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There is an art to feeling your emotions. It\u2019s important to separate your emotions from your identity\u2014who you are\u2014by saying, \u201cA part of me feels sad\u201d vs. \u201cI\u2019m sad.\u201d \u201cA part of me feels angry\u201d vs. \u201cI am angry.\u201d           <\/p>\n\n\n\n

We usually hold multiple parts of ourselves at the same time.   <\/p>\n\n\n\n

For instance, \u201cA part of me feels scared and a part of me feels excited. A part of me feels brave and a part of me feels alive!\u201d This is personally one of my favorite combinations of emotions. It means I\u2019m about to do something that\u2019s going to allow me to grow beyond the person I thought I was in the best possible way. It means I\u2019m about to push through contraction into another level of expansion! If it\u2019s been a while since I\u2019ve felt this combination, then I know it\u2019s time to switch things up and find a new, inspiring challenge. Remember, inspiring challenges stretch and grow you in the direction of what matters most to you. Can you connect your challenges back to your values and mission? No matter what, you\u2019ll face challenges in life, so you may as well choose inspiring ones, which allow you to be ener- gized by what you do.       <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here are more examples:           <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cA part of me feels disappointed and a part of me is grateful that you told me.\u201d       <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cA part of me feels guilty and a part of me knows that I was doing the very best I knew how at the time.\u201d           <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cA part of me feels angry, a part of me feels sad, and a part of me feels scared.\u201d        \u201cA part of me is happy for you and a part of me is worried.\u201d                     \u201cA part of me is excited and a part of me is nervous.\u201d               <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The first step is to acknowledge these parts. You are large. You contain multitudes! The more expanded you are, the more you can hold all these seemingly contradictory parts. You are multidimen- sional, unlike the 94.7 radio station<\/em>. Empathy starts with your ability to acknowledge your own parts.   <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The key to expansion is learning to fully accept all these parts: the parts that are scared, the parts that are brave, the parts you celebrate, the parts you hide, the parts that follow through, the parts that don\u2019t, the parts that are angry, the parts that are joyful, the parts that are sad, the parts that play small, the parts that play big\u2014all your parts. <\/em>Notice what parts you\u2019ve made good vs. bad, right vs. wrong, what parts hold shame vs. blame. Integrate all of your parts.           <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you stop showing yourself conditional acceptance and relax the \u201cI have to _____ or else I\u2019ll judge myself as _______,\u201d and instead operate from \u201cI am enough as is,\u201d watch how much faster you can move, and the greater impact you can make. Say to yourself, \u201cIf you don\u2019t make this happen, I still accept\/love\/value you.\u201d \u201cEven if you don\u2019t succeed at _______, you\u2019ll be okay.\u201d Watch how much more successful you\u2019ll be when you come from here. Once you see your- self as worthy and whole without your achievements, you\u2019ll become unstoppable. You\u2019ll be going after all your dreams from expansion with supernatural abilities and access to infinite possibilities and probabilities. Only you <\/em>can give yourself this freedom, not a parent, partner, mentor, lover, or friend. As you accept your feelings of contraction, they dissolve. Only you can set yourself free.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Jing Gao, founder of Fly by Jing Inc., discovered this when she joined a group leadership program I held during the first COVID quarantine. At that time, she called herself Jenny, the name she had gone by for over 25 years. At the start of her journey, she identified places of contraction and began feeling her emotions: her grief, her anger, her fear, all of it. On our first call, I took her through a process of feeling the raw energy behind these emotions\u2014the sensations in her body\u2014tracking and releasing contraction to relax her nervous system. She noticed tightness in her chest and then she realized she didn\u2019t feel safe in her body. Tears came. She felt disconnected from herself as if she had been hiding behind a shield. The emotions she experienced were scared, confused, and sad. She was used to repressing these scared, confused, sad parts of herself. Emotion by emotion, sensation by sensation, she felt everything that arose fully, until the contraction dissipated.               <\/p>\n\n\n\n

With her nervous system unraveled and expanded, she was struck with this insight: \u201cI have been hiding behind Jenny to fit in my whole life when the real me, Jing, feels too raw and real.\u201d In that moment, she decided to reclaim her name. When she hung up the phone, she changed her name with her friends, across all her social media channels, email, everywhere. During the quarantine, she hit record sales. In April, she increased revenue 360 percent over March and by November 2020 her company had grown 1,000 percent over the previous year. Jing made a quantum leap the moment she released the bound-up energy pattern held in hiding behind Jenny all those years. She turned lead into gold the moment she released contrac- tion by fully feeling it.           <\/p>\n\n\n\n

What is a current situation or circumstance you\u2019d like to change in your life? What do you believe to be true about yourself and what belief system do you have in place that\u2019s creating this circumstance? What are you doing, saying or not doing or not saying that is perpetuating this situation? Nothing is happening to <\/em>you. Let yourself feel what this circumstance stirs up. After feeling it fully, what is the insight? In what direction is this experience asking you to grow?           <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your external reality is a direct reflection of your internal state: thoughts, emotions, beliefs, your sense of identity, and your world- view. Once you shift your internal state, everything around you will transform to match. What does your external world show is going on for you internally? If you don\u2019t like your external reality, feel the contraction completely so you can move through it into expansion and watch how everything that lights you up multiplies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Excerpt from Bending Reality: How to Make the Impossible Probable <\/em>by Victoria Song. Copyright \u00a9 2021. Reprinted with permission.     <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Victoria Song <\/em>is the Leadership Advisor to successful founders and CEOs of the world\u2019s fastest growing technology companies and celebrities with power, platform and influence. She is the author of <\/em>Bending Reality: How to Make the Impossible Probable<\/em><\/a>. For more information, please visit, <\/em>www.victoriasong.me<\/em><\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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