Relationships

7 Common Reasons Relationships Fail

Failed relationships are one of the biggest causes of stress and unhappiness in life. Working on successful relationships, whether they are with our children, parents, friends or partners, is one of the most important life skills we can learn. If we cannot maintain lasting relationships, we will always struggle to be happy.

This article looks at seven common reasons why once harmonious relationships break down. If we know why relationships are liable to break down we can avoid the pain involved.

Jealousy

It is ironic that we can easily become jealous of our closest friends. Jealousy often occurs when there is a feeling of separation and competition. We need to learn to be happy at the success of others; it only when we can feel a sense of oneness with others achievements that jealousy will remain far away.

Also, we need to trust our partner -  a suspicious mind is very poisonous. It is better to be trusting rather always suspecting infidelity or disloyalty. Others will be rightly discomforted if we mistrust them. If our partner lets us down, it is not our fault. But, if we suspect, because of our own insecurity, we are bound to create serious problems in our own relationships.

Attachment

There is a big difference between real love and emotional attachment. When we have emotional attachment to someone, we need their attention and presence. When we have excessive attachment to others, we can easily become jealous and demanding. Often attachment occurs out of a sense of insecurity; if this is the case we need to develop self belief and inner confidence, we can’t just rely on other people to provide that. Strong relationships need a certain detachment; we need to be able to accept others for what they are, rather than expecting them to give us all their attention.

Domination

Even the closest relationships need to value the individual freedom of others. Problems will inevitably occur when we seek to dominate others. Often this takes the form of expectation. We want our son to become a certain person; we want our wife to live in a certain way.

Often people don’t realize how dominating they are. Parents justify to themselves the idea that they ‘only want the best for their children’ But, actually what they are doing is trying to live through their children. Nobody has the right to tell someone how they must live. If relationships are based on this expectation and domination, there will inevitably be conflict at some stage. The strongest relationships are based on mutual understanding and remain free of expectation.

Selfishness

Selfishness is the root of all relationship problems. When we are selfish we think of ourselves first and foremost. We ignore the needs of others and become ego centric. Ego centric people are never easy to live with; they tend to be a drain on relationships. When we are selfish we want the praise, support and backing of others; but, we are not willing to give anything in return.

True love is selfless, it is given without expectation of receiving anything in return. If we love our self the most, we will always struggle with relationships. Take time to listen to others rather than dominating the conversation; be giving rather than being permanently needy.

No Time

We have to spend time on what we value. If we always  work late, it shows where our priorities lie. If we spend no time with our partner then they will begin to feel resentful / unloved. We can always make time for things we really value; make sure your relationships don’t suffer because you have given your life away to your boss. Also, make sure you create time when your partner is the focus of attention; do things that they enjoy doing, and don’t just drag them along to your office parties.

Too Much Time

It does depends on the personality of the people involved; but some people, especially introverts, need time to themselves. If we are always with other people, the relationship can become claustrophobic. We need time to ourselves; strong relationships should be able to deal with periods of separation. This allows individual expression and individual growth.

Picking Faults

Whoever we spend time with will undoubtedly have faults. Successful relationships require a certain tolerance of others’ weaknesses. If we keep picking up on the faults of over people, expecting them to change, we create permanent tension. For example, your partner or friend may not share your judgement that they are faults. This does not mean we have to ignore when others do wrong things.

A strong relationship should be able to cope with constructive criticism and suggestions. However, we need to make sure we don’t become obsessed with noticing bad things. Rather than remembering all the bad things your partner does, make yourself think of some of the good things that they have been doing. Unfortunately, humans often seem attracted to noticing the faults of others, but, it doesn’t help relationships to do this. If you become too critical it will cause long term problems.

 

Tejvan Pettinger lives in Oxford where he writes on issues of self improvement and self development. He updates a blog Sri Chinmoy Inspiration. Recent blog posts include Changing Yourself by Accepting Yourself.

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  • http://writerdad.com Writer Dad

    All of it can be boiled down to not enough communication. We all have friction, it’s how we sort it out that’s important.

    • THE WIFE BEATER

      you okay bro?

      • Wayom

        The ridiculousness of replying to you 5 months after your comment is lessened only by the fact that you replied to a comment posted 3 years ago.

        • Chefsteaksandwich

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          • Maxjabbour

             Three months later…

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  • http://www.yinvsyang.com Pete

    I agree with Writer Dad. Communication is key. Relationships are really about your expectations. Too many people get caught up in what they expect things to be like. Sometimes, in a relationship, you need to understand that what you expect is not what HAS to happen. At least I do :).

    Communicating, not only with others, but with yourself to sort out your expectations is also important in mho.

