{"id":67130,"date":"2019-07-21T18:29:44","date_gmt":"2019-07-22T02:29:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/?p=67130"},"modified":"2019-07-23T19:08:00","modified_gmt":"2019-07-24T03:08:00","slug":"7-mindful-ways-to-handle-complicated-people-at-work","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/blog\/7-mindful-ways-to-handle-complicated-people-at-work\/","title":{"rendered":"7 Mindful Ways to Handle Complicated People at Work"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Complicated work situations are not a rare occurrence. Many\nof us have had a difficult co-worker to deal with at some point in our careers.\nFrom people who don\u2019t submit their work in time or don\u2019t show up for meetings,\nto people who just can\u2019t work in a team or who are overly competitive.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Unfortunately, these kind of people exist in all workplaces,\nand we will have to deal with many of them throughout our lives. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here are 7 ways to handle complicated people at work:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Accept the situation and develop empathy<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThose who pray for your downfall are concentrating negative thoughts towards you, without taking cognisance of the slippery ground in which they are standing, which could lead to their downfall.\u201d \u2015 Michael Bassey Johnson<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Complaining about an adverse work situation will not make it\ngo away. It is better that we try to understand the situation, and find a way\nto understand and accept our intricate colleague. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

People\u2019s characters are a reflection of their own mental\nlimitations; when people try to hinder us, it is usually a sign their mind is\nobstructed by their own negativity. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Try to develop empathy for your co-worker; carry your peace and joy with you wherever you go and try to remain positive and optimistic despite the difficulties ahead. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Learn how to accept criticism <\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

\u201cYou have enemies? Good. That means you’ve stood up for something, sometime in your life.\u201d \u2015 Winston Churchill<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Though we don\u2019t generally like being criticised, sometimes\nit can help us identify weaknesses we didn\u2019t know we had. It is important to rigorously\nanalyse the criticism we receive and decide whether there was is any truth to it.\n<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you find it is meaningless bitterness, disregard it immediately. If there is any truth to it, accept your weakness and become mindful of it. Try to strengthen your weakness by using the SWAN meditation<\/a>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Minimise conversations with difficult colleagues<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

\u201cStay away from negative people. They have a problem, for every solution.\u201d \u2013 Albert Einstein<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Our words always carry our emotions, no matter how hard we\ntry to hide them. There is little use in speaking to someone who lacks mental clarity,\nand is best to stay away. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Only speak when it is necessary for work, or when you have\nsomething constructive to share. Remember, a negative person will always find\nreason to express negativity. The less you engage with them, the lower the\nchances of pointless disputes. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, this shouldn\u2019t stop you from being polite and greeting everyone \u2013including your critic \u2013 when you come into work each day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Keep your cool in heated situations<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

\u201cRemain calm, serene, always\nin command of yourself. You will then find out how easy it is to get along.\u201d \u2013\nParamahansa Yogananda<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Endeavour to keep yourself composed and balanced no matter\nhow difficult the situation may feel. Don\u2019t let anger overcome you. After all,\nnothing constructive results from anger. Anger only obstructs judgement and\nmental clarity. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you train yourself to remain calm in stressful situations, you will grow strong and resilient. Qualities which are needed in leadership positions, and that will most certainly boost your career in the mid-term. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Never accept abuse from anyone<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

\u201cYou cannot expect to live a positive life if you hang with negative people.\u201d \u2015 Joel Osteen<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Workplace abuse can be of four types: bullying,\ndiscrimination, harassment or even violence. All of these can result in\ndepression, fear and anxiety.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tolerating hurtful treatment weakens your self-esteem and self-confidence. Letting others insult you and not doing anything about it sends your subconscious mind a message that you deserve what is happening to you. In time, your subconscious mind will normalise abuse, which will only fuel your insecurities and worsen the situation for you. Never let anyone humiliate you, stop them in their tracks without resorting to anger or violence. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. Breathe from the navel and find your centre<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

\u201cStay centered, do not overstretch. Extend from your centre, return to your centre.\u201d \u2013 Gautama Buddha<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Breath and thought are directly related. Breathing deeply from\nthe navel helps us think less. It takes our awareness from our mind and into\nthe navel, which is the human centre of action. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Learning how to breathe from the navel will help you remain calm and lucid in life\u2019s most challenging situations.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. Speak to a higher authority<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI have come to believe over and over again that what is most important to me must be spoken, made verbal and shared, even at the risk of having it bruised or misunderstood.\u201d \u2015 Audre Lorde<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

As an absolute last resort \u2013 if all else fails \u2013 speak to your manager. Sometimes people get very competitive and there is no way to resolve situations without the intervention of a higher authority, especially in bureaucratic organisations. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Be sure to explain to the manager you have tried empathy and\ndiplomacy without any positive results. Be careful not to exercise this option\ntoo many times as your boss won\u2019t like solving your problems for you too. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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