{"id":69837,"date":"2019-09-16T18:42:46","date_gmt":"2019-09-17T02:42:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/?p=69837"},"modified":"2019-09-19T18:15:15","modified_gmt":"2019-09-20T02:15:15","slug":"how-to-stop-caring-so-much-about-what-others-think-of-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/blog\/how-to-stop-caring-so-much-about-what-others-think-of-you\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Stop Caring So Much about What Others Think of You"},"content":{"rendered":"
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How do\n<\/em>you stop caring so much about what others think of you? Don\u2019t start!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do you\ncare so much about what others think of you that you repress or sideline what\nyou would really like to be or do? It seems strange when put baldly like that,\nbut that is what most of us do. We stop ourselves from doing or being something\nbecause we let our minds run wild with the judgements and criticism we will\nreceive if we do or be that thing. From learning a musical instrument to\nmoving to another country to skipping down the street in your business suit \u2013\nhow many choices have you squelched because you cared so much about what other\npeople thought?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First,\ndear reader, most people aren\u2019t paying that much attention. Secondly, what we\nimagine may be so far from the truth that we\u2019re stopping ourselves for nothing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I am an Access Consciousness\nfacilitator and let me just say \u2013 for a number of years, I assumed everyone\nwould judge me and my decision for being too weird, so I kept my work on the\ndown low. As soon as I decided \u2018to go for it,\u2019 the people I assumed would have\nthe biggest problems and judgements about my line of work were actually the ones\nmost interested in this wacky work. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Think of something you\u2019ve\nalways wanted to do but you let the fear of others\u2019 judgements and criticism derail\nyou. Now, my recommendation is to ask, what is the worst that could happen?\nWould you die? Would you maybe lose a friend or two (the ones that criticize\neverything you do anyway)? Now, close your eyes and imagine choosing that\n\u2018something you\u2019ve always wanted to do\u2019 and think of the fun you could have if\nyou let go of those worries? Indulge yourself in that imagining for a few hours\nor days. If it is really inspiring and inviting to you, who cares what others\nthink? Are you living your life, or do you just have a life?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do you realize that other\npeople\u2019s judgments can become your own? I have a friend who was told by a\nballet teacher when she was only 6 years old that she was clumsy, had no gracefulness\nor talent. In turn, my friend told others for the next 40 years how clumsy she\nis. She didn\u2019t allow herself to take dance lessons for 40 years! That is 40\nyears of joy and fun denied because of one person\u2019s judgement. She is never\ngoing to be on the stage at Covent Garden, but she loves dancing now! What\npleasure are you denying yourself because you believe the criticism of others? Truly,\nwho cares?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What a shame that people hide things about\nthemselves because they are worried about reactions and judgements. One example\nof this is sexuality. I chose to \u2018come out\u2019 on CBC (Canadian radio and TV\nstation) at the age of 15.  At the time I\nwas volunteering at an AIDS hospice in Regina, Canada, where I grew up.  CBC had a show called Utopia Caf\u00e9 and came to\ninterview people about the emotional risks of coming out as gay, and I\nvolunteered, shaking slightly in my boots. And the freedom that I felt, and\nthat was created from being willing to say, \u2018who cares?\u2019 and go for it, has\ncolored my life to this day. I learned that day to be true to me and not worry\nabout what people thought of me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I have learned over the\nyears to be true to myself and not worry about what other people think of me.\nBecause the truth of it is, it winds up hurting me in the long run, not them. I\nam the one missing out by carrying the weight of someone else\u2019s words around\nwith me \u2013 I can tell you the person who passed the judgement on me isn\u2019t being\naffected. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

So, how do you stop caring so much about what others think of you? As Bob Newhart said in his psychiatrist character, \u201cjust stop it!\u201d We do get to choose whether we are influenced by unspoken and often imagined judgements, or whether we grab our courage and choose what fulfills and expands us and makes us happy. We are told that every person is unique \u2013 why not celebrate and exploit that rather than trying to fit in and not receive any judgement? Then no one can control you except you. So – would you be willing to say, \u2018who cares\u2019 sometime soon?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Christopher Hughes is a communications mentor, arts and antiques curator. He has an undergraduate degree in Opera and Song from the University of Western Ontario and a master\u2019s degree in Integrated Marketing and Communications from QUT. Chris spent time in the world of professional opera and later used his voice in various industries, from singing telegrams to voiceovers for videos, cartoons and elevators. He is currently the Managing Director and curator at the Antique Guild in Brisbane and Vice President of Australian Antique an Art Dealers Association. Chris facilitates classes for Right Voice for You and The Elegance of Living; both special programs by <\/em>Access Consciousness<\/em><\/a>. Learn more <\/em>here<\/em><\/a>. He desires is to help people to \u201clive beautifully\u201d and encourages everyone to always take the best things off the shelf and use them, including the best parts of themselves. Follow his work <\/em>here<\/em><\/a>. <\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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