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  • http://shanelyang.com/blogs/articles/ Shanel Yang

    Communication is the surface manifestation of our underlying attitudes about how people should be treated: how they should treat us and how we should treat them. Here are “30 Statements for Great Relationships” that speak to both improved communication skills and the underlying attitude issues: http://shanelyang.com/2008/04/15/30-statements-for-great-relationships/

  • http://www.createbusinessgrowth.com janelle

    great post- the thing that has been a struggle for me is finding a balance between work and relationship. When I first started working for a new company, I was spending more time working on work than on my relationship and it began to show very quickly. I needed to sit down and re-prioritize my life so that I wouldn’t make a mistake I’d come to regret later. I have to remind myself sometimes that I work to live-not live to work. As you stated earlier, if we cannot maintain lasting relationships, we’ll probably wind up being miserable.

  • shaorn

    great article

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  • http://www.varsityblah.com/about Eugene (Editor, Varsity Blah)

    “When you love someone, you love the whole person, as they are, and not as you’d like them to be.” – Leo Tolstoy

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  • http://www.cindysense.com Overcoming Lifes Obstacles

    Love the post. I think that friendship is the foundation to any relationship. To stay friends you need to spend time together and communicate. Otherwise the relationship will not last as it does not have a strong foundation.

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  • http://www.affirmationpower.com Ken LaDeroute

    Dear Tejvan,

    Thank you for your work in illuminating our consciousness with your wisdom. Keep writing and revealing truth.

    Relationship is the expression and reflection of Divinity in our selves and others. Our unbounded highest Self curving back on itself is simply our relationship with Pure Being, and why we’re here on earth. I find this relationship in meditation. In deep stillness, I have God’s attention, and I can relate to All That Is. As I sink deeply into the Ground of Being, I experience a deep, abiding peace, and I become aware of a field that nurtures and supports all of creation, beyond space and time. It is unbounded, all knowing, omnipresent and everywhere all at once. Its basic essence is love.

    This love is reflected in my 25 year marriage. It’s a love that is caring and supportive without being judgmental and colored by a life of devotion and service. I always say, “a healthy me is a healthy we.” Therefore, I strive to be the best I can be. Not for me, but for my wife, because she deserves the best of me.

    I am aware of the divinity in others. All my relationships deserve my most highest and reverent attention. This love and attention is a recognition and acknowledgment of the presences of God inside us all. This awareness turns into a deep abiding compassion for all creation. It brings peace and freedom from fear, knowing that all is as it should be, and that life is temporal and illusory. In meditation, I am fearless and I immerse myself into All That Is. This, is my ultimate relationship.

    Ken LaDeroute
    http://www.AffirmationPower.com

  • http://www.writeyourmindjournals.com B J Keltz

    The issues in the article apply to more than relationships. They apply to anything we deem a worthy goal. Priorities, communication, and follow-through make for good relationships and good growth.

  • RaAr

    Yaa above points affect relationships, in that some of points like to highlight that for children they don’t know about what right & wrong they are doing, they does as per their knowledge or around what they find, so elders should guide them towards right things else they may move towards wrong path. One more thing that some of the mistake we can ignore but some are very critical so we have to take care about that mistake & warn or prepare partner not to make that mistake. Some times we need to be selffish when it required that if we not become selffish than we lose much more things which may not recover or becoming selffish leads good for all

  • http://www.somedaysyndrome.com Alex Fayle | Someday Syndrome

    I have been in relationships dominated by some (or all) of these challenges. I think most people find it easier to slide into one of these rather than kill the ego, step outside our heads and communicate clearly and openly.

  • Nelvz

    OMG so true…

  • http://www.squidoo.com/artofbathing cchiovitti

    Very succinct. So often, these types of posts are nothing but self-serving, sappy, psycho-babble, but you’ve really hit these right on the head. Now, if everyone who wasted money on every new “guru’s” latest book would just read this, the world would be a better place.

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  • yzap

    It’s true!!!!

    when i am in the relationship i felt that i am selfless that’s why i change and honestly not consciously i hurt my partner untill we broke up. i dont realize that being selfless is showing my partner the true love and the time i change my partner felt divergent on me, yes it’s true and i penitent all of this.

    Ego is the other reason and sometimes if your partner hurt you time will come that you also want to deprived your partner, be able to feel the pain of what you felt.

    Great Post!!!!

  • me

    you forgot money.

  • http://secretcontents.com Ret

    All of these reasons could be overcome if no quits. If there is no quitting no matter what, of course relationship will not fail. That is love all about, you need to have a very very long patience.

  • Leeann

    Well I think that I through to many relationships as is. But, what I don’t is why I don’t/can’t stay with one person for a long term relationship. It’s like I find something wrong or I think of something that makes me break up with them or I’m just afraid. I honestly don’t know what to do because I have never had a real long term relationship and the just seem to end before they begin and then when I or they break up there are question. I don’t know what to do and honestly I think I should just give? What should I do?

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    Yes, agreed with all the points here. Our company http://www.husbandandwifestore.com , based out of India, is trying to help people develop healthy relationships and lead a contented life through various counseling and therapies.

