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3 Steps towards Positive Thinking as a Way of Life

The phrase “positive thinking” has become somewhat of a buzzword in a lot of ways in our culture today. So many books and experts suggest “positive thinking” as a solution to low self esteem and confidence issues without ever really exploring what the phrase means.

Positive thinking involves much more than just deciding one day that you will change the way you think. Obviously, altering the way you think about yourself and the world around you is a difficult task. Oftentimes we fail to sit back and consider that the way in which we think about ourselves and the world very much shapes our world and our lives.

Negative thinking has a way of affecting every aspect of our lives without us even realizing it. So much of our happiness and our success rely on our ability to think positively and create positive situations. However, the trek to a positive attitude and positive self thought is no easy path. Follow these three steps in self improvement to gain the ability to think positively and create a new way of life.


Be Aware: Hear Yourself

Self awareness is an essential step in any form of self improvement. You have to be aware of yourself and the things around you before you can understand them and then learn to change and improve them. Before you can learn to alter your way of thinking you have to be aware of how you think in the first place. Take the time to monitor your thoughts and feeling carefully. Listen to yourself throughout the day. When doing this you may be surprised to find just how much thinking you do that you are not completely aware of throughout the day. Pay attention to those negative beliefs you hold that pop up without you realizing it, listen for negative thoughts, watch for negative actions (and reactions), and pay close attention to negative feelings that arise. All of these things are utterly important to be aware of. You should work hard to be conscience of the vocabulary you use throughout the day. Start by simply changing the words you use. Rather than saying “I have my job,” try rewording and rethinking things to say “I would love to find a new career”. While this may sound trite, merely changing the vocabulary you use is a great start to positive thinking.


Take Responsibility: It’s All about You

One of the most common forms of negative thinking involves placing blame on other things. Of course, we all do this. We point the finger at anything but ourselves at times. This is an easy path to take and a difficult habit to break. By placing the blame for something that is bad on someone else, you take the attention off of yourself. This, of course, is only a temporary fix. Even when we place the blame one someone else, that negative energy is still there. Turing the attention away from ourselves can never lead to a successful solution. After you have worked to become more self aware, you have to learn to take responsibility for your feelings, actions, and thoughts. By taking responsibility for your actions, thoughts, and emotions, they become something that you can control and change. Part of placing blame is believing you are powerless. Take responsibility for yourself and, in turn, gain control of yourself. Only after you admit fault and take responsibility for yourself and your thinking can you successfully alter the way you think and act.


Make the Commitment: Change Your Attitude

Each of these steps in self improvement is equally as important as the next. Without self awareness and acceptance, there is no hope for change. The final step in gaining a positive outlook and positive inner voice is committing to change. You must commit fully to positive self thought. Without total commitment very little progress can be made. This, of course, will inevitably take some time and dedication. With a history of negative thinking and blame, it can be very difficult to change our ways. Much of that thinking has become a natural response to our actions and our environment. For this reason, it is essential that you fully commit to creating a more positive inner voice for yourself. Create goals for new beliefs, new outlooks on certain things, and new distinctions for things. Make the commitment to creating a healthier self and a happier mind. By thinking positively and owning our thoughts we can learn to control our situation and master our bad moods.


This guest post is contributed by Lauren Bailey, who regularly writes for bestonlinecolleges dot com. She welcomes your comments at her email Id: blauren99



13 Responses to 3 Steps towards Positive Thinking as a Way of Life

  1. farouk says:

    thank you for the post Lauren
    its so important that we fill our lives with positivity so that we can face the negativity of life

  2. Martin says:

    I think that the first step is to get rid of negative thoughts. The No-Complaint challenge is a good idea to do it. You can also simply pay more attention to your thoughts and ruthlessly cut out all negative ones (and replacing them with positive ones). Take responsibility – great tip! You can’t live a happy life without taking responsibility for all your actions.

  3. Justin says:

    Great post Laura. I think that the one thing people don’t understand about positive thinking is the way that it affects our “energy” . When we are negative, our energy or vibe is negative and as a result negative situations will occur.

  4. in our life we know very well that some of our thoughts are negative, we all have some or other negative thoughts that do take toll of our health in the long term. as you have suggested first step towards a better life is always an introspection. we seldom take a time to watch our own thoughts, belief systems, in actual life these are the main culprits of our all suffering.
    body scan method is a great tool to begin with. learn body scan @

  5. Faisal_khan_world says:

    in our lives, we know that some of our thoughts are negative, we all have negative thoughts or without another shot of our long-term health. as you suggested first step towards a better life is always an introspection. rarely have time to watch our own thoughts, beliefs, in real life are the main culprits of our suffering.

  6. Clint Cora says:

    This is an important topic – thanks for this Lauren.  One thing that is very useful is to get exposure to people who have had cases where their circumstances were so negative and dismal, that we just shake our heads.  It gives us some perspective as we compare our own negativity and then we get motivated because these people have somehow became successful in overcoming adversities.  Exposure to such stories help us realize that there is a positive light at the end of the tunnel if we choose to see it.

  7. Suzanne says:

    I like the’ take responsibility’ because I witness such a lack of it all around me. If people only understood so many better things are around the corner when we are honest, and true to ourselves, thus taking responsibility.  So many people don’t understand the reverse cycle of blame. They think they are coming out ahead when in fact they are sinking their own ship.
    Thanks for the post!

  8. Kevin Martin says:

    This post is great. I get the message: know that I am responsible for how I feel in life and self-improvement is dependent upon my free will to improve through consciousness. 

  9. “Hear Yourself” – Most definitely. Once I began monitoring my thoughts and emotions – and worked to eliminate all of the negative chatter – my life began to change for the better. I was able to see the effect of negative thoughts, anger, and self-doubt on my life and strove to change it.

    Teach your children that what they give out in life, with their thoughts and actions, is what they will get back.

  10. Martin says:

    So true! It’s crazy how much the world changes when you change your thoughts. The 30-day “no-complaint” challenge is a great way to experience this.

  11. Nad says:

    I don’t believe so because according to physics laws positive and negative attract. When we are very positive, too much negative is attracted to us :(

  12. Robot says:

    This is a very Useful post. I came to learn lots of thing from it which
    will help every one. This is really a good post which tell how positive thinking can change our way of life.

  13. We are not dealing with the laws of physics. We are dealing with the Laws of the Universe, which are spiritual laws. 

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