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A Practical Guide To Meditation

In this article I’m going to show you the way I learned to meditate, based on research and the teachings of different gurus. Meditation is a pretty common subject these days As with many things that fall into popular use, its true meaning and purpose can become distorted. There are a lot of misconceptions out there about what exactly meditation is, and how one should do it.

Common Misconceptions

It’s strange that there is so much confusion, as it’s one of the simplest things you could ever do. First, meditation isn’t reflection. The whole point of meditation is transcendence of the mind and the need for self concepts, so critical thinking and any sort of analysis are by default out. Sitting in the lotus position or humming also have precious little to do with it, though they can be useful. Basically, forget everything you’ve seen in the movies or heard from your friends. Meditation is simple.

So what exactly is meditation?

Meditation is being. That’s it. Nothing fancy or pretentious. No need to use the meditation soundtrack someone’s trying to sell to you for $19.99. There is no “secret method” or any need for guidance, beyond the basic principles I’m going to show you. Essentially, meditation is existing in its purest form. What does this mean?

When you meditate properly, you essentially become nothing. One way of putting it is you surpass your egoic nature and rise into a different level of consciousness. You forget about your daily problems and become an empty vessel. This can become intensely pleasurable as you get better at it. It can even change your entire reality.

In order to start meditating, first find a quiet spot away from interruptions by family, phones, TV, and your dog. Next, simply sit down and relax. Whatever feels comfortable will work. After you’ve relaxed a little you’re going to calm your mind and witness your thoughts.

Become the watcher

This technique involves becoming unidentified and nonreactive to your thoughts. Clear your mind as best you can and watch your thoughts pass. It’s as though you’re on an airplane that’s taking off, and your thoughts are on the ground. Wave goodbye and smile, because they’re of no consequence. They’ll be there when you get back.

The key here is to identify with consciousness. The thing that allows you to know that you’re thinking. Watch the thoughts. Once I start watching them I find that they no longer affect me. Minor annoyances and big problems alike lose their importance. Being free from mind-induced torture is incredibly relieving of its own accord, but there are other benefits to be had..

As I relax into this state, I notice my typical thoughts floating around. As I continue to be watch them impartially, I find that they occur less and less. Finally, they dissipate entirely. The experience at that point is one of incredible peace and calm. I like to think it’s how we were naturally as kids, before we inherited the typical adult seriousness. We don’t have any worries, anything to be upset about, we simply are.

Taking meditation further

This state of “just being” has some pretty cool characteristics. You’ll notice that when you open your eyes after a good meditation session, everything will seem different. It’s as though that childlike sense of wonder and amazement is restored to you. You’ll also notice that you don’t have any thoughts coming back in yet. These two phenomena are inextricably linked, so pay attention to them!

The objects around you will seem more.. complete. Like you’re observing an essence in them that wasn’t there before. It’s a really trippy feeling if you haven’t experienced it before. The reason this is happening is because meditation puts you in a state of no-mind. You aren’t instantly judging and mentally labeling everything you see. Instead of seeing a “chair,” which is whatever your mental image of a chair is, you’ll see an object full of unfathomable depth. This is because the act of meditating bumps you up to a higher level of consciousness. With practice you can make this shift permanent. Many people would call this enlightenment.

While I haven’t been able to achieve this state permanently, I’ve had little tastes of it. I’ve shared a couple of them on my article about the power of now.

Becoming one with the chair

When you first start meditating your goal will simply be to clear your mind while sitting there, and this is no easy task. When I first started my mind was especially chaotic with thoughts going left and right. Don’t get frustrated if you can’t do it right away. By doing that you’re just adding more thought anyway. If you find yourself getting impatient or annoyed, practice accepting whatever you feel and letting go. Don’t resist or fight anything. Accept the present moment no matter what.

As you get better at this your thoughts will become less and less frequent, until you’re able to reach a state where they don’t come in at all. This is where all the fun begins. After having no thoughts for a long period of time you’ll notice that even when you’re done meditating and you open your eyes, your thoughts won’t immediately come back. Each time you practice you’ll be able to hold your state of no-mind longer and longer. If you keep it up you’ll eventually reach a state of transcendence of duality, perpetual no-mind, and complete and utter bliss. This is when you sell all your material possessions and start preaching on the street corners. ;)

Meditation can only do a whole lot of good for your life. Just remember not to judge anything when you’re doing it. If you can’t calm your mind, just accept it and try later. Become completely nonreactive and internally congruent. It’s well worth the effort.

About the author: Hi! I’m Fred Tracy, and I run a personal development website. I share all sorts of useful information like financial abundance, self discipline, achieving happiness, and a whole lot more. You can visit my site or subscribe to my RSS Feed. Thanks!