  • jojo

    Great post, but please write more clearly next time. Some of your sentences are not structured well and need to be read a few times to understand their meaning.

  • covenantson

    great work! Really a blessing stumbling on this writeup. Keep the food work going.

  • ETTA,, ASI EDIM

    It is nice to read your take on one of the burning issues on our society today.Well,you have said it all and i believe strongly that why most relationship failed is as a result of lack of commitment among the partners.thanks for your contributions to smile on our face.

    • ETTA,, ASI EDIM

      Well spoken by you.I want to say here that a relationship is an investment that demand every thing from you and if you are not ready to comply with its demand,then you are not ready for a relationship.

  • Robert

    There is more and more need for these kind of resource that you have provided. If I have to add anything, I would recommend relationship coaching and marriage education for those needed skills.
    Weldone, buddy,

    Robert Ntefon
    http://www.howtomakeahappymarriage.com/xmasoffer

  • http://banishyourblockstosuccess.com/ Terrie

    I agree that emotional attachment springs from insecurity or low self esteem. The best way to have good relationships is to improve yourself.
     

  • Aquachuchu

    So basically i m emotionally attached to my boyfriend not in love as i m often looking for attention from him and if i don’t get it i get across with him, thats good to know where i am!!! i was broken heart 9 months ago, someone criticised alot, saying that he cares for me but later dumped meeee!!!! i cared %100, gave everything was not expecting from him much tbh as he was dumped as well when we met… the essential anyway now i m this relationship, we dont live in the same city 70 miles away, we knew each others in october and until now we are still seeing each other (14 times we met in total), i want to see him often but he is taken away with his blooody work, he has some difficulties at work since i met him, he might be jobless, homeless if he doesn’t sort him self shortly… i wanna be with him, i like him, i wish to make feel peaceful and take away all the problems that he is facing at the moment… the problem is that we saying to each other how much we mean to each others, how much we miss each others…. i am the light of his life, he is my angel at earth…. the problem is we dont call each others everyday at all.. maybe 1 per week… i avoid calling because he might be busy, not able to answer and i expect him to be cold with me always on the phone… he said he feels like it to call me but he fears that i might not answer his call…. btw my boyfriend has been dumped too from a girl that he was very committed to her but he said that she cheated on him many times…i text him everyday day a few times but i dont get a reply straightaway…..i wanna be with him, share with him everything, sleep together, wakeup together, have breakfast together, work, shopping….but nothing of these are happening… i wanted to spend the nite with him but its not happpening…. i m lost and dont know whether he is genuin or just pretending, but there is no reason for hi to pretend he can tell me F*** off then walk away…. but not he is really nice when we are together…

    I am btw 28, he is 40 but he looks much younger n me too tbh…. 

    Please Any advise!!!!! i want it to workkkk coz i wanna be with himmmm he is so sweetttt….. manythanks

    • Andrew Lopez

      Stay strong and true to your relationship because if you both still have that intimacy and love for each other distance doesn’t matter. What matters is trust, loyalty, and love for one another. Just pray everyday to god to help you have faith.

  • Aquachuchu

    So basically i m emotionally attached to my boyfriend not in love as i m often looking for attention from him and if i don’t get it i get across with him, thats good to know where i am!!! i was broken heart 9 months ago, someone criticised alot, saying that he cares for me but later dumped meeee!!!! i cared %100, gave everything  & was not expecting from him much tbh as he was dumped as well when we met… the essential anyway now i m this relationship, we dont live in the same city 70 miles away, we knew each others in october and until now we are still seeing each other (14 times we met in total), i want to see him often but he is taken away with his blooody work, he has some difficulties at work since i met him, he might be jobless, homeless if he doesn’t sort him self out shortly… i wanna be with him, i like him, i wish to make him feel peaceful and take away all the problems that he is facing at the moment… the problem is that we are saying to each other how much we mean to each others, how much we miss each others…. i am the light of his life, he is my angel on earth…. the problem is we dont call each others everyday at all.. maybe 1 per week… i avoid calling because he might be busy, not able to answer and i expect him to be cold with me always on the phone… he said he feels like it to call me but he fears that i might not answer his call, we meet up once per 10 days…. btw my boyfriend has been dumped too from a girl that he was very committed to her but he said that she cheated on him many times…i text him everyday day a few times but i dont get a reply straightaway…..i wanna be with him, share with him everything, sleep together, wakeup together, have breakfast together, work, shopping….but nothing of these are happening… i wanted to spend the nite with him but its not happpening…. i m lost and dont know whether he is genuine or just pretending, but there is no reason for hi to pretend he can tell me F*** off then walk away…. but not he is really nice when we are together… btw he always tells me he will try harder to make me content…. this sentence worries me alot. he went to NY, HAD A NUMBER THERE BUT DIDNT SHARE IT WITH ME AT ALL, SAYING THAT HE TEXTED ME THE NUMBER BUT HE DIDNT I M SURE…… AND AT THE END OF HIS HOLIDAY HE EMAILED SAYING THAT HE SEES HOME IN MY EYESSSS….POUFFF when he WENT TO NY, HE  DIDNT EVEN BRING ME A POST CARD FROM THERE TO SAY THAT HE WAS THINKING ABOUT MEEEEE……. I am btw 28, he is 40 but he looks much younger n me too tbh…. Please Any advise!!!!! i want it to workkkk coz i wanna be with himmmm he is so sweetttt….. manythank

  • Aquachuchu

    why my comment has been deleted?????????

