{"id":88335,"date":"2022-09-20T08:40:28","date_gmt":"2022-09-20T16:40:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/blog\/?p=88335"},"modified":"2022-10-03T10:26:34","modified_gmt":"2022-10-03T18:26:34","slug":"self-esteem-are-you-actually-that-bad","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/blog\/self-esteem-are-you-actually-that-bad\/","title":{"rendered":"Self-Esteem: Are You Actually That Bad?"},"content":{"rendered":"<div style=\"margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px;\" class=\"sharethis-inline-share-buttons\" ><\/div>\n<p>It\u2019s pretty obvious that every one of us wants to feel that oh-so-popular \u201chigh self-esteem\u201d, right?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s drilled in us since we\u2019re little to feel confident, to feel good about ourselves, and to \u201cknow who we are!\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We see books, websites, podcasts and posts all dedicated to self-esteem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Think about the most common advice you usually hear about how to get high self-esteem?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>1. Do something for someone else to feel good about yourself<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>2. Think about your achievements<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>3. Be unique (because you\u2019re special!)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Despite all this advice, why do so many people have low self-esteem?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Want me to explain?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Self-Esteem Is Naturally Inside Of You<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Firstly self-esteem is naturally inside of you.&nbsp; A lot of people think you have to DO something or BE someone in order to EARN self-esteem.&nbsp; The truth is that it\u2019s already inside of you.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Self-esteem is how much you value yourself.&nbsp; The thing is that we\u2019re all just ourselves, and we all offer something. &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There\u2019s no such thing as high self-esteem or low self-esteem.&nbsp; There\u2019s just how connected you are to what\u2019s naturally inside of you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Being Connected To You&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Being connected to what\u2019s naturally inside of you is allowing yourself to feel what\u2019s naturally inside of you, and that\u2019s love &amp; connection.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A lot of people think love comes from the outside. Most people are trying to GET love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Love &amp; connection actually starts from the inside, and I could prove it to you!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Place your hand over your heart and think about someone you deeply love.&nbsp; Feel the feeling fully. &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>What did you feel?&nbsp; Love, right?&nbsp; Exactly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>If Love Is Naturally Inside, What\u2019s The Conditioning That Makes Us Look Outwards?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>1. Do something for someone else to feel good about yourself&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Helping people definitely feels good, especially helping people you care about.&nbsp; At the same time helping someone to feel good about yourself guarantees that you will never fully feel the love that\u2019s already inside of you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Why?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Because you believe you have to do something to feel it.&nbsp; It\u2019s a trade in this case.&nbsp; I do something for you, and I obviously won\u2019t ask for it consciously, but subconsciously I\u2019m hoping for love back. &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You might ALSO like helping because that\u2019s who you are.&nbsp; It\u2019s when you also do it to feel significant and to get love in return that blocks you from fully feeling what\u2019s already inside of you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The way out is to help because that\u2019s who you are.&nbsp; You\u2019ll feel the love and therefore self-esteem.&nbsp; From that place you\u2019ll be able to help MORE, as well as feeling good about yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>2. Think about your achievements<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The classic achiever in this one.&nbsp; Most of us get praised for getting high marks in school, doing good in sports, and for looking good. &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When we get praised we feel significant and translate it to mean love. &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>That\u2019s why we think it helps our self-esteem, because we\u2019re finally worth it, right?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Wrong. &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Anybody that plays that game can tell you how it\u2019s a never ending game.&nbsp; You also never feel real self-esteem.&nbsp; Sucks eh?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The way out is to achieve because of the journey.&nbsp; You love growing and making things happen.&nbsp; You get to feel your love AND get to always learn and grow. &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>3. Be unique (because you\u2019re special!)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I think this one is becoming more and more prevalent.&nbsp; Coming from a past where parents rarely told their kids how proud they were, this new generation gets all the praise in the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They get praised for being so unique and special.&nbsp; It\u2019s true that all of us are unique and offer something.&nbsp; It\u2019s that when we think we\u2019re somehow more important than the next person is when we again, block ourselves from feeling ourselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You don\u2019t need to feel special in order to feel self-esteem.&nbsp; That allows you to use your unique gifts to truly help people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>In Conclusion<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Self-esteem is naturally inside of you.&nbsp; You feel it by letting go of the conditioning that we\u2019ve all been taught.&nbsp; You finally GET to feel what\u2019s naturally inside of you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>What do you think?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p><br><em><a href=\"https:\/\/www.inspireyourselflc.org\/\">Giovanni Maccarrone<\/a> helps his clients with self-esteem, confidence, and the real motivation that&#8217;s naturally inside of them by helping them get back to who they truly are inside.<\/em> <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>More from Giovanni here:<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Website: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.inspireyourselflc.org\/\">https:\/\/www.inspireyourselflc.org\/<\/a><\/em><br><em>Instagram: @inspireyourselflc<br>TikTok: <\/em>@inspireyourselflcgmail-com<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Self-esteem is naturally inside of you.\u00a0 You feel it by letting go of the conditioning that we\u2019ve all been taught.\u00a0 <a href=\"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/blog\/self-esteem-are-you-actually-that-bad\/\">Continue reading <span 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