{"id":88288,"date":"2022-07-25T14:18:40","date_gmt":"2022-07-25T22:18:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/blog\/?p=88288"},"modified":"2022-08-12T02:37:06","modified_gmt":"2022-08-12T10:37:06","slug":"the-real-reasons-you-dont-follow-through-on-self-commitments","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/blog\/the-real-reasons-you-dont-follow-through-on-self-commitments\/","title":{"rendered":"Beyond Discipline: The Real Reasons You Don\u2019t Follow Through on Self-Commitments"},"content":{"rendered":"
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The popular self-help culture inculcates in us the belief that in order to become successful, we must have discipline. We are told that discipline is the key to achieving academic success, climbing on top of the career ladder, attaining the body of our dreams, learning a new skill\u2026 practically anything. As a result, we believe that we must force ourselves<\/em> to do whatever needs to be done to make these dreams a reality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, doing things through force is rarely an enduring solution. We may do it once or twice, but eventually we\u2019ll give in. This can quickly spiral into a vicious cycle of giving in and then berating ourselves for a lack of discipline.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But why you\u2019re failing to meet your goals is more complicated than discipline. More often than not, there are many factors that are at play. If you\u2019ve ever embarked on a goal or a project but couldn\u2019t find the discipline to follow it through to completion, here are three reasons it might have happened.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/a>Perceived Load<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Oftentimes, the reason you can\u2019t get yourself to do what needs to be done is your perception of the task at hand <\/em>rather than a lack of discipline. When an undertaking seems insurmountable, you are likely to procrastinate, delaying it further and further until the deadline looms uncomfortably close, or not doing it at all. By breaking your task into small, bite-sized pieces, you can reduce its \u201cperceived load\u201d, making it seem more manageable and less intimidating.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, if you can\u2019t get yourself to exercise in an effort to lose weight, you may have a preconceived idea about what a workout session should look like: how long it should be and what it should entail. You may think that you need to complete a certain number of exercises for a certain number of sets and reps for the effort to \u201ccount.\u201d This mindset quickly turns the simple act of moving your muscles into something insurmountable and intimidating.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Instead, try breaking your workout down into manageable mini-sequences that you can do throughout the day. For example, you could split your workout into muscle-focused splits and complete them one at a time. A fitness expert and former athlete Mark Sisson<\/a> calls these kinds of workouts ‘micro workouts\u2019 and says they have been the key to his success in maintaining his fitness well into his 60s.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/a>Ego Depletion<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Discipline requires self-control, and exercising self-control requires a huge amount of brain power. Studies have shown that doing things requiring self-control literally depletes the brain\u2019s resources (glucose and oxygen). As a result, exercising self-control in one task makes it more difficult to exercise it in another, subsequent task<\/a>, suggesting that self-control is a limited resource that must be replenished. In psychology, this is called \u201cego depletion.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you struggle with a lack of discipline for a certain undertaking, you may be trying to attempt it when your ego is depleted. Perhaps, you struggle to get yourself to work out after a long day at work, or you can\u2019t help reaching for a chocolate chip cookie after having a difficult conversation with a client. Doing anything that makes you exercise self-control depletes your ability to exercise discipline.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This type of problem is easily solved with a little bit of planning. Don\u2019t try to schedule too many discipline-demanding activities one after another. Give yourself some buffer to replenish your mental resources. And when circumstances get in the way, allow yourself some slack\u2014you are only human after all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/a>Lack of Motivation<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Sometimes, your lack of discipline is actually a matter of motivation. The reason you struggle to stick to a diet, procrastinate on projects, or can\u2019t get yourself to do anything that demands willpower and self-control is simply that you don\u2019t have a good enough reason to do it. You may think you do, but the evidence\u2014your behavior\u2014says otherwise.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Aask yourself what it is you are trying to accomplish, and why<\/em> it is important to you. For example, if you struggle to stick to a diet and exercise regimen in an effort to lose weight, ask yourself why do you want to lose weight in the first place? Investigate what really lies behind your goal. Without having a clear and compelling \u201cwhy,\u201d goals are doomed to failure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Take a step back and ponder the core motivations behind your undertaking. Any worthy goal will have a meaningful, underlying motivation that, once made clear, will make the issue of discipline less relevant. Once you know the \u201cwhy\u201d behind your goal, you\u2019ll find it much easier to get yourself to do whatever needs to be done to make it happen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/a>Final Words: Beyond Discipline<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

You don\u2019t need to become a stoic to succeed in life. Self-discipline may be helpful at times, but it\u2019s not an enduring solution. Being hung up on the mindset that success comes from discipline can prevent us from doing the self-reflection that is necessary to examine the real reasons we struggle to follow through with our self-commitments. When we embark on an ambitious undertaking but struggle to stick it through, we rarely question our approach or underlying motivations behind it. Yet, this is often where the solution is. If you take time to reflect, you\u2019ll discover that a lack of discipline isn\u2019t really the problem. There are usually factors at play that are beyond discipline<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Darya is a part of the blogging team at Shortform<\/a>, where she helps spread the world’s best ideas through SEO and the power of the written word. Shortform is on the mission to make the world’s best ideas more accessible by summarizing, synthesizing, and contextualizing non-fiction books in categories like self-help, business, finance, career, and more. <\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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