    • Chefsteaksandwich

      YOU SAID IT, AQUACHUCHU

  • Zoe4bubbles

    Just been dumped how can I tell my mum? X

  • Patricia L Burke

    I have had a failed relationship and none of the 7 were an issue 

  • Kc

    This is a great post. Many people comment that communication is key… but I think that it is important to highlight /positive/ communication. Sometimes, as this post mentions, people believe picking faults in their partner is part of the communication process. Harmony in a relationship is very important. Please don’t try to be confrontational all the time believing you are just trying to be communicative. Talking about all the problems you may have with the other person doesn’t necessarily clear the air in the relationship.

    • blue_note

      So, what does clear the air. I’m currently trying to mend a relationship that stopped because we needed to stop arguing so much. It’s not gotten any better since then. It’s really only been getting worse. I’m starting to realize that my ego is definitely getting in the way of us ever getting to a point where we can be really good friends.

      My problem is basically that I see and tell her a whole bunch of things that are wrong with her and I know this is wrong. Sitting here now, I know that these problems aren’t that big of a deal, but in our arguments, they are half of the problem. How can I fix this?

      • Chefsteaksandwich

        YOU SAID IT, BLUE_NOTE!

    • Chefsteaksandwich

      YOU SAID IT, KC!

  • Alexk1981

    comunication? please i tryed talking to my ex and still end-ap devorcing, it felt like im taking to a brick wall.  Its the ability to understand each other that what we must learn to do and respond ocordingly. 

  • Ams112986

    All of this makes a lot of sense to me. Iv always ruined and ran from relationships with people and never understood why, because I knew how much I loved this person. But what was missing was the love I had, or should I say the love I DIDNT have for myself. It really is true, in order for you to love another person FULLY you MUST love yourself!!! It never made any sense to me on why you have to love yourself before you can actually love someone else but when you really think about it how would you be able to love someone else when you dont even know what you love about yourself. So what I did and still doing is to stop beating myself up for my mistakes I made in life, not finishing college, staying in unhealthy relationships because I thought that was what I deserved and so on and so forth. I can sit here for hours if I wanted to. But bottom line is, love is deep its a huge plunge to take on only if your ready and by that I mean …loving yourself FIRST then that special someone whos right for you. Or youll just keep looking for ways to run and you wont even understand why your running. So be a little selfish and love yourself to the fullest <3

  • Pata5

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  • Tresn

    This is the most useful article i have read.Iwas making the life of my fiancee hell and she was crying like every day….Whatever she was telling i was unable to understand…

    You saved a relation ship today…God bless budy…

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  • CruelFunkyDad

    Life is what you make it.

  • MR.TOM

    Why do some idiotic people  think it nescessary to have a dig at other peoples comments, who cares if a reponse it Weeks, Months or Years after the post. Isn’t the point of these pages for people to search out and read them!? Do we slag people off for reading Shakespeare books(which are Centuries old!!)? NO!

  • Someone with broken heart

    my relationship broke up for none of these reasons, mine broke up becouse of her parents and my parents , so to explain so fuck relationships

  • GooberGoofBalls

    I said it Cheesecake…. I said it!

  • Amy

    I learned that sometimes it is a misunderstanding of our needs that causes relationships to fail. After watching this interview and taking the test, I realized that it was a personality difference and not a lack of caring. It really opened my eyes!

    http://www.livetoinspire.tv/show/is-your-relationship-destined-to-fail/ 

  • http://www.facebook.com/robert.talbot.5686 Robert Talbot

    Maybe relationships are BS that humans came up with just recently and that we are no better than animals and just want to breed and move on. Simple as that. Our genetics are dictating who we are, but yet we try to fight it everyday. When a relationship goes dry, just move on.

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  • cindy john

    hello everyone my name is Cindy John, i just want to share my experience and testimony here.. i was married for 7 years to my husband and all of a sudden, another woman came into the picture he started hating me and he was abusive. but i still loved him with all my heart and wanted him at all cost then he filed for divorce my whole life was turning apart and i didn’t know what to do he moved out of the house and abandoned the kids that we have, so someone told me about trying spiritual means to get my husband back and introduced me to a spell caster name prophetludaspelltemple@outlook.com. so i decided to try it reluctantly. although i didn’t believe in all those things then when he did the special prayers and spell, after 2 days, my husband came back and was pleading for my forgiveness that he had realized his mistakes I just couldn’t believe it anyway we are back together now and we are happy in case anyone needs this man, his email address prophetludapelltemple@outlook.com his spells is for a better life.

