{"id":87248,"date":"2021-02-15T14:27:50","date_gmt":"2021-02-15T22:27:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/blog\/?p=87248"},"modified":"2021-02-22T10:13:34","modified_gmt":"2021-02-22T18:13:34","slug":"3-things-that-happen-when-you-have-fomo-how-to-cope","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/blog\/3-things-that-happen-when-you-have-fomo-how-to-cope\/","title":{"rendered":"3 Things That Happen When You Have FOMO (+ how to cope!)"},"content":{"rendered":"
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FOMO is one of those rational fears that feels irrational<\/em>, and they are just plain annoying to have.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you didn\u2019t know already, FOMO is the acronym for the Fear Of Missing Out<\/em><\/strong>! And when you\u2019re afraid of something, a lot happens to your mind. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sure, you\u2019re others may laugh at you for stressing about missing meatless monday, but you can\u2019t describe how you were feeling utterly helpless and awful the whole time you couldn\u2019t be there. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

And it gets you thinking…<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What else have you missed out on that you can\u2019t remember<\/em>??<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And you\u2019re absolutely right, you probably have missed out on a lot of things (ouch). No wonder you\u2019re so distressed! But, have you considered why you missed out these things? Or why you don\u2019t believe your FOMO feelings are really real? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s take a deeper look at to what happens when you\u2019re real FOMO takes hold. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Intrusive Thoughts<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You wake up at like 11 on friday night and realize your nap went over by 5 hours<\/strong>, geez! You missed your significant other\u2019s birthday party, and you feel like absolute *snickerdoodle*. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

But that\u2019s just the beginning here… unfortunately<\/em> <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You\u2019re mind is racing faster than your own heartbeat, and the emotional avalanche in your mind starts collapsing downhill. You\u2019re stuck in your own head, going over and over about what tonight could<\/em> have been, only <\/em>if you had set an alarm. You think:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You could have met their friends<\/em>!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Gave them their birthday present<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Spend the day with them<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Met their family<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Had a good time this evening<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Make some friends<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ate cake<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Support your significant other<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

and SO. MUCH. MORE<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But you can only loathe on the couch because you already missed a wonderful opportunity to connect with everyone tonight. You feel so bad that you missed out on all that bonding; it\u2019s something that can\u2019t be recreated again. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the truth of the matter is that, yes, you did miss out, but that\u2019s okay<\/strong>. You deserve time to relax, and it was an honest mistake. It\u2019s awful to expect yourself to be 110% everyday and every hour without<\/em> catching a break! You\u2019re allowed to feel upset about missing something that was really important to you; you should, and I say it all the time: you\u2019re feelings are always righ<\/em><\/strong>t, no matter how insane they can be, they are apart of who you are. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

There will be times where you feel so sad after missing out of an event. The best thing you can do is try to catch up with your partner tonight or the next day to have your own bonding. You can even invite others who attended that event you *slept* out on! Even though you missed tonight\u2019s meeting, your soir\u00e9e can be even better than the one you missed, and this will help ease your loud thoughts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. The <\/strong>Guilt<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you finally calm down your bothersome thoughts, the next wave of FOMO hits; and you feel awfully guilty. Yeah, you already know that you can meet up with your SO tomorrow, but now you can\u2019t help but feel really responsible for how they feel. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If they feel sad or upset tonight, it\u2019s probably your fault… right?<\/em> They\u2019re probably feeling like you don\u2019t care about or love them enough to show up to some \u201cparty\u201d. Or, even worse, that you just didn\u2019t even remember to show up! They must feel like you just don\u2019t think about them. Their friends are thinking you both should break up. Maybe your S.O. is actually consi- woah, let\u2019s back it up<\/em>!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not your fault!! Yes, it\u2019s true that actions cause emotions, as I said in my article about dating<\/a>, but remember, everyone has their own emotions. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Remember what I said earlier about emotions being a unique aspect about you? That\u2019s true, however, we don\u2019t always have to act on those feelings. Feel what you need to feel! Shout and scream and cry; those are your emotions, and they deserve to be listened to. It\u2019s highly unlikely that your S.O. would dump you for missing their party because you spent the day working and accidentally fell asleep after (and if that magically somehow is the case, then a serious talk is needed!). <\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s hard to not feel like you\u2019re the cause of ruining their special event, especially when they mean a lot to you. But best friends, close family, and partners usually understand your needs, and if you need to prioritize your self care, they would want you to be the best, happiest person you can. If they do feel sad that you missed the event, tell them what stopped you, and especially mention how you felt guilty about it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Events and deadlines can always be rescheduled, but you only get one mental health, and one brain. That\u2019s why it\u2019s all the more important to look after yourself… which leads me to:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Caring For Yourself<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

FOMO is stressful, and dealing with it is just a painful mess of anxiety and exhaustion. You blame yourself, feel lonely, and sorry all at the same time, so when you\u2019ve finally come to the end of the FOMO, you need some self love! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

While calming yourself down and scheduling times with the people you missed today, it\u2019s important to stay take it easy on your mental state. Chances are, you\u2019ve probably been through a whirlwind of emotions, so it\u2019s a good idea to check in on yourself and notice patterns in how you\u2019re feeling. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re intrusive thoughts keep trying to disrupt your efforts at being calm, try to watch some movies, go on social media, or talk to other friends. It\u2019s better to deal and relax your mind than brush them off and think they don\u2019t mean anything. FOMO effects will gradually lessen, so be gentle with yourself and the people you missed, because they probably want to meet with you as well. It will take time to find a date to get together, so allow everyone (including yourself) to take their time! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

And there you go! FOMO happens to all of at some point no matter how busy we are or aren\u2019t. Remember to take care of yourself and not beat yourself up, because there will always be a next time with good people, and you\u2019ll always be apart of it \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Sonia Daneshwar is the owner of the self improvement blog\u00a0www.yourlovelybeauty.com<\/a>, and she was born ready to dedicate herself to helping others.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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