{"id":79545,"date":"2020-03-02T16:20:48","date_gmt":"2020-03-03T00:20:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/?p=79545"},"modified":"2020-03-04T20:00:48","modified_gmt":"2020-03-05T04:00:48","slug":"5-questions-to-consider-when-drowning-in-disappointment","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/blog\/5-questions-to-consider-when-drowning-in-disappointment\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Questions to Consider When Drowning In Disappointment"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Disappointments\nare part and parcel of life. But if you don\u2019t deal with it the right way, it\ncan slowly consume you and derail your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hence,\nit is so important to learn how to deal with disappointment. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

In\nthis article, I am going to share with you the 5 questions to ask yourself when\nfaced with disappointment. These 5 questions will help you cope with that disappointment<\/a>, and propel you to greater heights.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1.   \nWhy am I\ndisappointed?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

When\nyou are feeling disappointed, sometimes it can be difficult to explain why, am\nI right?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\njust happens. However, to cope with it, you must first begin by rationalising\nyour disappointment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ask\nyourself questions like why are you feeling that way? What in particular\ntriggered the disappointment?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When\nasking these questions, it is useful to use the \u201c5 Whys<\/a>\u201d method. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

For\nexample, if you are disappointed because you did not receive the promotion<\/a> you expected, ask yourself \u201cwhy\u201d 5 times. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

By\ndoing so, you will go to the root of your disappointment. Very often you will\nrealise that the reason was so subtle that you didn\u2019t even know it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Unveiling\nthe true reason behind your disappointment is the first step in effectively\ncombatting against it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2.   \nWas there\nanything I could have done to prevent the disappointment?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

When\nfaced with disappointment, a very natural thing is to feel regret<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But\nnot every situation is your fault. Consider these questions, were you in\ncontrol of the circumstances?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You\nwill realise that more often than not, you actually couldn\u2019t control your\ncircumstances.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You\nmay have given your best in trying to land a particular job, but in the end you\ncouldn\u2019t control whether the company was going to give it to you or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In\nrare circumstances when it was actually your mistake that led to the\ndisappointment, don\u2019t worry. In this case, focus more on question 5.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The\nkey goal of this question is to distinguish between disappointments that you\nhad no control over, and those that you did.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3.   \nHow will I\nlikely perceive this disappointment in 5 years\u2019 time?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

When\nI faced a particular setback in my life, my friend told me a crucial statement\nI still remember until today, \u201cIt wouldn\u2019t matter at all in a few years\u2019 time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That\nallowed me to see things from a new perspective.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ask\nyourself, how significant will this setback be in a few years\u2019 time? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

When\nfaced with disappointment, it is very easy for you to be caught in \u201ctunnel\nvision\u201d. You only focus on how horrible the disappointment is. You only focus\non what you had lost. You only focus on all the negative consequences the\nsetback has caused.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This\noften causes you to miss the bigger picture<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sometimes,\none \u201cno\u201d may just be the key to unlocking the door to a greater \u201cyes\u201d. In the\nlong run, that setback may not only be insignificant, but it may also propel\nyou to greater heights.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4.   \nWhen I\nlook back after 5 years, will that setback really have made me worse off?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

I\nonce came across this article about a girl who couldn\u2019t feel pain. She has\ndeveloped a rare disease called congenital insensitivity to pain.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If\nshe falls on the ground, she will not cry as she can\u2019t feel pain.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Is\nthat necessarily a good thing?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Her\nmother\u2019s response will shock you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cSome\npeople would say that\u2019s a good thing. But no, it\u2019s not,\u201d says her mother.\n\u201cPain\u2019s there for a reason. It lets your body know something\u2019s wrong and it\nneeds to be fixed. I\u2019d give anything for her to feel pain.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In\nthe same way in life, don\u2019t see disappointments as entirely negative.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pain\nmay actually be a good thing. Pain may open your eyes to certain aspects of\nyour life that need growth. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pain\nis what causes us to know when there is a problem in our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thomas\nEdison once said, \u201cI have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t\nwork.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\nam sure you can recite a dozen more quotes about failure and disappointment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You\nknow very well that disappointment is often the foundation to success. It is\ntime to truly believe it. Look at your disappointment from the lenses of the\nfuture.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Will\nyour disappointment really not make you stronger?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5.   \nWhat can I\nlearn from the disappointment?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Even\nthough it has already been countless years ago, I still remember this incident\nwhile I was studying in school.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

My\nclass had done very badly for a Math test, I myself included. It was then when\nmy teacher told us, \u201cRemember the pain you are feeling now. Don\u2019t just brush it\noff. Because by this pain will give you strength in future tests to come.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t\njust treat the pain you are feeling as your enemy. Remember it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

That\nis because with that pain you will remember the many lessons that came with the\ndisappointment. And that will be your catalyst for growth into a more mature\nand wiser person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thus,\nI recommend that you reflect deeply on the lessons you can pick up from each\ndisappointment you face.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Conclusion<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Disappointments\nare painful. I know.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But\nthey can be the greatest launching pads for your future successes. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t look down on your disappointments. Start asking yourself those 5 questions today.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\n\n\n\n

Nathanael Siew is the founder of the personal development website<\/a> Wise Living Today, a website aimed at inspiring people to see the world through lenses of hope. With in-depth content and fresh insights, his articles empower readers to live a more meaningful and effective life. Get your FREE handbook + checklist<\/a> on \u201cThe 9-Step Guide to Applying ANY Advice in your <\/em>Life\u201d!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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