  • paul

    Thank you for the important info. I’ve learned from it. I was w my gf for 5 yrs then she left. I was never the same again.

  • den

    I broke up with my Ex fiance a few months back, in what was a whirlwind of an altercation, and was destroyed, I won’t even bother lying about it. Night after night, I racked my brain for a way to get her back. She wasn’t returning calls, emails or texts and our mutual friends said she wanted nothing to do with me. I was in rough shape until i found Lordazeez1990@hotmail.com and he guaranteed me in 3days and surely she called me on the phone and and apologized

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    I am from LA, after three years relationship with my boyfriend he left me for another girl, i did all i could to get him back but went to no avail, I was confused and emotionally devastated, not knowing what to do until a friend of mine told me about a spell caster on the internet Dr. Ikedi Ero who helps people with their relationship or marriage problems by the power of spells, at first i doubted it because i never believed in spell but with much pressure and convinsion from my friend i decided to give it a try, when i contacted him he helped me cast a re-union spell and within 8hours i got back my lost love. Contact this great spell caster for your relationship or marriage problems at ikedispiritualtemple@gmail.com Goodluck

  • Sharon

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  • MALISA

    i just got my ex back few days ago through the help of Dr Lawrence i am so happy that finally my ex is back i do love him so much and i can’t resist a moment without him in my life,really i have been looking for a real and genuine spell caster who could bring him back to me but thank God today he is back and i own all thanks to this great spell caster Dr Lawrence for his kind help drlawrencespelltemple@hotmail.com

  • Leo Jennifer

    My name is Jennifer and i want to testify of the good work done by a faithful DR PALOMA, a spell caster. in my life i never thought there is such thing as spiritual intercession. my problem started 5 months back when the father of my kids started putting up some strange behavior, i never knew he was having an affair outside our matrimonial home. it dawn on me on that faithful day 4th of April 21st 4:23pm when he came to the house to pick his things that was when i knew that situation has gotten out of hand and he then told me he was quitting the marriage which i have built for over 6 years, i was confused and dumbfounded i called on family and friends but to no avail. two months after i started having problem with my kids welfare rent-age and all of it, i really went through ***. until a day i was browsing on the internet and i happen to meet DR PALOMA Email palomaspelltemple@yahoo.com i never believed on this but i needed my man back so i gave the spell caster my problem at first i never trusted him so i was just doing it but you know a problem shared is half solved after a 2das my husband called me telling me that he his coming back home and that was all. now we are living happily and i still do contact him on this email: palomaspelltemple@yahoo.com.

  • Leo Jennifer

    My name is Jennifer and i want to testify of the good work done by a faithful DR PALOMA, a spell caster. in my life i never thought there is such thing as spiritual intercession. my problem started 5 months back when the father of my kids started putting up some strange behavior, i never knew he was having an affair outside our matrimonial home. it dawn on me on that faithful day 4th of April 21st 4:23pm when he came to the house to pick his things that was when i knew that situation has gotten out of hand and he then told me he was quitting the marriage which i have built for over 6 years, i was confused and dumbfounded i called on family and friends but to no avail. two months after i started having problem with my kids welfare rent-age and all of it, i really went through ***. until a day i was browsing on the internet and i happen to meet DR PALOMA Email palomaspelltemple@yahoo.com i never believed on this but i needed my man back so i gave the spell caster my problem at first i never trusted him so i was just doing it but you know a problem shared is half solved after a 2das my husband called me telling me that he his coming back home and that was all. now we are living happily and i still do contact him on this email: palomaspelltemple@yahoo.com