  • http://www.planetnaveen.com Winning Ideas

    Well said Tracy,

    Yes, with all digital distractions and chaotic lifestyle ruining our peace of mind, meditation is the best method through which we can relax and concentrate better in our life.
    When we do a physical exercise, our body becomes tired and it needs a rest to start again. Same way, our mind (which thinks billion things), also needs a rest. Meditation can help us to achieve that blank state of mind. Reaching that blank state of mind is more tougher than you think. Its an art in itself. But with daily practice and determination, we can reach that state relax our mind and achieve more heights in life. A relaxed and fresh mind always generates healthy ideas. You can also check about Yoga – an Indian Ritual for healing mind.

    Nevertheless, a wonderful post.
    Shared.

    Naveen – Winning Ideas

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  • http://www.fredtracy.com Fred Tracy

    Thanks so much! I absolutely agree with meditation being a sort of rest for the mind. I might just start using that analogy if you don’t mind. :)

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  • neethu

    wonderful article..

    most of the thoughts in us can increase
    the negative energy in us..
    it holds back our true potential..
    meditation renews our positive energy
    levels, that our mind become more
    powerful,and ultimately it can help
    to take out the true essence of self..

  • http://www.ascendingdream.com Ascending Dream

    Nice article – the hardest part for many can be the first 10 minutes while thoughts are running wild! After that, it’s a calm, gentle breeze!

  • http://twitter.com/mikesmarr Mike Smarr

    Hello Fred,

    I really appreciate the insight from your article. It came at a perfect time for me. Just curious, is there a recommended amount of time that I should meditate for? I’ve heard everything from 10 minutes to 1 hour for a beginner.

    Thank you.

  • http://thedropoutkid.com jonathanfigaro

    WOW…achieve permanent enlightenment. Now that seems to be one goal i have to complete in this life time..

  • http://www.fredtracy.com Fred Tracy

    Thanks guys. :)

    Even David Hawkins says that achieving enlightenment and so on isn’t that it’s particularly hard to do, it’s just that few do it. One of the examples he uses is, if you were to walk down the street and ask people what they wanted to achieve most, how many would say enlightenment?

    For meditation, I would go with what you feel. Some highly dedicated people do it for hours a day, whereas 10 minutes or so is enough for other people. I’d say whatever feels good. It’s a really nice thing to have your thoughts calming down, so just listen to your intuition with this one. Don’t make it into a task to complete, but an experience to enjoy.

  • http://livingthebalancedlife.com Living the Balanced Life

    I have been working on this, not so much from a spiritual standpoint, but as someone mentioned, a rest for the mind. I have been overloaded this past year, and meditation has helped me to calm my mind.
    Great post!
    Bernice
    How does your faith affect your ability to cope?

  • http://www.improvingyourpersonalgrowth.com/ Ashley Mile @ Improving Your Personal Growth

    Thanks for sharing your good idea. Meditation is my great way to relax the mind and body, as well as reduce stress.

  • Helen

    I appreciate this article. When do you meditate? morning? evening? before bed?

  • http://www.shamanicattraction.com Etienne

    There are all kind of meditation techniques and the traditional “breathing and observing” meditation never attracted my attention. There are meditation practices that are so powerful such as Alchemy, Reiki, Quantum Touch, Natural Grounding, Sedona Method, EFT and many others. Some are more advanced, some are easier, some are more complex, some are simpler.

    I still won’t do silent breathing meditations, but your article brings me a better understanding of it.

    I’m more into goal-oriented meditation. Solving specific problems. Making concrete and lasting changes.

  • http://www.fredtracy.com Fred Tracy

    I see what you mean Ethienne. For me, meditation is a way of releasing all goals and being completely relaxed. However, lately I’ve been adding some intention manifestation stuff to my meditations so I can definitely see where you’re coming from.

    Helen, it really depends. I try to meditate just before I sleep. It helps me to relax and not stay up so late. Sometimes I’ll do a quick little minute of meditation if I’m feeling like I need some extra clarity.

    Hope that helps!

  • http://meditationhelper.com Aaron

    I started meditating a few years ago in college when stress was all too common. I noticed that even just ten minutes every morning made my day more relaxed and enjoyable. When it seemed like everything was urgent, I could just take a breath and realize that most of it was not a big deal. I have yet to reach that constant state of enlightenment, but meditation continues to be one of the most pleasing moments of my day.

  • http://www.fredtracy.com Fred Tracy

    Great story Aaron. I actually just blogged about my experience at a Buddhist monastery. Being around people who consistently meditate is of itself an incredibly pleasing experience. It reminds me of how I should take more time each day to meditate.

  • http://www.squidoo.com/tonglen-meditation Colin G Smith

    I love meditation. Even basic breathing meditation done every day for 15 minutes has many benefits to your health. It’s such a simple and free way to help yourself deal with the stress of modern life.

    I recommend a special breathing meditation known as Tonglen Healing Meditation.

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