just any ole hoot and also coming across desperate which i know I am but also I know I am not for e,g I’m hurt of being turned down or let down I have dne a few invites etc set up sum plans to be turned down

      i find myself crying and stuff and its rather lonely except when I look at it I never really cared about the person as such to put out there Thou that I am a very caring person however I never cared about the person but it was the inner feelings of self worth the questions what’s wrong with…? So the big goal and question to you which is my personal to do ASAP is these relate toe the approval of my mother and father, I have given such power over to them which shows in my everyday life as such that I am having to live up to them well him and her mum and dad so my goal is to take my power back that is not there’s how do I do that…?

      • Erenaheta

        Basically what I am saying is I know where everything stems from and why I feel powerful and powerless in confidence how do I get my power back that I so vulnerably give over to my mum and dad because this appears in my waking life?