  • Nadezhda Vyacheslav

    I have been reading about spell casting and its powers for a while but i never thought or it never occurred to me or i rather say that it happened that i never got myself in any situation that will make need the help of a spell caster.I read a lot of testimony on the internet on web pages, blog, and some on the Facebook page of some web site i linked with my Facebook with.I was more concerned about a certain spell caster MUTTON OSUN. That his name kept appearing on almost every comment form different individual claiming he has helped them a great deal in spell casting of all kind but mostly relationship problem that is from divorced man and women to lost love and cheating wife and husband was like don’t even know the word to use.All of them had just one thing in common that he help then resolved their problem that even therapist could not solve i guess the problem was passed the place where talking was not doing any good at all.But some how i believed them and their story cos the testimony were just too real and were from different people.I just enjoyed reading how he help those people and asking myself how possible it was that this spell caster could do all this with no effect of what so ever.Year they said his spell had no negative effect on the person who asked the spell to be casted and the person the spell is casted upon.I just wanted to know how it worked so i tried it and now i am among those writing this to tell those like me reading that this MUTTON guy is real.I am a single 32 years old mom of two two girls.I have always had a thing for this guy or i would say i liked this guy but he was kind of a mess cos of the lost of his wife.Like he had nothing to leave for any more.He never came out of this house and even went he did he doesn’t talk to anybody even i tried ti make a conversation he just smile so he doesn’t look cruel and then walk away.At night you can hear him breaking things and sobbing.I wouldn’t say i knew what he was feeling cos really i didn’t know but i knew i could make him happy again but no matter how i tried to get close he shuts me out.I really liked him and hated to see him miserable i mean he still have a chance to be happy with me.Contacting MUTTON OSUN was really easy for me cos all those other article had an email address i could use to contact him.So i send him an email to him but i didn’t get a responses immediately i mean it took three day before i saw his mail in response to my mail where he told me that he could help me make the guy to love.Am sorry i can mention my name or his cos i really don’t know who is writing this thing i am writing.Any way i was not allowed to tell any one till i have seen the result and important he told me i needed some materials for the spell casting.Most people tend to thinking his asking you to pay for the spell but not you have the choice to buy these materials and send them to him or you can ask that he get them for you if you can get the materials or the cost of buy and ship them to him is to much.In my case i gave him money to get the materials cos it was way less expansive.I guess he made some kind of harmless powdery substance with those materials and sent them over to me.He asked that i follow this instructions on how to make the spell active which i did.I must warn you it take at least two day to be effective cos it was after two days the man that never talks to me knocked at my door asking if i would like to watch movies with him at his place form there we kicked off.We have been together for 4 months now and still counting he is a really nice man i can am the luckiest woman in the world.I mean this only means that what MUTTON did is working and it changed both our life for good.I will also leave his mail here you contact purpose >> godsofosunx@rocketmail.com

  • JOES CANDRA

    I am joes candra, I promise to share this testimony all over the world once my boyfriend return back to me, and today with all due respect i want to thank DR.OSAUYI for bringing joy and happiness to my relationship and my family. I want to inform you all that there is a spell caster that is real and genuine. I never believed in any of these things until i loosed my boyfriend, I required help until i found a grate spell caster, And he cast a love spell for me, and he assured me that I will get my boyfriend back in two days after the spell has been cast. Three days later, my phone rang, and so shockingly, it was my boyfriend who has not called me for past 6 years now, and made an apology for the heart break, and told me that he is ready to be my back bone till the rest of his life with me. DR.OSAUYI released him up to know how much i loved and wanted him. And opened his eyes to picture how much we have share together. As I`m writing this testimony right now I`m the most happiest girl on earth and me and my boyfriend is living a happy life and our love is now stronger than how it were even before our break up. So that`s why I promised to share my testimony all over the universe.All thanks goes to DR.OSAUYI for the excessive work that he has done for me. Below is the email address in any situation you are undergoing a heart break, and I assure you that as he has done mine for me, he will definitely help you too. OSAUYILOVESPELL@GMAIL.COM that is his email address bye

  • Nadezhda Vyacheslav

    I have been reading about spell casting and its powers for a while but i never thought or it never occurred to me or i rather say that it happened that i never got myself in any situation that will make need the help of a spell caster. I read a lot of testimony on the internet on web pages, blog, and some on the Facebook page of some web site i linked with my Facebook with. I was more concerned about a certain spell caster MUTTON OSUN. That his name kept appearing on almost every comment form different individual claiming he has helped them a great deal in spell casting of all kind but mostly relationship problem that is from divorced man and women to lost love and cheating wife and husband was like don’t even know the word to use.All of them had just one thing in common that he help then resolved their problem that even therapist could not solve i guess the problem was passed the place where talking was not doing any good at all.But some how i believed them and their story cos the testimony were just too real and were from different people. I just enjoyed reading how he help those people and asking myself how possible it was that this spell caster could do all this with no effect of what so ever.Year they said his spell had no negative effect on the person who asked the spell to be casted and the person the spell is casted upon. I just wanted to know how it worked so i tried it and now i am among those writing this to tell those like me reading that this MUTTON guy is real. I am a single 32 years old mom of two two girls. I have always had a thing for this guy or i would say i liked this guy but he was kind of a mess cos of the lost of his wife.Like he had nothing to leave for any more.He never came out of this house and even went he did he doesn’t talk to anybody even i tried ti make a conversation he just smile so he doesn’t look cruel and then walk away.At night you can hear him breaking things and sobbing. I wouldn’t say i knew what he was feeling cos really i didn’t know but i knew i could make him happy again but no matter how i tried to get close he shuts me out. I really liked him and hated to see him miserable i mean he still have a chance to be happy with me.Contacting MUTTON OSUN was really easy for me cos all those other article had an email address i could use to contact him.So i send him an email to him but i didn’t get a responses immediately i mean it took three day before i saw his mail in response to my mail where he told me that he could help me make the guy to love.Am sorry i can mention my name or his cos i really don’t know who is writing this thing i am writing.Any way i was not allowed to tell any one till i have seen the result and important he told me i needed some materials for the spell casting.Most people tend to thinking his asking you to pay for the spell but not you have the choice to buy these materials and send them to him or you can ask that he get them for you if you can get the materials or the cost of buy and ship them to him is to much. In my case i gave him money to get the materials cos it was way less expansive. I guess he made some kind of harmless powdery substance with those materials and sent them over to me.He asked that i follow this instructions on how to make the spell active which i did. I must warn you it take at least two day to be effective cos it was after two days the man that never talks to me knocked at my door asking if i would like to watch movies with him at his place form there we kicked off.We have been together for 4 months now and still counting he is a really nice man i can am the luckiest woman in the world. I mean this only means that what MUTTON did is working and it changed both our life for good. I will also leave his mail here you contact purpose >> godsofosunx@rocketmail.com

