{"id":65277,"date":"2019-08-21T01:49:08","date_gmt":"2019-08-21T09:49:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/?p=65277"},"modified":"2019-08-21T01:49:13","modified_gmt":"2019-08-21T09:49:13","slug":"everything-works-until-it-doesnt-how-to-flow-with-change","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.pickthebrain.com\/blog\/everything-works-until-it-doesnt-how-to-flow-with-change\/","title":{"rendered":"Everything Works Until It Doesn’t: How to Flow with Change"},"content":{"rendered":"
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There comes a time in everyone’s lives when things that you once used to rely on don’t become as effective anymore.<\/p>\n

You sort of outgrow the training wheels.<\/p>\n

The job you started out fresh and new doesn’t challenge you anymore.<\/p>\n

The friends you had in college don’t vibe with you any longer.<\/p>\n

The books you read don’t give you any more new knowledge.<\/p>\n

You and your girlfriend<\/a> have grown apart and you don’t \u201cclick\u201d like you should.<\/p>\n

This is what I call \u201cthings work…until they don’t\u201d.<\/p>\n

Everything’s peachy until it isn’t.<\/p>\n

The Myth of Forever<\/h2>\n

Many years ago in the Western World (or America at least), people used to work for one employer their entire lives and live in one place their entire lives. You could expect to retire with a nice employer matched pension and for things to \u201cjust make sense\u201d. This was the \u201cAmerican Dream\u201d.<\/p>\n

This stability was a glossy sheen over the inherent chaos and turbulence that is life and nature.<\/p>\n

Nothing in nature stands still, everything is constant change<\/a>. You, as a creation of nature are the same way. Things will (and must) change in your life. Dealing with this change is the key to unlocking new levels of meaning and nuance in your life.<\/p>\n

When people aren’t able to accept change, they get tossed around like a leaf in the wind – unable to deal with calamity and chaos. Then, fear sets in. Then, hesitation. Then no action.<\/p>\n

Knowing When It’s Time to Move On<\/h2>\n

What are the consequences of not being able to \u201cgo with the flow\u201d? Well, you get stuck. You specifically get stuck in situations you absolutely do not want to be in. I know this because this happened to me.<\/p>\n

I got hired for a job right after college. The job paid a nice salary for someone just out of college and I was learning lots of new things. About a year in, I stopped learning as much. I didn’t get a raise because the company wasn’t doing too well. It became unnecessarily monotonous. I had outgrown the position.<\/p>\n

I justified sticking it out because I was optimistic that things were going to get better, but I stayed another year. At the end of the day, I was getting paid, right? Well, came to an abrupt close. I got laid off 2 years after I started. Everything worked out in the end, but I could have prevented this by being willing to jump off an obviously sinking ship.<\/p>\n

The consequences of not moving on could be even more drastic in certain situations. You need the willingness, the discernment, the decisiveness to cut your losses and just move on.<\/p>\n

Moving on From Certain Ideas<\/h2>\n

You not only have to move on from certain situations, but you also have to leave old modes of thought behind. Things you once cherished as absolute truth are now seen as half-truths or downright lies.<\/p>\n

These may be beliefs you have about yourself, about others, about the world, etc, that are holding you back from achievement in a certain area.<\/p>\n

You will only rise to the height of your belief system, also known as your paradigm. If you want to achieve success and especially earth-shattering, skyscraper type success, you have to leave old patterns and ideas behind. What are some examples?:<\/p>\n