  • Maria A Thompson

    ​I had my long distance relationship for almost 4 years now, Our relationship was okay and good, but for some reasons I couldn’t understand My ex boyfriend broke up with me for almost 3 weeks now, and it me sad,frustrated, devastated having mix emotions to face the reality that he doesn’t want to work it out anymore, I dint know what else to do until i search and bumped into this testimonies regarding Love spell and i read some of those who had the same problem i had and until i found Dr. Alex who can cast spell to bring your partner back at first i was hesitant to do so but eventually i tried his power to cast spell bring back your partner back because of his kind hearted, generosity He did Help me and i am so happy about it. Thank you so much Dr. Alex you May contact him here (solutionhelpcentre@gmail.com) also reach him on his website at (http://solutionhelpcentre.webs.com) or call him on +2347036013351

  • Dontae Barnes

    Yes I agree and being a being of another race I choose to understand a fault/jealousy/and anything that comes with a relationship that, hey and I qoute “no ones perfect nore can they live a perfect life or legacy”. In a past relationship I have become a wiser and smarter (being). I have let my feeling become more stronger when dealing with the human lady. I have been to alot of states/countries. And I am able to replicate good since out of each relationship seeing the bad then the good.

  • Back In Black

    All of the above reasons: I agree with. However, another 4 big reasons relationships or marriages fail, or were happy, but could not further expand or grow, is because there is a lack of physical progression, both partners have different long term goals, because there’s not enough communication taking place, and a lack of things in common. I have been in a relationship where there was little physical progression (Kissing, cuddling, make-outs, sex) and my ex didn’t like it, and ditched me. Looking back on that now, I’m happy I’m no longer with her because I’ve realized the two of us just are not compatible in terms of personality types and communication style. Kinda newly single, I’ve looked back on my relationship with my latest ex with whom the break up was mutual, and I saw there was a lack of communication, two completely different long term goals, and a lack of things in common. Those were the biggest reasons for the break up. She wasn’t communicating to me her feelings if I angered her or whatever. There were a couple things I should have told her from the start of dating, and I owned up to my mistakes, but a need to communicate is paramount for every happy relationship. As well, her long term goal and mine were commmpletelyyyy different! It was when we talked about that that I knew the relationship was done. Plus, we didn’t have enough common interests to keep the passion and the spark fiery. She got bored, and so did I at that point. Recollecting my thoughts, the two of us were from different worlds and both our personalities were far from compatible. The physical aspect was great, but meh, it’s learning from these where our experience and better sound decisions comes from….

  • cannon shelly

    Am Cannon shelly from Usa, i am sharing about my experience and testimony online in search of a spell caster that will restore my marriage and make me live a happy life. I was introduced to a spell caster by my neighbor and i contact him. to my greatest surprise i never though that there was going to be a real spell caster for me but i was amazed when i met a real one in the person of His Majesty,HIGH PRIEST OZIGIDIDON who helped in in bring back my man and making me have a happy marriage and home and also help in restoring back my job and life and sincerely it is to numerous for me to mention, i just can’t thank him more that enough for all he has done but i want to sincerely thank him for restoring my hope that there are still real spell casters out there. Indeed he is so real and true to his job. i am glad i met him and i will hold him in high esteem till i leave this earth. Your HIGHNESS i will never let you go you are my foundation.High priest can be gotten on highpriestozigididon@gmail.com. i know when you contact him and he worked for you, you will definitely come back to thank me. high priest is so great and powerful.. i have lost the adjective to classify him.Thanks

  • Francisca luis

    My name is lius Francisca, and I base in U.S.A…My life is back!!! After 2 years of Broken marriage, my husband left me with two kids . I felt like my life was about to end i almost committed suicide, i was emotionally down for a very long time. Thanks to a spell caster called Dr Jatto, which i met online. On one faithful day, as I was browsing through the internet,I came across allot of testimonies about this particular spell caster. Some people testified that he brought their Ex lover back, some testified that he restores womb,cure cancer,and other sickness, some testified that he can cast a spell to stop divorce and so on. i also come across one particular testimony,it was about a woman called Lydia,she testified about how he brought back her Ex lover in less than 2 days, and at the end of her testimony she dropped Dr Jatto E-mail address. After reading all these,I decided to give it a try. I contacted him VIA Email and explained my problem to him. In just 48hours, my husband came back to me. We solved our issues, and we are even happier than before Dr Jatto, is really a gifted man and i will not stop publishing him because he is a wonderful man… If you have a problem and you are looking for a real and genuine spell caster to solve all your problems for you. Try drjattosplltemple@gmail.com anytime, he might be the answer to your problems. Here’s his Email drjattosplltemple@gmail.com OR CALL +2349035512062.

    1. GETTING YOUR EX BACK
    2. WINNING LOTTERIES.
    3. CHILD BEARING.
    4. BREAKING OF GENERATION COURSE.
    5. GETTING OF JOB.
    6. JOB PROMOTION.
    7. MONEY SPELL.
    8. SPIRITUAL PROTECTION.
    9. HERBAL CARE.
    10. BEAUTY SPELL

  • Emil Bouchard

    I will love to share my testimony to all the people in this site because i never thought i will have my girlfriend back and she means so much to me..The girl i want to get marry to left me four weeks to our wedding for another man..,When i called her she never picked my calls, She deleted me on her facebook and she changed her facebook status from married to Single…when i went to her to her place of work she never want to see me..I was confuse as a result of this because i cant get myself anymore, my life was upside down and everything did not go smooth with my life…I tried all i could do to have her back to all did not work out until i came across a spiritual man when i was browsing online.. I told him my problem and all have passed through in getting her back…he told me he gonna help me… he said he will cast a spell for me and i will see the results in the next couple of hours… My girlfriend called me at exactly 12:35pm on Thursday and apologies for all she had done ..she said,she never knew what she’s doing and her sudden behavior was not intentional and she promised not to do that again.it was like am dreaming when i heard that from her and when we ended the call,i called the man and told him my wife called and he said i haven’t seen anything yet… My life is back into shape,i have my girlfriend back and we are happily married now with kids and i have my job back too.This man is really powerful..if we have up to 20 people like him in the world,the world would have been a better place..he has also helped many of my friends to solve many problems and they are all happy now..Am posting this to this site for anybody that is interested in meeting the man for help.you can mail him to agumaguspelltemple@gmail.com hope he helped u out too..good luck

  • Andrea Jean

    i want to thank Dr Zaba for bringing back my ex husband, we broke up for more than 4 month and he told me that he never want to see me in his life again. i love him so much to the extend that i could not do any thing again, i was confused and depress due to the love i had for him.i did everything i could do to have him come back to me but all went in vain. so i decided to contact a spell caster, i did not believe in spell casting i just want to try it may be it would work out for me. i contacted Dr Zaba for help, he told me that he have to cast a love spell on him, i told him to start it. after 3 days my husband called me and started to apologize for leaving me and also he told me that he still love me. i was very happy and i thank Dr Zaba for helping me get back my ex husband back to my hands. his spell is the the greatest all over the world, it was the love spell he cast on my ex that make him come back to me. all you ladies who want back the ex husband back i want you to contact Dr Zaba at the following email address and get all your problem solve..No problem is too big for him to solve..Contact him direct at (ZABASPELLHELP@GMAIL.COM) OR (Zabaspellhelp@yahoo.com) and get your problems solve or you can call his cell pheno on +2348056391583..

  • Andrea Jean

    i want to thank Dr Zaba for bringing back my ex husband, we broke up for more than 4 month and he told me that he never want to see me in his life again. i love him so much to the extend that i could not do any thing again, i was confused and depress due to the love i had for him.i did everything i could do to have him come back to me but all went in vain. so i decided to contact a spell caster, i did not believe in spell casting i just want to try it may be it would work out for me. i contacted Dr Zaba for help, he told me that he have to cast a love spell on him, i told him to start it. after 3 days my husband called me and started to apologize for leaving me and also he told me that he still love me. i was very happy and i thank Dr Zaba for helping me get back my ex husband back to my hands. his spell is the the greatest all over the world, it was the love spell he cast on my ex that make him come back to me. all you ladies who want back the ex husband back i want you to contact Dr Zaba at the following email address and get all your problem solve..No problem is too big for him to solve..Contact him direct at (ZABASPELLHELP@GMAIL.COM) OR (Zabaspellhelp@yahoo.com) and get your problems solve or you can call his cell pheno on +2348056391583,.

  • eriannamoric

    My husband and I had always managed to stay friendly after our divorce, but I always wanted to get back together with him, and he was never sure. So, I thought it was about time i make him sure! All i took is to go to the internet and i requested for a specific love help, then i found out about TRUE LOVE SPELL TEMPLE. The spell is working and guess what? My ex is soon to be my husband again! This is a miracle. Thank you, T{TRUELOVESPELLTEMPLE@GMAIL.com he can be a great help to you

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